Escort dilemma

Hello MrsReed2be:

How about have them both of them escort you? I think that would actually look very nice and I am almost certain that they both will extremely happy.

Just a thought:)

I am quite new but wanted to just add my two cents..I say walk down alone....Good luck..

I saw a wedding on tv or something where the bride had her 2 brothers walk her down the aisle, and it was really beautiful. I say have both of them walk you down the aisle.

I believe a wedding is NOT the time to settle. If having your dad walk you will be uncomfortable for YOU, then have your uncles walk you. Who cares what others say! You have to live with the pics and memories and any regrets. My cousin had her stepfather walk her 1/2 way and her father met them in the middle and walked her the rest of the way. It was really nice.

I agree with majority! don't want to sound like sour grapes but just keeping it real: Dad DOES NOT deserve that honor! Bestow it on your uncles! and whoever has something to say about it-let that be THEIR issue not yours...your day, your way sweetie... :)

I am with the ladies on this one MrsReed2be- I remember someone saying your day your way. If you think your dad would be jealous and that would ruin that aspect of your day- how about your Mom walk you down the aisle- there is no rule that it has to be your father etc- But I would do whatever feels right in your heart- and if it means going with your uncles- I would let my father know before hand so there would be no unexpected suprises on the day- it could be awkward

me chanting...Uncles, Uncles, Uncles! LOL

LOL Loud and clear- so much for a dilema we fixed it in less than 24 hours!!

I had my dad walk me down the aisle because it was just something I wanted to do....however, my dad had only been in my life for 4 years while my stepdad had been in my like since 1996...Initially, I was going to let them both do it, but my dress was so huge I decided not to....However, I let my stepdad escort my mom down the aisle, and light the unity candle together before the wedding started. (While DH's parents lit the other one) Fortunately for me, I DO have a great relationshp with my dad....my mom-who pretty much has been bitter about my dad leaving us high and dry never dissed him in all those years, and even found love for herself by someone who appreciates her.....but anyhoo....I think you should do what YOU want, and because it is your dad, give him an important part in the wedding, like maybe escorting your mom or HIS female relative down the aisle to light that candle....they can't be two places at once (walking you down the aisle and lighting the candle-unless he will double duty and run back down the aisle) and each role is significant.....

Don't focus on the fact that dad's not walking you down the aisle....I told everyone what their role was and no once questioned me....maybe I am blessed with a tolerant family...and if someone had a problem, they didn't tell me which is admirable because its still them being tolerant and being there for me....but remember:
If they see YOU have a problem with it, or YOU are confused or concerned about it, then they will see you sweat and can pick up on it, and use it to sway you into their favor, but if they don't have the slightest idea as to what you're struggling with, then they should just fall in line with whatever you decide...and once you decide, it should be FINAL.....anyone with a problem should be referred to YOU for discussion:)

[quote="MrsReed2be"]I am with the ladies on this one MrsReed2be- I remember someone saying your day your way. If you think your dad would be jealous and that would ruin that aspect of your day- how about your Mom walk you down the aisle- there is no rule that it has to be your father etc- But I would do whatever feels right in your heart- and if it means going with your uncles- I would let my father know before hand so there would be no unexpected suprises on the day- it could be awkward

I love my mom and all... But our relation aint quite been roses. My mom is loud and still has alot of hood in her... I want to sit her down and keep her as quiet as possible... I was raised by my now deceased grandmother while my mother ran the street. I moved with my mom when i was 16 but I was already working and taking care of myself by then...
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Okay then, that being said, let the crazy parents definitely escort each other down the aisle...that will keep them busy and show their prominence in the family...they did concieve you BTW.....they don't have to hold hands down the aisle---they just have to walk, and maybe light a candle, then have a seat, it really takes about 1 to 2 minutes to get them in and sitting...

It would be nice to have both of your uncles walk you down the aisle. They would be so happy.

[quote="scat6696"]It would be nice to have both of your uncles walk you down the aisle. They would be so happy.
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I agree with Scat! They would both be honored and you will definitely be the queen of the day!

My oldest brother walked me down the aisle because my father was not in my life. I made that decision and I'm glad I stuck with it. My dad didn't deserve the honor of walking me down the aisle.

If I were you, I would definitely ask both of my uncles to walk me down the aisle. You said that they've always been there for you. Now is the time for you to honor them. Give them their dues. Ask them to escort you down the aisle.