Ladies, I consider you all as family. Please pray for me. Mr. B has just informed me that he doesn't want to marry on the date that we agreed on. He said that he has "a lot of things to consider" all of which I asked about before and "everything was fine". He has no idea when. I had reserved the photographer, bought programs, the dress, and secured the hall. He said that he would be willing to repay all that I have invested and he "feels bad".
Please pray for my mind's peace.
Ladies, I consider you all as family. Please pray for me. Mr. B has just informed me that he doesn't want to marry on the date that we agreed on. He said that he has "a lot of things to consider" all of which I asked about before and "everything was fine". He has no idea when. I had reserved the photographer, bought programs, the dress, and secured the hall. He said that he would be willing to repay all that I have invested and he "feels bad".
Please pray for my mind's peace.
Love lights even the darkest of paths.
What Fire doesn't destroy, only makes stronger.
Even when you don't know; God knows. I will be still and let Him do His thing.
Alone in the world; but always in the company of the Lord.
wow Tewright1 im sorry 2 hear that.. ill pray for you. Maybe he is going through something serious right now that he has not told you about. Try to find out whats bothering him but try not to push him... some men tend to close down when they are going through something serious ... well whatever it is i hope he come to his sences. My heart goes out to you.
just pray for peace and that whatever is in God's will just know that it was meant to be. keep your FH lifted in prayer because if there is something going on maybe God will give him peace and he will open up to you so you both can work thru the issue together.
I will definetly keep you both lifted in prayer...
Oh my God Tewright1, I'm so very sorry. If your FH and you are christians, now more than ever is the time for both of you to pray and pray hard. Oh my GOD!!! But don't panic. Don't freak out like I'm doing. Just pray and then speak with him calmly. Is it that he no longer wants to get married or what? Maybe he feels overwhelmed in that case try to reassure him. If it's financial, girl then reschedule. It's early enought that you can contact everyone and let them know (your vendors, I mean). You have more than 10 months to go. It should not be a problem with your vendors.
Pray together, pray always. How long have you 2 been together?
Tewright1, honey, please don't lose your faith or peace of mind... I know that this a troubling feeling... Been there, done that... But I guess what the real question is does he not want to get married at all or just not on the set date. When my DH & I were still engaged we (he) changed are wedding date several times, and at first I felt like he was just trying to lead me to believe that he wanted to marry me but really he just didn't want me to walk out on him... Everytime he said that dates just not gonna work I felt worse and worse so I know what you're feeling. If you feel like you're 2 angry or just emotional overall to talk to him, tell over email or simply write a letter. You DO deserve an explanation but you don't want to stress him more, it could be that he doesn't know how to tell you so it's easier for him to run away. Whatever the case, just pray... GOD has a WILL for both of you & if you two getting married is his WILL then it will be. I'm praying for you... Keep us posted.
All I can say is ditto previous posts. What God has for you - is for you.
I agree with all of the ladies. God has something wonderful in store for you. I would however have a talk with him and let him know that you to have made a promise to each other and to God. And unfortunately throughout life we will all hit bumps in life, but you to can get through these things togethor. I would inform him that at this stage in life you are ready to get married and live how God wants you to live. How long does he want you to wait? What if the problem never goes away? That's not fair to you to put your life on hold. Whatever decision you two make I will continue to keep the both of you in my prayers. Good luck sweetie.
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[quote="Ginoue"]Is it that he no longer wants to get married or what?
How long have you 2 been together?
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[quote="housewife147"] How long does he want you to wait? What if the problem never goes away?
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He told me that it he just couldn't get married on that date. All the issues that he was trying to tell me about I had asked him about back in July before I started to making any plans or before I told anyone.
We have been together for a little over 2 years. We've known each other since pre-school. Our lives seperated around 2nd or 3rd grade. In 2005 we became reaquanted.
My ex-husband cancelled our wedding date 2 months before the wedding. We eloped 4 months later. I remember doubting his commitment to me the whole ride to and throughout the ceremony (even during the vows I just expected him to back out). THAT MARRIAGE WAS HELL!!! The only good was the 2 beautiful children that was born in it.
Mr. B knows all this. I sent it to him in an email. I just don't know what to do or think. It is just as someone has taken all the oxygen out of the air. I have prayed so much, been loyal to the Lord, and have always tried to follow his voice only to be blind-sided by this. I just keep feeling that living in a dream and reality came crashing in. I just want to go numb.
Love lights even the darkest of paths.
What Fire doesn't destroy, only makes stronger.
Even when you don't know; God knows. I will be still and let Him do His thing.
Alone in the world; but always in the company of the Lord.
Keep faith honey - all I can say is that people can go through things sometimes and they need to be given the space to work it. I agree that you need to find out whether he just doesn't want to get married on that date or just doesn't want to get married at all.
If it's just about the date.....if he's the one, you can get married whenever. Just take the time to understand what's going on with him. God will look after you two through your time in need - just have faith!
Keep your faith. I will keep you in my prayers.
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You've put it in God's hand - now leave it there. We can't control the actions of others, no matter how we want to, and sometimes we have to leave them to their own vises. Like everyone else has said, if he still wants to get married just not on that date, then it'll be ok. If he doesn't want to get married at all he owes it to you to tell you that if nothing else. Be blessed my sister.
Wow. Tewright, I'm sorry to hear that. Everything I would have wanted to say has already been said. With that in mind, I will keep you in my prayers. I would also suggest that you pray and ask God to give you strength. Sista, I know it hurts, trust me, I have had to postpone my wedding a few times. Also, look at it like this, he may be dealing with a premature case of cold feet. He may change his mind in a few days or weeks. Be encouraged! I'm praying for you.
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Sorry this is so long.
Sisters, I love each of you for helping me get back to my senses. I AM a praying woman who KNOWS the Lord's voice when I hear it. I prayed, cried, prayed, cried, fasted (well sort of, just wasn't eating), and recovered. I heard the Lord say that "He is not a man that he should lie or the son of man that he should repent". I knew that that date was given to me by God. We both agreed to fast and pray for a date and that is what we came up with 8/16/08.
I am by no means a numerologist but I researched the spiritual significance and here is conclusion which lead to our confession of faith for our marriage.
8/16/08
8 (in Hebrew) means
Love lights even the darkest of paths.
What Fire doesn't destroy, only makes stronger.
Even when you don't know; God knows. I will be still and let Him do His thing.
Alone in the world; but always in the company of the Lord.
Well Praise the Lord girl. Isn't it funny how men create an entire situation in their minds and assume your response without ever asking you what you really think. I'm so glad things have worked out and everything is back on the go.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
So we are back on!!!!!!
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congratulations! see, prayer changes things! give all praises to God!!
What God has for me, it is for meeeeeeee!
WELL PRAISE THE LORD!!! We were praying for you. I'm glad it's full speed ahead.
Praise God! That's great news! May God continue to bless you and your FH!
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Im happy to hear you all worked things out ... good luck sista!
I'm happy to hear that everything is back on track with your wedding date. We would all be completely lost with out the power of prayer!
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I'm glad to hear evrything is back on track - see, God answers all prayers in one way or another!
Praise the Lord! See honey, things have a way of working out. In addition, I thought my breakdown of my wedding date was thorough but I must say that you really did your research. Once again, I'm glad everything worked out!
I know I'm super late on this, but I'm so happy everything worked out for you!
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Well congratulations!!!! I'm happy everything worked out for you.
now i can breath freely!!!! oh my godddddd!! when i read the posting, i felt my asthma came and took all the oxygen out of my lungs!! thank god, thank god, thank god everything is ok nowwwwww!!!! whooooaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! God is the best!!!! im shooooo happy for youuuu!!!!
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