In the process of a meltdown

Ivy take a deep breath and count to 10. You have accomplished sooooo much already that you are way ahead of the game without even knowing it. Think about it, you have your dress(S), you have your bridal party attire, you already did your invites, you have most addresses, you have your locations, you hired a coordinator to help make sure you don't miss anything. Girl you are going to be alright. Delegate some "to do's" and take about two weeks off from planning or talking about the wedding. You just need time to re-energize yourself.

[quote="IvyPrincess"]How many 08 brides are going through meltdown like I am.

I am 7 months and 5 days away and I feel beyond behind schedule. I got some things accomplished over the break but I am still missing some addresses for the guest list and other major things. No one seems to realize how close the day is but me. Its about to drive me nuts.
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don't get discouraged Ivy..I went thru this also...to OTHERS it seems 7 months is a long time...believe it or not 2 months away is when my "participants" are getting their butts in gear! I guess talking to them in Sept about March 2008 was too far away for them to visualize!!
I agree with Pam-you are waaaayyy ahead of the game and doing very well!! Keep your head up! :)

I thought I was the only one going through a meltdown and getting real stressed out. My future husband is calling me a bridezilla already. I don,t think I am I just want some help. I have a wedding coordinator, but I am a control freak.

Hello Ivy,

The one thing that I had learned from my friend's wedding is that nobody else is going to know about what went wrong at your wedding but you. About 15 more people were at the wedding than what she had told the caterer, a groomsman was late and didn't have his pants, and she was running around like a chicken with her head cut off all the way to when we helped her into her dress. The wedding was a huge success even with her problems.

Hey Ivy you have done so much. Hopefully the address and other missing things will begin to fall into place. Take a deep breath and trust the Master, all will work out fine!

Poor Ivy- this is what you wanted!!! Just kidding- I am a 2009 bride and I get nervous just thinking about all the things I need to do in the next year. I am sure you are doing really well and are probably more organised than other brides I have encountered (pre-Vibride)- relax and remember most of the fun is in the excitement of planning. You know I was watching on the news once about women who get post-wedding depression from not having anything to do after the wedding day, when all the planning has gone!! Yeah so relax and enjoy the ride

ps. Rhony please post 6 more posts until you change to 6670 lol your number is creepy

Okay i feel silly I am quitting smoking and i am all jittery

[quote="dreamgurl"]ps. Rhony please post 6 more posts until you change to 6670 lol your number is creepy

Okay i feel silly I am quitting smoking and i am all jittery
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Dreamgurl, I hear the corner calling you! LOL!! I've been around a long time, remember I've been married for a little over a year and I joined when I was in the planning stages. I've seen the "population" change quite a few times. That number is just proof of how much I love this site!!!! LOL!!!

Good luck with quitting to smoke.

Wonderful news Ivy!!

yes Ivy that is truly a BLESSING!!!!!!!

[quote="IvyPrincess"]How many 08 brides are going through meltdown like I am.

I am 7 months and 5 days away and I feel beyond behind schedule. I got some things accomplished over the break but I am still missing some addresses for the guest list and other major things. No one seems to realize how close the day is but me. Its about to drive me nuts.
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Ivy you are not alone because I too am having a melt down...a sister has so much going on right about now. Im moving in two days from New York to Georgia and im driving. So with the move and planning a wedding thats being held in New York because here is where all my family and FH family is located my stress level is at about 100,000,000,000. OK, OK well at least thats the way I feel. Relax, Relate, Release, ok I think its working a little bit.

Ivy I am glad to see things are looking up for you...I envy most of you ladies and where yall are in your planning..But I know I will be there soon...Happy planning..

Sensation what part of Ga are you moving to?

[quote="soon2bmsj"]How many 08 brides are going through meltdown like I am.

I am 7 months and 5 days away and I feel beyond behind schedule. I got some things accomplished over the break but I am still missing some addresses for the guest list and other major things. No one seems to realize how close the day is but me. Its about to drive me nuts.

don't get discouraged Ivy..I went thru this also...to OTHERS it seems 7 months is a long time...believe it or not 2 months away is when my "participants" are getting their butts in gear! I guess talking to them in Sept about March 2008 was too far away for them to visualize!!
I agree with Pam-you are waaaayyy ahead of the game and doing very well!! Keep your head up! :)
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Stressing about something changes NOTHING.

DOING something about it can relieve the stress....Can you trust in God enough to relax enough so he can handle it? Its hard but if you can, thats faith....Challenge yourselves and lay it at his feet. I was only engaged for 9 months and didn't ourchase the dress until I was 6 months out. I beg you ladies, don't become a Bridezilla...Shock your guests and friends with calm....They expect you to be a (female puppy) about your wedding, so do the opposite...Real control starts with controlling your emotions....It can be frustrating-I know...I wish I could dig up my old posts here to show you....but I know better now and I was fortunate enough to handle it sooner than later!

You all are doing great with handling your tasks! Like the ladies said-keep up the good work, but trust that in the end it will be fine...I heard a great leader say that everyone who is for you will fall in line, but those who are not (even when they seem to be on board) will fall off the train! Wait it out and see, watch and listen...THEN react....not the other way around.

Augusta asiass, FH is stationed there.

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Stressing about something changes NOTHING.

DOING something about it can relieve the stress....Can you trust in God enough to relax enough so he can handle it? Its hard but if you can, thats faith....Challenge yourselves and lay it at his feet. I was only engaged for 9 months and didn't ourchase the dress until I was 6 months out. I beg you ladies, don't become a Bridezilla...Shock your guests and friends with calm....They expect you to be a (female puppy) about your wedding, so do the opposite...Real control starts with controlling your emotions....It can be frustrating-I know...I wish I could dig up my old posts here to show you....but I know better now and I was fortunate enough to handle it sooner than later!

You all are doing great with handling your tasks! Like the ladies said-keep up the good work, but trust that in the end it will be fine...I heard a great leader say that everyone who is for you will fall in line, but those who are not (even when they seem to be on board) will fall off the train! Wait it out and see, watch and listen...THEN react....not the other way around.
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Great advice Bumble!!!!!!I especially love this part: I heard a great leader say that everyone who is for you will fall in line, but those who are not (even when they seem to be on board) will fall off the train!

I too got "extremely" frustrated last night. In planning my rehearsal dinner I am really trying to accomodate everyone, so instead of going to a restaurant where everyone can be satisfied my caterer suggested just having the dinner in the fellowship hall with reg. spaghetti/chicken spaghetti, salad, bread and drinks. Well I told my MOH about this last night and her reply was "yuk-why can't we have fish and shrimp?? and then she said oh, I forgot FH don't like seafood" I was speechless for a moment but then I regained my composure and said yep and he is not spending his money somewhere he can not eat, but I was just amazed that she would even say that! :(

[quote="soon2bmsj"]I too got "extremely" frustrated last night. In planning my rehearsal dinner I am really trying to accomodate everyone, so instead of going to a restaurant where everyone can be satisfied my caterer suggested just having the dinner in the fellowship hall with reg. spaghetti/chicken spaghetti, salad, bread and drinks. Well I told my MOH about this last night and her reply was "yuk-why can't we have fish and shrimp?? and then she said oh, I forgot FH don't like seafood" I was speechless for a moment but then I regained my composure and said yep and he is not spending his money somewhere he can not eat, but I was just amazed that she would even say that! :(
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Oh yeah, it looks like you are experiencing where people helping you with YOUR wedding think its THEIR Wedding....but at least she got it together quick! I remember that things got a lot better when I TOLD people what I was going to do....I even stopped asking their opinion cause in the end, yours is what matters....

Exactly Bumble-but "accomodation" is my middle name-I tend to try to keep everyone happy but it is causing me MAJOR stress...they are about to get some cookies and juice and let that be a wrap!!!!!!

Soon2bmsj you are sooooo funny!