Hey yall, I thought this would be an interesting topic. What thing(s) does your husband or FH do that you absolutely LOVE? On the flip side what thing(s)does he do that drives you CRAZY? I LOVE first and foremost that he has his own personal relationship with God. I love he makes me feel like I'm the most beautiful woman he has ever seen no matter where we go. I loves that he cooks dinner if he get's home before me or if he's off. I love he'll run me a bubble bath, put my favorite book beside the tub and let me have some me time. I love that we can cut the TV off and talk about anything. NOW things that I CANNOT STAND, my husband is a procrasinator, I like things done yesterday while he's like "don't worry, I'll take care of it tommorrow". I cannot stand that he has the tendency to try and be the saviour for his family. While this sounds wonderful and good we all know how sometimes family can be a burden. Please don't get me wrong I love his family, they've always welcomed me with open arms and I felt comfortable with them the first time I met them, BUT they have some SERIOUS personal issues that always seem to get them in trouble and my husband's always the one getting them out. These are our two main issues, I'm glad to say that we are both praying and working on these issues and whatever issues that might try to cause confusion in our marriage. What about you?
Hey yall, I thought this would be an interesting topic. What thing(s) does your husband or FH do that you absolutely LOVE? On the flip side what thing(s)does he do that drives you CRAZY? I LOVE first and foremost that he has his own personal relationship with God. I love he makes me feel like I'm the most beautiful woman he has ever seen no matter where we go. I loves that he cooks dinner if he get's home before me or if he's off. I love he'll run me a bubble bath, put my favorite book beside the tub and let me have some me time. I love that we can cut the TV off and talk about anything. NOW things that I CANNOT STAND, my husband is a procrasinator, I like things done yesterday while he's like "don't worry, I'll take care of it tommorrow". I cannot stand that he has the tendency to try and be the saviour for his family. While this sounds wonderful and good we all know how sometimes family can be a burden. Please don't get me wrong I love his family, they've always welcomed me with open arms and I felt comfortable with them the first time I met them, BUT they have some SERIOUS personal issues that always seem to get them in trouble and my husband's always the one getting them out. These are our two main issues, I'm glad to say that we are both praying and working on these issues and whatever issues that might try to cause confusion in our marriage. What about you?
Lets start with the "quirks". My DH can be very stubborn. But not as much as he used to be. Sometimes he doesn't prefer PDA's and will kind of brush me off if I get too "kissy kissy", but let him see a guy smiling at me too long or talking to me and helping me out in the store...oh here come the kisses and hugs! He can be very to himself, and prefers not to do a lot of things that involves throngs of people being there unless its for his family...For example, we haven't been going to our classes for bible study as much as I'd like because of this, and its a big point of contention between us. I'd also like to visit my old church, but its a church with a lot of running, and praising, and can get very loud, and he is kind of scared of that, so he has still been hesitating to visit-even though we promised my pastor we would....We owe them a visit especially since we got married there! Also, if he can help it, he would rather not spend a lot of time with my mom's side of the family because they offended him/pretty much disrespected him when they all first met. He liked my mom, but then after a while, he backed from her because she gave him a very hard time about getting married, as if he couldn't cut it...but thats another story...The problem is that when they are around, he definitely sits back....
However, the thing I have grown to love about him is how he tries his best at everything concerning me. Many times he just doesn't understand me, and I think that's just the nature of men and women....but at Christmas, despite his feelings about my mom's sideof the family, he went out of his way to talk and have fun with them all. My aunt still called him out his name, but my brother and his wife stepped up and said he doesn't like that nickname, so they put her in her place...She felt bad and kind of smothered him after that. But he always tries. He makes sure to turn the seat warmer on in the truck on the way to work, and always has some kind of surprise or treat for me around...I'm a big kid....He is the ultimate romantic-our first Valentine's as a couple he had these guys from his college band serenade me with a personalized song! I am so spoiled because of him, and he buys the perfect gifts, you'd never think he'd know how much I wanted a Kitchen Aid...cause he is a listener....Despite his stubborness he is always there for me, and treats me like a queen. He is very gentle and gives me my space. I love him:)
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Well...let's get the negatives out of the way first... :)
My FH is a MAJOR procrastinator, a WORKAHOLIC which sometimes get in the way of our US time; he is a loner and and doesn't make "friends" easily...he only has 1 BEST FRIEND (someone he has known since 2nd grade) and even though he is very active in church with the Brotherhood, Deacons & Ushers he only gets close enough to the men to do GOD'S work; he also dwells in the past alot on certain issues related to money, and feels as though he doesn't measure up when it comes to finances based on where he was 5 yrs ago (working for a major corporation making very good money before downsizing) to where he is now-Post Office
Now...the good stuff :)
I LOVE the fact that he is a Disciple for Christ. He is not ashamed to tell anyone about the God we serve! :) he is very loving and attentive when I REALLY need it (not always when I want it-it is a difference) and he makes me feel as though there is no other woman on this earth that can compare to me; he loves to suprise me with gifts, every morning he gets up and runs my bath water (at 5:00 a.m.-even if he just went to bed at 4) he loves my son AND my mother as if they were both his own, and he will do any and every thing in the world to keep me happy!!!
p.s. THANKS soontobebride for starting this topic!! with the wedding planning in full swing right now, being tired, frustrated etc..by thinking about my FH made me realize WHY I want to marry him and now the little things that I have been fretting about means nothing when I realize all I will have from 3/15-eternity!!
That's wonderful bumble! We all know everything is not going to be "perfect" in a marriage. We know both parties will have differences, disagreements, issues etc. But as long as we keep in my all of the good stuff and how much they outweigh the "bad" stuff. As long as we continue praying together, supporting one another through the "bad" stuff then everything will work out. God has a way of working things out and turning the bad into good, you just keep praying on all the things you've mentioned. By the way your husband sounds like he's PERFECT for you.....
[quote="soon2bmsj"]Well...let's get the negatives out of the way first... :)
My FH is a MAJOR procrastinator, a WORKAHOLIC which sometimes get in the way of our US time; he is a loner and and doesn't make "friends" easily...he only has 1 BEST FRIEND (someone he has known since 2nd grade) and even though he is very active in church with the Brotherhood, Deacons & Ushers he only gets close enough to the men to do GOD'S work; he also dwells in the past alot on certain issues related to money, and feels as though he doesn't measure up when it comes to finances based on where he was 5 yrs ago (working for a major corporation making very good money before downsizing) to where he is now-Post Office
Now...the good stuff :)
I LOVE the fact that he is a Disciple for Christ. He is not ashamed to tell anyone about the God we serve! :) he is very loving and attentive when I REALLY need it (not always when I want it-it is a difference) and he makes me feel as though there is no other woman on this earth that can compare to me; he loves to suprise me with gifts, every morning he gets up and runs my bath water (at 5:00 a.m.-even if he just went to bed at 4) he loves my son AND my mother as if they were both his own, and he will do any and every thing in the world to keep me happy!!!
p.s. THANKS soontobebride for starting this topic!! with the wedding planning in full swing right now, being tired, frustrated etc..by thinking about my FH made me realize WHY I want to marry him and now the little things that I have been fretting about means nothing when I realize all I will have from 3/15-eternity!!
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Don't you just LOVE man that is not ashamed of his relationship with Christ?!! I think it is important to think on all the good and how they outweigh the bad. It's makes it easier to dwell on why you decided to marry him in the first place!....
Let me get the annoying things out of the way first. #1 at the top of my list is my husband is sooooo cheap! He doesn't like to spend money. He won't buy himself clothes, etc. Every now and then you need to update your wardrobe! My husband came from a very humble background and it has "scarred" him in a way. In the beginning he felt that he no longer had to take me out on dates. After talking with him I finally got him to agree to going out at least once a month. I must say he has been keeping his word. My husband is also a workaholic and doesn't take time for himself. I told him that I want him to be around for our grandchildren. I must admit he has gotten better and does take time to relax and is a different person because of it. Another thing is that he barges in the ladies room without knocking when I am in there. That infuriates me!!!! He needs to understand that that is my personal time period! He said, "but baby we're married." I told him, that doesn't mean that I shouldn't have my own private time in the ladies room. I know that may seem crazy, but it is so annoying to me. My husband is also a neat freak. The flip side to that is that I don't have to ask him to clean up after himself.
I love the fact that my husband is debt free and is so responsible when it comes to providing for his family. Some of my friends and family members have horror stories when it comes to their husbands (or wives) and the bills. I love the fact that my husband loves music -- all kinds of music. He has taken me to operas, ballets and jazz concerts that I probably wouldn've never went to. My daughter and I have learned so much from him. I love the fact that my husband has an awesome sense of humor. We have so much fun, laughing and truly enjoying one another's company. It is so important to any relationship. I love the fact that we can talk about anything and truly listen to one another. I love the fact that my husband and I are truly friends. Although my husband is not a member of my church, I love the fact that he prays with me! He is not ashamed to hold my hand and pray in public or at home. I so love that about him. I love the fact that my husband makes me feel like I am loved and that I am the most important person in his life.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="DaughterRhonda"] Another thing is that he barges in the ladies room without knocking when I am in there. That infuriates me!!!! He needs to understand that that is my personal time period! He said, "but baby we're married." I told him, that doesn't mean that I shouldn't have my own private time in the ladies room. [/quote]
RHHHHHHHHHooooonnnnnnnnnnnyyyyyy!!!!! I feel like coming through this computer and high fiving YOU!!!! I A-B-S-L-U-T-E-L-Y hate that!!! And just start talking or brushing his teeth!!! I'm like well excuse me I didn't mean to interupt you. ...:( Why Why Why Why Why. So Now he knocks and says "Baby can I come in -it's me" I know who in the world it is ..why bc the children just stand there and start talking!!! OMG--I don't get it!
Dislikes:
1. Bathroom barging!
2. Adlibing to a story
3. Don't respond-then say "I didn't hear you" or say "I said yeah" and I could be looking down his throat at the time.
4. Taking my things to "help me out the house" and don't tell me so I'm looking for it -for the longest.
Likes:
1. Very Humble, Helpful, Loving and Fun
2. Loves my children!
3. Stands up for me and adores me
4. Comes to my job everyday to take me to lunch
5. Gives me a forehead kiss, everynight before going to sleep
6. Our adult time is adultilicious!!!! ..:)
7. And still thinking about Rhony post--he is not cheap, I love that ...and I am spoiled to pieces bc of it!
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High five Turiya!!! LOL!!!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks Girl!
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Likes:
16. Our adult time is adultilicious!!!! ..:)
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Did our dear sistah T just create a new word???? ADULTILICIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!! lmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Girl that's a word! Look it up--or better yet ...Just imagine ...LMAO
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LOL!!...you ladies are funny! Why do some men do that?....My husband will be in the bathroom on the toilet......let me just say "sitting down".....and want me to talk to him!!!...I'm like NO SON!!!....that's nasty!....and he uses that same line.."but we're married"......SO WHAT!.....
Things about DH that drive me crazy:
1. DH is cheap when buying for others. He will go all out for me & the kids but if we are going somewhere and want to bring a hostess gift, he acts like that $20 will kill him to spend but will drive around aimlessly doing nothing burning $20 worth of gas without a care in the world. Which brings me to #2
2. Hanging out with unproductive friends that aren't going anywhere in life. DH has quite a few friends that don't inspire or motivate him to want more in life. Whenever he leaves to hang out with friends I say "oh you leaving for one of your SQ meetings?" SQ stands for status quo. They are comfortable where they are in life and it drives me crazy they don't want more. DH is the only one in his circle that has a real trade, a house, decent cars and a wife that pushes him to do better.
3. He will come in from an SQ meeting and expect that he can just take over the TV in our bedroom as if I wasn't just watching something.
4. Sometimes he's alittle to rauncy/raw with the things he says. I have to remind him he's not at a SQ meeting so be careful what you say. Especially when we get in an arguement. I tell him he better recognize who he talking too.
5. Although he belives in GOD, getting him to go to Church is like pulling teeth.
Things I absolutely LOVE about DH:
1. He loves my daughter as if she was his own. He is great with kids
and does alot with the kids on his sons football teams. Alot of them don't have a father there cheering them on and he's always there giving encouragement and support.
2. He makes me feel beautiful at all times. I've always struggled with my weight and he makes me feel sexy no matter what size I am.
3. DH is a hustler. Never asks me why I want something, or complains about price of it. Just says, it may take some time to get it and then gets his hustle on to make sure I'm happy. He would sell bottle water on the basketball courts in the summer if he had to. Sometimes it does drive me crazy though because its not always the best time or place for a hustle. I guess it's a blessing and a curse at the same time.
4. He has my back no matter what. He may not agree with something I do or say but the outside world would never know it.
5. He's my biggest supporter. Whenever I doubt myself, he's right there with the right words telling me go for it or I can do it.
6. DH does the majority of the laundry in the house, will bring in the groceries, always cleans and warms my car up during the winter months and never fails to say "wait right here while I pull the car around".
7. He leaves for work before I wake in the morning and he NEVER forgets to kiss me and tell me he loves me before heading out the door.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Soon this is a great topic. Its a good way to get it all out there. Ladies, you are reminded me of a few things:
1. I am so in love, and we balance the good and bad, I managed to even forget about the other things about him that makes me mad!
That being said here is #2:
2. I also can't stand him barging in the room changing the channel-I mean straight disrespecting my channels!....Okay, I know the history/discovery/TLC channel is boring to him, but dag! Go to the next room.
He did that b/c the front room has the bigger TV so he wears me out (but baby ESPN is better in HD on THIS TV!- ME: So does TLC!) until I finally go watch the smaller one in the bedroom. SO I complained!
Well (This is why I love him)...His crazy solution in an attempt to make me happy was to buy a 42 in HDTV and put the 32 inch in the the bedroom....So I smile weakily at his attempt to please (me or please him?)...but now ITS ME who had to rearrange the bedroom and clean up everything after I took it apart to get it in there.........MEN!?!
He tries...what can I say?
I work to get him to acheive high, and sometimes I get mad when he finally sees for himself, the things I saw in the spirit YEARS AGO! So I had to learn patience and quiet.....Now when he didn't feel he needed to supervise folks 3 years ago, all of a sudden he feels he should apply for those types of jobs! I told him he was too smart to be answering to folks when, but his reply was I just want to do what makes me happy, and thats great....NOOOWWW, supervising people will make him happy so go figure....it takes so much patience not to say I told you so after you waited so long for the "I told u so moment" to happen. Especially when God tells you so as the wife first:)
He also will never lie (even to surprise me) so he constantly will look straight at you when you ask him a question he doesn't want to answer and not say a word-just so he doesn't have to lie....so its a good and bad in that....Sometimes I feel bad cause i'll lie in a second so I won't ruin my surprise...but he doesn't hold it against me though....I pretty much married a crazy one.....I know I'm the woman for him cause I just can't see anyone dealing with what I deal with, and I am sure they know it too!
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What I dislike...
1.FH can talk you to death. He needs to be a professor or a teacher or preacher where people that want to hear all he has to say will come. At first it was so awesome that he knew so much about black history and dance and the bible and art...But man there have been times that when we were on the phone I had put the phone down, walked away from it, took my contacts out, washed my face, went down the hall, down stairs, put a load in the washer, came back upstairs, got a snack and went back in my room....and HE WAS STILL TALKING!!! HE DIDN"T KNOW I WAS GONE! LOL!!
Um he will chew with his mouth open...He argues that it's okay if it's "part of the way open". That whole conversation had me aghast.
He can be really naive and folks can and have taken advantage of this.
Okay so for the loves.
I love that my man loves God with his whole heart. He's got great discernment and knows the difference between me and when the enemy is giving me thoughts and feeling. He will witness to anyone fearlessly and I do mean anyone.
I love that he puts me first. I love that even when he wasn't working somehow he would come up with the money to surprise me with flowers and candy at my job.
He's a great teacher and is so awesome with children. He's going to be a great father.
I love that when I'm sick and hurting (which is often from the Endometriosis) he'll go out of his way to try to make me feel better and try to make things easier for me.
He defends me even when his family tried to turn him against me. ( I need to take a page out his book)
He see's past the me I am now and is always encouraging me and telling me how I will be even greater in the future...
Um...He wants to learn how to cook so when I can't he'll be able to.
He's a great listener, dancer, performer, minister...He's my best friend. He loves me inspite of everything, he makes me feel like a goddess. There are times you can tell he can only see me in a room (LOVE IT)
Oh...and his body is like whoa! Is their such thing as a 12 pack? If there is he's got it!
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OMG!!! Too funny!
I am so loving this topic. Thanks Soontobebride!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
DISLIKES:
1) FH also likes to have his best talks in the bathroom when he
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2) He tells me without fail everyday how much he loves me, even when we
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
[quote="pamcrow"]Awwghh, that is so sweet. It's things like that that make you fall in love all over again.
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Yeah, I know what you mean...
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I LOVE LOVE!! LOL...Keep them coming....reading some of you lady's like's or love's just add some things to my list. I LOVE MY BABES! As for your dislikes I know NOTHING is too hard for God. As long as you two pray together whatever issues are going on regarding him OR you, can be handled (of course you two will have to work also). It will take some time and work, but pray also for patience...and it will work out fine.
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Abeni please read what you posted only 2 months ago. Newbies please feel free to add your like's and dislikes.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
My hubby has come a long way in the 17 months that we have been married. In my original post, the #1 thing I listed as a dislike was that he was cheap. This weekend, he surprised my daughter and I with tickets for the 3 of us to Puerto Rico as a graduation present for my daughter.
He is really doing his thing and spending money where it counts. I guess I can't call him cheap anymore -- LOL!!!!
That just goes to show that people change, grow and work on themselves. If a man (or woman for that matter) loves you and knows that something is important to you, he will do his part to make you happy.
I am so happy I married my Mr. Right! Thank you God!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
That's GREAT! I'm happy for you and that you're happy and know that you married Mr. Right!
You guys have fun :)
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Oh yes, Abeni read read....
But I guess it just gets better and better.
For our first anniversary, you're supposed to give paper, so my DH bought us tickets to see Elton John in concert (I know...I am ahem...different), and I was so excited...I only mentioned it in passing too. The thing is, he is NOT a fan, so just for me, he sat through the concert with me, just FOR me...He has developed an appreciation for EJ now, but he did that just for me, at his own discomfort because he HATES crowds...so that A LOT for him..
Then I was so stressed one day so when we came home I went straight for the kitchen, got distracted, and burned some shrimp I was cooking...He went in there, fixed some more shrimp and insisted I eat the shrimp he cooked, while he ate the "crispier" shrimp I messed up...I relented, but it reminded me (because we were fighting the week before) of what a Jewel he is!!!!
What I don't like still???? Well, its just not that important anymore (at least today), and it doesn't bother me so much...today (LOL).
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[quote="Turiya"]That's GREAT! I'm happy for you and that you're happy and know that you married Mr. Right!
You guys have fun :)
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Thank you Turiya!!!!
Pastor Bumble (lol!!!) Elton John -- you know you have a jewel of a guy! (smile) Isn't it wonderful when we can appreciate our men for the wonderful things that they do!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Things definitely do change for the better. It looks like my hubby is FINALLY breaking away from being the saviour of his family. I'm very proud of him because I think his family used him before and alot of times I don't think they intentionally used him, it's just that he was always the responsible one that they could always go to. They've stopped calling him for EVERYTHING now because he's started to say no, or he'll say things like let me speak to my wife first, or let me see if my wife needs something first. It's been great and I'm proud of him!!!
Still working on the procrasniting part....BUT we're all still works in progress right?....
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EXACTLY!!! That's why I put the please be patient with me saying as my signature in the ticker area. God is not through with us yet.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Amen Soon & PamCrow!
God knows I'm still growing too!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
well ladies....I have to report my DH has not changed a THANG...likes or dislkes! LOL
ok I will start with the dislikes; i dislike the fact that my pooh doesnt know how to tell people NO especially when he knows he's being taken advantage of (family& friends) i hate that if im sleeping when he comes home no matter what time he'll wake me up and tell me the "hot gossip" and he'll go to sleep and im wide awake now and he'll say baby Im hungry and fall asleep, when i leave him a plate in the micro he wont eat it but if i dont baby Im hungry. and I hate he has absolutely no interest in learning how to cook. now what I love about my pooh is he is very affectionate at home and in public he loves me and his children unconditionally and we always come first. he is a clown can impersonate anyone,he doesnt bring home a lot of money (has two other daughters he pays child support for which sucks him dry gotta be careful who you have babies by) he never complains and will give me ALL that he has if i need it,i love and hate actually but love it more is that when im angry with him he'll start singing Neyo's when your mad to me,he'll give me the world if he could, what i want always matters, and that good lord have mercey(adultilious thing) is what's up is what i love best(joking).
Soon you are too funny!
Pebbles, girl you know what's important in a relationship. Sounds like you have yourself a wonderful man.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
aww thanks Rhonda I surely do