okay ladies, tell me if i'm wrong. about a month ago, i decided that i would carry real flowers at my wedding (i usually cannot tolerate the strong smell, but i think i'll be okay). anyway, my bridesmaids still had silk flower bouquets that my moh had made for me. well when i ordered my flowers, i went ahead and ordered real flowers for the motb, motg, groomsmen, etc. well, it didn't sit well with me that my bridesmaids were the only ones with fake flowers, so i ordered them real flowers as well. i told my moh i wanted to use the bouquets she made for something else, and i could tell she got a little pissed, she wouldn't even answer my calls for a couple of days. and now, all of the projects she was helping me with suddenly she has put back on me.
on top of that, i had asked my bridesmaids if they would stay with me at my house the night before the wedding so we could have a final all single's girl's night, and everyone agreed and was so excited about it. well moh just called and said she thinks it's best that she go home that night. i just told her okay, and i got real quiet, but yall i am so hurt. i only changed the flowers because i thought my bridesmaids deserve to have real flowers, and i know she worked hard on the bouquets she made, which is why i wanted to use them for something else. i plan to use them in the pew cones that will mark the reserved benches for the family.
i know this is my wedding and i should not get upset, but she is not only my moh, she is my cousin and also my best friend. i'm just hurt that she would just drop all of her responsibilities and our last night out. it's two weeks before my wedding, and i just don't need this.
okay ladies, tell me if i'm wrong. about a month ago, i decided that i would carry real flowers at my wedding (i usually cannot tolerate the strong smell, but i think i'll be okay). anyway, my bridesmaids still had silk flower bouquets that my moh had made for me. well when i ordered my flowers, i went ahead and ordered real flowers for the motb, motg, groomsmen, etc. well, it didn't sit well with me that my bridesmaids were the only ones with fake flowers, so i ordered them real flowers as well. i told my moh i wanted to use the bouquets she made for something else, and i could tell she got a little pissed, she wouldn't even answer my calls for a couple of days. and now, all of the projects she was helping me with suddenly she has put back on me.
on top of that, i had asked my bridesmaids if they would stay with me at my house the night before the wedding so we could have a final all single's girl's night, and everyone agreed and was so excited about it. well moh just called and said she thinks it's best that she go home that night. i just told her okay, and i got real quiet, but yall i am so hurt. i only changed the flowers because i thought my bridesmaids deserve to have real flowers, and i know she worked hard on the bouquets she made, which is why i wanted to use them for something else. i plan to use them in the pew cones that will mark the reserved benches for the family.
i know this is my wedding and i should not get upset, but she is not only my moh, she is my cousin and also my best friend. i'm just hurt that she would just drop all of her responsibilities and our last night out. it's two weeks before my wedding, and i just don't need this.
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I would be hurt too. But I also see where she is coming from too. I think you were right if you want real flower you want real flowers. But you have to remember that she is probably a bit hurt too that she might have worked hard on those flowers and she might feel offended. I would try talking to her one more time.
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I agree with iesha. Talk to her. I'm sure she worked hard and was really to proud to have such an important role. She may just be feeling a bit slighted. Praying you ladies work it out!
i guess you guys are right but i only had the best intentions, i didn't want my ladies to feel slighted but i guess i had the opposite effect.
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I'm sure she will understand, take her out to lunch, just the two of you and explain to her that your intention was not to slight her efforts in any way, but that you wanted a more uniformed look when you changed your mind on the flowers. Tell her that you acknowledge her hard work and will place all her arrangements in the pew markers cones within the church. Don't forget to apologize first. An apology goes a very long way.