Thank You cards

I think that will be fine. I didn't even receive thank you notes from the last 3 weddings I attended! How rude!

The last wedding I went to, I got a thank you card eight months later.
I have thank you cards that I haven't sent out. When I moved, everything got packed and I can't find the list or the cards. The people I see on a regular basis got their thank you cards, but folks that I only see at weddings/funerals, they never received theirs. It was hard enough tracking them down to give them invitations & collect RSVPs...when the wedding ended, so did my need to do everything right away.

I was wondering the same thing. I'm still waiting on my flaky photographer to get my Thank You cards to me. It's been 2 months already since i made the decision on which proof I wanted to use for them. I may go ahead and use the blank personalized note cards that came free with my invitations but then I'll be stuck later with the ones the photographer is supposed to be doing.

Etiquete says that they should be addresses and given to the maid of honor to mail the day after the wedding.
however, better late than never. To avoid this, I am having a table set up at the door, so that my guests will get theirs as the leave the reception.

You usually have a month to send out thank you cards.

To all of you ladies wondering, etiquette dictates that all thank you cards be sent within 3 months of your wedding, unless you're waiting on photo thank you cards, than it's no later than 4 months. It is one of the many responsibilities of the Matron Of Honor, but if she's slacking, then it falls on the newlyweds to make sure that they're sent in a timely fashion.

[quote="mrsmoose091308"] To avoid this, I am having a table set up at the door, so that my guests will get theirs as the leave the reception.
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That's rediculous.
But I do like the idea of having the MOH put them in the mail if that's an option and you aren't waiting for photos.

[quote="mrsmoose091308"]Etiquete says that they should be addresses and given to the maid of honor to mail the day after the wedding.
however, better late than never. To avoid this, I am having a table set up at the door, so that my guests will get theirs as the leave the reception.
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I hope I'm not being rude but that's a little impersonal to just leave them on a table by the door. If you don't want to mail TY cards, try this: Have a hostess to give them to the guests when they leave.

That is just insane. You didnt want 4 months to cash the check I wrote, so it shouldnt take you that long to thank me. I would not dare give someone a thank card longer than 6 weeks after my wedding.

6 weeks would be ideal, but the reality is if you're waiting on picture thank you cards for your photographer, it may take 3 to 4 months to get them.

Now I agree with the rest of the ladies, if you're not waiting on picture thank you cards, then your thank you cards shoud be sent out by your MOH within two weeks of your wedding and if the couples want to handle it themselves, it should be done upon their return from their honeymoon, usually within 1 month.

I am not going to wait on my moh to send something I can send. I personally feel that after the wedding is said and done so is her duties. I will not be doing much after the wedding so I can send them myself. I guess it all depends on your photographer, Because I will be getting my pics back well before some 4 months. And my thank you's will go out no later then 6 weeks after my wedding. You can even send little thank you cards without the pics, or you can send thank you's via email, letting your guest know that you haven't forgotten about them, however you are still awaiting your photos. Ecards has lovely thank you's.

Housewife is absolutely right. It is a nice gesture to send just a generic pre-thank you card or an e-card. The bottom line - anything is better than nothing. It really doesn't take anything out of a person to set aside some time and take care of those thank you cards. Don't procrastinate, it doesn't take much to say "thank You"

I'm thinking, why can't the MOH walk to a mailbox and drop in cards? Matter of fact anyone can drop them in the mailbox for me. It's one less thing I'll have to think about on my honeymoon, after months, if not years of dealing with the endless to-do list.

I for one want to finished with all this wedding business the minute I step in the limo with DH and head off to our honeymoon.

Also IMO a late thank you IS better than none at all, and if it is late the wording might want to reflect that,not overlook look it.

Are you going on a one month honeymoon? Why cant you take it? If I was your moh I would be looking at you like you was crazy. I have no problem helping you put the thank you's togethor, but assuming just because I was your moh it is my duty to do that is crazy. After the wedding is over the duties is over.

Glad i'm not invited to your wedding.

Exactly!!!

Also, thank you notes are more personal when it comes from the couple, because only you two would know specifically what you're thanking them for. It's also nice to send thank you cards for the gifts as you receive them and after the wedding send out your generic thank you cards.

In any case, it shows that you care, when you take the time to make sure that your guetsts receive a thank you card.

NO GINOUE IT'S THE MOH DUTY! SO STOP IT. LOL

[quote="housewife147"]Are you going on a one month honeymoon? Why cant you take it? If I was your moh I would be looking at you like you was crazy. I have no problem helping you put the thank you's togethor, but assuming just because I was your moh it is my duty to do that is crazy. After the wedding is over the duties is over.
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This would be ideal for my MOH to drop them in the mailbox seeing that she hasn't helped me with anything since the start of this planning...down to licking even a single damn stamp. So, if she can't walk to a mailbox open the flap and drop in a total of 80 cards after sitting back and doing NOTHING EVER. Then pray tell, what can she do?

[quote="Ginoue"]Exactly!!!

Also, thank you notes are more personal when it comes from the couple, because only you two would know specifically what you're thanking them for. It's also nice to send thank you cards for the gifts as you receive them and after the wedding send out your generic thank you cards.

In any case, it shows that you care, when you take the time to make sure that your guetsts receive a thank you card.
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Who said that the MOH must write the damn note?

[quote="housewife147"]NO GINOUE IT'S THE MOH DUTY! SO STOP IT. LOL
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Who said the MOH had to write the damn note?

First off, if you moh didn't participate in anything dealing with your wedding then that's your fault because she would not have been in my wedding. Secondly to assume someone else can do it because you are tired is crazy. Now it's one thing to ask her if she minds, but not to say I am tired so I cant go to the mailbox as you put it and delegate it to her would be a problem to me if I was your moh. But I guest to each it's own.

[quote="MsBoston"]NO GINOUE IT'S THE MOH DUTY! SO STOP IT. LOL

Who said the MOH had to write the damn note?
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Did you see where I said it?

Let me just go to the damn corner and mind my damn business. Those are your thank you notes, and your moh's. So do what you please.

[quote="housewife147"]First off, if you moh didn't participate in anything dealing with your wedding then that's your fault because she would not have been in my wedding.Secondly to assume someone else can do it because you are tired is crazy. Now it's one thing to ask her if she minds, but not to say I am tired so I cant go to the mailbox as you put it and delegate it to her would be a problem to me if I was your moh. But I guest to each it's own.
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HW, you can't CONTROL someone else's actions, YOU of all people should know that...if I recall correctly. But the wedding must go on with others help/input/financial contribution/WALKING TO THE MAILBOX, or whatever. No one ever said I would be too tired to walk to the mailbox, I simply thought(yes, I have an opinion) that it would be a nice gesture. True, maybe she wouldn't have been in your wedding, and maybe that would have ended up being a blessing for for her.
as you can tell you don't need to SAY something to IMPLY it!

Maybe you are glad you aren't invited to my wedding because you would find it petty enough to feel disgruntled that you got a thank you card popped in the mailbox by someone other than me.
House,you're so right, to each her own.

No need to get ruffled. Let's just tank this subject and remain sisters.

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Child I am over here LMFAO. Bring it down please. I find it quite amusing how people can't express there views without someone getting upset. Like I said to each it's own. If your think it's ok and your moh is ok with it then cool.

To those who thought that my idea is ridiculous or impersonal, I rather do that, then have people waiting 6 months to get them. The table will be set up by the door for organizational purposes and we will thank the guests as they exit. Waiting on the photographer to complete your professional pictures can some times take longer than expected. and If people are kind of enough to come to our wedding and bring gifts, I don't think they should have to wait a long time to be thanked. Why not thank them right then and there?

Actually I thought your idea was fine. Now will that be there thank's and favors. your favors, or just your thank you's?

thanks hw147. favors and thank you's. the favors will acutally be placed at each place setting. I've been to many weddings and can recall each time I did not receive a thank you note. So I wanted to be different and thank them at that time.

Yeah that's a nice idea. One of the ladies on this sight did that samething and her guest loved it.

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[quote="mrsmoose091308"]To those who thought that my idea is ridiculous or impersonal, I rather do that, then have people waiting 6 months to get them. The table will be set up by the door for organizational purposes and we will thank the guests as they exit. Waiting on the photographer to complete your professional pictures can some times take longer than expected. and If people are kind of enough to come to our wedding and bring gifts, I don't think they should have to wait a long time to be thanked. Why not thank them right then and there?
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I understand what you're saying now. Your first response was stating that there is going to be a table set up by the door. Now, if I had known that the newlyweds would also thank the guests as they leave, I wouldn't have asked the question about being "impersonal". That's a great idea.

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