Just a quick question girls - we can only have 100 people at our wedding dinner(for the wedding in England, not the blessing in St Lucia) but we can have as many as we like for the evening reception. I know that a lot of the people we were thinking of inviting to the evening reception only would love to come to the church.
I heard about a couple that invited everyone to the church, then sent some guests away while the family had the wedding dinner and then everyone was invited back for the evening reception.
I wasn't thinking of being that cheeky, but our reception is taking place in a hotel and people can stay over. I had the idea that everyone could come to the church and those that could not stay for the dinner could be invited to make use of the hotel facilities like the spa or just chill out and unpack for a couple of hours until the evening reception starts.
Is this just too cheeky??!!
Just a quick question girls - we can only have 100 people at our wedding dinner(for the wedding in England, not the blessing in St Lucia) but we can have as many as we like for the evening reception. I know that a lot of the people we were thinking of inviting to the evening reception only would love to come to the church.
I heard about a couple that invited everyone to the church, then sent some guests away while the family had the wedding dinner and then everyone was invited back for the evening reception.
I wasn't thinking of being that cheeky, but our reception is taking place in a hotel and people can stay over. I had the idea that everyone could come to the church and those that could not stay for the dinner could be invited to make use of the hotel facilities like the spa or just chill out and unpack for a couple of hours until the evening reception starts.
Is this just too cheeky??!!
Whats the difference between a "wedding dinner" and a "evening reception"? Are these all in the same day? And whats the purpose of having both....? I just need a little education here....
Also, you cannot keep everyone happy.
Pursuing such a difficult feat will futile sometime before, during or after the event at the risk of a complete mental breakdown...when it comes to your sanity...my attitude its either ME or THEM....and I will NEVER lose it for someone else...blood or no blood relation!..and thats all I have to say about that....
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Wedding dinner is the meal and the evening reception is the party bit afterwards. Because we are limited to having only 100 people for dinner, normally the people who come to the church come straight to the dinner.
I was just wondering what we do about those who are invited to the party in the evening when I know they would like to be at the church too?
Ooh, thats a tough one....Usually, everyone invited to the dinner stays to dance...Its usually all part of one package from my understanding, thats why I was confused....
Usually, if the reception is limited due to whatever constraints: budget, space, etc, its usually understood by all the reception is RSVP only....We invited many people to the ceremony at the church, but people knew the reception was RSVP only-mostly family members. So those not invited to the reception, just left their gifts at the church....I just have understanding friends:)
You may want to send special invites for the reception party to those invited to the party but not the dinner, with specified details....BUT they may just come to the dinner right after church....To keep it simple, I would just invite the same people to the dinner and the reception party together...But thats just me....
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Hi Diamond, this must be an English tradition because I haven't heard of having a separate dinner and evening reception here in the States. As Bumble stated, you can't please everyone.
The only way that I can see handling this one is to have two separate invites with specific instructions for each. This is quite tedious and is a little extra work.
In any event I wish you the best with this one. Please keep us posted on how you decide to handle it.
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It's quite common to have 2 sets of invites going out. There are some (normally close family and friends) that come to the church, dinner and party and those that are just invited to the party. Those that are just coming to the party get to have food in the form of a buffet, so everyone is catered for.
The only reason we send out 2 sets of invites is because the venue only has space for 100 seated guests. If it wasn't for that, everyone could come to everything!! Oh, wedding planning is so hard!!!
Diamond- I recently went back on an old thread and I saw that you asked me where from London I am from- how exciting- I am from South East London and I lived in New York before I moved here!! And I am from African originally- wow me and you both have to think about pleasing people from two different countries. Yip I see your ticker is up and running and you seem to have started the planning whirlwind. Have you picked a dress yet?? And a nice location in England. You know I am thinking of doing everything at home because I know i will get more bang for my buck- but I also have friends all over the world and its easier for them to all come to London. Soon I will put my ticker up- I guess we are thinking next year still seems so far away to set a date.
Hi hun - I wondered how your wedding plans were going. The only thing that is properly booked is the church and the venue. I live in North London and the reception venue is Theobalds Park in Cheshunt, Hertfordshire. At the moment, I'm hunting for good photographers and videographers that have experience in photgraphing black people (some of them do not know how to adjust the lighting and stuff to get our best features, y'know??!!)
You know what it's like having to plan two events for the wedding - it's tough on the pocket and I'm worried about the budget, but I hope it all works out.
Haven't picked the dress yet - so far, everything I've seen in the shops, I don't like. However, I have seen a couple of Maggies Sottero dresses that I love and FH says we should go to New York for my birthday in April, so I might wait till then to get the dress cheaper. What about you Dream Gurl - how's the planning going? It's never too soon to get started......
I'l try and have a go at posting a picture of my reception venue (forgive me girls if it goes wrong!!!)
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I'll also try and post the dresses that I like (let me know what you think girls!
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Maggie Sottero - No.1
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Maggie Sottero - No.2
nice reception venue DiamondBride! I personally like dress #1, but if you want to have the poof then it will be #2!!
I like the 1st dress best also Diamond!
I love both the dresses- Maggies dresses are lovely- I am with the 1st one too- its got a little more flow. I love the venue- are you doing the church and the reception in the same place. And are you bringing an outside caterer. What kind of food are you serving. Okay about the photographer I have already started researching- I know what you mean about the ones who cant catch us- lol its so true I dont want my photos to look vile. Anyway I think you SHOULD dress shop in New York after all having lived there everything is actually the same price almost dollar to pound but with the dollar being so weak you are almost getting half price on everything if that makes sense. I would also go to Kleinfeld in New York and get the VIP treatment- wow you are going to have a ball. At least you will have gone through all your options, although I do like your choice so far.
BTW I was talking to my mom who lives in Ireland last night and she was like yeah I think you should have your wedding in London- all the important people can come to you!! I guess I will consider that lol- truth is you cant keep everyone happy!!
Wow, is all I can say to both of my English sisters. You can't make everyone happy. This is your day, so your priority is about conforming the details so you could be happy. I love your reception venue. It reminds me of a very familiar English country estate that we've visited. Wow, but it's beautiful and your choice in dresses, absolutely magnificent. I agree with you though, your wedding dress will cost you a whole lot less if you purchase it here in the States and have it shipped to you or you can take it along and find a seamstress to do the alterations once you return home to England. Wow, magnificent!!!