My fiance's behavior - is it common?

My fiance is the exact same way. Basically, us ladies have been waiting for this day since we were little girls and men don't think about the intricate details. Anyways, my fiance came up with an idea. I discuss any details of the wedding with him for one hour a day & with that I get to give ideas & he gets to give ideas. It may work for you. :)

I guess now you know why traditionally men are not a part of the wedding planning! Guys are guys. They usually will be glad to simply show up and have all the descisions concerning the wedding made for them. Take a deep breath and find someone else to discuss these things with, i.e. your maid of honor. Afterall that is her role in all this. If you can;t talk to her end on end about your wedding, tell US at vibride.com! We just love to hear all about it. Smile.

I wish I could say the same thing about my man. Our wedding is now just around the corner and everytime I want to plan something he wants to put his two cents in it. I know he means well but since I've helped plan a lot of my friends and family weddings I know more then he does. I let him handle alot but when I want to take care of somethings on my own he's right there in the mix. What can I do to make him see that I got this.

I found out that men have no idea HOW to help. Or that they think it's gay (what the f---????) or feminine to even CARE about the wedding details. These are some books that will help both of you know where he can fit in!

1. Groom's Secret Handbook: How Not to Screw up the Biggest Day of Her Life
2. The Complete Guide for the Anxious Groom: How to Avoid Everything that Could Go Wrong on Her Big Day
3. What the Hell Is a Groom and What's He Supposed to Do?
4. 
   Things a Man Should Know about Marriage: A Groom's Guide to the Wedding and Beyond

Rosetta note the key words in the book titles you selected "THE BIGGEST DAY OF HER LIFE, and "HER BIG DAY." I love the fact that he wants to help but more times then none he's just in the way. AND when I do give him something to do I end up having to either do it myself or redoing it. So now what do I do about that?

LOL. I know, I know. Just WAIT until he is your husband. Lawdy men can be a trip and a half! LOL. There isn't much you can do about it. That's why ZI recommended the books. It will give him a wake up call. They are very funny and belive it or not are written with a guy's perspective. He will love any of them and you will see the change. I bought DADA for my husband when we gotn pregnant with our first child last year. Up until then he was a real pain in the ass. But after reading just a few lines he started to chuckle and ever since he has been so suportive of me and our new daughter. THe power of someone elses expert advice. lol Good luck!

Thank you soooooooooo much we are going to the book store 2 day.

Rosetta you are so right. My husband and I will be married a year next month. When we were planning our wedding my husband was just as clueless and unconcerned. I would try and include him and ususally get upset because of his lack of interest. He finally said "Just let me pick out the tux's, tell me where to be and when to be there." My hubby actually forgot to pick up the flowers for the tux's from my mom's house the night before the wedding and return phone calls to his family about driving directions to the church. SO I spent all night until 1:30 in the mornin going over his "to do" list and my wedding was at 10:00am the following morning. He actually went from the rehearsal to the bar with his "groomsmen" and didn't get in until 6:30 the morning of. Then they all turn around and wake up late just to dress and redress because we ( my maid of honor & I ) had hung there tux's in seperate rooms when we went to drop of the flowers. They were in a panic because their tux's were too small or big. :) It all ended up beautiful to this day and he wishes he'd done exactly what he did in planning - nothing!!! SMILE ladies and if he wants to help let him and if not, maybe you should count your blessings. Oh yeah did I mention he wanted our first dance to be to the tune " we are the champions" -lol see what I mean!!!

lol. Great to hear from you again Jasingel! Lord what are we gonna do with our husbands but love them to bits??? Grin. Soooo Where are those wedding pics? Don't you think I want to see what you guys did? My featured bride section is so sad. There haven't been any new wedding stories in a while send 'em in!

girl been there done that. My wedding is 8/6/05 and mine did the same thing. He slow pocked around and wouldn't talk to me much about the wedding and it seem like I was doing all the work. I guess that is how some men are, because I have no doubt in my mind that he loves me and he tells all the time. It is just gets frustrating sometimes. You'll get through. I know I did.

I MUST SAY BE PREPARED TO DO ALL THE PLANNING ON YOUR OWN! MEN ARE NOT INTO WEDDINGS LIKE WE ARE. MY HUBBY AND I GOT MARRIED MARCH 26, 2005. HE BASICALLY TOLD ME WHAT TYPE OF TUX HE WANTED TO WEAR AND EVERYTHING WAS ON ME!!!!! BE PREPARED TO BE EXHAUSTED!!! IT'S YOUR DAY AND WHEN I SAY THAT I MEAN IT LITERALLY SO HANG TOUGH AND GET ALL YOUR THINGS TOGETHER EARLY, SO THAT THE LAST THREE MONTHS YOU CAN COAST.

OMG, i guess i should have read this way back. you all gave such good advice to her. ive been going through the same, and reading your comments has made me feel so much better. It seems the more we talk about the wedding the more we are at odds. you girls are great to each other!!! ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Rosetta, you're absolutely right. DaughterRhonda, I went through the same thing with my husband. As the festivities were getting closer (maybe five months before) that is when he became more involved. I did a lot (and I mean a lot) of talking to my daughter, who was my matron of honor and my mother, and thank goodness I happened to stumble on to Vibride.

This has helped me too. My honey is coasting. He feels like he has already made the big decision. So, what's all of the fuss! Daughter Rhonda, it's not just you!!! :)

Ladies we have to remember while they mean no harm, they are men...we proces with our hearts and they don't. They will come around as the date draws nearer. So my advise to you is relax and let it flow.....and flow it will..