Vows

Those vows are beautiful, Bamabride. I thought about writing my own vows but I had a severe case of "writer's block" right now. FH has already written his. I have a feeling that I wil probably cry when he reads (or recites) his vows to me. I may probably write my own.

NIIIICCCCEEE Bamabride!! I don't think I could do it, so me & FH will be repeating after Pastor!!! :)

WOW, I don't think I could ever get through all that without ruining my makeup. Beautiful vows. Hubby didn't want to think to much so we repeated after pastor. My pastor was late for rehearsal so we never talked about vows and I was momentarily speechless when he said the obey thing. Everyone in church laughed because it took me a moment to repeat that part. Very hard pill to swallow. Now everyone jokes with husband asking "Is she obeying yet?" and he just shakes he head and says NOPE!!

Those are beutiful vows! I too plan on writing my own vows. I will be marrying my real life best friend of almost 17 yrs and there are some specific things that I would like to say to him. Hopefully I can make it thru them without crying too much

[quote="niki"]Those are beutiful vows! I too plan on writing my own vows. I will be marrying my real life best friend of almost 17 yrs and there are some specific things that I would like to say to him. Hopefully I can make it thru them without crying too much
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well it never hurts to try, but after 17 years I doubt if you make it!! :)

Bama that is beautiful...how did you get through it??? I've been trying to start writing my vows but I've started over 3 or 4 times because there's so much I want to say and I just don't know where to start.

S2B - you're a Mrs. Johson too I see :)

Beautiful Bamabride! We will be repeating after Pastor but will say a few words to eachother during the ceremony. Good luck making it through!

S2B - you're a Mrs. Johson too I see :)
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yes ma'am! Funny because my friend that got married in June is also Mrs. Johnson!

Awwwww....That was beautiful.I'm sure your fh will love it..Definitely a tear jerker.I really want to write my own vows but fh thinks that we should just repeat after our pastor.I really love my fh and I wanna tell him in a special way other than just saying"I do."If he doesn't change his mind,I was thinking about surprising him with vows or special poem read anyhow.I know he would love it.I just don't know when I would do it.

Wonderful bamabride. I actually felt a tear. FH and I are also writing our own vows. Wow, I wish you luck because I know that you will not be able to say them without crying. I don't know how I'm going to manage as well.

Similar to most of you ladies, I am always trying to be different and go against tradition. So as far as vows, I would have loved to write my own, but with school and everything else, I just didn't find the time. So rather than do the "traditional" vows, I found some online that I absolutely love, and FH and I decided to go with them. Now FH's uncle is officiating over our ceremony, and he lives in N. Carolina, so we decided to email him a copy of our order of service, just so he could become familiar with everything, esp since we are doing a rose ceremony. I thought he should become familiar with the words to it, so I included the words to the rose ceremony, along with the vows that we would like to say to one another. So I emailed him last week, and haven't heard back, so I told FH to get in touch with him to make sure he received my email. Now today my FFIL asked us if we emailed his brother (the officiant) a script of what to say, and I said no, only the vows, and he let us know that he will only read vows found in the Bible. Now I don't really know how I should feel about this. I think the vows we have selected are just fine, and I'm just not a traditional person at all. I need your honest opinion here ladies, how should I handle this one? Should i just suck it up and use the traditional vows, or fight for the vows that I have selected? I don't know how he feels about the rose ceremony, but this is definitely something we will be doing, no compromising here. the wedding is in 14 days, so FH will definitely be handling this in the next day or two. Help, I need your advice!

DO NOT GIVE IN!!! If this is what you guys want, then this is what he should do for you! My Pastor sat down with us and we told him how we wanted out ceremony to go; his only request was once we get into the marriage ceremony itself we don't have any interruptions because he said this is the "sacred" time...Hang in there sweetie!!

Thank you Soon. FH and I will definitely have a serious discussion about this today. I had reservations about asking his uncle to perform our marriage ceremony, and i should have trusted my instincts and gone with a non-denominational officiant. His uncle said that he will only do vows from the bible whatever that means, and I have no idea how he feels about the rose ceremony. These are the vows FH and I chose to say to one another:

I, Tiffany, take you Kyle, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever I will trust you and honor you I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will love you faithfully Through the best and the worst, Through the difficult and the easy. What may come I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold So I give you my life to keep So help me God.

OMG Tiffy, that's so beautiful!!!

Thanks ladies. FH will be calling his uncle today to discuss the vow situation, and if he is not willing to use the vows that we selected, we may just go with someone else. I know we only have 13 days, but we have other relatives in the family, but I fear they may be too traditional also, and only want to use a certain set of vows. So we may need to look outside of the family, I don't know, we'll see how the conversation goes with his uncle, but I'm not too optimistic about it.

That's plenty of time for you to find a nondenominational pastor. I would suggest you both decide by Tuesday at the latest though and start looking at your alternatives, just in case.

Girl I would have fh talk to his uncle today. If he still refuses to do what you want and only whats in the bible, then you could either take a pen and write your vows in his bible lol, or you can look for someone else. You never know he might just see things your way.

Just wanted to post our wedding vows:

Bride to Groom (minus this line)

I Janice take you, Lasean,
to be my lawfully wedded husband,
secure in the knowledge that you will be
my constant friend,
my faithful partner in life,
and my one true love.
On this special day,
I give to you
in the presence of God and all those in attendance
my sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful wife
in sickness and in health,
in joy and in sorrow, as well as
through the good times and the bad.
I promise to love you without reservation,
comfort you in times of distress,
encourage you to achieve higher goals,
laugh with you and cry with you,
grow with you in mind and spirit,
always be open and honest with you,
and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Groom to Bride (minus this line)

I, Lasean, take you, Janice,
to be my lawfully wedded wife,
knowing in my heart that you will be
my constant friend,
my faithful partner in life,
and my one true love.
On this special day,
I give to you
in the presence of God and all those in attendance
my sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful husband
in sickness and in health,
in joy and in sorrow, as well as
through the good times and the bad.
I promise to love you without reservation,
honor and respect you,
provide for your needs as best I can,
protect you from harm,
comfort you in times of distress,
grow with you in mind and spirit,
always be open and honest with you,
and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Wonderful vows housewife!!!

Thank you sweetie

[quote="TiffyB"]Thank you Soon. FH and I will definitely have a serious discussion about this today. I had reservations about asking his uncle to perform our marriage ceremony, and i should have trusted my instincts and gone with a non-denominational officiant. His uncle said that he will only do vows from the bible whatever that means, and I have no idea how he feels about the rose ceremony. These are the vows FH and I chose to say to one another:

I, Tiffany, take you Kyle, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever I will trust you and honor you I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will love you faithfully Through the best and the worst, Through the difficult and the easy. What may come I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold So I give you my life to keep So help me God.
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Tiffy~ I think this is beautiful!! remember this is you & FH's vows to each other, NOONE has a right to dictate what you guys should say!!

[quote="housewife147"]Just wanted to post our wedding vows:

Bride to Groom (minus this line)

I Janice take you, Lasean,
to be my lawfully wedded husband,
secure in the knowledge that you will be
my constant friend,
my faithful partner in life,
and my one true love.
On this special day,
I give to you
in the presence of God and all those in attendance
my sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful wife
in sickness and in health,
in joy and in sorrow, as well as
through the good times and the bad.
I promise to love you without reservation,
comfort you in times of distress,
encourage you to achieve higher goals,
laugh with you and cry with you,
grow with you in mind and spirit,
always be open and honest with you,
and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Groom to Bride (minus this line)

I, Lasean, take you, Janice,
to be my lawfully wedded wife,
knowing in my heart that you will be
my constant friend,
my faithful partner in life,
and my one true love.
On this special day,
I give to you
in the presence of God and all those in attendance
my sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful husband
in sickness and in health,
in joy and in sorrow, as well as
through the good times and the bad.
I promise to love you without reservation,
honor and respect you,
provide for your needs as best I can,
protect you from harm,
comfort you in times of distress,
grow with you in mind and spirit,
always be open and honest with you,
and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.
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House love your vows also! I REALLY like FH's part: :)
I promise to love you without reservation,
honor and respect you,
provide for your needs as best I can,
protect you from harm,
comfort you in times of distress,

You're turning on the waterworks ladies!!! Wow!!!

Thank you ladies. House and Soon your vows are absolutely beautiful:) So FH heard from his mother, who has been in contact with his uncle (the possible officiant), and he said that he will do the ceremony, but he refuses to read the vows because they are not the "christian way". So basically he is saying that he will do the ceremony, but we have to read our own vows. So now we have to decide if we want to keep him as our officiant, or select someone else. I don't even know if I am comfortable keeping him at this point since he feels this way about the vows that we have selected. Everyone is just so stuck on tradition, and believes if things aren't done the way they are used to, then it isn't God's way. This is just so untrue. God will recognize our marriage whether we decide to stick with tradition or not.

You are so right sweetie. But on the bright side, you will still keep your vows in if you read them yourself.

[quote="housewife147"]You are so right sweetie. But on the bright side, you will still keep your vows in if you read them yourself.
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That is so true House. Even if we decide to keep his uncle, we will be using our chosen vows. I would really love it if we could memorize them, but with all of the emotions running out of control, it will be pretty easy to forget them! So if we do decide to go with his uncle, and have to read our own vows, we will attempt to memorize them, but of course we will have that handy dandy sheet of paper right there with us...lol!

Tiffy, if you can't memorize them, you can't. It's not such a big deal. All you have to do is find some index card at office depot the color of your wedding and write it out. Then when it comes time for the vows, have your MOH pass you the vow cards and read in style like the true Diva that you are.

I don't know why your FH's uncle is making such a big deal of the vows anyway, he doesn't have to read them. All he has to say is that " The happy couple has elected to say their own personal vows to each other"

What's so hard about that? Anywhoo sister, don't sweat the small stuff!!!

[quote="housewife147"] then you could either take a pen and write your vows in his bible lol, or you can look for someone else. You never know he might just see things your way.
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House you are too much. LOL!!! But I agree. Tiffy you should have your wedding done your way. I hope you guys could come to some type of an agreement or you may just have to find another officiant.

I am not trying to be funny, but where in the Bible are wedding vows? There are supporting scriptures I thought, but vows were written by a man (or woman -- not sure). What your fh's uncle doesn't understand is that the traditional vows were written by a man or woman at some point in time and continue to be used over and over. There is nothing wrong with creating your own tradition and it could still be considered "the christian way."

Good luck and keep us posted