My sweetie wants our invitation read during the announcements at his home church were he is an Associate Minister. Realistically only 30 - 50 people in the church and community will actually recieve invitations to the wedding, in addition to his family. I think having it read is an open invition to everyone present, this could be 300+ people. He is well loved by his church family but the fact of the matter is we can not invite everyone. I suggested have a "reception" in his home town when we return from the honeymoon. Any other suggestions?
My sweetie wants our invitation read during the announcements at his home church were he is an Associate Minister. Realistically only 30 - 50 people in the church and community will actually recieve invitations to the wedding, in addition to his family. I think having it read is an open invition to everyone present, this could be 300+ people. He is well loved by his church family but the fact of the matter is we can not invite everyone. I suggested have a "reception" in his home town when we return from the honeymoon. Any other suggestions?
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That is a really touchy one! I think you should announce that you are getting married in church. Even the date. He is associate minister so it is the right thing to do. This however is not an invitation to the ceremony and won't be veiwed as that. If you can get him not to say the words,"you are all invited," then you will still be in the clear! lol We announced ours at our church during our mass at 11am, when the heathens go (about 100 people), but my parents announced it at 6am when the devout go about 300! We only sent out 50 invites and got about 75 people there. But we did get a lot of gifts! SO it all worked out.
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Rosetta, I totally agree with you this is touchy. I had my annoucement read in church during regular service and the clerk took it upon herself to read it again the following sunday. However it was read as though it was an open invite to the wedding but the reception was by invitation only. THankfully only those in the church with actual invites to the reception came to it. I did have a lot of my church family at the wedding though. Good luck Venet with this one.
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My church has a huge calender hanging out in the foyer. All events of the church are placed on it. That is how my wedding will be announced. I will send individual invitations to members of my church who I want to attend. I already know that other church folk will show up just to be nosey.
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Vanet, due to your FH's position within the church I think a church announcement would be applicable for the two of you. You both may want to think about allowing more people at the ceremony to accomodate a larger church family and then have a smaller, more private reception for family and close friends that will be strictly by invitation only, girl keep the location a secret if you have to :) I've learned that when dealing with church fams you're ALWAYS going to disappoint someone and tho many like to just come around and see what your wedding is all about, a significant number may just want to witness your ceremony.
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I say, have it read during normal church services. That way noone will feel like they were not notified about the wedding and you can just have the clerk state that the reception is by invite only. I will be having my wedding invitation read in church but only about 30 out of 150 will actually get an invitation to the wedding/reception.
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[quote="jasnigel"]Rosetta, I totally agree with you this is touchy. I had my annoucement read in church during regular service and the clerk took it upon herself to read it again the following sunday. [/quote]
YIKES! You dodged a bullet. That is everyone's fear. more than you could afford to feed. A good caterer always makes more for at least 10 more people at no charge. Inside secret.
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Rosetta, thanks to what you mentioned I've decided with confirmation from my mother to just have an announcement made at church. Not to have the invitation read mind you but to have a separate announcement made on the computer on a nice card stock. The announcement will not have the word invite in it nor will it have the time. Those who are invited know who they are. Mention of the reception is out of the equation. Thanks much.
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Hmmmm...this is sticky, you know church folk...once something is read they do not hear the part of "Invite Only"..they hear what they want to hear and then show up.This one is even out of my reach!
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