postponement

I would have to agree with your FH you are taking on a massive load next year. As a student it is very hard, I

Have you considered downsizing your wedding, do something small and intimate and save the big production for a few years later. The important event is the marriage not the big wedding production.

I agree with the ladies. It is stressful trying plan a wedding. I feel that your FH is being supportive by telling you he wants to wait until you finish school. However, if you want to go on and marry just do a very small ceremony and after you finish law school you will be in a better position to have your dream wedding without all the stress. Ask yourself what's most important to you, having a huge wedding or simply marrying your FH without all the hoopla? I understand that we have visions of our dream wedding but you must put 1st things 1st. Also, do you have any doubts about your FH's intentions? If you don't then pick your head up and be glad that you have a supportive man who has your best interest in mind and wants you to be successful. I hope that you will come to a conclusion that will be agreeable with you and your FH. Best wishes!

I'm sorry ladies, but I believe that if AFree believes that she can handle law school and planning her wedding, then go for it! If you have been doing both successfully up until now, then why wait. One thing I learned early on is that in any relationship you have to respect one another's feelings. Your FH says that he is looking out for your best interests. You know what your limitations are. Having your emotional health being honored is one of the ways he can look out for you. If planning your wedding is making you happy, then what's the problem? I don't think you are being unreasonable. My FH was talking about eloping. I was very upset about it. I prayed about it and let a little time go by. I had an honest heart to heart to him and since he sees that having this ceremony is important to me, he honored my request and we are getting married as scheduled. My advice to you is to pray about it, let some time pass, and then approach the matter with an open mind. In any event, I wish you all the best.

There are so many factors to consider till it is very difficult. I can understand both your sides and as a woman I definitely know what you mean and how you are feeling, Niquey's suggestion is very very good.... but considering what you're dealing with right now I can understand your FH's point as well....I respect him for thinking that you should wait....the worst feeling in the world for a man is thinking he may have stopped your goals...what happens if you get married and you get pregnant, you take time of from everything "just for a while" and you never complete what you started....the feeling of guilt will consume him...I think he just wants you to accomplish all your desires and then settle in.

Charly, those are my sentiments exactly. He is being supportive that's all! Planning and wedding and getting married will take a lot of work! And you know that when we are stressing over wedding plans they(our FH) get tired of hearing it! He'll be saying see that's why I wanted us to wait so that you wouldn't have all this stress on you at one time. School period is a stressful thing and you're just in your 1st year of law school so it's only going to get harder from here. Take some time and look at the big picture and always talk things over with him. It's easy to listen to outsiders who are telling you what you should do but talk with your FH about how you feel.