I dont' know what's wrong with some men. Some don't realize the blessing that stands right in front of them. Thanks Dee and congratulations on the little blessing you're expecting.
Pam where have you been!! Dee has been showing off her baby bump all week!
On a sad note! Ladies I have thrown in the towel, I cant do this. As I speak I have packed enough things to carry me through for the rest of the week and until next week. Desperate measures?? Not so desperate, I noticed that he has changed his mobile phone bill to online billing. Only I went in and noticed he sent his girl 2 text messages since the 18th of November. So whose a fool now?? I showed this to him when he got home, and he said it was a mistake. I am tired, just too tired to try and believe him. I am physically ill now, and I cant concenrate on my school work- Its just taking its toll and especially when I am supposd to believe something as ludicrous as his phone company mistaking two text messages to HER number of all the numbers he has called.
[quote="dreamgurl"]Pam where have you been!! Dee has been showing off her baby bump all week!
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Oh okay, I was away from boards for about a week so I'm good. Had me wondering what else I missed.
On your other note, I am so sorry for what you are going through, the toll it has taken on your physical and your mental well being. As I said before, take time out for you. Time so you can regroup and rediscover. Make yourself your priority and treat yourself every day just to remind yourself you deserve the best. I don't care if it's something as simple as changing your nail polish every day, or taking a bubble bath with new scents, treat yourself. You need that more now than ever.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Dreamgurl I am saddened that you have to experience this pain. On the other hand I salute you for having the courage to honor yourself and your feelings. May God heal your heart, be encouraged my sister. XXXXXX (Sending you a great big hug!)
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Dreamgurl--sorry to hear of the pain that you are going thru; I agree with the other women, it is ALL ABOUT YOU NOW...you tried so there is nothing more that you can do. If he wanted to salvage the relationship or gain back your trust, he should have made an bigger effort (besides chaning his mobile phone to on-line billing) but hey, never underestimate a woman... :) (just trying to bring a smile to your face) but on a serious note, thank God for revelation...you deserve the love you desire and from past experience when you start getting physically ill from a relationship it is definetly toxic...stay strong and make YOU your priority right now. If this relationship is to be or your marriage is God's will, it will happen....xxxxx (sending you another big hug like Rhony!)
Welcome to the site, NeeCee. I'm praying that your situation will improve. The Ladies have given great advice. Dreamgurl, I'm sorry to hear how your situation is. Stay strong my sister, and PLEASE, stay with the sisterhood. I'm keeping you in my prayers.
Thanks platinum. Dreamgurl, I am so sorry to hear that but I know that God will bring you through. You are such a strong woman to realize enough is enough. I'll be praying for you.
Dreamgurl - I'm so sorry to hear about what happened. You'll find the strength to get through this and u'll be a better person for it. Better this happens now than 10 years into a marriage. You are so brave and strong for taking the step that you have - it's all about finding yourself again and finally being able to breathe and having a huge weight lifted from your shoulders.
He was stupid to jeopardise all that he had with you...and for what??!! He'll be the one to lose out in the end. I hope that you will stay with the ViBride girls - if anything, we can cheer you up!! Stay strong honey and I'm praying for you x
My FH hasn't cheated, but I posted a message a few weeks back about how him and his baby mama are bossom buddies to the point where I had to call the engagement off. My FH and I talked this out for hooours and agreed that baby mama doesn't need to call his cell about their 14 year old (who by the way is not handicapped and has her own cellphone) every other day. So the engagement was back on and he agreed to talk with baby mama to discuss the fact that he can no longer jump through her last minute hoops now that we live together on the other side of town, and a host of other issues I have with her. To make a long story short...he went and said, "Robin said....." and shifted the blame on me instead of manning up and presenting the issues from a "united" standpoint. I can barely look him in the face yall. I love him, but baby mama needs to fall back! Not because I'm jealous, but because I don't want to share my husband with this woman that calls his job so much, people think she's his fiance -- it's just not normal and because he knows it's innocent, he doesn't understand my concerns and worst -- doesn't seem to care.
rwinkfield-FH was WAY out of order by presenting it to Baby's mama that way! It should have been him telling her without even mentioning you because he just added more fuel to her fire! :(
I hadnt previously posted as with all the good advice from the other sisters and all the prayers going out I thought things would just get better.
It broke my heart to read your most latest post about having to move out,
Please be as strong as you can. Dont sit alone without talking to "someone" even if its a family member, best friend or whatever. You definitely wont go through it alone here with us but in your own personal world this is the time you need as many shoulders to lean on as possible.
I as well as all the other sisters here will keep you in our prayers.
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I pray for this romance that was once full of color like a brand new flower, but then it wither and faded because of the choices that were made, and the flower died. Lord I pray for him, you know him by name, you hold him dear to your heart. Father, you be the root of this last chance.
God I praise you for his heart, guard it father. Let him know he's loved and my intentions are pure. Father help him to uphold his end of his promises and make him a changed man. Please place this heartache in our past and you are in the present and future. Father raise us as your children. Help me to love me the way that you love him.
AMEN
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[quote="2bmrspotts"]Heres a prayer for you to use:
Father,
I pray for this romance that was once full of color like a brand new flower, but then it wither and faded because of the choices that were made, and the flower died. Lord I pray for him, you know him by name, you hold him dear to your heart. Father, you be the root of this last chance.
God I praise you for his heart, guard it father. Let him know he's loved and my intentions are pure. Father help him to uphold his end of his promises and make him a changed man. Please place this heartache in our past and you are in the present and future. Father raise us as your children. Help me to love me the way that you love him.
[quote="2bmrspotts"]Heres a prayer for you to use:
Father,
I pray for this romance that was once full of color like a brand new flower, but then it wither and faded because of the choices that were made, and the flower died. Lord I pray for him, you know him by name, you hold him dear to your heart. Father, you be the root of this last chance.
God I praise you for his heart, guard it father. Let him know he's loved and my intentions are pure. Father help him to uphold his end of his promises and make him a changed man. Please place this heartache in our past and you are in the present and future. Father raise us as your children. Help me to love me the way that you love him.
AMEN
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Thank you for posting this prayer, Mrs Potts! I feel that once a couple becomes husband and wife, our prayers do not stop. We have to pray even harder. The enemy is busier because God has blessed a union.
Hi Ladies- I feel refreshed, and yeah I came back home yesterday. Mrs Potts that is a beautiful prayer, thank you so much. Okay so yeah I figure, I am just really feeling tired in general. I have so much school work to catch up on, spent a few days killing bottles of wine with my sister and going to a baby shower which was fantastic. He is still the same, and I am not feeling the same about it somehow. I dont know whether its how things go. I love him, I really do, but I get exhausted even thinking about him or us. Is that wrong. I honestly dont think that marriage should be on the books for me right now, until I know whats really bothering me, and us. No matter what anyone says, this hurts a way lot more than I bargained for, or he bargained for (thats for sure). I am really just going to concentrate on my career and my health (quit smoking) and just get on with the business of living. Noone is worth this much thought... especially when I still feel like sometimes I am apologising for being hurt. Only a man would make you feel guilty for mourning for a heart that he broke. I swear, if it wasnt from talking to you ladies on the regular I would have lost all faith in humankind.
Kisses and hugs all around (and an extra one for Bumble ;))
By the way this empty feeling I have can be attributed to the fact that as of today- its that time of the month, I have THREE pimples on my face (i never have pimples) and its only 4pm here in London and its dark, cold and wet outside :)Wish I could go on honeymoon with Turiya (just kidding)
Here is a big ol' hug back at you.....I just got over "my time" too and I had a couple of "big ones" too...Thank God they are going away...I sure hope you feel better may dear...it sounds like you have made some sure-fire plans to move on...Its takes strength and courage to move on they way you are doing, and I applaud you...its a lot easier to stay in something or a "seemingly comfortable" but painful situation and just take the punches, and its another thing to drum up the courage to do something different, like leave love behind....But best beleive there is a love out there for you that is real, and won't make you feel so sad....that first one is God....the other one is not the man who is hurting you like so....If its meant to be, he will be a better man...but he had better hope that when that time comes, you have not been swept off your feet by someone who has got it together....while this one is TRYING to get it together....for many men from my past (guys I "loved and cared for"), they have dropped in my life only to learn that its too little too late.....
Dreamgurl I am very proud of you. I pray that God will take your pain away -- you deserve to feel happiness and peace at this time in your life. God bless!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Dreamgurl....Im glad you putting yourself back on track. Moving forward can be so hard. At least you understand that you need to look into things, wait on God and see what the relationship has in store for you.
I think with all the prayers of your sisters here...you will be just fine.
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Dreamgurl, I am sorry to hear of the pain you are enduring (physically, mentally and emotionally)as long as you are comfortable with your decision that is all that matters. It is all about YOU now...bouncing back may be hard, but later you will look back on this time and thank God that he gave you the wisdom, courange and strength to walk away...
I second Bumble's sentiments...I look by on all of the "worthless" men I wasted my time with and I can only praise God for revelation. giving you big hugs right now :)
Good for you dreamgurl. moving on is the best thing you could of done. Time heals all wounds. And with the lords kiss you will be better in no time. Good luck sis.
[quote="sensationablyhappy"]Good for you dreamgurl. moving on is the best thing you could of done. Time heals all wounds. And with the lords kiss you will be better in no time. Good luck sis.
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Okay ladies- I wanted to give y'all an update about my 'situation' Since I came back home, things are getting back to normal- if not a little better- I feel that because we have gone through this it has made us stronger. At least I can say that it has made us stronger as a couple, and me stronger as an individual. I have learnt so much about myself, and perhaps just how much I love him. I just hope it all works out now- So yeah the wedding will take place as planned- or as dreamt at the beginning of 2009- or Summer 2009- because we need to save up for it-
Thanks Rhony- I know its hard for some people to understand, including myself- but yeah - the sweetest thing on Christmas day when we were getting into bed- he says 'baby can we just pray together' Oh my goodness I just fell for him all over again- I guess we are just growing up together- we have known each other since we were 16/17!! We still learn new things about each other every day almost 10 years on!!
Well good for the two of you. I hope you all continue to pray with each other and understand one another.
We will still continue to keep the two of you in our prayers!
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[quote="dreamgurl"]Thanks Rhony- I know its hard for some people to understand, including myself- but yeah - the sweetest thing on Christmas day when we were getting into bed- he says 'baby can we just pray together' Oh my goodness I just fell for him all over again- I guess we are just growing up together- we have known each other since we were 16/17!! We still learn new things about each other every day almost 10 years on!!
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Now that's what I am talking about! that is soooooo sweet. You guys will be alright. The family that prays together stays together.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
JSGirl, my heart goes out to you. Being or feeling that you've been betrayed is never easy. The only advice I would give you is to pray and search your heart. God will never lead you estray. Be encouraged and know that you are not alone.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
JSGirl I am so so sorry to hear what you are going through. Your story is troubling on so many levels. Most disturbing of all is you didn't know he was previously married and had a 17 year old child. How does someone just omit that type information about themselves? Especially from someone you are vowing to spend the rest of your life with. That's not something you just "get over".
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
I personally feel that this guy is full of secrets. Toooo many skelton's in his closet. Instead of being honest with you about the whole situation he lied to you. I have a real problem with him never wanting to bring you too his hometown. And most of all who hides the fact that they have been married before and has a child. If he is hidding that what else is he hiding. Trust me a man will tell you whatever they feel you want to hear so they can have there cake and eat it too. They will say whatever it takes to keep you around. I will pray that things will work out for the best for you. I hope that all the men in your lives ladies are telling the truth and are truely committed to you and not just stringing you along. I was in a relationship that had all of the red flags, and I kept listening to my man, not because I believed him, but because I wanted to believe him. I had to come to the realization that I deserved a man who was going to value me and our relationship. I had to get tired.
[quote="DaughterRhonda"]Thanks Rhony- I know its hard for some people to understand, including myself- but yeah - the sweetest thing on Christmas day when we were getting into bed- he says 'baby can we just pray together' Oh my goodness I just fell for him all over again- I guess we are just growing up together- we have known each other since we were 16/17!! We still learn new things about each other every day almost 10 years on!!
Now that's what I am talking about! that is soooooo sweet. You guys will be alright. The family that prays together stays together.
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Thanks Rhony- it means a lot coming from my sisters!!
[quote="pamcrow"]JSGirl I am so so sorry to hear what you are going through. Your story is troubling on so many levels. Most disturbing of all is you didn't know he was previously married and had a 17 year old child. How does someone just omit that type information about themselves? Especially from someone you are vowing to spend the rest of your life with. That's not something you just "get over".
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Honey JSGirl- I read this last night- but it hurt so much on your behalf I could not say a thing- I was speechless. And oh boy- it is such a hard hard situation you are in. I don't know it just feels intuitevely wrong on so many levels. Wow- I understand how lost you must be feeling and betrayed. I am with the girls on this- you really need to think about what happened and what it means- It just seems like there is a lot for you to take in, all at the same time. It also seems like there is a lot you do not know about him, that even the 'other woman' knew. Baby you need to get to know him again it seems, and see if he is the man you thought he was, and the man that you loved. Its so so hard, no matter what the lie is- I know it is still betrayal...
I agree with the other ladies, something is NOT QUITE RIGHT with this situation...why all of a sudden did he decide to become Usher ("these are my confessions")about his past (ex-wife & child) when this is something you should have known from JUMP (well atlease when you guys decided to get serious)
Pray on this situation and just know that NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!! please don't blame yourself--we as women start questioning/blaming ourselves for the mistakes of others.
Thank you so much ladies while I'm praying for me please pray for me as well you guys just dont no how good it feels to get of of that off my chest that helped a lot.
I dont' know what's wrong with some men. Some don't realize the blessing that stands right in front of them. Thanks Dee and congratulations on the little blessing you're expecting.
Thanx NeeCee, by the way I forgot to welcome you to the family... you're at the right place here... Keep strong my sister, all will be well.
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[quote="NeeCee84"] Thanks Dee and congratulations on the little blessing you're expecting.
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Dee How in the world did I miss this! You recently added the flashing teddy bear right???? Congratulations!!!
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Pam where have you been!! Dee has been showing off her baby bump all week!
On a sad note! Ladies I have thrown in the towel, I cant do this. As I speak I have packed enough things to carry me through for the rest of the week and until next week. Desperate measures?? Not so desperate, I noticed that he has changed his mobile phone bill to online billing. Only I went in and noticed he sent his girl 2 text messages since the 18th of November. So whose a fool now?? I showed this to him when he got home, and he said it was a mistake. I am tired, just too tired to try and believe him. I am physically ill now, and I cant concenrate on my school work- Its just taking its toll and especially when I am supposd to believe something as ludicrous as his phone company mistaking two text messages to HER number of all the numbers he has called.
I am no longer a fool
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[quote="dreamgurl"]Pam where have you been!! Dee has been showing off her baby bump all week!
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Oh okay, I was away from boards for about a week so I'm good. Had me wondering what else I missed.
On your other note, I am so sorry for what you are going through, the toll it has taken on your physical and your mental well being. As I said before, take time out for you. Time so you can regroup and rediscover. Make yourself your priority and treat yourself every day just to remind yourself you deserve the best. I don't care if it's something as simple as changing your nail polish every day, or taking a bubble bath with new scents, treat yourself. You need that more now than ever.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Dreamgurl I am saddened that you have to experience this pain. On the other hand I salute you for having the courage to honor yourself and your feelings. May God heal your heart, be encouraged my sister. XXXXXX (Sending you a great big hug!)
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Dreamgurl--sorry to hear of the pain that you are going thru; I agree with the other women, it is ALL ABOUT YOU NOW...you tried so there is nothing more that you can do. If he wanted to salvage the relationship or gain back your trust, he should have made an bigger effort (besides chaning his mobile phone to on-line billing) but hey, never underestimate a woman... :) (just trying to bring a smile to your face) but on a serious note, thank God for revelation...you deserve the love you desire and from past experience when you start getting physically ill from a relationship it is definetly toxic...stay strong and make YOU your priority right now. If this relationship is to be or your marriage is God's will, it will happen....xxxxx (sending you another big hug like Rhony!)
Welcome to the site, NeeCee. I'm praying that your situation will improve. The Ladies have given great advice. Dreamgurl, I'm sorry to hear how your situation is. Stay strong my sister, and PLEASE, stay with the sisterhood. I'm keeping you in my prayers.
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Thanks platinum. Dreamgurl, I am so sorry to hear that but I know that God will bring you through. You are such a strong woman to realize enough is enough. I'll be praying for you.
Dreamgurl - I'm so sorry to hear about what happened. You'll find the strength to get through this and u'll be a better person for it. Better this happens now than 10 years into a marriage. You are so brave and strong for taking the step that you have - it's all about finding yourself again and finally being able to breathe and having a huge weight lifted from your shoulders.
He was stupid to jeopardise all that he had with you...and for what??!! He'll be the one to lose out in the end. I hope that you will stay with the ViBride girls - if anything, we can cheer you up!! Stay strong honey and I'm praying for you x
Hello Ladies,
My FH hasn't cheated, but I posted a message a few weeks back about how him and his baby mama are bossom buddies to the point where I had to call the engagement off. My FH and I talked this out for hooours and agreed that baby mama doesn't need to call his cell about their 14 year old (who by the way is not handicapped and has her own cellphone) every other day. So the engagement was back on and he agreed to talk with baby mama to discuss the fact that he can no longer jump through her last minute hoops now that we live together on the other side of town, and a host of other issues I have with her. To make a long story short...he went and said, "Robin said....." and shifted the blame on me instead of manning up and presenting the issues from a "united" standpoint. I can barely look him in the face yall. I love him, but baby mama needs to fall back! Not because I'm jealous, but because I don't want to share my husband with this woman that calls his job so much, people think she's his fiance -- it's just not normal and because he knows it's innocent, he doesn't understand my concerns and worst -- doesn't seem to care.
rwinkfield-FH was WAY out of order by presenting it to Baby's mama that way! It should have been him telling her without even mentioning you because he just added more fuel to her fire! :(
Dreamgurl....
I hadnt previously posted as with all the good advice from the other sisters and all the prayers going out I thought things would just get better.
It broke my heart to read your most latest post about having to move out,
Please be as strong as you can. Dont sit alone without talking to "someone" even if its a family member, best friend or whatever. You definitely wont go through it alone here with us but in your own personal world this is the time you need as many shoulders to lean on as possible.
I as well as all the other sisters here will keep you in our prayers.
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Heres a prayer for you to use:
Father,
I pray for this romance that was once full of color like a brand new flower, but then it wither and faded because of the choices that were made, and the flower died. Lord I pray for him, you know him by name, you hold him dear to your heart. Father, you be the root of this last chance.
God I praise you for his heart, guard it father. Let him know he's loved and my intentions are pure. Father help him to uphold his end of his promises and make him a changed man. Please place this heartache in our past and you are in the present and future. Father raise us as your children. Help me to love me the way that you love him.
AMEN
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dreamgurl, NeeCee, and rwinkfield.....(Sending you a BIG HUG)
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[quote="2bmrspotts"]Heres a prayer for you to use:
Father,
I pray for this romance that was once full of color like a brand new flower, but then it wither and faded because of the choices that were made, and the flower died. Lord I pray for him, you know him by name, you hold him dear to your heart. Father, you be the root of this last chance.
God I praise you for his heart, guard it father. Let him know he's loved and my intentions are pure. Father help him to uphold his end of his promises and make him a changed man. Please place this heartache in our past and you are in the present and future. Father raise us as your children. Help me to love me the way that you love him.
AMEN
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AMEN!
[quote="2bmrspotts"]Heres a prayer for you to use:
Father,
I pray for this romance that was once full of color like a brand new flower, but then it wither and faded because of the choices that were made, and the flower died. Lord I pray for him, you know him by name, you hold him dear to your heart. Father, you be the root of this last chance.
God I praise you for his heart, guard it father. Let him know he's loved and my intentions are pure. Father help him to uphold his end of his promises and make him a changed man. Please place this heartache in our past and you are in the present and future. Father raise us as your children. Help me to love me the way that you love him.
AMEN
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Thank you for posting this prayer, Mrs Potts! I feel that once a couple becomes husband and wife, our prayers do not stop. We have to pray even harder. The enemy is busier because God has blessed a union.
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You ladies are awesome, prayer definitely changes things!!!! Thanks for sharing.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Hi Ladies- I feel refreshed, and yeah I came back home yesterday. Mrs Potts that is a beautiful prayer, thank you so much. Okay so yeah I figure, I am just really feeling tired in general. I have so much school work to catch up on, spent a few days killing bottles of wine with my sister and going to a baby shower which was fantastic. He is still the same, and I am not feeling the same about it somehow. I dont know whether its how things go. I love him, I really do, but I get exhausted even thinking about him or us. Is that wrong. I honestly dont think that marriage should be on the books for me right now, until I know whats really bothering me, and us. No matter what anyone says, this hurts a way lot more than I bargained for, or he bargained for (thats for sure). I am really just going to concentrate on my career and my health (quit smoking) and just get on with the business of living. Noone is worth this much thought... especially when I still feel like sometimes I am apologising for being hurt. Only a man would make you feel guilty for mourning for a heart that he broke. I swear, if it wasnt from talking to you ladies on the regular I would have lost all faith in humankind.
Kisses and hugs all around (and an extra one for Bumble ;))
By the way this empty feeling I have can be attributed to the fact that as of today- its that time of the month, I have THREE pimples on my face (i never have pimples) and its only 4pm here in London and its dark, cold and wet outside :)Wish I could go on honeymoon with Turiya (just kidding)
Here is a big ol' hug back at you.....I just got over "my time" too and I had a couple of "big ones" too...Thank God they are going away...I sure hope you feel better may dear...it sounds like you have made some sure-fire plans to move on...Its takes strength and courage to move on they way you are doing, and I applaud you...its a lot easier to stay in something or a "seemingly comfortable" but painful situation and just take the punches, and its another thing to drum up the courage to do something different, like leave love behind....But best beleive there is a love out there for you that is real, and won't make you feel so sad....that first one is God....the other one is not the man who is hurting you like so....If its meant to be, he will be a better man...but he had better hope that when that time comes, you have not been swept off your feet by someone who has got it together....while this one is TRYING to get it together....for many men from my past (guys I "loved and cared for"), they have dropped in my life only to learn that its too little too late.....
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Well said Bumble!
Dreamgurl I am very proud of you. I pray that God will take your pain away -- you deserve to feel happiness and peace at this time in your life. God bless!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Dreamgurl....Im glad you putting yourself back on track. Moving forward can be so hard. At least you understand that you need to look into things, wait on God and see what the relationship has in store for you.
I think with all the prayers of your sisters here...you will be just fine.
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Dreamgurl, I am sorry to hear of the pain you are enduring (physically, mentally and emotionally)as long as you are comfortable with your decision that is all that matters. It is all about YOU now...bouncing back may be hard, but later you will look back on this time and thank God that he gave you the wisdom, courange and strength to walk away...
I second Bumble's sentiments...I look by on all of the "worthless" men I wasted my time with and I can only praise God for revelation. giving you big hugs right now :)
Good for you dreamgurl. moving on is the best thing you could of done. Time heals all wounds. And with the lords kiss you will be better in no time. Good luck sis.
Welcome to the sisterhood NeeCee
[quote="sensationablyhappy"]Good for you dreamgurl. moving on is the best thing you could of done. Time heals all wounds. And with the lords kiss you will be better in no time. Good luck sis.
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Okay ladies- I wanted to give y'all an update about my 'situation' Since I came back home, things are getting back to normal- if not a little better- I feel that because we have gone through this it has made us stronger. At least I can say that it has made us stronger as a couple, and me stronger as an individual. I have learnt so much about myself, and perhaps just how much I love him. I just hope it all works out now- So yeah the wedding will take place as planned- or as dreamt at the beginning of 2009- or Summer 2009- because we need to save up for it-
NeeCee84 and Atownswifey- how are you doing??
Hey Dreamgurl, I'm glad things are working out for you. I wish you & yours all the best!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks Rhony- I know its hard for some people to understand, including myself- but yeah - the sweetest thing on Christmas day when we were getting into bed- he says 'baby can we just pray together' Oh my goodness I just fell for him all over again- I guess we are just growing up together- we have known each other since we were 16/17!! We still learn new things about each other every day almost 10 years on!!
I am so happy things are working out for you sweetie.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
Congrats and good luck dreamgurl! and don't worry about what others say...this is your life and you do what is best for you! :)
Well good for the two of you. I hope you all continue to pray with each other and understand one another.
We will still continue to keep the two of you in our prayers!
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dreamgurl im so happy to hear that everything turned out for the best. Good luck and happy planning for your 2009 wedding.
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[quote="dreamgurl"]Thanks Rhony- I know its hard for some people to understand, including myself- but yeah - the sweetest thing on Christmas day when we were getting into bed- he says 'baby can we just pray together' Oh my goodness I just fell for him all over again- I guess we are just growing up together- we have known each other since we were 16/17!! We still learn new things about each other every day almost 10 years on!!
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Now that's what I am talking about! that is soooooo sweet. You guys will be alright. The family that prays together stays together.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
JSGirl, my heart goes out to you. Being or feeling that you've been betrayed is never easy. The only advice I would give you is to pray and search your heart. God will never lead you estray. Be encouraged and know that you are not alone.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
JSGirl I am so so sorry to hear what you are going through. Your story is troubling on so many levels. Most disturbing of all is you didn't know he was previously married and had a 17 year old child. How does someone just omit that type information about themselves? Especially from someone you are vowing to spend the rest of your life with. That's not something you just "get over".
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
I personally feel that this guy is full of secrets. Toooo many skelton's in his closet. Instead of being honest with you about the whole situation he lied to you. I have a real problem with him never wanting to bring you too his hometown. And most of all who hides the fact that they have been married before and has a child. If he is hidding that what else is he hiding. Trust me a man will tell you whatever they feel you want to hear so they can have there cake and eat it too. They will say whatever it takes to keep you around. I will pray that things will work out for the best for you. I hope that all the men in your lives ladies are telling the truth and are truely committed to you and not just stringing you along. I was in a relationship that had all of the red flags, and I kept listening to my man, not because I believed him, but because I wanted to believe him. I had to come to the realization that I deserved a man who was going to value me and our relationship. I had to get tired.
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[quote="DaughterRhonda"]Thanks Rhony- I know its hard for some people to understand, including myself- but yeah - the sweetest thing on Christmas day when we were getting into bed- he says 'baby can we just pray together' Oh my goodness I just fell for him all over again- I guess we are just growing up together- we have known each other since we were 16/17!! We still learn new things about each other every day almost 10 years on!!
Now that's what I am talking about! that is soooooo sweet. You guys will be alright. The family that prays together stays together.
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Thanks Rhony- it means a lot coming from my sisters!!
[quote="pamcrow"]JSGirl I am so so sorry to hear what you are going through. Your story is troubling on so many levels. Most disturbing of all is you didn't know he was previously married and had a 17 year old child. How does someone just omit that type information about themselves? Especially from someone you are vowing to spend the rest of your life with. That's not something you just "get over".
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Honey JSGirl- I read this last night- but it hurt so much on your behalf I could not say a thing- I was speechless. And oh boy- it is such a hard hard situation you are in. I don't know it just feels intuitevely wrong on so many levels. Wow- I understand how lost you must be feeling and betrayed. I am with the girls on this- you really need to think about what happened and what it means- It just seems like there is a lot for you to take in, all at the same time. It also seems like there is a lot you do not know about him, that even the 'other woman' knew. Baby you need to get to know him again it seems, and see if he is the man you thought he was, and the man that you loved. Its so so hard, no matter what the lie is- I know it is still betrayal...
JSGirl-I am sorry to hear of your pain...
I agree with the other ladies, something is NOT QUITE RIGHT with this situation...why all of a sudden did he decide to become Usher ("these are my confessions")about his past (ex-wife & child) when this is something you should have known from JUMP (well atlease when you guys decided to get serious)
Pray on this situation and just know that NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!! please don't blame yourself--we as women start questioning/blaming ourselves for the mistakes of others.
Thank you so much ladies while I'm praying for me please pray for me as well you guys just dont no how good it feels to get of of that off my chest that helped a lot.
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