Venting alittle

Hello ladies,

I just needed to vent. I am new here, and I guess I have a few frustrations with FH. He is planning a second wedding in Chicago a week after the offical wedding in NC. The 2nd wedding is for his family who cant make it to NC. I think its alot of stress on me because I am really the one doing all of the planning.

I even made a suggestion that we chartered a bus for the people who couldnt drive here on their own and they started to make excuses. Good grief people, they gonna mess around and get served potted meat and crackers if they keep being ungreatful.

Its not FH's fault, we are both just in bad position when it comes to family. My family would be willing to travel but its the friends that i worry about.... About 20 of his family members are willing to travel... Being from 2 different states is so hard.... it totally sucks

[quote="IvyPrincess"]Like I said in the previous post I am in that situation.

Why don't you compromise and just have a reception back in Chicago rather than an entire other ceremony. Either have a slideshow from the wedding play or the video at the reception and do hors d'ouvres instead of a full dinner.
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Hey Ivy,

I have made the suggestion that we play the dvd at the reception in Chicago, but he wants another ceremony and he is not backing down :(. He is really stuck on it.

[quote="TiffyB"]Sorry to hear about your frustrating situation MrsReed2be. I agree with both ladies here, that this is your FH's wedding also, so he should also have some say, and in saying that, a reception for his family members in another state sounds fair enough. Another ceremony does seem a bit excessive. Now you said he is not trying to hear of this, but the responsibility of planning an additional ceremony is falling in your lap. Maybe you and your FH should just sit down, and just let him know that if a second ceremony is really what he wants, then he must take control of the planning process (unless you are not comfortable with this!). Other than that, I would just let him know that planning two ceremonies is really hard on you, being that you are doing the majority of the work, and there needs to be some type of compromise, either you will have two ceremonies and he will take a large role in the planning of the second ceremony, or the second ceremony will become a reception with hors d'ouvres. There will have to be some type of compromise either way. Are you okay with having a second ceremony if you don't have to do all of the planning, or would you rather do with out this?
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I agree, I never said that he couldnt have anything. My thing is that a 2nd wedding is too much... I said lets have a reception and have a buffet and play the wedding dvd and even get a dj... He doesnt want that... He wants a 2nd wedding so, I am with you. THis one is his responsibility.

We have too much on our plate. We are moving right after the wedding as well and thats extra $$$$$$. Dont get me wrong, FH is so sweet and has even gotten a second job to give me the wedding that I want... But a whole 2nd wedding is going to have to be his responsibility.

[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]Welcome to the boards MrsReed2be! Sorry to hear of your situation, however you are about to experiance one of the best parts of this sisterhood! You ready? I am in Chicago and am willing to help you with the planning here if you want. What side of the city is his family from? What type of wedding is he trying to have here? Does he have a church already selected? Are you looking for a reception place that will do everything or a hall that will let you bring in your own food? Wedding planning doesn't HAVE to be stressful, it usually just ends up that way! LOL! I'm here for you sis, we all are!
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Awhh this is so sweet for you to offer help. I appreciate it. But I will have to take the other ladies advice and let FH have it...

Well so far,

We have:

Colors are wine and champagne

Found my dress (Champagne color)

Bridesmaids dresses are Wine

Set the date

Booked the church

Booked the reception venue

Started the wedding party selection process

Ive found reception decorations on ebay

We've decided on a cd of songs for wedding favors and a candy station

We have chosen a buffet for the reception

Still looking for center piece ideas

We have also started chooses the wedding songs

thats about it for now..

Hey gals,

UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!! FH has compromised with me and has decided to have a Vow renewal on our 1 year Anniversary.... WHEWWWWWW WHOOOOOO

Gosh I love that man