I asked my favorite cousin to be a bridesmaid in my wedding and guess what her response was?"I'll try to be there".What is this girl thinking?My maid of honor is my friend of 13 years and the other bridesmaids are members of my FH's family. (This is my choice because most of my family member on my mom's side I don't get along with and I'm not really close to family on my father's side).My cousin and I are very close but I don't think she really understands the concept of what I'm asking of her.What should I say to her to get her to understand?I'm not asking her to be a guest,I want her to participate.
I asked my favorite cousin to be a bridesmaid in my wedding and guess what her response was?"I'll try to be there".What is this girl thinking?My maid of honor is my friend of 13 years and the other bridesmaids are members of my FH's family. (This is my choice because most of my family member on my mom's side I don't get along with and I'm not really close to family on my father's side).My cousin and I are very close but I don't think she really understands the concept of what I'm asking of her.What should I say to her to get her to understand?I'm not asking her to be a guest,I want her to participate.
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WOW, "I'll try to be there." Maybe she didn't really HEAR what you were asking her. I would ask again. Make it very clear you want her to be IN the wedding not just a guest. If you get the same or a similar response, you have your answer.
I agree to what L_evet stated. Ask her again and wait for a response. If she doesn't give you the response you desire, let it go and let GOD......
Be Blessed.....
Platinum, have you spoken with your cousin yet? I hope everything is well with you.
Straight up say to her...WILL YOU BE ONE OF MY BRIDESMAIDS?, wait a second let it absorb so she can answer but if she looks like she is acting up let it go and move on, if you have no one else to ask just have one less bridemaid. Do not add stress to an already stressful situation like wedding planning.
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I know that hurt. SHe may have been teasing you a bit too! Write a little note and ask her formally to represent you and your family at your wedding. You could use the phrase..."Will you stand up for me as my bridesmaid?" She may be hurt that she is not your MOH.
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I would ask her again, and explain how important this is to you. If you don't get a positive response, I agree with Laneir -- you should let go and let God. I hope this works out for you Platinumstyle!
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Hello, Ladies.I apologize for not being able to respond sooner.I am a truck driver and have had some difficulty with accessing the internet while being on the road.In response to this subject, I haven't talked to my cousin about this lately. But, I will keep you ladies informed.
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Platinum I am still blown away at the idea of a lady driving a truck....that is just so very cool. Don't see a lot of that here in the Bahamas, that's why I am acting like a fool :-)
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I'll have to send you ladies a pic. :-)
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Girl you absolutely must....if you can't post it here send that bad-boy to char_wwffreak@emailaccount.com. I am so excited I can't wait. :-)
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[quote="platinumstyle"]I am a truck driver and have had some difficulty with accessing the internet while being on the road.[/quote]
Ok. That is too damn cool! What a diverse group of women are on here!
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Well, Sistas, it looks like I will have to dump my cousin as a bridesmaid.I called and asked her again about being in my wedding and she gave me the "brush-off".She didn't really seem interested.We talked on the phone a lot but when I mention the wedding and wanting her to participate, along with her adorable 3-year old daughter as flower girl; she's like "Oh, God".I'm not sure if she's jealous or not really interested because they aren't a lot of our relatives having weddings. If the shoes was on the other foot, I would jump at the chance to participate in her wedding.I'm sadden by her behavior but, I shake it off.I'll just make sure that she gets a copy of my wedding video.
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Platinum I'm sorry to here that your cousin is not going to be by your side on your day. Shaking it off might be hard but it is necessary for you to focus on the positive. All things are for a reason.
Thank you L_evet.You're right, I still have to concentrate on this wedding.Everything happens for a reason but I pray that she'll have a change of heart. After all, she is my favorite cousin.But, life still goes on.
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She is your favorite cousin and he is your favorite guy....hmmmm!, lets see who is more important, and where your focus hsould really be. You can not beat yourself up if she is playing the fool, do not let this trash your special day, if she loves you as much as you love her, she will come around.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.