Hey Ladies, Another question for ya'll...
My invites are DIY and I am trying to find a way to word the response cards so that it is not so easy for guests to invite more ppl than who are on the invitations. can you ladies help?
Hey Ladies, Another question for ya'll...
My invites are DIY and I am trying to find a way to word the response cards so that it is not so easy for guests to invite more ppl than who are on the invitations. can you ladies help?
I am trying to prevent this also Shy! So on my RSVP cards, I included a line that says "we have reserved _ seats in your honor". I wrote the number of guests invited in the space provided, and I also wrote the names of the individuals invited on the inner envelope. I didn't want there to be any confusion considering we are having an "adult only" reception. Hope the helps!
When we did our invite list we listed every person & EVERY PERSON IN THEIR HOUSEHOLD most likely to come...then we adjusted our budget to handle them all because the reality is, no matter who you invite, if you don't want them to bring more than a certain amount of people, you have to either tell them out flat, or run the risk of them bringing an uninvited or more likely unexpected guest
1. Please RSVP by Month, date, year
M _______________________ (The name of the head of household & spouse or mate-if you are friends/related to one or both)
____ will be able to attend including yourself (and YOU CAN put in the MAX number of people you wish to attend-we did not do this though)
____ will NOT be able to attend
Now the downside:
1. I have HEARD that people will cross out/white-out the number you put in, and put a bigger number. (I would keep track of the number of invitees for each family like we did-but remember, we budgeted for the number of people likely to come and cut down from there.)
2. You may lose some important guests if they have children and feel like you are excluding their children or their mates.....My coordinator didn't attend a wedding of a friend's because she specifically put only for her and her husband to attend and not her daughter who was a toddler at the time....so rather than find a weekend sitter she opted not to attend...and she wasn't mad, its just life....But she also realized she was at the bottom of the list because she got the invite very close to the wedding which was in NY! So the bride didn't really expect her to come, she was just being courteous.....and thats fine to...I have suggested this tactic to other brides who run into this situation....but anyone who is invited should be budgeted for, just in case you happen to invite someone who can grab tickets on such short notice!
(For our unmarried friends, we didn't SAY they could bring a guest unless we knew their BF/GF personally. In that situation we put both their name and the BF/GF's name together on one invite....All married friends were allowed to bring their spouse....But these arrangements were oral, because since our family was so big and basically said they were coming, we allocated for all of them to attend, and unfortunately had to limit the amount of friends we brought....The best way we did this was to invite mostly mutual friends, and a limited amount of individual personal friends....due to space constraints.
I know this is a little more than your request, but you need to know what can happen if you chose this route...
thank you. I did come across both types of wording. I also let it be known that if they are not on the list, they will not be entering the ceremony/reception.
My friend also told me for hers ppl were crossing out the numbers and her mom called those ppl and told them, that was not exceptable.
I know for sure i will be using one of the two wordings.
I think that your best bet is to write out the names of all the guests that are actually invited on the inner envelope (if you are inviting children or other folks in the same house) If you are not using an inner envelope then you can write it on the outside envelope.
It would look something like
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe (or Mr. and Mrs. John Doe)
Sally, Jimmy, Susie (If you were inviting children)
address
Basic etiquette is that only the people listed on the invite are invited. Therefore if they mark through and add names or anything like that you are well within the rights to call them and correct it.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
Thank you girl.
Cause i know me and my attitude, that's why i am working to prevent it and i will not be dealing with those calls to the people that havent responded or that tried to change the amount of ppl, my mother has to. LOL
Thanks house. I only hope it works, or I'll be making some phone calls, or should I say I'll be assigning people to make phone calls...lol!! I won't have the time or the patience by then:)
[quote="TiffyB"]Thanks house. I only hope it works, or I'll be making some phone calls, or should I say I'll be assigning people to make phone calls...lol!! I won't have the time or the patience by then:)
[/quote]
How did everyone's responses turn out for you RSVP's?
Did anyone show up that did not respond or checked that they would not attend, did anyone come with more people then they were suppose to, did they respect the Adults only reception request if you had one?
How did everyone's responses turn out for you RSVP's?
Did anyone show up that did not respond or checked that they would not attend, did anyone come with more people then they were suppose to, did they respect the Adults only reception request if you had one?
[/quote]
My responses turned out pretty well Sensationablyhappy. No one showed up that didn't send in an RSVP, except for one of my cousins who actually did send in an RSVP, but then told my sister to remove her from the list because she was having personal problems and would not be able to attend. So she showed up after we removed her from the list, but she was the only one, and because 10 or so people who RSVP'd failed to show up, there was plenty of room for her. Our Adult only reception was just that, everyone respected our No Children request! The only children who were in attendance were the flower girl and her little brother who is 4 months old.
for those of you who created your own rsvp cards, did you use any design or borders on them. I am planning of creating my own response cards and was wondering if I should use border or not
Quite a few ppl that sent response cards saying they were coming didnt show up, and few that didnt send them in and some came with a guest. All I kept saying they just wont have a seat then, but it did end up working out. everyone had a seat.
Hey Ladies, Another question for ya'll...
My invites are DIY and I am trying to find a way to word the response cards so that it is not so easy for guests to invite more ppl than who are on the invitations. can you ladies help?
I am trying to prevent this also Shy! So on my RSVP cards, I included a line that says "we have reserved _ seats in your honor". I wrote the number of guests invited in the space provided, and I also wrote the names of the individuals invited on the inner envelope. I didn't want there to be any confusion considering we are having an "adult only" reception. Hope the helps!
[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;5;96/st/20080315/e/We+Became+One/k/f0ec/event.png[/img]
[/url]
www.mywedding.com/kyleandtiffany
Shy,
When we did our invite list we listed every person & EVERY PERSON IN THEIR HOUSEHOLD most likely to come...then we adjusted our budget to handle them all because the reality is, no matter who you invite, if you don't want them to bring more than a certain amount of people, you have to either tell them out flat, or run the risk of them bringing an uninvited or more likely unexpected guest
1. Please RSVP by Month, date, year
M _______________________ (The name of the head of household & spouse or mate-if you are friends/related to one or both)
____ will be able to attend including yourself (and YOU CAN put in the MAX number of people you wish to attend-we did not do this though)
____ will NOT be able to attend
Now the downside:
1. I have HEARD that people will cross out/white-out the number you put in, and put a bigger number. (I would keep track of the number of invitees for each family like we did-but remember, we budgeted for the number of people likely to come and cut down from there.)
2. You may lose some important guests if they have children and feel like you are excluding their children or their mates.....My coordinator didn't attend a wedding of a friend's because she specifically put only for her and her husband to attend and not her daughter who was a toddler at the time....so rather than find a weekend sitter she opted not to attend...and she wasn't mad, its just life....But she also realized she was at the bottom of the list because she got the invite very close to the wedding which was in NY! So the bride didn't really expect her to come, she was just being courteous.....and thats fine to...I have suggested this tactic to other brides who run into this situation....but anyone who is invited should be budgeted for, just in case you happen to invite someone who can grab tickets on such short notice!
(For our unmarried friends, we didn't SAY they could bring a guest unless we knew their BF/GF personally. In that situation we put both their name and the BF/GF's name together on one invite....All married friends were allowed to bring their spouse....But these arrangements were oral, because since our family was so big and basically said they were coming, we allocated for all of them to attend, and unfortunately had to limit the amount of friends we brought....The best way we did this was to invite mostly mutual friends, and a limited amount of individual personal friends....due to space constraints.
I know this is a little more than your request, but you need to know what can happen if you chose this route...
We've been Happily Married 2 Years and Counting:)
a href="http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
thank you. I did come across both types of wording. I also let it be known that if they are not on the list, they will not be entering the ceremony/reception.
My friend also told me for hers ppl were crossing out the numbers and her mom called those ppl and told them, that was not exceptable.
I know for sure i will be using one of the two wordings.
I think that your best bet is to write out the names of all the guests that are actually invited on the inner envelope (if you are inviting children or other folks in the same house) If you are not using an inner envelope then you can write it on the outside envelope.
It would look something like
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe (or Mr. and Mrs. John Doe)
Sally, Jimmy, Susie (If you were inviting children)
address
Basic etiquette is that only the people listed on the invite are invited. Therefore if they mark through and add names or anything like that you are well within the rights to call them and correct it.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
Thank you girl.
Cause i know me and my attitude, that's why i am working to prevent it and i will not be dealing with those calls to the people that havent responded or that tried to change the amount of ppl, my mother has to. LOL
Tiffy I really like how you worded your response card.
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;17;90/st/20080718/e/Two+Hearts+Became+One%21/k/b47e/event.png[/img]
Thanks house. I only hope it works, or I'll be making some phone calls, or should I say I'll be assigning people to make phone calls...lol!! I won't have the time or the patience by then:)
[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;5;96/st/20080315/e/We+Became+One/k/f0ec/event.png[/img]
[/url]
www.mywedding.com/kyleandtiffany
[quote="TiffyB"]Thanks house. I only hope it works, or I'll be making some phone calls, or should I say I'll be assigning people to make phone calls...lol!! I won't have the time or the patience by then:)
[/quote]
I know that's right!
You ladies are right on the money!!!
BUMP!
How did everyone's responses turn out for you RSVP's?
Did anyone show up that did not respond or checked that they would not attend, did anyone come with more people then they were suppose to, did they respect the Adults only reception request if you had one?
[quote="sensationablyhappy"]BUMP!
How did everyone's responses turn out for you RSVP's?
Did anyone show up that did not respond or checked that they would not attend, did anyone come with more people then they were suppose to, did they respect the Adults only reception request if you had one?
[/quote]
My responses turned out pretty well Sensationablyhappy. No one showed up that didn't send in an RSVP, except for one of my cousins who actually did send in an RSVP, but then told my sister to remove her from the list because she was having personal problems and would not be able to attend. So she showed up after we removed her from the list, but she was the only one, and because 10 or so people who RSVP'd failed to show up, there was plenty of room for her. Our Adult only reception was just that, everyone respected our No Children request! The only children who were in attendance were the flower girl and her little brother who is 4 months old.
[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;5;96/st/20080315/e/We+Became+One/k/f0ec/event.png[/img]
[/url]
www.mywedding.com/kyleandtiffany
Thanks Tiffy, It's good to know there are some decent people still out there.
for those of you who created your own rsvp cards, did you use any design or borders on them. I am planning of creating my own response cards and was wondering if I should use border or not
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;17;90/st/20080718/e/Two+Hearts+Became+One%21/k/b47e/event.png[/img]
I did my own House. I used the same border as my invitation. I'll post pics Wednesday. Have to finish the taxes of these last minute people!
Quite a few ppl that sent response cards saying they were coming didnt show up, and few that didnt send them in and some came with a guest. All I kept saying they just wont have a seat then, but it did end up working out. everyone had a seat.