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kym19751
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Wedding Party Cutbacks

Hello Everyone,

I have a question. What is the proper way to tell someone that you dont want them to be in your wedding party. I didnt ask her, she basically invited herself to be in it, but since she is my cousin by marriage I am having a hard time coming up with a way to tell her that she cant be in it, but I would love to have her as a guest. HELP PLEASE!

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Wedding Party Cutbacks

Hello Everyone,

I have a question. What is the proper way to tell someone that you dont want them to be in your wedding party. I didnt ask her, she basically invited herself to be in it, but since she is my cousin by marriage I am having a hard time coming up with a way to tell her that she cant be in it, but I would love to have her as a guest. HELP PLEASE!

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Re: Wedding Party Cutbacks

Hi Kim and welcome. Listen girl, there is no use sugar coating the situation or proloning it. Just speak with her and tell her how you feel, the longer you take, the more difficult and embarrassing it will be for her. To soften the blow, maybe you should offer her an usher position.

Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.

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There is no easy way to do this. Explain to her that you appreciate her wanting to stand up for you. Let her know that you selected you wedding party and apologize for the the miss understanding leading her to think that she was indeed part of the wedding party (even though she self invited). It's a tactful way to do it, and yes, if you so choose, offer her a smaller role in your day.

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Thanks to everyone for their help. I didn's want to seem as if I were being mean. Thanks again.