How Much is too much to pay for a church

Girl I have never heard of that in my life. That to me seems like alot of money. Are you planning on having everything at the church?

Did you say a church or hall?! Good Lord! That seems a bit high to me. I can ask my pastor Sunday what he charges nonmembers to use our church.

On another note, your wedding is a year away. Can you become a member? I know it may be a little wrong to join just to get married there, but you never know, this may be where you need to be.

Counseling isn't included in the pastors fee? Honey the chose is up to you and your husband, however those prices are rediculous. Sounds like someone is trying to get over. I feel like yes there are cost for people to clean, to use the church, pastor fees, etc... but when you see couples trying to live like our LORD wants us to live, you should charge them a rediculous price, memeber or not.

If his mom is a memeber and he used to be a member, why so much? I am not following did he leave the church or is he still on the church rolls. If he never officially joined another church then he should still be a member, I am shocked everybody trying to get over on wedding people. That is straight crazy. I would get married somehwere else and as his mother I would be upset they charge my flesh and blood that outrageous price.

Because my church is very small, my pastor agreed to officiate my ceremony at another church who we fellowship alot with. I only had to pay the church $100. The $1290 fee you are being charged seems EXTREME !!! FMIL should have a talk with her pastor.

I think that is REDICULOUS. I would go and find another church. I always thought the counseling goes with the pastor's fee. Something just ain't right here. I would definately find a) somewhere else or b) have everything at one location and just give the pastor his "donation"

I think the price is outrageous. At my Church, they don't even charge non-members. Focus is getting couples married. My pastor wouldnt accept payment from my new hubby and I.

Good gracious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All we have to do is give the pastor a donation! Thank you Jesus!!!!

That is crazy! Our church charges $550 for non-members but that includes the coordinator and the counseling. (Rhony, that's what you paid right?)

I hate to say it but you might want to just search elsewhere.

Ajia is right

I think the most is like 650 to 700. Don't pay more than that.

You have time so look around. Or have his mom talk to the pastor, since she is still a member and he used to be. I mean who is to say, that you still won't be charged that amount even if you do join.

They may turn around and say you have to be a member for a certian amountof time to get "the discount"

It is funny that you mention this...the going rate in my city is 1200 & up and in some places that is the membership rate. It is ridiculous. I would definately find another church.

Dear mrsmoose, I think that price is outrageous. And rather than pass judgement on a church I think I will just say this....A "Church" is just brick and stone....The real church lies in the hearts of the people. Wherever you decide to get married, IS HOLY GROUND...If you find a beautiful place like a park or garden to get married, please do not get worried....God is there...because marriage is HIS thing...We decided to do my church because it was free, and the plaaning was easier-but not our first choice. We were originally going to get married at a hotel that had a beautiful garden gazebo out of town-but the logistics of planning a destination wedding weighed on us as far as the time to put in it-However, we were given so much criticism about not having a church wedding from our family members (who don't go to church much by the way-or even have a church home). So I just said to them what I am saying to you....cause 1290.00 is a lot anyway you put it! Listen to these ladies...they are absolutely right!

I agree with Bumblebeekee...GOD is in your heart, HE is everywhere. Me and my FH will be marrying in a state park, the setting is beautiful. Try to keep the focus on your marriage to your FH instead of where, then everything will work out and you will have the wedding of your dreams.

[quote="mrsmoose091308"]Bumblebeekee, you hit the nail with the hammer, we had already decided that we were going to a destination wedding, people began complaining that it was too much and they couldn't afford to go. However, I told my FH that if it were just he, I and my son, I would be fine with that. But somewhere down the line it was decided that we would stay at home so they entire family can be in attendance. I am really beginning to regret changin my mind. But as you said wherever it happens I am marrying the man I love!
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Ok see now this is why we had the DW bcuz people be acting up. We were going to have the big state side wedding but we wold have had almost 300 people. Which to me was crazy, there is no reason you should be going broke on having your dream day. I had people show up to our DW unrsvp'd and I had people call us the week we were leaving telling us they were going to be there. I had one invited family decide they were going to surprise us, they surprise was on them when they didn't have a place to sit.
The bottom line is it is your day and the church is charging you too much. You can still have your DW wedding or your state side wedding and those that can come will. But it all about you and your FH and your son. Maybe you should consider having a DW and having the reception stateside, and only invite your very closest to the DW.