Two Receptions?

I never heard of two venues, but it does not mean that you cannot pull it off -- it's your wedding -- do what you and your FH want. Personally, I feel it does not matter what anybody has or has not done. Hey, my sister-in-law and her husband left the first venue to carry on to party at another sister-in-law's house. Good Luck!

Hey Laneirh, it is really up to you and what you want and could afford. If you want to have something at the church just a thank you for all persons attending and something later for close friends and family that's all up to you. I think it is a great idea, at least you will not have to worry about people showing up at your main reception who was not invited and you get stuck with a bill after the party is over.

I've actully heard of that before. Our church families don't always get into the mixers with the R&B music or want to be in an atmosphere where cocktails are being served. It can be done, it's easier if your church has a facility to do that it. It helps cut cost.

This is a tough call. THe costs can be prohibitive. Other brides have had similar concerns. Check out these other threads:

Pleasing everyone
Hard Decision

Hi Laneirh, as 2nd time and the other brides recommends do what is best for you and your FH. I have the same dilemma. My church is very strict and doesn't believe in dancing. I respect them and don't want to offend them, however I don't share their views. In the beginning I was entertaining doing two receptions, and then realized that this was completely out of the budget that my FH and I set. We then opted to have a private wedding ceremony and a private reception. I know this may seem a little strange, but I want my day to be everything that I want it to be and I don't want to please everyone at the expense of my own unhappiness. I wish you all the best in your decision.

"Straight up!"....do what your heart desires and you can afford.

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Good for you! That is the best idea. It will offend no one and you can let loose without guilt. Make a joyful noise.

Yes, it will truly be joyful -- with no guilt and no regrets!!! Thanks.

Laneirh, our budget is $5,000 also. My main focus is to have a day that my FH and I can remember, something elegant, intimate with my closest family and friends. I will have the pictures and the memories to last a life time, good luck in your planning!!!!

Laneirh...I do not know if you are planning on getting dressed at a hotel....if you are then maybe they can throw in the reception area for you. I know it sounds weird but nothing beats a try than a failure. When I got married in 94, I rented the suite in the Sheraton British Colonial (Hilton) for 4 days, it was huge and the entire bridal party stayed there....what they did for me (oh and by the way, they may even have a discount cus of a wedding) they offered me there pool so I could have my reception and if it rained they gave me the option to come in the ballroom FREE....they provided and chairs, tabels, clothe and all I needed to bring was a cateria....Girl was that a blessing or what and a poolside reception in the evening with lighting next to the ocean was .......oh my goodness, so beautiful and romantic. You should look into something like that..I know it saved me about $3,500.00.

I plan on getting dressed at a hotel, I will look into that option as well. Thanks CharlotteModebe -- you ladies are awesome!!!!