I've got some drama.....

First of all welcome to the boards "Beetle" (your new name everyone has one and seeing that your screen reminds me of the Vogs Wagon bug car - hence your new name) Girl Girl Girl...just reading this made me all nervous and confused..what kinda drama you gat going on girlfriend!...and the hurtful thing about this situation is that you can not stop his wife from coming especially becuase that is FH's friend and he is standing - how can you tell him his wife is not invited .....WOW! This one is tough and Rosey may have to handle this..The thing is that this is your FH's wedding as well and he also has some say...My question to you is--does the wife and girlfriend know of each other? This one has me stumped.

This one really has me taken-a-back...I re-read you post and realize that they are aware of each other - sweetgirl I smell a fight coming on...your and FH really have to seriously either rethink having him stand so the wife does come or avoid a big wedding and just go to JP. You'll really have to do something to avoid people messing up your wedding day because this one is definitely drama in the waiting.

Beetle I hate to say it but she (wife) may want to come especially to see who this person is and you know how women are - we can be very vindictive...You are FH has have some serious talking to do girlfriend.

Welcome to the board Bettle (I love the name Charly). Wow! Okay, if I were the wife, there is no way in **** I'm not coming along with my HUSBAND. If you were the wife, would you not want to come along? I think the best thing to do is have a talk with your friend and let her know the wife is coming. How long ago was this breakup? Is your girlfriend seeing someone else? I attended a wedding recently where the groom's father and stepmother was getting a divorce. (The husband cheated on his wife and his "mistress" came). The husband and now fiance sat on one side and the stepmom and now fiance sat on the other side at the reception. Honey if these grown people really love you, they would make sure that nothing will happen to destroy your day. Just my opinion.

Ok. You can not NOT invite the wife. She is his WIFE. Just like you are about to be someones wife yourself and there is a lot that comes with that. I personally would remove BOTH offending parties because infidelity is on both the BM & GM. Your friend knew he was married, didn't she? Avoid the drama because there will be ugliness at your beautiful wedding. Either it will be with you and the GM. The GM and the BM or the wife and the BM or the wife and her husband. Wether she comes or not. It just isn't worth it.

WELCOME BEETLE!! I'm the ghetto superstar of the bunch, and will be the first to say DON'T INVITE HER!! But cattiness aside, as Rosy (the voice of reason) says, you kinda have to. The bad thing is folks gonna get their feeling hurt with this one (no avoiding it) no matter what you do. I fyou don't invite her FH friend is going to be hurt. Invite her, your friend WILL be hurt by her presence there. Ask them both not to take part in the wedding, more hurt. Having them just show up as guest, hurt and possible drama!

Welcome to the site!!! Here's my two cents, in my opinion, you have to accept that this particular groomsman will bring his wife. You can't tell a husband that he can't allow his wife to come. I must also tell you that I understand that you feel terrible about your friend being hurt by this unfaithful relationship, but the bottom line is it is not your issue. It is THEIR (parties involved) issue. I understand that this is your wedding and you don't want any problems. I would speak to both parties and inform them that you don't want any problems and you expect them to be adults and be on their best behavior. It can work, if these people love you and your FH, they will not rain on your parade. In any event, I wish you all the best.

I am so scared of this one, it is like a time bomb waiting to explode...

Ya got that right!

You are too right septbride. and I love seeing the rings too Phenomonique. We miss your pic though!

Yes the rings are absolutely exquisite -- love them! Hopefully, the bomb will not explode, but Beetie ya better have the bomb squad ready gurl!!!!!!!!!

I can't let the Po-Po catch me like this! ROTFLMAO!

[quote="CharlotteModebe"]I am so scared of this one, it is like a time bomb waiting to explode...
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Ya huh CHarley!
tick tick tick. I know I would go bollistic. I am a very nonconfrontational person, but this is getting me all riled up. I can only imagine how you are feeling beetle!

My questions are beetle, does your friend still have feelings for this man?? how long has it been since they dated? and has she not moved on yet cause it doesn't seem like he is a prize. I'm sorry ladies I don't mean to be blunt or come off the wrong way, but I really don't think this man is worth a conversation, and especially when it comes to beetles wedding this is her day and if her friend cares for her, she would be on her best behavior and the FH should probably speak to his friend about checkin his wife.

I do not have a response to this touchest topic but i just wanted to comment on my girl's Avatar...watch it nah beetle......the VI Possie is rubbing off on you :-)

Ah hem please tell Will to !LEAVE THE SKANK AT HOME!
Amen

Do you really want to have to take your earrings off and break out vaseline on your wedding day? You know I she does something to hurt your girlfriend feelings, you gonna become 'Queen Slap-a-ho' and have to take the little hooker down. That won't look good on the wedding video girl, LOL!

(LOL) you ladies are so funny, got everybody thinking i'm crazy in my house for laughing out loud. OK this is getting worst and worst bettle. I truly think may does have feelings for will and I really feel for her. He knows he is wrong and I don't think he should bring the hefer to the wedding either, but it is his wife, GURL! I am at a lost for words now, what you going to do? you can't expect your FH to side with you on this, he probably saying will is the man right now. This is a girl situation. The only thing left to say is take will out of the wedding cause he's the one bringing the drama.

Beetle,
Its so funny that you have this issue cause I have a similar one, check it my twin sister who is my maid of honor was dating my FH cousin for a while, well 2 labor day holidays ago she came with me to their family cook out she knew he was going to be there and he showed up with some hurt chick and my twin was vexed you hear me. Well he claimed she was afriend and all you know and they kept dating, then the girl pops up pregnant, this is his cousins first baby and hes in his mid 30's already. She never really been around my twin, but she's been around me and we are identical. Anyway he kept telling my sister all these negative things about this woman then when the baby is born he goes and gets an apartment with the chick.
Now they do not speak anymore and the girl knew he was dating my sister first. He is one of the GM I asked him if she was coming and he was like of course, I told my FH that she better not act up, but the last time I checked she wasn't sure if she was coming. I heard she's finding out that the people in my FH family don't like her. I don't either and it has nothing to do with my twin, but she has a bad era about her and it's not just me.

Ladies, ladies, ladies. Men ALWAYS bad mouth their wives or girlfiends when they are with someone else. It is an unwritten guy rule. Why would he be with you if everything is all golden with the new girl? Simple. He is getting away with it. And we let them. Beetle, your FH's friend is WRONG. He should not e in the weddding at this point. You KNOW it's goinna cause drama. I don't expect the vaseline to break out (bring some just incase), but there will be high tensions. The focus and ALL the focus should really be on you.

Rosey you are so right I couldn't say that any better, men have so much game when it comes to having their cake and eating it too. I am so happy you have this site and I truly think you should go on oprah woman you will blow up. Do you know how many women have issues bottled up and no one to speak to? you can save some young girl who's in need of some major advice, forget dear abby we got the vibride sisterhood!

Watch is nah V2...you just come and already you are seeing what we have been enjoying for so long. Anywho,...you'll are being very nice about this situation - let me tell you something, where I am from and this stupidness was to happen, there would definitely be drama, I talking rock, bottle, the weave coming off, the high heels - there is no and's if's or but's about it a fight will broke out at the wedding...This is just too much drama, you seriously need to talk to your FH and tell him that he has to drop this groomsman quick fast and in a hurry because you know your day will be ruined. I know that is his friend but who is more important - he gatta sleep with you every night for the rest of his life not his friend - sweetboy needs to go cause he is a lying heffer himself and sweetgirl needs to keep her bad chee out of your personal space....DAMN IT!

The sistahood is off the hook! Charly you are crazy. Phenomonique gurl you are crazy too "Break out the vaseline, Queen slap-a-ho and have to take the little hooker down"!!!! Oh no, haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!

Wow!This is deep!You weren't playing when you said that you have drama!Well,I think you need to drop this trifling Negro from your wedding party.If he comes, his wife is coming too.It's only right because of course she going to want to see what "the other woman" looks like and prevent her hubby and "other woman" from hooking up. Otherwise, I agree with the sistas that there will be a serious fight!Especially, if alcohol is served at a reception.You don't want that memory for the rest of your life.And of course, a fight at a wedding will be something for people to talk about for a long time.

Yeah V2, feel free to mention me to Oprah anytime you like! lol. You girld are giving great advice. We don't tell you what you want to hear beetle, we will tell you what you NEED to hear. This is the best advice you will get. He really has to go. I feel sorry for your friend. But how did he get his EX pregnant? while he was dating your BM or was he dating his wife then your BM then got FW pregnant THEN married her?

Yah know what...this is just way too much drama and we see why black men have such a bad reputation...cause of one stupid fool....dump this idiot and get you a fine replacement who is single and can hook up with your friend.

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Okay, maybe I should read down a little more before I ask this question, but if this is someone that would not come to your wedding if he wasn't in the party, WHY IS HE IN IT? Okay, let me continue reading now.

Make sure to keep us posted.

I would PAY to come to your wedding bettle. LOL. The BM and married GM aren't walkingup together are they? Man. I would in no way stay home if my hubby and his EX were in a WEDDING together. He probably is gonna have to tie her up and stash her in the closet until he gets back!

[quote="Rosetta"]I would PAY to come to your wedding bettle. LOL. The BM and married GM aren't walkingup together are they? Man. I would in no way stay home if my hubby and his EX were in a WEDDING together. He probably is gonna have to tie her up and stash her in the closet until he gets back!
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Exactly! Beetle you don't want your day to be ruined so youhave a tak with your friend and have your FH do the same with his boy. Let them both know this day is about the two of YOU! If the wife doe insist on coming let the GM know he needs to do WHATEVER he has to do to ensure there will be no drama on your day.

Let me tell you.....if I were the wife and I knew sweetgirl was gonna be there...ain't no way in hell husband could keep me from that wedding. I would tell him I am not coming and when he walking up that isle...I would be the first person he sees....watch out girl...something in the milk ain't clean....(old people saying)

I'm glad things are working out for you. Please come back and let us know how things worked out.

Ms.B my best advice to you is to pray to the almighty that he will give you the wisdom to handle this situation in the upmost respect and then sit down talk to your FH and let him know just how you feel and what you need him to do to stop the madness before it start.