Woooow, we got Sen over in the corner now too. And it sounds like I hear Shy trying to tip toe over too. But then again it might just be the ringing in my ear since Soontobe over here poppin everybody. Ouch!
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
[quote="pamcrow"]Woooow, we got Sen over in the corner now too. And it sounds like I hear Shy trying to tip toe over too. But then again it might just be the ringing in my ear since Soontobe over here poppin everybody. Ouch!
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Yes pam I think i'm going to be there with you all for awhile because I'v been bad.
Nothing to share darling. It's been "My husband this" or "My wife that" since our engagement. Nope, I guess my fingers were jumping the gun too. We're getting married on October 17th, 2009.
Well there is nothing wrong with that. As far as i'm concerned that is your Husband. 1 year will go by sooo fast and I can't wait to see how your day turns out. Good luck Sis.
Sorry I',m late on this post:0)... My parents are paying for my dream wedding..My FI's family is paying for the rehersal dinner and Post wedding Brunch. My grandparents are paying for our Honeymoon and I anm sooo Thankful.
When MY fi and I have a child I pray that we will be able to do the same.
Wow, that is wonderful. All the help you are getting is really a blessing. I hope I can do the same for my daughters.
I didnt think to ask my family. I think only my sister could help me ( not the one that is not in the wedding) but since I am older I think I should pay for it.
[quote="pamcrow"]Woooow, we got Sen over in the corner now too. And it sounds like I hear Shy trying to tip toe over too. But then again it might just be the ringing in my ear since Soontobe over here poppin everybody. Ouch!
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YUP....I'm poppin' everybody.....since the corner just don't seem to be working! I need to go old school and have each one of yall go outside and pick a switch....and don't come back here with no weak switch either!!! lol
[quote="soontobebride"]I need to go old school and have each one of yall go outside and pick a switch....and don't come back here with no weak switch either!!! lol
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My family is from the South. My Mom would send us down for the summer. I remember going outside to get a switch for my aunt to whip me with. You better had come back with the right one or she'll send you right back outside to get another and it would be too bad for me -- LOL!!! Soontobe -- you are too funny!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Omg, speaking of switches, let me tell something funny that just happened. At my job we have this parking lot that is in desparate need of some weed wacking behind the fence. Well anyway I pull into a parking spot and realize I pull right in front of a huge tree full of those switches my mother used to tear my behind up with. Me and my coworker just sat there staring at it, both stuck in our own memories. Couldn't even move for a moment and then I say "You see it right" and we both just crack up laughing. He starts looking around the car before getting out talking about "I got's to make sure my mom's ain't no where around to see this tree, she'd probably dig it up an d plant it in the backyard". Then he gets an idea and grabs a branch, does the quick swipe to get the leaves off and starts swinging it. Boy that swoosh noise brought us back. We work at an alternative school where we deal with alot of at risk youths and my coworker was like, I'm going put this in my desk and pull it out when needed. I reminded him that switches leave evidence and he was like good point, how can I forget that. It was to funny. Kids these days don't know nothing about that.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
They dont all they know is crying child abuse. I deserved every beating I got and my mother chose the correct object be it a slipper, a hanger, a belt or a hand each time. I thank her for beating me into to shape. It is crazy that some kids cry child abuse and they arrest they parents and other children who are actually being abused are found dead.
WOW to this post! LOL! I'm going to the corner just to enjoy the festivities. Yall sent all the fun sistas over there. No way am I staying out here with the old maids! LMAO!
We paid for our own wedding but my mother purchased and prepared the food as her gift (she's a caterer). His aunt and uncle gave us use of their timeshare for our honeymoon which we going on for our 6-month anniversary in February. We can go anywhere! We registered but only received 2 gifts from the registry. Everyone else gave lingerie at the shower, cash at the wedding, or just free-loaded!
That can be the case with the free loaders. The first time I was engaged my sister was going to put up some money as my mom is very ill and my sis wanted up to get married so that she would be there. She was going to pull out all the srops for us to have a wedding and a reception. The ex, a selfish child, said he wasnt going to rush just because my mom was ill. He still mad that I left. LOL He doesnt speak to me anymore at all because I told him that I was engaged. Good riddance!!!!
speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
[quote="Shy41208"]speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
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WHAT?!!....okay....now it's just not that serious......be glad they gave anything at all!.....wow...
I mean they gave. I didnt expect my girl to give my anything from being in her wedding. She gave me a really nice gift though. Maybe that was all they could afford. I would welcome a 25$ gift card. True it proably doesnt cover the cost of their plates but. And to give the same card back. Tacky.
That is the "me" culture. God calls us to think of others more highly than we think of ourselves. I can tell you I struggles with that one. LOL.
It is that they came that matters. Some people do not come to weddings because they jealous that they are not getting married and they thought of her and be husband to invite them to their wedding.
How about one of the checks we received BOUNCED! I would've have taken an empty card, nothing at all, or the $25 gift card instead of a gift that COST us money!
[quote="mycenae1918"]I mean they gave. I didnt expect my girl to give my anything from being in her wedding. She gave me a really nice gift though. Maybe that was all they could afford. I would welcome a 25$ gift card. True it proably doesnt cover the cost of their plates but. And to give the same card back. Tacky.
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and very UNGRATEFUL!!!!!!!!!! God loves a cheerful giver so if this ungrateful person does give the card back with $10 guess what...God will make sure that money is multiplied AND the ungrateful 'B' will lose alot more than $10...just watch...like someone else said, 'God don't like ugly' and this is just U-G-L-Y!!!!!!
[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]How about one of the checks we received BOUNCED! I would've have taken an empty card, nothing at all, or the $25 gift card instead of a gift that COST us money!
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I had one of these. Talk about PISSED OFF. It was one of my step fathers guest so I told him and he called his friend to let him know his check bounced, so he said he will send a new check for the amount plus the amount of the bank fee for the bounced check. It's been about a month and no check yet. HEFFA. But that still do not mean I'm gonna go out and do something to him when his wedding comes up and he is getting married next year.
I dont like to write checks as people cash them at they leisure. I have a professional job and people laugh when I pull out cash for things. like it done. they casy how you pay your rent? Money order, your bills? online internet with a card.
I dont get burned with checks cuz I take it to they bank. So if I am at First Bank of Far Away Galaxy and they say somebody cannot cover the check. OH well try it next Friday. LOL
[quote="Shy41208"]speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
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How can you be offended if someone gave you $25. The nerve -- maybe that's all they had. No one has to give you anything. People are so rude and ungrateful. And to give the same card back -- this woman has NO CLASS!!!!
On the other hand some people have no clue about etiquette. I've always been taught that you should at least "pay for your plate". And later on, my Trini sister friends taught me to "pay for your plate" and bring a gift. So I do both. Keeping that in mind, some people just don't know.
Someone came to my wedding and gave $20 in the card. I was very grateful, because I knew that was given in love. I hope her marriage lasts -- people forget what's important in life. Shame on her.
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[quote="sensationablyhappy"]Never knew I could do that. LOL
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It is not as easy as it once was. Typically, banks had to cash checks drawn on their bank. Now, when your refuse to open an account with them they like to charge you 5 dollars to cash the check. That's another reason, I really dont give checks for gifts either and now they have those throw away visas that you can give people also.
[quote="DaughterRhonda"]speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
With the internet and all these for dummies books. YOu can find out what to do in any situation. I have a Bridesmaids for dummies book. LOL.
How can you be offended if someone gave you $25. The nerve -- maybe that's all they had. No one has to give you anything. People are so rude and ungrateful. And to give the same card back -- this woman has NO CLASS!!!!
On the other hand some people have no clue about etiquette. I've always been taught that you should at least "pay for your plate". And later on, my Trini sister friends taught me to "pay for your plate" and bring a gift. So I do both. Keeping that in mind, some people just don't know.
Someone came to my wedding and gave $20 in the card. I was very grateful, because I knew that was given in love. I hope her marriage lasts -- people forget what's important in life. Shame on her.
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[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]How about one of the checks we received BOUNCED! I would've have taken an empty card, nothing at all, or the $25 gift card instead of a gift that COST us money!
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Oh my goodness!! This happened to us too...and from a family member!! My mother suggested that I call them and let them know....I didn't though...I figured you get notified if your check bounces...so if they don't call me to try and retify the situation...they really didn't want to give in the first place....so I let it alone.....one word....TRIF!!!!
I got a question, did you have any guests come but you didn't recieve a gift from them which surprised you? I mean a guest that you just KNEW would have given a gift.
I had two guests that I would have bet my life would have given a gift but when I went through all my cards, nothing was there from them. Now at the end of my reception I had a cousin who gave me ride back to our hotel to get our vehicle because we were running so late for wedding that we didn't have a chance to drop off our vehicle at the reception hall before the wedding.(long story) Anyways, when I got out her car I forgot my money bag with cards in it. I noticed about an hour later and went to her house to get it. Now I don't know if my cousin took envelops out my bag which I can't see her doing but hey, you never know, OR did these two guests not really give anything which would be surprising. Especially since one of them called me the next day to rave about how beautiful it all was.
I thought about asking them if they gave something but didn't want to take the chance of embarrassing them if they hadn't. I also didn't want to accuse my cousin of stealing from me. I did send them both a thank you card for attending just like I sent everyone else who gave something.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? I'll probably never know the answer to my particular situation.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Well as you know, my home was broken into. So I really don't know everyone who gave and who didn't ...but we did have over 30 boxes to open upon our return. Now I know for sure people are using that as an excuse and I think that trif just the same.
Also I had a cousin who married a few months before me ..and some of our same family members gave more to her than me. That tore me up. And till this day, you can't tell me they don't feel different about us, and I know for sure they have the money ...they are the rock of our family! I couldn't believe it, as if we weren't going to share that kind of information with eachother.
I'm sorry to hear that Turiya. I would feel better if that cousin wasn't as financially fortunate as you are. With my gift giving, I tend to give more towards the people who are less well off than my more wealthy relatives.
[quote="Turiya"]Well as you know, my home was broken into. So I really don't know everyone who gave and who didn't ...but we did have over 30 boxes to open upon our return. Now I know for sure people are using that as an excuse and I think that trif just the same.
Also I had a cousin who married a few months before me ..and some of our same family members gave more to her than me. That tore me up. And till this day, you can't tell me they don't feel different about us, and I know for sure they have the money ...they are the rock of our family! I couldn't believe it, as if we weren't going to share that kind of information with eachother.
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It may have been that they thought she was more needy. Does she have more children than you or is she much younger? I work part time but I make full time money so people assume that I am broke because I dont work everyday. So when I offer people gas money or pay for dinner they say " can you afford this?" Lol.
[quote="pamcrow"]I got a question, did you have any guests come but you didn't recieve a gift from them which surprised you? I mean a guest that you just KNEW would have given a gift.
I had two guests that I would have bet my life would have given a gift but when I went through all my cards, nothing was there from them. Now at the end of my reception I had a cousin who gave me ride back to our hotel to get our vehicle because we were running so late for wedding that we didn't have a chance to drop off our vehicle at the reception hall before the wedding.(long story) Anyways, when I got out her car I forgot my money bag with cards in it. I noticed about an hour later and went to her house to get it. Now I don't know if my cousin took envelops out my bag which I can't see her doing but hey, you never know, OR did these two guests not really give anything which would be surprising. Especially since one of them called me the next day to rave about how beautiful it all was.
I thought about asking them if they gave something but didn't want to take the chance of embarrassing them if they hadn't. I also didn't want to accuse my cousin of stealing from me. I did send them both a thank you card for attending just like I sent everyone else who gave something.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? I'll probably never know the answer to my particular situation.
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Pam, you really won't know, because there's no way to ask any of them. But girl nothing surprises me anymore. I couldn't believe that there were relatives and friends who attended mine that didn't give a dime. Some even attended as a couple, so that was two plates and liquor. Personally, I would have never thought to attend anyone's wedding and not give them anything...even when I was piss poor broke...then hear this one:
A cousin of mine brought her daughter, a friend of hers who was visiting St. Thomas, and her friend's daughter. So that's 4 including 2 kids at half price. I really wasn't interested in having this friend attend but since this was her houseguest, and we like to be hospitable in St. Thomas, I said O.K. My cousin gave us a Mikasa crystal dish and wrote her name and her parents name on the card. So, my uncle and his wife who attended (they have money) didn't give us anything and neither did her friend who attended with her daughter (they took a plane to STT so they're not hurting). I've seen these Mikasa dishes before and I know it's not worth more than $25-30.00. And this strange friend who came had the nerve to come with her daughter, eat, drink, and not a gift in sight. Then the next day, they all came to the house for the post-wedding celebration to eat and drink some more. Talk about t-a-c-k-y. The longer you live the more you learn, I say.
But guess what, family who didn't even attend give us cards with money. So it all balanced out. It's amazing to me how some people can be so generous and some so miserly.
The one thing I've learned is that as soon as I give, God multiplies it back to me. No lie. That's my testimony. Right after I bought my house a couple years ago and shelled out every dime I had, I had money coming to me every few weeks for some reason or the other. I rec'd money from this company called SMARTMOVE, then there was an overpayment of my escrow, so I rec'd a check from the mortgage company. Then I rec'd money out of the blue for something else I forget. I was like, I can't believe God is blessing me like this... A house and a lil money in the bank! I give monthly to my charity, "Save the Childen" ..and when I was attending a local church, I was giving my offering faithfully. God is good!
[quote="mycenae1918"]Well as you know, my home was broken into. So I really don't know everyone who gave and who didn't ...but we did have over 30 boxes to open upon our return. Now I know for sure people are using that as an excuse and I think that trif just the same.
Also I had a cousin who married a few months before me ..and some of our same family members gave more to her than me. That tore me up. And till this day, you can't tell me they don't feel different about us, and I know for sure they have the money ...they are the rock of our family! I couldn't believe it, as if we weren't going to share that kind of information with eachother.
It may have been that they thought she was more needy. Does she have more children than you or is she much younger? I work part time but I make full time money so people assume that I am broke because I dont work everyday. So when I offer people gas money or pay for dinner they say " can you afford this?" Lol.
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She's 9 months older than me, and we have the same amount of "biological" children. Hey wait maybe because this is my second marriage, I only get half of what she got. Any excuse will do.
[quote="Turiya"]HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MRS. SOON TO BE!!! (I'm taking BRIDE off since you're past your first year of marriage! LOL)
I don't get popped now ...do I?
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NOPE!!....don't you try and change the subject Mrs. MISSY!!......you are still in trouble!.....lol....but thank ya.....
I know I should change my handle since I'm no longer a soon to be bride....but I don't know what to change it to....
You're welcome. Did I tell you how pretty look today? LOL Now do I still get popped!!???? LOL
You don't have to change it ...we know the deal! :)
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[quote="Turiya"]You're welcome. Did I tell you how pretty look today? LOL Now do I still get popped!!???? LOL
You don't have to change it ...we know the deal! :)
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Ohhhhh...see you're a slick one.....I gotta watch you!!! lol!
Woooow, we got Sen over in the corner now too. And it sounds like I hear Shy trying to tip toe over too. But then again it might just be the ringing in my ear since Soontobe over here poppin everybody. Ouch!
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
lol...yes I know shame on me...
Yuck bologna. I know it is hot in the corner cuz it is crowded. lol
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[quote="pamcrow"]Woooow, we got Sen over in the corner now too. And it sounds like I hear Shy trying to tip toe over too. But then again it might just be the ringing in my ear since Soontobe over here poppin everybody. Ouch!
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Yes pam I think i'm going to be there with you all for awhile because I'v been bad.
Happy belated Anniversary MRS.soontobe.
You Divas are way too much. I'm cracking up over here and ya'll got DH looking at me as if I lost it!!!
Ms.G, did you say DH? Care to share?
Nothing to share darling. It's been "My husband this" or "My wife that" since our engagement. Nope, I guess my fingers were jumping the gun too. We're getting married on October 17th, 2009.
[quote="sensationablyhappy"]Ms.G, did you say DH? Care to share?
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get her Sen! LMAO..we have the marriage police in full effect...we ain't gone let G slip one in on us like Plat!! LOL
Well there is nothing wrong with that. As far as i'm concerned that is your Husband. 1 year will go by sooo fast and I can't wait to see how your day turns out. Good luck Sis.
LOL, Mrs.J
Thanks and not to worry, I will share everything, well, maybe not everything (LMAO)!!!
[quote="mycenae1918"]Yuck bologna. I know it is hot in the corner cuz it is crowded. lol
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It's also hot because they are frying that bologna -- LOL!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Sorry I',m late on this post:0)... My parents are paying for my dream wedding..My FI's family is paying for the rehersal dinner and Post wedding Brunch. My grandparents are paying for our Honeymoon and I anm sooo Thankful.
When MY fi and I have a child I pray that we will be able to do the same.
Remember To Always Be Fabulous!!!
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Wow, that is wonderful. All the help you are getting is really a blessing. I hope I can do the same for my daughters.
I didnt think to ask my family. I think only my sister could help me ( not the one that is not in the wedding) but since I am older I think I should pay for it.
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[quote="pamcrow"]Woooow, we got Sen over in the corner now too. And it sounds like I hear Shy trying to tip toe over too. But then again it might just be the ringing in my ear since Soontobe over here poppin everybody. Ouch!
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YUP....I'm poppin' everybody.....since the corner just don't seem to be working! I need to go old school and have each one of yall go outside and pick a switch....and don't come back here with no weak switch either!!! lol
[quote="soontobebride"]I need to go old school and have each one of yall go outside and pick a switch....and don't come back here with no weak switch either!!! lol
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My family is from the South. My Mom would send us down for the summer. I remember going outside to get a switch for my aunt to whip me with. You better had come back with the right one or she'll send you right back outside to get another and it would be too bad for me -- LOL!!! Soontobe -- you are too funny!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
And you better pick a good switch too. LOL
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Omg, speaking of switches, let me tell something funny that just happened. At my job we have this parking lot that is in desparate need of some weed wacking behind the fence. Well anyway I pull into a parking spot and realize I pull right in front of a huge tree full of those switches my mother used to tear my behind up with. Me and my coworker just sat there staring at it, both stuck in our own memories. Couldn't even move for a moment and then I say "You see it right" and we both just crack up laughing. He starts looking around the car before getting out talking about "I got's to make sure my mom's ain't no where around to see this tree, she'd probably dig it up an d plant it in the backyard". Then he gets an idea and grabs a branch, does the quick swipe to get the leaves off and starts swinging it. Boy that swoosh noise brought us back. We work at an alternative school where we deal with alot of at risk youths and my coworker was like, I'm going put this in my desk and pull it out when needed. I reminded him that switches leave evidence and he was like good point, how can I forget that. It was to funny. Kids these days don't know nothing about that.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Too funny
They dont all they know is crying child abuse. I deserved every beating I got and my mother chose the correct object be it a slipper, a hanger, a belt or a hand each time. I thank her for beating me into to shape. It is crazy that some kids cry child abuse and they arrest they parents and other children who are actually being abused are found dead.
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WOW to this post! LOL! I'm going to the corner just to enjoy the festivities. Yall sent all the fun sistas over there. No way am I staying out here with the old maids! LMAO!
We paid for our own wedding but my mother purchased and prepared the food as her gift (she's a caterer). His aunt and uncle gave us use of their timeshare for our honeymoon which we going on for our 6-month anniversary in February. We can go anywhere! We registered but only received 2 gifts from the registry. Everyone else gave lingerie at the shower, cash at the wedding, or just free-loaded!
That can be the case with the free loaders. The first time I was engaged my sister was going to put up some money as my mom is very ill and my sis wanted up to get married so that she would be there. She was going to pull out all the srops for us to have a wedding and a reception. The ex, a selfish child, said he wasnt going to rush just because my mom was ill. He still mad that I left. LOL He doesnt speak to me anymore at all because I told him that I was engaged. Good riddance!!!!
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speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
[quote="Shy41208"]speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
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WHAT?!!....okay....now it's just not that serious......be glad they gave anything at all!.....wow...
Dang! Wendy needs to be over in the corner with us! LOL Wendy went hard ..LOL
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I mean they gave. I didnt expect my girl to give my anything from being in her wedding. She gave me a really nice gift though. Maybe that was all they could afford. I would welcome a 25$ gift card. True it proably doesnt cover the cost of their plates but. And to give the same card back. Tacky.
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WHAT?!!....okay....now it's just not that serious......be glad they gave anything at all!.....wow...
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That's what I said. I would have been happy that they came. she may not have known their situation at the time.
[quote="mycenae1918"] And to give the same card back. Tacky.
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GOD dont like UGLY and that is what she doing, being UGLY
WOW, I can't beleive there are people out there like that. That is the most tacky stuff I have ever heard of. Thats crazy.
That is the "me" culture. God calls us to think of others more highly than we think of ourselves. I can tell you I struggles with that one. LOL.
It is that they came that matters. Some people do not come to weddings because they jealous that they are not getting married and they thought of her and be husband to invite them to their wedding.
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How about one of the checks we received BOUNCED! I would've have taken an empty card, nothing at all, or the $25 gift card instead of a gift that COST us money!
[quote="mycenae1918"]I mean they gave. I didnt expect my girl to give my anything from being in her wedding. She gave me a really nice gift though. Maybe that was all they could afford. I would welcome a 25$ gift card. True it proably doesnt cover the cost of their plates but. And to give the same card back. Tacky.
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and very UNGRATEFUL!!!!!!!!!! God loves a cheerful giver so if this ungrateful person does give the card back with $10 guess what...God will make sure that money is multiplied AND the ungrateful 'B' will lose alot more than $10...just watch...like someone else said, 'God don't like ugly' and this is just U-G-L-Y!!!!!!
[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]How about one of the checks we received BOUNCED! I would've have taken an empty card, nothing at all, or the $25 gift card instead of a gift that COST us money!
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I had one of these. Talk about PISSED OFF. It was one of my step fathers guest so I told him and he called his friend to let him know his check bounced, so he said he will send a new check for the amount plus the amount of the bank fee for the bounced check. It's been about a month and no check yet. HEFFA. But that still do not mean I'm gonna go out and do something to him when his wedding comes up and he is getting married next year.
I dont like to write checks as people cash them at they leisure. I have a professional job and people laugh when I pull out cash for things. like it done. they casy how you pay your rent? Money order, your bills? online internet with a card.
I dont get burned with checks cuz I take it to they bank. So if I am at First Bank of Far Away Galaxy and they say somebody cannot cover the check. OH well try it next Friday. LOL
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Never knew I could do that. LOL
[quote="Shy41208"]speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
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How can you be offended if someone gave you $25. The nerve -- maybe that's all they had. No one has to give you anything. People are so rude and ungrateful. And to give the same card back -- this woman has NO CLASS!!!!
On the other hand some people have no clue about etiquette. I've always been taught that you should at least "pay for your plate". And later on, my Trini sister friends taught me to "pay for your plate" and bring a gift. So I do both. Keeping that in mind, some people just don't know.
Someone came to my wedding and gave $20 in the card. I was very grateful, because I knew that was given in love. I hope her marriage lasts -- people forget what's important in life. Shame on her.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="sensationablyhappy"]Never knew I could do that. LOL
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It is not as easy as it once was. Typically, banks had to cash checks drawn on their bank. Now, when your refuse to open an account with them they like to charge you 5 dollars to cash the check. That's another reason, I really dont give checks for gifts either and now they have those throw away visas that you can give people also.
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[quote="DaughterRhonda"]speaking of giving cash/free-loading. I went to the Wendy Williams TV show a few weeks ago. and one of the female audience members told the story of how she got married and was offended that one of her guest(a couple) gave $25 in the card. she got married 2 yrs ago, dont you know she kept the card and kept the money in it. now that guest is getting married and she is giving that same card back to the couple with $10 in it due to the "recession" and wendy signed the card too, saying that they better not ever give that amount again. I was like WOW!
With the internet and all these for dummies books. YOu can find out what to do in any situation. I have a Bridesmaids for dummies book. LOL.
How can you be offended if someone gave you $25. The nerve -- maybe that's all they had. No one has to give you anything. People are so rude and ungrateful. And to give the same card back -- this woman has NO CLASS!!!!
On the other hand some people have no clue about etiquette. I've always been taught that you should at least "pay for your plate". And later on, my Trini sister friends taught me to "pay for your plate" and bring a gift. So I do both. Keeping that in mind, some people just don't know.
Someone came to my wedding and gave $20 in the card. I was very grateful, because I knew that was given in love. I hope her marriage lasts -- people forget what's important in life. Shame on her.
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That is just disgusting, Mycenae. I hope that once she gives that "gift" to the bride, the bride would send her one heck of a "thank you" note.
[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]How about one of the checks we received BOUNCED! I would've have taken an empty card, nothing at all, or the $25 gift card instead of a gift that COST us money!
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Oh my goodness!! This happened to us too...and from a family member!! My mother suggested that I call them and let them know....I didn't though...I figured you get notified if your check bounces...so if they don't call me to try and retify the situation...they really didn't want to give in the first place....so I let it alone.....one word....TRIF!!!!
I got a question, did you have any guests come but you didn't recieve a gift from them which surprised you? I mean a guest that you just KNEW would have given a gift.
I had two guests that I would have bet my life would have given a gift but when I went through all my cards, nothing was there from them. Now at the end of my reception I had a cousin who gave me ride back to our hotel to get our vehicle because we were running so late for wedding that we didn't have a chance to drop off our vehicle at the reception hall before the wedding.(long story) Anyways, when I got out her car I forgot my money bag with cards in it. I noticed about an hour later and went to her house to get it. Now I don't know if my cousin took envelops out my bag which I can't see her doing but hey, you never know, OR did these two guests not really give anything which would be surprising. Especially since one of them called me the next day to rave about how beautiful it all was.
I thought about asking them if they gave something but didn't want to take the chance of embarrassing them if they hadn't. I also didn't want to accuse my cousin of stealing from me. I did send them both a thank you card for attending just like I sent everyone else who gave something.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? I'll probably never know the answer to my particular situation.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Well as you know, my home was broken into. So I really don't know everyone who gave and who didn't ...but we did have over 30 boxes to open upon our return. Now I know for sure people are using that as an excuse and I think that trif just the same.
Also I had a cousin who married a few months before me ..and some of our same family members gave more to her than me. That tore me up. And till this day, you can't tell me they don't feel different about us, and I know for sure they have the money ...they are the rock of our family! I couldn't believe it, as if we weren't going to share that kind of information with eachother.
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I'm sorry to hear that Turiya. I would feel better if that cousin wasn't as financially fortunate as you are. With my gift giving, I tend to give more towards the people who are less well off than my more wealthy relatives.
You ladies are too much, but on point though.
[quote="Turiya"]Well as you know, my home was broken into. So I really don't know everyone who gave and who didn't ...but we did have over 30 boxes to open upon our return. Now I know for sure people are using that as an excuse and I think that trif just the same.
Also I had a cousin who married a few months before me ..and some of our same family members gave more to her than me. That tore me up. And till this day, you can't tell me they don't feel different about us, and I know for sure they have the money ...they are the rock of our family! I couldn't believe it, as if we weren't going to share that kind of information with eachother.
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It may have been that they thought she was more needy. Does she have more children than you or is she much younger? I work part time but I make full time money so people assume that I am broke because I dont work everyday. So when I offer people gas money or pay for dinner they say " can you afford this?" Lol.
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[quote="pamcrow"]I got a question, did you have any guests come but you didn't recieve a gift from them which surprised you? I mean a guest that you just KNEW would have given a gift.
I had two guests that I would have bet my life would have given a gift but when I went through all my cards, nothing was there from them. Now at the end of my reception I had a cousin who gave me ride back to our hotel to get our vehicle because we were running so late for wedding that we didn't have a chance to drop off our vehicle at the reception hall before the wedding.(long story) Anyways, when I got out her car I forgot my money bag with cards in it. I noticed about an hour later and went to her house to get it. Now I don't know if my cousin took envelops out my bag which I can't see her doing but hey, you never know, OR did these two guests not really give anything which would be surprising. Especially since one of them called me the next day to rave about how beautiful it all was.
I thought about asking them if they gave something but didn't want to take the chance of embarrassing them if they hadn't. I also didn't want to accuse my cousin of stealing from me. I did send them both a thank you card for attending just like I sent everyone else who gave something.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? I'll probably never know the answer to my particular situation.
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Pam, you really won't know, because there's no way to ask any of them. But girl nothing surprises me anymore. I couldn't believe that there were relatives and friends who attended mine that didn't give a dime. Some even attended as a couple, so that was two plates and liquor. Personally, I would have never thought to attend anyone's wedding and not give them anything...even when I was piss poor broke...then hear this one:
A cousin of mine brought her daughter, a friend of hers who was visiting St. Thomas, and her friend's daughter. So that's 4 including 2 kids at half price. I really wasn't interested in having this friend attend but since this was her houseguest, and we like to be hospitable in St. Thomas, I said O.K. My cousin gave us a Mikasa crystal dish and wrote her name and her parents name on the card. So, my uncle and his wife who attended (they have money) didn't give us anything and neither did her friend who attended with her daughter (they took a plane to STT so they're not hurting). I've seen these Mikasa dishes before and I know it's not worth more than $25-30.00. And this strange friend who came had the nerve to come with her daughter, eat, drink, and not a gift in sight. Then the next day, they all came to the house for the post-wedding celebration to eat and drink some more. Talk about t-a-c-k-y. The longer you live the more you learn, I say.
But guess what, family who didn't even attend give us cards with money. So it all balanced out. It's amazing to me how some people can be so generous and some so miserly.
The one thing I've learned is that as soon as I give, God multiplies it back to me. No lie. That's my testimony. Right after I bought my house a couple years ago and shelled out every dime I had, I had money coming to me every few weeks for some reason or the other. I rec'd money from this company called SMARTMOVE, then there was an overpayment of my escrow, so I rec'd a check from the mortgage company. Then I rec'd money out of the blue for something else I forget. I was like, I can't believe God is blessing me like this... A house and a lil money in the bank! I give monthly to my charity, "Save the Childen" ..and when I was attending a local church, I was giving my offering faithfully. God is good!
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[quote="mycenae1918"]Well as you know, my home was broken into. So I really don't know everyone who gave and who didn't ...but we did have over 30 boxes to open upon our return. Now I know for sure people are using that as an excuse and I think that trif just the same.
Also I had a cousin who married a few months before me ..and some of our same family members gave more to her than me. That tore me up. And till this day, you can't tell me they don't feel different about us, and I know for sure they have the money ...they are the rock of our family! I couldn't believe it, as if we weren't going to share that kind of information with eachother.
It may have been that they thought she was more needy. Does she have more children than you or is she much younger? I work part time but I make full time money so people assume that I am broke because I dont work everyday. So when I offer people gas money or pay for dinner they say " can you afford this?" Lol.
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She's 9 months older than me, and we have the same amount of "biological" children. Hey wait maybe because this is my second marriage, I only get half of what she got. Any excuse will do.
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