THere seems to be a lot of discussion on including children in the wedding. I'd like to add my question. My FH has a child - his wife is deceased and so I will be adopting her formally after we get married. We are trying to find a way to include her formally in the joining of our lives. I thought of doing a little vow exchange with her but my FH and I disagree on when it should be. I have tiny bits of tradition in me and I did want the 'you may kiss the bride' to be the last thing in the ceremony but he thinks that we should do her vows after we do our own. What do you think. Also are there any other suggestions on how we might symbolize the joining of the three of us as a family? Maybe a family prayer or something - I don't really have any other ideas.
THere seems to be a lot of discussion on including children in the wedding. I'd like to add my question. My FH has a child - his wife is deceased and so I will be adopting her formally after we get married. We are trying to find a way to include her formally in the joining of our lives. I thought of doing a little vow exchange with her but my FH and I disagree on when it should be. I have tiny bits of tradition in me and I did want the 'you may kiss the bride' to be the last thing in the ceremony but he thinks that we should do her vows after we do our own. What do you think. Also are there any other suggestions on how we might symbolize the joining of the three of us as a family? Maybe a family prayer or something - I don't really have any other ideas.
One of our brides did this and the idea went over really well. In addition consider having your new daughter light a Unity Candle during the unity ceremony.
[quote="venet"]Re: Children
Posted on: 04/05/2004 01:37 PM
What you are wanting to do is called a blended family ceremony. We plan to do this after our vows to each other. This can be spoken directly to the child or as it is written here to the bride/groom:
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Here is a detailed articlr of the Unity Ceremony. I forgot to put the link, lol.
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Rosetta,
THose vows are beautiful. THank you very much.
Hi Karenita1, my FH and I are also incorporating the unity ceremony into our marraige ceremony. I think it is really a beautiful thing. Our daughter will remember that moment for the rest of her life. Rosetta's suggestions are right on target, the vow she has posted here is awesome! Congratulations on your wedding and your upcoming adoption. You are truly blessed!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Kay Kay you are going to be tremendously blessed on your wedding day---you know children are a blessing from God and so is a union between man and woman.....Girl you gat it overflowing. Congratulations
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The other day, I saw a show on Oxygen (I think it was The Knot weddings) and they had a similar situation. Groom had a son and the bride said something to that effect in the vows (including the child). The unique part is the bride also gave a ring to the child (it was on a necklace).
Including children is a wonderful thing for everyone involved.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
It will make the child feel like they "belong" and that is so very important. Often times we tend to do that...not intentionally but it happens.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Actually septbride I thought about giving my future daughter a symbol of some kind like a ring or necklace so thanks for that information.
Whatever you want to give her or do...ensure that you do it in the middle/during of the ceremony...remember children are different from adults..they need that attention to thrive and feel special.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.