Blended Families

Kinda ...my baby 6 today SOMETIMES call FH daddy ..but she is always laughing when she do it :) But as a team they decided to call him Pop. Right now they go back and forth between Tony and Pop until they get in the habit of saying Pop ...

I think it is amazing when families can join together and be happy. That is a blessing.

The only child in our family belong to my husband and I. I wish all the blended familys all the best! God bless.

my son calls FH Mr. Stephen-I want him to come up with a unique name also (besides daddy) but I am going to let him decide what to call him. his daddy is involved in a relationship (for 4 yrs) and I know I would be LIVID if I heard him call his dad's girlfriend MAMA so I am giving his dad the same title respect!! :)

My 7yo son calls FH Dad. He decided to start this on his own. My daughter is ours together.

[quote="soon2bmsj"]my son calls FH Mr. Stephen-I want him to come up with a unique name also (besides daddy) but I am going to let him decide what to call him. his daddy is involved in a relationship (for 4 yrs) and I know I would be LIVID if I heard him call his dad's girlfriend MAMA so I am giving his dad the same title respect!! :)
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I truly feel you on that one Soon.
My 5 year old little girl calls FH by his name and his 7 year old little girl calls me by mine. I wouldn't want it any other way. We dont have any kids together yet.

I think that it must be the southern upbringing in me that prevents me from seeing the good in having a child call an adult by his or her name.

Djimonsmon, I think that your son and your FH will find a middle ground. I don't think there's anything wrong in your son calling him "Pop". Mention it to your FH in private, but let him and your son work it out as men.

Fh & I don't have a child together but he's got a 3 year old daughter from a past relationship. Unfortunately the babymama has issues and she insists that her child is not gonna spend the night over at our place and that I shouldn't be around when her father comes to fetch her. In the past when the dad insisted that I be around, she withheld access to the child from him for months.

I always felt bad about this and for the sake of peace, I've honoured her wishes but this has in turn made things a bit awkward as the baby still can't relate to me.

[quote="DeeLove"]Fh & I don't have a child together but he's got a 3 year old daughter from a past relationship. Unfortunately the babymama has issues and she insists that her child is not gonna spend the night over at our place and that I shouldn't be around when her father comes to fetch her. In the past when the dad insisted that I be around, she withheld access to the child from him for months.

I always felt bad about this and for the sake of peace, I've honoured her wishes but this has in turn made things a bit awkward as the baby still can't relate to me.
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Wow DeeLove, it sounds like the baby's momma should grow up and let go. Shame on her -- she is robbing her little one of a chance to get to know you better.

My thoughts exactly... and it hurts because thats one part of my FH's life I cant fully share as she will always throw a hissy when the baby tells her that she was with us. FH will then receive abusive texts from her telling him all nasty stuff. It got so worse that he's programmed his mobile to receive no voicemails as she used to live those abusive messages when he didn't pick up her calls.

DeeLove can your FH go through the courts there to obtain formal visitation. Just as he has no say as to who the child is around with her, she has no right to determine who is around the child with him! As long as the baby is safe, she needs to get over it!

[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]DeeLove can your FH go through the courts there to obtain formal visitation. Just as he has no say as to who the child is around with her, she has no right to determine who is around the child with him! As long as the baby is safe, she needs to get over it!
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I agree! I believe his childs mother is EXTREMLY childish!!! 1 thing I have NEVER did with my son's father is keep him from seeing him. We have an understanding and we both know that when our child is with us we are both responsible for his well being and neither one of us will allow ANYONE to harm him in anyway...

[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]DeeLove can your FH go through the courts there to obtain formal visitation. Just as he has no say as to who the child is around with her, she has no right to determine who is around the child with him! As long as the baby is safe, she needs to get over it!
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Thanx for the advises ladies... In fact she & FH had to go to court to sort out everything since FH can't do anything without her feeling that he's living it large so the child should for instance be upgraded to a more expensive preschool, bought expensive baby wear (Gucci clothes & nike sneakers etc) for which she wants FH to fork out the bills.

I mean I've prayed to God to give me patience and the wisdom as I felt that I should give her the benefit of the doubt simply because I dont have a child and could never understand the dynamics of being a single parent.

Gucci for a 3 year old. I think she needs 2 be slapped. It cant be that hard for her as a single mother if all the three year old wear is Gucci.

[quote="sensationablyhappy"]Gucci for a 3 year old. I think she needs 2 be slapped. It cant be that hard for her as a single mother if all the three year old wear is Gucci.
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LMAO with the kids looking at me like I'm crazy!

I have an eight year old from my first marriage. I call FH King and he calls me Queen. So my son calls FH King too. He does know his name but I think he likes the name of endearment better.

[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"]Gucci for a 3 year old. I think she needs 2 be slapped. It cant be that hard for her as a single mother if all the three year old wear is Gucci.

LMAO with the kids looking at me like I'm crazy!
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Yeah, and in 6 months its going to be too small! Meanwhile at WIC I got true mother strugginling to take care of their kids, and these crazy women rather have the child looking good than eating! When I was younger (and dumb) I wanted my child looking good, wearing the latest. Pahleeze! They are going to be looking good, but so will our bank accounts! I have seen moms throw out and give away tons of name-brand clothes that they bought or was given to them because their child "suprisingly" grew like a beanstalk and after they got wise and calculated the cost of all that formula and diapers, they bit their lip learned better!