Ok I am about to become stressed out. Last night when my FH came home from school I told him about the songs I wanted for the ceremony. I want my wedding party to walk to Happily ever After by case, but he said no he don't like that song, then I said I wanted my cousin to sing and he said no who said she was singing? Then he wants me to walk to 3 times a lady and my soul is not feeling that song to walk to. The only music we agreed on was the first dance song which is Through the fire by chaka Khan. I am so upset cause I'm trying to plan this music and he hasn't picked no songs or anything and steady saying no to the ones I pick. He even called me a youmg buck cause I didn't want to walk to that song :(
Ok I am about to become stressed out. Last night when my FH came home from school I told him about the songs I wanted for the ceremony. I want my wedding party to walk to Happily ever After by case, but he said no he don't like that song, then I said I wanted my cousin to sing and he said no who said she was singing? Then he wants me to walk to 3 times a lady and my soul is not feeling that song to walk to. The only music we agreed on was the first dance song which is Through the fire by chaka Khan. I am so upset cause I'm trying to plan this music and he hasn't picked no songs or anything and steady saying no to the ones I pick. He even called me a youmg buck cause I didn't want to walk to that song :(
try writting down a list on songs for you and your bridal party to walk down the aisle to, then put them in a hat and draw out 6 times and out of the six that you and your fh placed in the hat and narrow it down to 3 songs and then out of these 3 narrow it down to the final songs. that what me and my husband did and we made a agree on the song i would walk to the song he would walk to and the songs that the bridal party would walk to. just try it and see what you get. it may just would. best of luck
Super great idea Happiy! virtuousV at least he has an opinion. My husband could care less! lol. You could also pick a song for one part and then he could pick the other song another part of the ceremony. 3 times a lady is old fashioned. But that may be what he thinks of you and the song means a lot to him.
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[quote="Rosetta"]at least he has an opinion. My husband could care less! lol. [/quote]
That is so true, but on the other hand there has to be a compromise. Virtuous, did you discuss your cousin singing with your FH before or did you just tell him she was singing? Maybe that's why he said what he did. Does he have another singer in mind? He may have just reacted that way because you didn't talk to him about it before hand. As far as the song you walk to, I think that should be your choice. After all, it's your bridal march. Then maybe you can allow him to pick the song the bridal party walks to.
Rosey always has a way out of no way...nice! Hawaii05 (H05)that is a very good suggestion....he may be one of those persons who like old songs - indulge him a bit, I wouldn't say walk up to it but maybe use it somewhere else like at the reception during your dance or something and that could be his message to you.
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I made a CD (about 8-10 tracks) of my most favorite "wedding" songs. Gave it to FH to listen to (in the car when he's alone) & told him to pick which songs he liked. Some of the songs, we talked about he didn't like at first, until he heard them again...and listened to the words again. Worst case scenario: you could throw a hissy fit or pout (you know how to get your way). Gotta give him a little nudge.
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What is 3 times a lady was sung before you came in, during the prelude or something. Who does he want to sing? Maybe it can be a duet of another song you agree on.
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Okay, what about the wedding party marching to Case, and after they're in position you come in to Three times a lady?
It's such a short song, but I could see it meaning sometime to your FH;
Thanks for the times
That you
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That sounds like a good idea, that way we can both get what we want. Excellente! that song can be like my introduction, but just that part that phenom. said then after everybody stands for the bride then the other song can play. He has not said anything about nobody singing, he hasn't even mentioned how he wanted the ceremony to be, so I just started putting things together so it doesn't have to be done at the last minute, which will happen if I wait for him.
You see VirtuousV, these site is awesome. These ladies can come up with all kinds of ideas. Their creativity is unlike anything I've ever seen. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Niquey...I think I just fell in love with that song n- I had totally closed my mind to it cause it's an old song (don't like) but after reading it on your post - oh my! I can see why he wants it and V2 I'm glad your considering it after all.
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I'm confused!!! I thought the song used during the wedding march if it's not one of the "traditional" songs should be a song that's conveying something from the bride-to-be to the husband-to-be. After all she is walking down the aisle towards him. I also thought there should be a surprise factor involved in which the element of surprise to the FH would be seeing the FW in the gown etc. for the first time and hearing the song for the first time whether traditional or not. My suggestion to you if you do some research and find what I think makes sense is to march on the song you initially thought of and have a soloist sing Three Times A Lady to you from him. ( Before they sing they'll say, virtousV the song I'm about to sing is dedicated to you from FH). Sounds good to me.
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Marshine that sounds good too. I was thinking the same thing you were, I thought since I was coming down to him that it should be a song from me to him, not the other way around. But he insist that I walk to that song because he said that's what he feels for me, and I understand, but I practiced walking to that song and it doesn't make me feel any emotion like it does for him. The sad part is I don't even have a song to walk to yet. I don't know one:(
Update I just used cinamin's idea and I made a CD with the songs that I like on it. Thanks again ladies.
V2..guess what - when you are walking down the isle you will be so nervous that you will forget how to walk, your father will have to pull you one step at a time (literally)...you will not even hear the song that is playing. And that's the honest truth.
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Charly, is it really that bad, is the nervousness that paralyzing?
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It can be relly bad but it will really depend on how many people there you are actually familiar with as friends or relatives...but if they are guest of your FH who you do not know then may the force be with you. lol
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Charly, I never thought about the nervousness. Other people will hear the words of the song which will add to the beauty of the walk. But getting back to the nerves; I've been flipflopping back and forth to walking part of the way alone or walking the whole way with pops.
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OK charly you startin to scare me woman, I hope I wont be that nervous, we'll have 200 guest (half I don't know)
UPDATE! Guess what ladies me and my FH have really worked this issue out. Right before I walk when everyone is standing for the bride my FH is going to sing to me 3 times a lady this part
Thanks for the times that you've given me, The memories are all in my mind and now that we've come to the end of our rainbow there's something I must say out loud you're once, twice, three times a lady, yes your once, twice, three times a lady and I love you, I love you
Then I am going to come out and walk to either Love sweet Love by Patti Labelle, When I said I do by Chante & Kenny Latimore, or Ribbon in the sky by Stevie Wonder, what do you all think please tell me.
Em Marshy--people do not focus on music at a wedding unless they are playing it - it's all about the bride and how she looks - you better keep pops on stand by just in case.
V2 sorry for scaring you (lol) - but if ya tink ya won't be nervous in front of 200 people you gat anothoer thing coming missy NOT!
I love that FH is singing - I hope he can handle the pressure (men get nervous in front of all those people too)
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VirtuousV, I'm glad to hear that you and FH have worked this thing out -- I knew you would! When it comes to this wedding stuff, things have a way of just working out. Also I think the way you worked it out will be absolutely beautiful! With FH singing to you girl, I hope you can get down the aisle. If it were me I probably would have to be carried up the aisle because I would be a hot mess!!!!
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I wasn't nervous at all! I was before the long walk but all I could see was Eloi. He kept grinning and winking. [lol]
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I felt intoxicated.
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i'm glad that you and your FH worked out all the problems you had. God is good when you just pray to him
Yes he is Happily and he has proved it over and over again.
I think i'm going to be a hot mess walking down cause I don't know how to cry softly.
V,just find a quiet corner before your ceremony and pray.Then, take a few deep breaths and try to maintain your composure.If you going to cry, please do it silently.Make sure that you wear waterproof mascara.You don't want to look like Tammy Faye Baker.Lol.
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yea that right, about 30 minutes for time to walk down the aisle you and all your bridesmaids should just sit and pray, and try to not cry until you get down the aisle and are reading your vows
Wow Rosetta, you were not nervous! I think that is amazing. I'm nervous already and my wedding is not until November (lol)! Maybe by then I will calm down.
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It can be a bit overwhelming when people especially strange people are around - you can plan and say what you are not going to do but and something else will happen because of fear, my suggestion is to find something and focus on it entirely - say a little pray and breathe.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Focus all your attention on your groom (tunnel vision), and just walk to him. Sounds easy but all that goes right out the door on the wedding day. Even the most confident, nerves of steel people freeze up. I'm telling you, I've spoken before hundreds of people on several occasions, but that day I felt like I was drunk or sea sick I was so nervous.
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I dear say there are 2 things you will never forget....
1. Child birth
2. The way your stomach felt when you walked down the isle...lol
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[quote="CharlotteModebe"]I dear say there are 2 things you will never forget....
1. Child birth
2. The way your stomach felt when you walked down the isle...lol
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HAAAAAAAAAA! I know that child birth thing I never did forget. My brother will be walking me down the aisle. He is 6'2" and 250 lbs, he may have to pick me up and carry me down the aisle! (lol). Seriously though, I will be taking Rosetta and Niquey's advice and focus on my wonderful husband to be, and I'll be praying real hard!
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Girl don
Ok I cheated - I know nothing of the labor pains of child birth, I had 2 C-sections (ha) only quoting what the old people like to say :-)but I tell you I will never forget how the morning after the section felt - muddos! worst than child birth at least with child birth the pain is there and then it goes away but with a C-section that pain lasts for weeks - man-o-man!
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Hello everyone. virtuosV That's a great idea you and FH came up with. Charly, I've decided to have Pops walk me the whole way thanks to you and I liked what you said about the focus will be on the bride. The guests have to look at us and say "Damn she looks good." I've gone to weddings where the bride was just there. Boring. We've got to give them the "Wow!" factor.
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[quote="virtuousV"]Yes he is Happily and he has proved it over and over again.
I think i'm going to be a hot mess walking down cause I don't know how to cry softly.
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Girl it won't be the first time there was open mouth bawling at a WEDDING. Let your love show!
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You ladies are too much! LOL I don't know how i'm gonna do but yall aint making it no easier for me to walk, they might have to drag me out there. The other day at clinical I had to give report to all the nurses coming on 2nd shift, but I didn't know it I thought we were going to say it privately to the 1 nurse as we always did since I started. When my instructor walked passed her and into the room where all them nurses were going I said i'm not going in there my instructor said yes you are come on, she had to drag me to give report, now imagine how I am going to be walking all the way down and everyone is standing looking at me I am going to pray!