Ok ladies-your opinions...
FH and I discussed about getting our marriage license today and we are in disagreement about the name. I want use both my maiden and his last name but HE is not trying to hear this AT ALL!!!!!!!! his reponse is "you are married and I expect you to have my name"-I don't want this to be an issue, but this is something we cannot seem to come to an agreement with. I know this shouldn't be a big deal to me and I know he may seem a little dishonored if I don't do it his way, but what about me???!!!???!!!???
If it is absolutely serious to keep your name, then I suggest a couple of options;
1. Do it old school. Remember those women activists with 3 names? You can drop your middle name and let your maiden name be your new middle name. I did this unofficially at on my diploma for my Masters. It was for ME since its a document that lasts forever. I will also do this on my diploma for my PhD...However officially, I did the traditional thing & dropped my maiden name.
2. Add his last name and you will have 4 names (not uncommon at all) by not hyphenating.
3. Hyphenate (but this seems to be non-negotiable).
Dropping last names is a western ideal that is not more than a couple hundreds of years old.
In Eastern societies (Asian, Arabic, Islamic) you see a lot of married women who do not drop thier last name nor is it expected that they do. I see a lot of my muslim and Chinese clients who do this. Also the wife's family is revered so much in those societies and it can be considered offensive to "disregard" her family's name...Especially since its HER FATHER's last name.
Their children have the father's last name-patrilineal
Also in the Hispanic Community women usually keep their last names (unless they have assimilated western ideals) and give their children either hypenated or non hyphenated last names.
I say all of this to tell you that it doesn't have to be a big deal. Understanding how he feels about it is important. Cause I didn't want to change my last name either. I did it and it kind of felt good. So I compromised with certain documents and my diplomas to make ME happy. So that was how we found our happy medium. Good luck...but don't let it put a damper on YOUR MARRIAGE...
Thanks Bumble-I tried compromising say I would drop my first name (because legally I sign my name E. Michelle McHanny since noone could every pronounce it correctly anyway) and just use Michelle McHanny Johnson, but he wants it to be Edwena Michelle Johnson dropping my maiden name all together! :(
[quote="soon2bmsj"]Thanks Bumble-I tried compromising say I would drop my first name (because legally I sign my name E. Michelle McHanny since noone could every pronounce it correctly anyway) and just use Michelle McHanny Johnson, but he wants it to be Edwena Michelle Johnson dropping my maiden name all together! :(
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I like the E. Michelle McHanny Johnson....It sounds dignified! I am sorry he won't compromise. I think that if its that important to you and you cannot see or be comfortable with dropping your maiden name, then I think you should stick to your guns. Continue to work on the compromise. I think you have bended a lot here.
I actually consulted with my Pastor on this issue since we just finished our marital counseling sessions and he said that if he is so adamant about the name change that I should not allow this to put a damper on the marriage from the start because he probably feels like by not accepting his name only that I am not being committed to being his wife :( I never thought about that, but I still have my reasons too!!!
My FH feels the same way that your FH does on this issue Soon. We discussed this months ago, but I have always planned to drop my name, so it never became an issue. He just always said that when I made the decision to marry him, taking his last name is something that comes with the decision, and keeping my name just seems as if I am not completely accepting him (not his words exactly). I think the way he feels about it is sort of what your pastor was saying about your FH. Just make sure the decision you make is one that both of you can live with. I know this is not the best time to have to deal with an issue such as this with everything else going on.
Soon sweetie ...obviously your reasons are important to you, does he not see it as important or does he not see it important? McHanny is your Father/Mother's name right? What could be so bad moving it forward and his last name be your last name too?
As in:
Mrs. Michelle McHanny Johnson or Mrs. E. Michelle McHanny Johnson
I guess my concern is -do the BOTH of you know EACH OTHER'S urgency for your decision to be able to make BOTH of you happy?
Everything looks beautful Soon... As for the name dropping issue, it seems to be a hassle for a number of couples (moa included). FH doesn't also seem to understand that not taking his name doesn't mean that I won't be committed to our marriage. So Good luck, hope you reach an understanding before the wedding. Meanwhile, all the best with the rest of your planning...
Ok ladies-after many questions with different people-I throw in the white flag! :(
My first ladies response:
Good afternoon, if you are getting married and this is my opinion you become one so you take on your husband last name. Why would you use both names or why would you want to keep your name? You love him right? To death right?
[quote="soon2bmsj"]Ok ladies-after many questions with different people-I throw in the white flag! My name will be: E.Michelle Johnson
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E. Michelle Johnson -- still has a nice ring to it. I'm glad that you've managed to sort this out as you really don't need to be stressed right now. So happy planning from now on
I like it either way. God will honor you for your humbleness and willingness to keep the peace. I would still pray on it, because you have to live with it forever. I just hope he understands what you are doing for him.....Remember this....he will have many times where he will have to bend over backwards for you too-against his own inital feelings too, just like you did for him. So kudos to you for making great steps to work this new life out! I can see you all will be alright:)
I agree with you 100% Bumble! sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles, and even though the name is very important to me, this is one battle that I have lost the will to fight... :) I don't think FH and I have EVER argued as much as we did over this issue. He is usually so conforming to what I want to do, so I was really shocked when he put on his armor to fight this one, so I guess this was very important to him.
Well with a week and a half left I have pretty much completed everything except my favor bags (which I will do next wk) and getting the wine for the men's gifts (waiting on their wine cases due on 3/7) getting pretty excited now and actually finished the last of the programs last night! here it is:
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Ok ladies..with 8 days to go here is where I stand:
-received guys gifts today (yea!) now just need to purchase the wine which I plan to do this weekend...what do you think?
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is it too girlie to put their gifts in a gift bag or should I actually wrap them???
-will stuff favor bags next week
-both of our rings have been cleaned for that extra "bling" effect
-FH and I are getting the marriage license in the a.m.
I believe I pretty much have everything completed (thank God)!! I am getting my dress on Sat. morning after coming from the beauty shop, picking up FH's cake on the way home, and I've ordered Subs for the wait at the church. The guys are taking pics at 1, the girls at 3 so we will all be at the church for about 3 hrs before the wedding starts.
can you ladies think of anything else?!?
I like them Soon! I don't think they are girlie, however knowing me ...I would probably tie a ribbon in your wedding colors the long way around the box and bow it at the top, with maybe a little thank you tag.
Gift bags aren't girlie at all, especially if you chose a manly color such as black or dark blue. I would probably do black bags because it always make what's inside seem more elegant.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Soon2bmsj ~ You've done a great job with the programs and the wine cases are terrific. I know that your male attendants will enjoy them for years to come. How very original.
Diva ~ you've done a phenomenal job at planning your wedding!!! You've accomplished everything and you still have 7 days to relax and deal with last minute stuff. Diva ~ can you say "HHEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!. You're awesome!!!
Very nice gifts for your GM's Soon! I know they will love them! Girl, 7 days to go, can you believe it!! Well it sounds like you are finally at the place where you can just relax and breathe now, and just look forward to your special day. I feel that way too, aside from my flight being cancelled to Pittsburgh today:(
Thanks G and Tiffy! I met with the sound guy at my church today to finalize the recorded music he will be playing...he was all excited talking about the mics, lighting etc..things I never thought about! LOL he is going ALLLL out for US (as he says but he kept saying "Bro. Steve will like this and that--no US no where in his sentences :)
Good morning ladies!! 5 days to go and I am now getting REAL excited!
I had a very interesting weekend:
-the ladies from the church had me a "suprise" bridal shower at On The Border (since I had requested not to have a shower) it was really nice!! afterwards, we went to a Karoake place and had a blast!! (I would have had pics had I known about this)
-checked with the hotel and all out of town guests have booked their rooms so I am happy about that!
-had our last counseling session last night and went over the ceremony with our Pastor! he seems just as excited as us!! LOL
-ladies..I don't know if I am going to make it down the isle in one piece :( yesterday our sermon was from 2 Cor and it was talking about how sufficient God's grace is and how it is just enought for us to make it thru or trials and tribulations...his msg title was 'Never Would Have Made It' so after the sermon of course during altar call our Minister of Music sang the song and EVERYBODY IN THE CHURCH LOST IT!!!!!!!! including me!!! I was having a real hard time keeping it together already because that song is my personal testimony-but I had a prayer warrior walk over to me and say-Sis. God told me to come and let you know that you made it thru your storm of losing your son only because of your faith in him and you are going to be alright now--well that was it!!! it was O-V-E-R for a sistah!!! Please keep me lifted up in prayer because I am really hoping I can make it down the isle without falling apart!!
-all other tasks seem to be on point except during the discussion of the ceremony I realized after printing up 175 programs on my "special" paper I ordered I left off the ceremony info on Jumping the Broom which I REALLY wanted to include-but hey can't sweat the small stuff now! :)
Hi soontobMRSj- LOL- I am so happy to know that everything is working out and Hallelujah!! 4 days to go only!!! You know I think you mentioned that Never Would have Made It song on another thread, I downloaded it on the same day, and I must have played it one hundred times since. It is a powerful song, and it speaks the truth. I am glad you got a Suprise Shower- (even though you requested not to have one)you seem like the kinda person who makes people wanna make an extra effort- never met you- but i get the sense that its something you would do for someone else.
Good luck in the next few days- you are in all our prayers
Thanks Dream! today is my last day of work-so I am really getting ready to kick it in high gear! :) Yes, I am happy that the ladies thought enough of me to give me a Shower in spite of my saying I didn't want one! we had a great time!!! and actually Friday night after the rehearsal me & the party and the ladies are going to hit the Karaoke spot again!! LOL
Question ladies,
I have made the decision to change dresses since my wedding dress is pretty long and bulky...at what point should I change? before/after cake cutting? before we go into reception? please advise!! thanks :)
Usually, if a bride is changing, it's done after pictures and during the cocktail hour. But hey Diva, it's your day. Whenever you feel like changing, do so. It's your party!!!
well, my MOH has already said she is going to change her clothes after we eat (didn't ask me-TOLD me tha is what she was doing) so if I change after pics she may get the idea she can change too-and during the formalities (eating, cake cutting etc) I don't want the party to be in street clothes-actually, the dress I am going to get is more of a formal (can't decide if it should be a cute party dress or a long dress) any suggestions???
1. Tell her that's not an option! Wait ..when I think about it one of my hostess did put her jeans on bc "she was working" ...damn just thought that ...
anyway
2. Something like
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Or the color offsetting the girls ...I don't remember the color they are wearing.
Yep T-But not "that" skimpy!! LOL I'd have to get a mega girdle to hold in the front! LOL the colors are clover/pistachio/silver-I was thinking either an ivory dress or one of the colors (or close to it) so do you think I should stick with a long dress?
Hey Soon! Thanks for checking up on me. I'm anxiously awaiting the BIG day, just a little tired. But everything is pretty much in order. So how is everything going for you? All set for Saturday?
Soon are you doing a garter toss? If so, maybe you should wait until after cake cutting to change. That way you can enjoy FH shifting and searching through all that material looking for the garter. Doing it after the cake would really signify "It's time to party ya'll"
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Thanks for checking in on me Tiffy...
well ladies...it is about that time-and YES I am extremely tired!! I am trying to pack for the honeymoon, packing my son's clothes for camp and trying to pack me a bag for the hotel the night before and the the things I need to have that day when dressing...it has WORE ME OUT!! I never knew I even owned that many pieces of luggage! LOL but hey, Saturday CANNOT come fast enough for me!!!
The brooms are adorable Soon!
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Too cute!
Thanks Tiffy & Future! I am VERY happy with the way they turned out! :)
thanks ladies!
Ok ladies-your opinions...
FH and I discussed about getting our marriage license today and we are in disagreement about the name. I want use both my maiden and his last name but HE is not trying to hear this AT ALL!!!!!!!! his reponse is "you are married and I expect you to have my name"-I don't want this to be an issue, but this is something we cannot seem to come to an agreement with. I know this shouldn't be a big deal to me and I know he may seem a little dishonored if I don't do it his way, but what about me???!!!???!!!???
If it is absolutely serious to keep your name, then I suggest a couple of options;
1. Do it old school. Remember those women activists with 3 names? You can drop your middle name and let your maiden name be your new middle name. I did this unofficially at on my diploma for my Masters. It was for ME since its a document that lasts forever. I will also do this on my diploma for my PhD...However officially, I did the traditional thing & dropped my maiden name.
2. Add his last name and you will have 4 names (not uncommon at all) by not hyphenating.
3. Hyphenate (but this seems to be non-negotiable).
Dropping last names is a western ideal that is not more than a couple hundreds of years old.
In Eastern societies (Asian, Arabic, Islamic) you see a lot of married women who do not drop thier last name nor is it expected that they do. I see a lot of my muslim and Chinese clients who do this. Also the wife's family is revered so much in those societies and it can be considered offensive to "disregard" her family's name...Especially since its HER FATHER's last name.
Their children have the father's last name-patrilineal
Also in the Hispanic Community women usually keep their last names (unless they have assimilated western ideals) and give their children either hypenated or non hyphenated last names.
I say all of this to tell you that it doesn't have to be a big deal. Understanding how he feels about it is important. Cause I didn't want to change my last name either. I did it and it kind of felt good. So I compromised with certain documents and my diplomas to make ME happy. So that was how we found our happy medium. Good luck...but don't let it put a damper on YOUR MARRIAGE...
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Thanks Bumble-I tried compromising say I would drop my first name (because legally I sign my name E. Michelle McHanny since noone could every pronounce it correctly anyway) and just use Michelle McHanny Johnson, but he wants it to be Edwena Michelle Johnson dropping my maiden name all together! :(
[quote="soon2bmsj"]Thanks Bumble-I tried compromising say I would drop my first name (because legally I sign my name E. Michelle McHanny since noone could every pronounce it correctly anyway) and just use Michelle McHanny Johnson, but he wants it to be Edwena Michelle Johnson dropping my maiden name all together! :(
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I like the E. Michelle McHanny Johnson....It sounds dignified! I am sorry he won't compromise. I think that if its that important to you and you cannot see or be comfortable with dropping your maiden name, then I think you should stick to your guns. Continue to work on the compromise. I think you have bended a lot here.
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I actually consulted with my Pastor on this issue since we just finished our marital counseling sessions and he said that if he is so adamant about the name change that I should not allow this to put a damper on the marriage from the start because he probably feels like by not accepting his name only that I am not being committed to being his wife :( I never thought about that, but I still have my reasons too!!!
Bumble offered some excellent suggestions. And I honestly wish you the best with this situation.
What have you decided to do Soon2bmsj?
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I don't know Rhony!!!! (in a very whiny voice) LOL
My FH feels the same way that your FH does on this issue Soon. We discussed this months ago, but I have always planned to drop my name, so it never became an issue. He just always said that when I made the decision to marry him, taking his last name is something that comes with the decision, and keeping my name just seems as if I am not completely accepting him (not his words exactly). I think the way he feels about it is sort of what your pastor was saying about your FH. Just make sure the decision you make is one that both of you can live with. I know this is not the best time to have to deal with an issue such as this with everything else going on.
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Soon sweetie ...obviously your reasons are important to you, does he not see it as important or does he not see it important? McHanny is your Father/Mother's name right? What could be so bad moving it forward and his last name be your last name too?
As in:
Mrs. Michelle McHanny Johnson or Mrs. E. Michelle McHanny Johnson
I guess my concern is -do the BOTH of you know EACH OTHER'S urgency for your decision to be able to make BOTH of you happy?
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Everything looks beautful Soon... As for the name dropping issue, it seems to be a hassle for a number of couples (moa included). FH doesn't also seem to understand that not taking his name doesn't mean that I won't be committed to our marriage. So Good luck, hope you reach an understanding before the wedding. Meanwhile, all the best with the rest of your planning...
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Thanks Dee! This is still a debate as of TODAY...we REALLY need to go ahead and come to some decision though! :)
Ok ladies-after many questions with different people-I throw in the white flag! :(
My first ladies response:
Good afternoon, if you are getting married and this is my opinion you become one so you take on your husband last name. Why would you use both names or why would you want to keep your name? You love him right? To death right?
My name will be: E.Michelle Johnson
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E. Michelle Johnson -- still has a nice ring to it. I'm glad that you've managed to sort this out as you really don't need to be stressed right now. So happy planning from now on
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All the best Soon2bmsj! I'm glad you've made a decision. As Dee Love said "Happy Planning from now on!"
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks ladies! one less thing I have to worry about! :)
I like it either way. God will honor you for your humbleness and willingness to keep the peace. I would still pray on it, because you have to live with it forever. I just hope he understands what you are doing for him.....Remember this....he will have many times where he will have to bend over backwards for you too-against his own inital feelings too, just like you did for him. So kudos to you for making great steps to work this new life out! I can see you all will be alright:)
God Bless
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I agree with you 100% Bumble! sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles, and even though the name is very important to me, this is one battle that I have lost the will to fight... :) I don't think FH and I have EVER argued as much as we did over this issue. He is usually so conforming to what I want to do, so I was really shocked when he put on his armor to fight this one, so I guess this was very important to him.
Good morning ladies,
Well with a week and a half left I have pretty much completed everything except my favor bags (which I will do next wk) and getting the wine for the men's gifts (waiting on their wine cases due on 3/7) getting pretty excited now and actually finished the last of the programs last night! here it is:
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Very nice job soon .... im making programs as well so its nice to see how nice they really could turn out.
Great job on the brooms and programs. Did you ever decide whether to do ribbons around the cd case?
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Yes Pamcrow, I am going to tie the ribbons around the case-I'm using the lt. green color
Ok ladies..with 8 days to go here is where I stand:
-received guys gifts today (yea!) now just need to purchase the wine which I plan to do this weekend...what do you think?
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is it too girlie to put their gifts in a gift bag or should I actually wrap them???
-will stuff favor bags next week
-both of our rings have been cleaned for that extra "bling" effect
-FH and I are getting the marriage license in the a.m.
I believe I pretty much have everything completed (thank God)!! I am getting my dress on Sat. morning after coming from the beauty shop, picking up FH's cake on the way home, and I've ordered Subs for the wait at the church. The guys are taking pics at 1, the girls at 3 so we will all be at the church for about 3 hrs before the wedding starts.
can you ladies think of anything else?!?
I like them Soon! I don't think they are girlie, however knowing me ...I would probably tie a ribbon in your wedding colors the long way around the box and bow it at the top, with maybe a little thank you tag.
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Gift bags aren't girlie at all, especially if you chose a manly color such as black or dark blue. I would probably do black bags because it always make what's inside seem more elegant.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
We put the groomsmen's gifts in black bags. It was in good taste and very manly.
Bags would work out fine should you decide to go that route. :-)
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well black bags it is; I am going to get Thank You cards and have FH write a personal msg to each guy. I did that with all of the ladies...
thanks ladies
btw-FH and I just got home from getting our license and he is like a kid in a candy store!! LOL
Soon2bmsj ~ You've done a great job with the programs and the wine cases are terrific. I know that your male attendants will enjoy them for years to come. How very original.
Diva ~ you've done a phenomenal job at planning your wedding!!! You've accomplished everything and you still have 7 days to relax and deal with last minute stuff. Diva ~ can you say "HHEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!. You're awesome!!!
Very nice gifts for your GM's Soon! I know they will love them! Girl, 7 days to go, can you believe it!! Well it sounds like you are finally at the place where you can just relax and breathe now, and just look forward to your special day. I feel that way too, aside from my flight being cancelled to Pittsburgh today:(
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Thanks G and Tiffy! I met with the sound guy at my church today to finalize the recorded music he will be playing...he was all excited talking about the mics, lighting etc..things I never thought about! LOL he is going ALLLL out for US (as he says but he kept saying "Bro. Steve will like this and that--no US no where in his sentences :)
Good morning ladies!! 5 days to go and I am now getting REAL excited!
I had a very interesting weekend:
-the ladies from the church had me a "suprise" bridal shower at On The Border (since I had requested not to have a shower) it was really nice!! afterwards, we went to a Karoake place and had a blast!! (I would have had pics had I known about this)
-checked with the hotel and all out of town guests have booked their rooms so I am happy about that!
-had our last counseling session last night and went over the ceremony with our Pastor! he seems just as excited as us!! LOL
-ladies..I don't know if I am going to make it down the isle in one piece :( yesterday our sermon was from 2 Cor and it was talking about how sufficient God's grace is and how it is just enought for us to make it thru or trials and tribulations...his msg title was 'Never Would Have Made It' so after the sermon of course during altar call our Minister of Music sang the song and EVERYBODY IN THE CHURCH LOST IT!!!!!!!! including me!!! I was having a real hard time keeping it together already because that song is my personal testimony-but I had a prayer warrior walk over to me and say-Sis. God told me to come and let you know that you made it thru your storm of losing your son only because of your faith in him and you are going to be alright now--well that was it!!! it was O-V-E-R for a sistah!!! Please keep me lifted up in prayer because I am really hoping I can make it down the isle without falling apart!!
-all other tasks seem to be on point except during the discussion of the ceremony I realized after printing up 175 programs on my "special" paper I ordered I left off the ceremony info on Jumping the Broom which I REALLY wanted to include-but hey can't sweat the small stuff now! :)
You're doing great Msj, and I agree with you "DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF"!!!
What time is it over there? Is it time for a Marguarita? Well, have one on me anyway, Heeyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!
no Diva G-too early for margaritas plus I am still on the clock at work--but good idea!! LOL
Hi soontobMRSj- LOL- I am so happy to know that everything is working out and Hallelujah!! 4 days to go only!!! You know I think you mentioned that Never Would have Made It song on another thread, I downloaded it on the same day, and I must have played it one hundred times since. It is a powerful song, and it speaks the truth. I am glad you got a Suprise Shower- (even though you requested not to have one)you seem like the kinda person who makes people wanna make an extra effort- never met you- but i get the sense that its something you would do for someone else.
Good luck in the next few days- you are in all our prayers
Thanks Dream! today is my last day of work-so I am really getting ready to kick it in high gear! :) Yes, I am happy that the ladies thought enough of me to give me a Shower in spite of my saying I didn't want one! we had a great time!!! and actually Friday night after the rehearsal me & the party and the ladies are going to hit the Karaoke spot again!! LOL
Sounds like a plan to me Msj!!!
Question ladies,
I have made the decision to change dresses since my wedding dress is pretty long and bulky...at what point should I change? before/after cake cutting? before we go into reception? please advise!! thanks :)
Usually, if a bride is changing, it's done after pictures and during the cocktail hour. But hey Diva, it's your day. Whenever you feel like changing, do so. It's your party!!!
well since we are not having a a cocktail hr, I didn't know if I should change right after pics or wait until we have completed all of the formalities
I would after the pics! =)
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well, my MOH has already said she is going to change her clothes after we eat (didn't ask me-TOLD me tha is what she was doing) so if I change after pics she may get the idea she can change too-and during the formalities (eating, cake cutting etc) I don't want the party to be in street clothes-actually, the dress I am going to get is more of a formal (can't decide if it should be a cute party dress or a long dress) any suggestions???
IMO -
1. Tell her that's not an option! Wait ..when I think about it one of my hostess did put her jeans on bc "she was working" ...damn just thought that ...
anyway
2. Something like
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Or the color offsetting the girls ...I don't remember the color they are wearing.
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Yep T-But not "that" skimpy!! LOL I'd have to get a mega girdle to hold in the front! LOL the colors are clover/pistachio/silver-I was thinking either an ivory dress or one of the colors (or close to it) so do you think I should stick with a long dress?
ooops! Is this skimmy too?
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If so, sorwee ...and to answer your question, yeah I like long =)
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Hey Soon! Thanks for checking up on me. I'm anxiously awaiting the BIG day, just a little tired. But everything is pretty much in order. So how is everything going for you? All set for Saturday?
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Soon are you doing a garter toss? If so, maybe you should wait until after cake cutting to change. That way you can enjoy FH shifting and searching through all that material looking for the garter. Doing it after the cake would really signify "It's time to party ya'll"
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Thanks for checking in on me Tiffy...
well ladies...it is about that time-and YES I am extremely tired!! I am trying to pack for the honeymoon, packing my son's clothes for camp and trying to pack me a bag for the hotel the night before and the the things I need to have that day when dressing...it has WORE ME OUT!! I never knew I even owned that many pieces of luggage! LOL but hey, Saturday CANNOT come fast enough for me!!!
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