Hi Ladies,
I have a friend that stopped speaking to me last year because I didn't invite her to my wedding. (She attends my church & I didn't invite my church as a whole because of their views on dancing as some of you already know). She is also married to the head deacon at my church and he is really strict. I probably could've handled things differently, althought I don't regret my decision. Long story short, I have missed our friendship, so I decided to call her today. She was very happy to hear from me and told me that she's been very angry at me and she couldn't get past it. Well I explained that my decision not to invite the church was not done to intentionally hurt her. I told her that she's been on my mind for the past few weeks heavily. She told me that she felt all alone and felt like she was going to have a nervous breakdown from all of the things she's been going through. She said that I was the only friend that she could really talk to. We got off the phone laughing like old times!
Long story short. I am glad that I followed God's lead. Ladies I am very happy that my friendship has been restored. I'm sharing my story because life is to be enjoyed. My friend and I have not spoken for almost a year over this. Planning weddings can put a strain on families, and friendships too. You will may have some difficult decisions to make. Be true to yourself and do what makes you happy. If relationships are strained, in time I believe that they can be healed and restored.
Hi Ladies,
I have a friend that stopped speaking to me last year because I didn't invite her to my wedding. (She attends my church & I didn't invite my church as a whole because of their views on dancing as some of you already know). She is also married to the head deacon at my church and he is really strict. I probably could've handled things differently, althought I don't regret my decision. Long story short, I have missed our friendship, so I decided to call her today. She was very happy to hear from me and told me that she's been very angry at me and she couldn't get past it. Well I explained that my decision not to invite the church was not done to intentionally hurt her. I told her that she's been on my mind for the past few weeks heavily. She told me that she felt all alone and felt like she was going to have a nervous breakdown from all of the things she's been going through. She said that I was the only friend that she could really talk to. We got off the phone laughing like old times!
Long story short. I am glad that I followed God's lead. Ladies I am very happy that my friendship has been restored. I'm sharing my story because life is to be enjoyed. My friend and I have not spoken for almost a year over this. Planning weddings can put a strain on families, and friendships too. You will may have some difficult decisions to make. Be true to yourself and do what makes you happy. If relationships are strained, in time I believe that they can be healed and restored.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Great testimony!! I experienced a similiar situation with my Goddaughters mother after my son died; we were TIGHT TIGHT TIGHT, but after that while I was going thru noone could seem to understand what I was feeling and I shut down-she took it that I was ignoring her so we stopped speaking for 2 yrs!!! needless to say my flesh was weak and I decided I WAS NOT going to call her and about 3 months ago she sent me a text msg telling me how much she missed me being a part of her and her daughters life. We are talking now, not as close as we were but we are trying to get it back on track. we have lost so much precious time (me seeing my goddaughter) over a simple misunderstanding so I praise God for her being the "BIGGER" woman and I give you your props also Daughter for listening and being obedient to the Holy Spirit!!! AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!
thank you for sharing ladies!!! my wedding has also brought my mother and myself back together. it was i who felt the need to distance myself. the same issues are there, but there comes a time when you just have to accept and love people for who they are.
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I'm glad you were able to mend your friendship. I'm sure your story will bring comfort to others who may be struggling with the same issue.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
FH's sister and I were best friends up until the point she found out FH and were dating. She hurt me in a way that only a person that knows everything about you could. I wish we could be friends again but i don't think i could ever trust her.
I know Sister future is going to kick my whole tail, but I'm going to invite her to the wedding anyway. FH wants her there and I kind of want her to see that all that stuff she did to try to pull us apart actually drew FH and I closer.
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Rhony, you are a great example of Jesus' intention for how all God's children should be. I am taking notes:)
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[quote="HeCallsMeAbeni"]I know Sister future is going to kick my whole tail, but I'm going to invite her to the wedding anyway. FH wants her there and I kind of want her to see that all that stuff she did to try to pull us apart actually drew FH and I closer.
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Now how have you learned me so well in such a short time?! LOL! Naw Abeni, she can be there, just be sure you focus on the day and don't let her steal even a thought! Some relationships can be, and should be salvaged. That one, IMO, was one of either the reason or season type, not lifetime.
Rhony, I am so glad you and your friend have mended fences. Sometimes we let relationships fall by the wayside so long when its not necessary. I don't have many friends so the ones I do have I hold dear. They may have to literally cut me to get rid of me! LOL!
Thank you ladies!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="Bumblebeekee"]Rhony, you are a great example of Jesus' intention for how all God's children should be. I am taking notes:)
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You are so sweet Bumble, thanks! I'm striving each day to be the best person I can be. I have a long way to go! LOL!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="Bumblebeekee"]Rhony, you are a great example of Jesus' intention for how all God's children should be. I am taking notes:)
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I'm taking notes, too. Ladies thank you for sharing your testimonies.
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It's nice to know that my sisters can get over their hurdles with other sisters and make it up - life's way too short!
I had a similar situation with one of my best friends. We went to university together and we stopped talking when I started going out with this guy. I felt like she stopped talking to me because she was judging my relationship. We didn't talk to each other for 3 years and suddenly out of the blue she phoned me. I had missed her so much because she was one of my closest friends and it turns out she thought I had just stopped talking to her!!
I was so glad she called. And now she's going to be one of my bridesmaids!!
DiamondBride, I love happy endings -- you are right life is too short and we should make the most of it!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thats right...and it takes a real woman, a real God-fearing woman to step up and fix things even when she wasn't the one who was wrong....
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That was truly an eye opener because i have a friend (best) that we have been best friends for over 16 yrs but i dont care for her other girlfriends because they dont have nothing going on for themselves meaning they sell drugs have been in and out of jail etc. Me personally i have been saved and in to church or last 6 yrs so prior to that me and her havent been clubbing or hanging out cause i cant stand the company she keeps.any how she doesnt even know that im engadged and i was trying to decide whether or not to include her in my wedding i was going to invite her for sure but a mutal friend told me she was getting ready to move to atlanta in nov.and i havent talked to her in over a year.
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You gon' head Mrs Rhony, good for you for following the Lord's lead and making things right w/ your girl! You are an inspiration.
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