I never thought I would be getting married and now I'm beginning to plan my wedding for 07. We want to have a small, intimate ceremony with family but a big reception with both family and friends. I feel guilty about not inviting friends to the ceremony and church members to the reception. Anyone have any suggestions or ideas? I am new at this whole wedding thought process. Oh yea, how much should we give our pastor for performing the ceremony.
Any input would be appreciated.
I never thought I would be getting married and now I'm beginning to plan my wedding for 07. We want to have a small, intimate ceremony with family but a big reception with both family and friends. I feel guilty about not inviting friends to the ceremony and church members to the reception. Anyone have any suggestions or ideas? I am new at this whole wedding thought process. Oh yea, how much should we give our pastor for performing the ceremony.
Any input would be appreciated.
Hey there lovin,,,,welcome to the site. Listen girl drop that guilt feeling right now, there is absolutely no need for you to feel guilty, you are inviting them to the most important part which I am sure most people are only interested in anyway..this is your wedding and you have the option to do as your heart desires. Keep it personal which a wedding is all about.... people who are not close to you will not appreciate the intimacy you are looking for--most only come to look at the dresses anyway, so keep the wedding ceremony very private as your heart desires and then have a bash at the reception. Good blessings
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Thanks for the words of encouragement CharlotteModebe . That little bit has helped make some big decisions.
My pleasure .....I am very happy to help--if only in a little way, this site is fill with great sistas that are fill with knowledge so you're in the right place at the right time :-)
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Hi Lovinhim and welcome to the boards! I agree with Charlotte, drop the guilt. My wedding is 11/11/2006 and I was faced with some of the same choices you have. My fiance and I have a small budget and have opted to have a small intimate ceremony and reception. We will only have close family and close friends at our celebration. In the beginning my family tried to give me the guilt trip. I explained that I know what I could afford to pay for and since my FH and I are financing our entire function we had to do what is best for us. My FH and I are totally at peace with our decision and are looking forward to our big day. I wish you all the best and I hope that your celebration is everything that you want it to be!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Hi lovinhim, Welcome. The church secretary could probably answer the question about your pastor's fee. If not maybe one of the church officers can tell you. Good luck with your planning.
God is good all the time and all the time God is good
Oh my!...I never noticed the next question about the Paor's fee...I take on that is if you are a regular member of the church and are involved with ministry...there should not be a fee. At my first wedding, I did not pay a fee cause I was a choir member but I donated my flowers to the altar and that was it. They never asked for a fee.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.