Hello, I am getting married on 11/25/06 and I am having a hard time with my guest list for the wedding. I set out to keep the number under 400 but since I received my MIL's family/friend list (155 and I was shocked). Now I think we will do alright if we stay under 500. My FH's father is one of 8 and his mother (they are divorced) has a large family and my family is huge and we have alot of friends. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and I want this to be about us but HIS family "DRAMA" is worrying me to no end. For example his mother, father and stepmother will be there and none of them like on another. God help me. But I am so excited that I found this site and I will pass it on to my friends who are also planning their weddings.
Hello, I am getting married on 11/25/06 and I am having a hard time with my guest list for the wedding. I set out to keep the number under 400 but since I received my MIL's family/friend list (155 and I was shocked). Now I think we will do alright if we stay under 500. My FH's father is one of 8 and his mother (they are divorced) has a large family and my family is huge and we have alot of friends. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and I want this to be about us but HIS family "DRAMA" is worrying me to no end. For example his mother, father and stepmother will be there and none of them like on another. God help me. But I am so excited that I found this site and I will pass it on to my friends who are also planning their weddings.
Congratulations Towson1969, you are getting married exactly two weeks after me (my date is 11/11/06)! I am learning each and everyday that my wedding day is about me and my FH. One thing I also continue to keep in mind is that you can't please everyone. If you want to keep you guest list under 400 then that is what you do -- if you want to keep it under 500 then you can do that as well, but let it be on your terms. Don't allow any "DRAMA" to take away from what you and your FH are trying to accomplish, remember this is your day. Hopefully, his mother, father and stepmother will be on their best behavior and act like adults (sometimes easier said then done). Hopefully they will remember that they are celebrating you and your FH's new life together. In any event, remember this is your wedding, plan it around you and your FH's desires. I wish you all the best in your planning.
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Well said Ronnie. I couldn't agree more.
Not knocking black people because hey they don't come no blacker than me....but come on nah, how many of us really act like grown up especially when we are trying to impress someone else?. I (me/personally) would have had a very private wedding to avoid the drama of ex's and steps and then I would have had a large celebration--something someone could come to dressed semi-formal to mix and mingle and not a formal event where people like to prove that they are more importnat than the other and cause a problem. It's just me and I do not like drama.....this is about you and him and not your parents and what happened to them in the past.
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