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How do you ladies feel or
How did you feel about your FI/DH having a Batchlor Party or having
Strippers at their Batchlor Party? Would you absolutely be against the idea or would you just be okay since its one night?

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How do you ladies feel or
How did you feel about your FI/DH having a Batchlor Party or having
Strippers at their Batchlor Party? Would you absolutely be against the idea or would you just be okay since its one night?

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My husband declined having strippers at his bachelors party. I didn't want any at mine either.

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I didn't mind but his guys didn't do it. Its his night so I think it should up to th guy.

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My DH didn't really have a bachelor party. Him and the guys just went club hopping in NYC. If he did have a bachelor party I don't think I would have minded strippers being there.

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Strippers, for me nah. They do nothing for me and I think its a waste of money.

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I didnt mind one way or the other, although he didnt have any. they didnt even go out to celebrate. I felt bad because my girls did it up for me and he got nothing...

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My DH didin't want (or have) a stripper at his. I didn't have any say-so at mine...my MOH got me one. Didn't care for him...he was more for the guests, than me.

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Well, beings though me and DH have gone to a strip club together and he's around women shaking tail feathers almost 6 days a week, I can't say I would mind. At the same time he didn't even want a party at all ...so we had a Co-Ed Bachelor/Bachelorrette Party ...and had a ball!!!

I will also say if any woman has reservations about the thought, I completely understand!

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I don't think I would mind if FH wants to have strippers at his bachelor party. I don't know if he intends to have one or not. I'm not sure what my girls are planning for me.

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I think it depends on how you feel about it..if it is a problem for you (knowing he has strippers) then let him know..if not, don't worry about it!!!!!!!!! you'll have him 4ever!!!!!! :)

DH didn't have a bachelor party nor did I have a bachelorette--we had a 'Mingle While Single' night out together with all of our friends the night before the wedding instead--and had lots of fun

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I don't mind if FH ends up having the typical "boys night out". I wouldnt marry a man I dont trust.
I cant see my sister/MOH hiring a male stripper for my party, we have always agreed that they all look gay. LOL

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Thanks for the Responses Ladies!!!!

Me personally I wouldnt have a problem with it at all. I know my girls are going to go all out sooooo I know my FI guys will do the same. I trust him and I am very secure in our relationship......

I opened this discussion because m coworker is getting married Saturday and his FI is heated about his upcoming batchlor party and forbid him to go or stay if strippers are there. He is really stressed about it. I just wanted to know how my fellow VIBride Sistas felt about it...because his FI is not having it.

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I didn't want a stripper but had one anyway. DH was heated! Oh well!

He didn't even have a party but I wouldn't have cared either way. I can work that pole with some of the best mid-level strippers! LOL!

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[quote="FutureMrsKeepUp"] I can work that pole with some of the best mid-level strippers! LOL!
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LOL. You Go Girl.

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I'm a little late on this one. But my DH went with his cousin and friends to ATL (cousin plays for the Falcons), and he treated them all to a fun weekend-basically high profile bar-hopping, and I even heard about a strip clubs here and there. His cousin also threw a big party at Verve and I even saw the pictures! He basically spent most of the time just trying to be fly and cool, and I'm glad he had some fun! He came back and complained about having to give the strippers his money-he didn't want to be the only one not "making it rain or WHATEVER", and was glad that he has a free one he's marrying soon-so go figure!

okay is that Bad for me or GOOD? I mean why do I have to be a FREE STRIPPER? (LOL)

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You are paid for your services in forms other than money! :-)

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Personally I wouldn't want my DH to have strippers at his party, but I wouldn't "forbid" him to. He's a grown man that can make his own decisions. I would tell him how I feel about the whole stripper thing and let him go from there. I didn't have a stripper...and turns out that my hubby told his friends he didn't want one at his party either....thank goodness...I didn't have to say anything regarding that. Also and this is "just my opinion" so please don't hang me!...lol I don't understand why it's okay for some strange lady to dance all over my and he give her money on this one night, when it's not going to be okay or has not been okay through our relationship. For me it's not the matter of trusting him because I wouldn't have married him if I didn't trust him, to ME it's just a matter of respect. Why are you going to go out (and why would you want to) and PAY some other chick to dance, wiggle and rub on ya when I'm sitting at home willing to do it for free....(and believe me...I can do a little sumpin' sumpin'...ain't been saved ALL MY LIFE...LOL). Again this is just my opinion, no dis-respect to anyone that may have a different one....different strokes for different folks...

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[quote="soontobebride"] Why are you going to go out (and why would you want to) and PAY some other chick to dance, wiggle and rub on ya when I'm sitting at home willing to do it for free....(and believe me...I can do a little sumpin' sumpin'...ain't been saved ALL MY LIFE...LOL).
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Say it girl!!!!!!!!!! LOL

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[quote="Shy41208"]You are paid for your services in forms other than money! :-)
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You right girl! This bee gets paid well:)

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I just asked DH why he doesn't like strippers and he made me chuckle. He said I married a stripper. Yeah right but what I realize is my hubby is cheap he was like we can role play at home.

That got me wondering Would you role play with your hubby? I know it's sounds crazy but would you do it.

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DH and I role play to a certain extent. I might say something totally innocent and unrelated to sex and he'll turn it around somehow and I'll play along. We've never done the whole dress up thing except one year he was Santa. I've considered surprising him with a few wigs so he could cheat on me with me..LOL You've got to keep it interesting ya know.

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We do sometimes. Beings though DH works in a bar, I'll come up at night ...and act like I don't know him. Sometimes I blow him off being the stuck up type but be real flirty/tease type ..and sometimes I'll take him home for a one night stand. Depends on how I'm dressed ..the mode ...and so on. We have fun.

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[quote="pamcrow"]DH and I role play to a certain extent. I might say something totally innocent and unrelated to sex and he'll turn it around somehow and I'll play along. We've never done the whole dress up thing except one year he was Santa. I've considered surprising him with a few wigs so he could cheat on me with me..LOL You've got to keep it interesting ya know.
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THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKIN' BOUT!!!!....lol....go head ya freak!....lol I love it....

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Like Diva T and Pamcrow, I believe that you have to change it up to keep it fresh and interesting. You don't want it to get boring by keeping it conventional. So I say, change it up and be the stripper your husband or FH wants you to be (at home, of course!!!)

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baby I would dress up down and be whatever my dh wants me to be i believe another said it best you fo have to do things to keep it exciting and interesting or you'll get bored and thats the last thing u want to do, so DRESS UP LADIES.