Bridemaid Drama 0f course

Ladies, ladies, ladies please I need some help here. I have 9 bridemaids. 7 are BM's, 1 Matron of Honor, and 1 maid of honor. Well one of my brides maids are acting up. I called a meeting 2 weeks before the fitting so they can all pick what dress they wanted to wear out of the 3 dresses I chose for them to wear and she did not show, she said she forgot. So I said ok that happens. Then for 2 weeks before the fitting I been by her job like every 2 or 3 days to remind her to come to the fitting. Well the day of the fitting she said she couldn't come because she was so busy at work even though I told her the date a month in advance. I understand her work is important, but she works in a barber shop braiding men's hair (she doesn't punch a clock) and there are 2 other braiders working too, I can't understand why she couldn't use an hour of her time to drive 5 minutes up the street to try on the dress. Well ladies that was almost a month ago and she still has not got fitted, she said she will go by the end of this month. Then I put all the BM's shoes on hold so they can pick them up by this Saturday (was on hold for 2 wks) that just passed, let's just say hers are still in the store I called her and told her it was the last day, she said she was gonna call back, but didn't. I called her this morning again she said she will call back it's now almost 8. She said the dress was too much money, and the day of my wedding is the busiest day in the barber shop (Sep. 2, 2006) Labor day weekend. I am so through. I wanna kick her to the curb, it's sad because we were friends since 6th grade, but a lot of times she acts funny since we've been older. Do you think she's jealous. she says things like oh don't get a divorce and why don't you go to the justice of peace. I don't know I can go on about her. what do you all think? should I give to the end of the month. I am a full-time nursing student and need as little drama as possible, my school work is enough stress please Help!

Thank you ladies for all of your responses, I went to try on my dress and took her off as one of my BM's, now I have to just go to the florist to cancel her bouquet. I don't even want to be her friend anymore. My FH has only 8 GM my maid & matron of honor were both gonna walk with the BM, but now he doesn't have to. Oh, and I forgot to add that she doesn't like my FH (for no reason) everybody else does (he is very nice). In fact, she didn't like any of the men that I was in a long term relationship with (2), I guess cause I wasn't hanging out with her when I had a man and she never stays in a long term relationship (mostly single). It's funny that this had to happen for me to truly realize she was not my friend, my mom use to tell me in middle & high school why yall hang around that girl she aint your friend just like that. I had some doubts, like when we went out she was competitive with her clothes always wondering what me and my twin sister were gonna wear, but I just kept doing whatever. Well again thank you so much I needed some input from an outside source, I already love this site ladies, I've been visiting a lot as a visitor, now you'll hear from me more.

(lol) no I didn't tell her yet, if she had called me back like she said she was she would have known. I'm not chasing her to be apart of my day, one time she said i'm just gonna have to give you my money so you can pick up all my stuff, that was the funniest thing I heard that week, pick her stuff up, she should be picking up my shoes & dress :) oooh what if she go to get fitted for the dress and they tell her she's not on at the end of the month(that's terrible)maybe I'll call her one last time, that way she can't say I didn't try right?

Charlotte girl you gonna get me started :)

She did live with me for a month and it probably crossed my mind once or twice that maybe she wanted a man like mine, but who knows. She tried to get me to go out and do things with her all the time instead of spending time with him, whenever he came to visit she would open the door and walk away without saying nothing. And one time he got a call to go on blind date, but turned it down cause he was ion love ladies:) she asked why didn't he go, that he should've went to see what he would have done. They had a long discussion that day and that's when he knew she didn't like him he asked me why? She even told me to leave hnim to see what he would do because he was going back to his kids mother I told her I am not leaving a man just to see what he'll do if we aren't having problems. Her response was see that is your problem you & your sister always had a man and think you always need one. Then she said you think you have a good man, I said oh no sweetheart I know I have good man!

Thank you all for the feedback I just wanred to give you an update, she has not called back since monday and I didn't get around to calling her. Yes I am finally on the right track in my life phemo. and maybe she is jealous about that. She tried going to beauty school 3 times- didn't finish, about a year ago she tried some college- only lasted a month and dropped out. I have benn in college since 2001- and will get my degree two weeks before the wedding. She is struggling right now. I am not trying to talk about her like that, but I can't imagine why she has turned out worst and I have tried to just be a good friend, OH WELL:)

Thank you stressed and yes WE will prevail!