Just need to vent to anyone willing to listen...
had a misunderstanding with my future sis in law about the ideas I want included in my ceremony...she had a few way out there ideas that I just couldn't get with *ie: when the attendants reach the top of the aisle, she wants the escort to dip the bridesmaid...I expressed how much I hated that vision....so she cooly told me to shove it...all of it..."I'm done with this circus"... and she quit on me....she has all the plans written out....the wedding program wording, my favors everything!!! I am so hurt with the way that she has handled things....my FH said he warned me to just feed her with a long handled spoon but since she is his sister I was trying to bond....we suspect that she is jealous...call it whatever I think she needs counseling....now I am sitting in a panic...who will line up and organize my bridal party etc....please pray for me guys...Im just about 24 days away.
Just need to vent to anyone willing to listen...
had a misunderstanding with my future sis in law about the ideas I want included in my ceremony...she had a few way out there ideas that I just couldn't get with *ie: when the attendants reach the top of the aisle, she wants the escort to dip the bridesmaid...I expressed how much I hated that vision....so she cooly told me to shove it...all of it..."I'm done with this circus"... and she quit on me....she has all the plans written out....the wedding program wording, my favors everything!!! I am so hurt with the way that she has handled things....my FH said he warned me to just feed her with a long handled spoon but since she is his sister I was trying to bond....we suspect that she is jealous...call it whatever I think she needs counseling....now I am sitting in a panic...who will line up and organize my bridal party etc....please pray for me guys...Im just about 24 days away.
HIS eye is on the sparrow, and I know HE watches.........me
Oh Islandbride!!! Frist, see if you can get all of things from her. Next, see if there anyone else that is willing to do it for you. I know this is a very stressful time. Maybe your FH can talk with her. Maybe she get just as stressed as you and said those things out of frustration. I pray that all works out well for you. Keep us posted/
I feel for you islandbride. It's not fair that she is trying to force her ideas on you. It's nice that she makes suggestions, but if you don't like them, that should be okay with her...afterall, it's not HER wedding. Is there someone else that can talk to her that she would listen to...like your future mother-in-law? You still have more than 3 weeks to go. Maybe she will calm down in a few days. Her feelings could possibly be hurt that you told her how much you hated her ideas. Let her be for a while. In the meantime see if there is someone else that would be willing to step up on the day. Lining up the bridal party isn't that difficult, especially once you go over it at hte rehearsal. Don't panic. These things have a way of working themselves out. Good luck to you.
IslandBride, we are all praying for you. Things will work out...they always do! Hang in there girl and you will see just how awesome God is! Wishing you all the best.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
thanks guys for the support...i have decided to leave it in God's hands. He didnt bring me this far...to leave me. As for her, she has really surprised me...that leaves me without her son as my ringbearer and her daugther as my guestbook and program attendant. I cant be mad at her ....because obviously this thing is skin deep. literally.now she is puttin her tongue on my day...and bad talkin me. I will pray for her peace..one of the stewards at church has offered to do every and anything to make it alright...and she has promised not to leave me hanging. My FH re-purchased all of the stuff this morning from Michaels for my favors...and I will try to post a pic to get your opinions....as for now I am going to bed....just got off the graveyard shift...blessings to all.
for anyone interested in seeing/reading our story...here is a link
http://theresaandantonia.weddings.com
HIS eye is on the sparrow, and I know HE watches.........me
IslandBride, God has already provided a "ram in the bush" for you! Things will turn out marvelously. I wish you and the best and yes I am heading to that link right now to read your story.....
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Oh my goodness Island, I just came from your website(you to look good together)your getting married around the corner from where I grew up. My mom still lives in the 800 block of Carey St. Talk about a small world. Your church I believe , is across the street at an angle from my grandfather's church. United Methodist. I used to play in that little park when I was young.
thank u l-evet..that sounds about right...about the church...thats the church we joined together ...
small world for real!
HIS eye is on the sparrow, and I know HE watches.........me
islandbride, I feel bad for you but I know everything is going to work out for good. When it does your sis in law to be will wish she was a part of the good. She's not hurting anyone but herself. She's so trifling, don't fret. Keep your head up high and don't let her see you sweat. She knows she's wrong. Whatever ideas she has is cool but you have the final say and that's that. My future sis in laws are trifling also and they already made me cry but didn't know it. They're in the south and I'm in the north. I did it after I got off the phone and didn't give it away with my voice either. My FH told me when we met he handles them with a long handled spoon (yes he used the exact words your FH did) but like you, I figured since they are his sisters... blah, blah blah. They are bridesmaids and all they have to do is show up for rehearsal and the ceremony as far as I'm concerned. I'll be an Oscar winning actress whenever I see them because I don't have anything to say to them. They won't know that though. After the wedding my FH said we'll handle them with a triple extended long handled spoon. Hold your head up high islandbride. It's your day. God bless
God is good all the time and all the time God is good
Relax precious....the most difficult part of the planning has passed right...like paying for stuff. Well you have nothing to worry about....I do not like that dipping idea either, I saw that once and when the bridesmaid was dipped, her headpiece fell off, so scrath that idea. Go with what you like this is about you and your FH...I am sure the ladies standing can help, and other people who care about you.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.