guest coming out of woodwork!!!

Hi, and welcome. That always happens, once you tell someone your getting married they assume they're invited. Well the tent option sounds great if they can endure the heat. But if you are actually sending 100 invititations out you can count on more than 100 guest, unless the invitation is for one person only. It's rare that you see an attendee solo at a wedding.

My husband and I had the same problem. For the people that assumed that they were invited, I said (simply and kindly) -- sorry, but we have a budget for a specific number of guests. After we have a final count of attendees and nonattendees, if we still have not met our quota of guests, you are more than welcome to attend. I will keep you informed. I hope this helps.

Sevans5108, you are going to have to take 2ndtime's advice and tell them you have a quota. About the invitations...girl if your friends in houston are anything like my friends in Nassau...sending out 100 invitations would mean you are to expect 200 guests. I strongly suggest that you indicate how many people are actually invited per invitation and request that they present them at the reception, just to reiterate that there is a limit and only people who are invited are actually welcomed. You have to stand strong and do this or you will have to pay for the overflow of uninvited guests.

I'm having the same problem. People I havent seen in years think their invited. Just send out the invitations. When she see's that she didn't get one, she'll get the hint. If she asks, just tell her that you're having a small intimate wedding and you just couldnt invite everyone. Someone's always going to get hurt when planning a wedding and there's nothing you can do about it.

2ndTime, that's what I have been doing also. People have assumed that they were invited and I had to break the truth to them.
It's hard, but you have to live after the vows are all said and done and you don't need any extra cash flowing out of your pockets when you are already putting out so much.

Have a private reception. Have only a few reception cards with the details and only those with a reception card will:

1. Know where to go
2. Have directions to get there
3. Get food to eat. Tell people seats are limited.

Same issue. Call me ghetto, but I put a number invited line, and anumber attending line so there would be no error. I didn't put a reception on the invite. When they RSVP, they will get an invite to the reception. I know that's kinda doing things twice, but I'd rather spend money on 100 more stamps, than 100+ people.

1--what attrition should i expect? you should expect about 80-85 guest to respond to the invites
#2--would it be tacky to erect tent in garden to accomodate overflow. No i think that would eb a good idea if the reception site will let you do it.
#3--can i have a seperate event for overflow people. Yes you can have the 1st recpection right after the ceremony, and a 2nd reception the following weekend if you have the money to do it. if not just send out invites to the guest that are part of the overflow and let then know that a 2nd reception will held at a later date.

best of luck

Welcome sevan! I agree with what the other ladies said, why don't you have an invitational reception. To come to the reception they must have the invitation for the reception.

[quote="VWallace"]Same issue. Call me ghetto, but I put a number invited line, and anumber attending line so there would be no error. I didn't put a reception on the invite. When they RSVP, they will get an invite to the reception. I know that's kinda doing things twice, but I'd rather spend money on 100 more stamps, than 100+ people.
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Bettle as tired as I was reading this complicated plan (lol)...I so agree with you...it just makes so much more sense to me.

I will have the same problem as we can only afford a same but nice wedding. I want a nice reception hall and I therefore cannot invite everyone. I will have to tell people that it was a small intimate affair and they will have to understand. Try me line. My pay, my day, my way. End of discussion.

Hi Mycenae1918, I like your style. I had to tell my church family that I am having an intimate private wedding for the same reason. I just can't afford to invite everyone, it would put me way overbudget. They are ok with it. Perhaps at some time in the future FH and I will have a little celebration to include them but for now it is only a discussion.

how about this idea.I attended a wedding last year where they was a sit down meal for 80 guest who also attended the ceremony.The ceremony was at 2pm.Later around 6pm when dinner was over another set of guest attended for the evening reception they were in time to see the cutting of the cake and the 1st dance.No more chairs where needed as people where mingling or at the bar.

I made 100 invitations and I still need 5 more but I know every body is not going to come. I am thinking that we should just had a private ceremony just for our families

Relax, relate, release! It will be ok! Hopefully all 100-105 won't show up.

I'm sure it will work out fine!