Hey ladies I am only 19 and by my wedding day I would be 20. My fiance is 24. Some ppl seem to think that I am too young to get married what do you guys think?
Hey ladies I am only 19 and by my wedding day I would be 20. My fiance is 24. Some ppl seem to think that I am too young to get married what do you guys think?
Do what is right for you. Make sure it is true in your heart and not just something fun to plan for. Make sure your finacee is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and make sure he feels the SAME way. Be prepared to be able to devote yourself to one man and he to one woman. Sometimes age makes a big difference in when this ability to commit occurs. Make sure you are still accomplishing things to contribute to your success. Make sure you both are able to grow TOGETHER, not apart. That was something we had to work on in our relationship. I will also be a young bride, but we are working together as a team to accomplish our goals in life. I have already graduated from college and finacee is still in school. We are still striving for comfort and success as a couple. Make sure you both are working together and improving yourselves. I am 22 and my fiancee is 25, we have been together for 6 years, 7 when we marry. We could not see ourselves without each other.
So, no I do not think you are too young if you all want to marry for the right reason and you took time out to consider the future of your decision. If your family is against it, give it a second look and listen to their reasoning.
There is nothing that we can say that you haven't already heard. Age has nothing to do with preparedness. If the two of you believe that this is forever, go for it. Marriage should not be entered into lightly, you are not playing house, or grown-ups, it's for real and should be for keeps. Many people take a lackadaisical approach to marriage, it's not always sunshine and roses. It's ever changing. No one can tell you when you ready for this type of commitment, that's one for you, your fiance, and God. Pray, the answer will come.
Thanks for your advice ladies. I know I'm ready and I know he is too it was just that my mom was saying she thinks we should wait until we're both finished with school first and have good careers. In my opinion I don't see the point in waiting for that as long as we do finish school as planned. I don't need to wait for him to have the perfect job with all the money in the world to become his wife because that's not what is important. We're both financially stable enough in the jobs we have now to live pretty comfortably so it's not like he is unemployed and incapable of supporting us. There's no reason to wait when we know that this is a commitment we are ready to make now. Some ppl think that because we are young we don't understand the seriousness of marriage and that it's not always happy times and that it is a covenant between us and God not just fun and games.My parents were together for 10 years before they got married so maybe that is what her opinion is based on. This is the man I could never see living my life without and on August 18th, 2006 dang it I'm gonna marry him!!!! LOL
If it makes you feel better, my fiance and I have heard some of the same criticism. We've had an interesting road and we've traveled it together for the last four and a half years. Sometimes, things were really tough, but we were committed to being friends and partners. We went to couple's therapy together before we even discussed getting engaged. The point I am making is that commitment is the most important factor. No one can tell you what your road will be like. But, if you are commited to staying on the path with your partner, then you can accomplish anything together. We are 28 and 30. We both have undergraduate AND master's degrees and are steadily progressing in our perspective fields. Our parents STILL don't think we are ready. So, live your life and if you believe in prayer get started because joining your life with anyone else is going to be challenging. Are you considering couple's counseling? Do you have ideas in place for what to do when times get tough? Just a few ideas. Good luck, sister!
I agree with everyone! My fiance and I are 25 and will be married in March. We have been together for 7 years and some people (my single friends...lol) dont think marriage is a good idea. It's not about age, it's about your commitment to each other.
Honestly.....19/20 is very young to be getting married. I do not say this to upset you or any of you other fabulous ladies, but I must be honest. I got married at 25, I had travelled the world and thought for sure I was ready, my then husband was 33, I thought the only left to do was marry the man of my dream, I was so sure. Remember your mother loves you and only want what's best for you. Just know that marriage is a major sacrifice, and it will not be about YOU anymore, from as simple as what color to paint the bathroom.....it is 50/50. Know that with time comes wisdom, just be sure that both of you know exactly what is expected of the other before entering into it, ensure you can deal with the demands and challenges of it before you get married, you do not want to feel as though you are missing out on any of life's adventures being a wife at 20. LEAVE NO ROOM FOR......WHAT IF!?Bold Text
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I just want to say to listen to your heart. Noone knows what you feel inside except for you and if you are 19 or 52 only you are going to know if you've found someone worth spending the rest of your life with and only you are going to know if those feeling are real. I to will be a young bride, I will be 21 by the time my fiance and I get married and even though yes I am young, I am lucky to have found someone who loves me for who I am and I am lucky to go through the rest of my many years with a wonderful man by my side. Life is too short to wait until someone else thinks it's the right time for you to get married. Girl go for it and enjoy your life together. Congratulations!
Commit your way to the Lord; trust also in Him and He will bring it to pass.(Psalm 37:5)
Again thank you ladies for your input. SOUTHERNTHOUGHTS yes we are considering pre-marital counseling. We've had alot of discussions about what we expect from eachother as husband and wife. What we each of us feels the role of a husband and wife are. We are much wiser than ppl give us credit for I think.CHARLOTTE no offense taken it's always good to see both perspectives. Though I have not traveled the world yet I am 100% sure this is the man I want to spend every single day of the rest of my life with, and hey maybe we can travel the world together:)
Excited1, the way your responded to my objectivity tells me that you are focused, goal oriented and have a purpose driven life. I do give you credit for knowing what you want at 19--normally at the age most are still into partying. Please talk about everything and even things you do not think you need to talk about, be prepared for the unexpected and weather the storm together..that is the only way you will make it. Marriage is very serious and should not be taken lightly and rough times will come and expect them to come soon. Just be prepared, the enemy is busy and his mission is to destroy families, Keep God above all and in the midst, always pray together and make time for God and each other. Against all odds, if you serve God and obey His command, He will bless your union. Be encouraged, God bless you and I speak life on you and your FH and your marriage.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Keep God first in everything. It's true that a family that prays together stays together. And talk too each other, communication is an essential element in all relationships. You'll be alright.
Excited 1 I think you are going to be fine. Celebrate this beautiful time in your life. I'm going to offer the same advice that an older woman offered to me. Talk to someone that has what you want. For example, is there an older woman that married at a younger age who has a successful relationship? She may be able to help talk you through some of the ineveitable pitfalls. I'm praying that God put someone in my life so that I may have a "mentor" of sorts myself. Just a thought!
Hey ladies I am only 19 and by my wedding day I would be 20. My fiance is 24. Some ppl seem to think that I am too young to get married what do you guys think?
Do what is right for you. Make sure it is true in your heart and not just something fun to plan for. Make sure your finacee is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and make sure he feels the SAME way. Be prepared to be able to devote yourself to one man and he to one woman. Sometimes age makes a big difference in when this ability to commit occurs. Make sure you are still accomplishing things to contribute to your success. Make sure you both are able to grow TOGETHER, not apart. That was something we had to work on in our relationship. I will also be a young bride, but we are working together as a team to accomplish our goals in life. I have already graduated from college and finacee is still in school. We are still striving for comfort and success as a couple. Make sure you both are working together and improving yourselves. I am 22 and my fiancee is 25, we have been together for 6 years, 7 when we marry. We could not see ourselves without each other.
So, no I do not think you are too young if you all want to marry for the right reason and you took time out to consider the future of your decision. If your family is against it, give it a second look and listen to their reasoning.
There is nothing that we can say that you haven't already heard. Age has nothing to do with preparedness. If the two of you believe that this is forever, go for it. Marriage should not be entered into lightly, you are not playing house, or grown-ups, it's for real and should be for keeps. Many people take a lackadaisical approach to marriage, it's not always sunshine and roses. It's ever changing. No one can tell you when you ready for this type of commitment, that's one for you, your fiance, and God. Pray, the answer will come.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
Thanks for your advice ladies. I know I'm ready and I know he is too it was just that my mom was saying she thinks we should wait until we're both finished with school first and have good careers. In my opinion I don't see the point in waiting for that as long as we do finish school as planned. I don't need to wait for him to have the perfect job with all the money in the world to become his wife because that's not what is important. We're both financially stable enough in the jobs we have now to live pretty comfortably so it's not like he is unemployed and incapable of supporting us. There's no reason to wait when we know that this is a commitment we are ready to make now. Some ppl think that because we are young we don't understand the seriousness of marriage and that it's not always happy times and that it is a covenant between us and God not just fun and games.My parents were together for 10 years before they got married so maybe that is what her opinion is based on. This is the man I could never see living my life without and on August 18th, 2006 dang it I'm gonna marry him!!!! LOL
If it makes you feel better, my fiance and I have heard some of the same criticism. We've had an interesting road and we've traveled it together for the last four and a half years. Sometimes, things were really tough, but we were committed to being friends and partners. We went to couple's therapy together before we even discussed getting engaged. The point I am making is that commitment is the most important factor. No one can tell you what your road will be like. But, if you are commited to staying on the path with your partner, then you can accomplish anything together. We are 28 and 30. We both have undergraduate AND master's degrees and are steadily progressing in our perspective fields. Our parents STILL don't think we are ready. So, live your life and if you believe in prayer get started because joining your life with anyone else is going to be challenging. Are you considering couple's counseling? Do you have ideas in place for what to do when times get tough? Just a few ideas. Good luck, sister!
I agree with everyone! My fiance and I are 25 and will be married in March. We have been together for 7 years and some people (my single friends...lol) dont think marriage is a good idea. It's not about age, it's about your commitment to each other.
Honestly.....19/20 is very young to be getting married. I do not say this to upset you or any of you other fabulous ladies, but I must be honest. I got married at 25, I had travelled the world and thought for sure I was ready, my then husband was 33, I thought the only left to do was marry the man of my dream, I was so sure. Remember your mother loves you and only want what's best for you. Just know that marriage is a major sacrifice, and it will not be about YOU anymore, from as simple as what color to paint the bathroom.....it is 50/50. Know that with time comes wisdom, just be sure that both of you know exactly what is expected of the other before entering into it, ensure you can deal with the demands and challenges of it before you get married, you do not want to feel as though you are missing out on any of life's adventures being a wife at 20. LEAVE NO ROOM FOR......WHAT IF!?Bold Text
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I just want to say to listen to your heart. Noone knows what you feel inside except for you and if you are 19 or 52 only you are going to know if you've found someone worth spending the rest of your life with and only you are going to know if those feeling are real. I to will be a young bride, I will be 21 by the time my fiance and I get married and even though yes I am young, I am lucky to have found someone who loves me for who I am and I am lucky to go through the rest of my many years with a wonderful man by my side. Life is too short to wait until someone else thinks it's the right time for you to get married. Girl go for it and enjoy your life together. Congratulations!
Commit your way to the Lord; trust also in Him and He will bring it to pass.(Psalm 37:5)
Again thank you ladies for your input. SOUTHERNTHOUGHTS yes we are considering pre-marital counseling. We've had alot of discussions about what we expect from eachother as husband and wife. What we each of us feels the role of a husband and wife are. We are much wiser than ppl give us credit for I think.CHARLOTTE no offense taken it's always good to see both perspectives. Though I have not traveled the world yet I am 100% sure this is the man I want to spend every single day of the rest of my life with, and hey maybe we can travel the world together:)
Excited1, the way your responded to my objectivity tells me that you are focused, goal oriented and have a purpose driven life. I do give you credit for knowing what you want at 19--normally at the age most are still into partying. Please talk about everything and even things you do not think you need to talk about, be prepared for the unexpected and weather the storm together..that is the only way you will make it. Marriage is very serious and should not be taken lightly and rough times will come and expect them to come soon. Just be prepared, the enemy is busy and his mission is to destroy families, Keep God above all and in the midst, always pray together and make time for God and each other. Against all odds, if you serve God and obey His command, He will bless your union. Be encouraged, God bless you and I speak life on you and your FH and your marriage.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Keep God first in everything. It's true that a family that prays together stays together. And talk too each other, communication is an essential element in all relationships. You'll be alright.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
Excited 1 I think you are going to be fine. Celebrate this beautiful time in your life. I'm going to offer the same advice that an older woman offered to me. Talk to someone that has what you want. For example, is there an older woman that married at a younger age who has a successful relationship? She may be able to help talk you through some of the ineveitable pitfalls. I'm praying that God put someone in my life so that I may have a "mentor" of sorts myself. Just a thought!