To do or not to do -- bridal registry?

Girl!! I am in the same boat. My FH is saying the exact same thing. So I pouted a little because I know people think it's tacky to ask for money. So I suggested registering and then if you want to tell people word of mouth that's fine. So we go to Target and it has about 6 items on the list because everything I said he said no So..... I will just update it by myself.

Register!There are so many things you will need. You can always cash out the items and no one will be the wiser. Consider a honeymoon registry. There is NO registration or setup fee to register your honeymoon - there is NO cost at all for the couple registering!

Dream Honeymoon Set up a registry with WeddingMiles.com, your guests buy frequent flyer miles that will send you anywhere in the world.

My sentiments exactly! I should have known when I was trying to get him to pick out a style tux and he said whatever I decide I should have seen the writing on that wall.

That's a fabulous idea Rosey....I know some couples over here normally has something like a living room set or a bedroom set as a gift selection and the guest can go and make a payment in any amount to help purchase it for the couple. Those are all great ideas.

That's a great idea,Rosey.I have almost everything and I really don't need another blender or toaster, lol.That is definetly a gift that we can use.

And guess what...people actually put money on them. There is something you can definitely use ah :-)

I usually suggest a honeymoon registry
for brides who already have lots of stuff. How many figurines can you have anyway? I love the idea of home furnishings too! That is always great 'cause then you get something you BOTH like.

Nah theres one that I ahave not heard of before...a honeymoon registry...that is an excellent idea.

[quote="Rosetta"]Register!There are so many things you will need. You can always cash out the items and no one will be the wiser. Consider a honeymoon registry. There is NO registration or setup fee to register your honeymoon - there is NO cost at all for the couple registering!

Dream Honeymoon Set up a registry with WeddingMiles.com, your guests buy frequent flyer miles that will send you anywhere in the world.
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I like that idea Rosy

I've never heard of a honeymoon registry. Good idea. We received a wedding invitation the other day and they were asking for monetary donations and Lowe's and Home Depot cards. Are you near a Home Depot? They have a wedding registry. I bet he'll be pleased to go there!

Oh yeah he will definitely love that...men always think the gifts are for women so when a special something like a Lowes come along they are thrilled...I know my first husband was overwhelmed when one of the gifts we received was a tool set...he was glowing. Its nice to highlight them too.

That is so true. Tools and electronics they go BANANAS for!

I think that is when it sets in that "it's their wedding also"

true true.

Definately add the Home Depot Registry then. What man doesn't love the Depot? My hubby is there so often we shouuld by stock in the company! lol

Yup! you should if only for them :-)

A little bit of everything Rony...that's what you do.....add a little biut of everything to that list :-) Oh and missed you girl glad your back and how are you settling in your new home?

Girl is it still snowing over there? and how come ya'll have to pay to move, couldn't you just put everything in a truck and move it or it does not work like that in the states....I am glad you all considered your daughter's feeling in the midst of all this.

Me and my husband asked for moneytary gifts because we had everything that we needed for the house so we felt that money would be better to give us, it would help us move into are new house that we are had built.

[quote="CharlotteModebe"]Girl is it still snowing over there? and how come ya'll have to pay to move, couldn't you just put everything in a truck and move it or it does not work like that in the states.
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Hi HapplyMarried505! Welcome back! CHarlotte you aer o funny! I asked the same thing when I moved to the states. In the caribbean you have to STOP people from trying to help you move. (they want to be in your business) I could not understand having to ask for the help and having it reluctantly given or people suggesting a mover. One of th people was a current BOFRIEND who owned a truck!

Rosey I didn't know you were West Indian-----Listen I didn't realize they actually pack them and unpack them...girl I would have gone that route masef...wow! that is so cool.

To do or NOT to do a registry...that is the question with an easy answer. To me, thats a big DO!

My arguement: Marriage = new....Yes, I had pots and pans, silverware, plates, towels, etc, and they were in good shape, but you know what, I liked the idea of leaving the old behind, and bringing in as much NEW as possible....So instead of me having to buy some new pots, etc (And if it was left up to me they would be cheaper) I let someone else buy me some more expensive/high end ones....And cash in hand as a gift or not, its out of pocket. But The same went for dishes, nice china, crystal, bath stuff, kitchen stuff, serveware, silverware, etc....We got a lot of gifts and still got ALOT of cash...Plus the registry let me really take time to think about what I needed, and what I wanted....We always buy what we need, and rarely get to buy what we WANT. For me, a person who likes to bake, it was nice to get a couple of professional peices here and there that I would have had to wait a year or so to get, but needed/wanted now....Cash is good, but some may spend it on the marriage/savings/etc, but MANY spend it on bills to pay off the wedding, or smething OTHER than what it ws for, and thats to seed into all things new.....bills ain't new:)

Even if you put a few things (like a wish list)...you'd be surprised at what people with come through for you and do...Also, history tells me that for some weird reason, people give less cash, but will spend a lot of money on a gift.....I guess a registry just gives them a chance to splurge, which is what people love to do for you at your wedding. People just seem to love to tote in a large or heavy box rather than give a little card with money....But if you HAVE to do CASH, get the word out early and to everyone without shame or hesitation....And save it...I just get crazy about it because couples get all the cash in hand, and realize later it would have been nice to see a table FULL of gifts, and also they end up spending the money on stuff and never really getting the full effect of living the wedding out...after the wedding....It really does happen.....

We just got a home built and moved in December so I will DEFINITELY have a registry. We all have new bedroom furniture and bedding, I bought one set of pots/pans (which is no where near enough), new towels, and new silverware. I still haven't bought dishes, put together the bathrooms, organized the closets, or even started on the basement!

The way we are doing it - housewarming this year (by October) where the registry will take effect and wishing well for wedding next year(in May). Knowing my people for the bridal shower I will get a bunch of lingerie but I will update the registry with any remaining items then just in case. My BP is doing a "Ladies Night" bachelorette party (think of the video with men giving manis and pedis) for close family and friends so there will be no gifts required there.

BUMP!

Newbies (Newlyweds): What "high end" or "must have items" are you putting (did you get) on your registry IF you are doing one at all!...WHERE will it be at?