This is a topic I started on another message board. Some of the responses I got back were very interesting. I thought it was a good topic to start to help us brides avoid doing certain things to make our guests feel uncomfortable. Here's a couple of things I can think of. (All of these things haven't happened to me, but I know other people it happened to). What are some things that would bother you as a wedding guest.
1. Buying the couple a nice gift,or giving them a nice amount of cash, and not receiving a thank you note, or even a verbal thank you.
2. Not getting a seat or a plate even though I rsvp'd.
3. Not knowing it is a cash bar. (I don't have anything against cash bars, but at least let me know so I can make sure I have some cash with me.)
This is a topic I started on another message board. Some of the responses I got back were very interesting. I thought it was a good topic to start to help us brides avoid doing certain things to make our guests feel uncomfortable. Here's a couple of things I can think of. (All of these things haven't happened to me, but I know other people it happened to). What are some things that would bother you as a wedding guest.
1. Buying the couple a nice gift,or giving them a nice amount of cash, and not receiving a thank you note, or even a verbal thank you.
2. Not getting a seat or a plate even though I rsvp'd.
3. Not knowing it is a cash bar. (I don't have anything against cash bars, but at least let me know so I can make sure I have some cash with me.)
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
I am not concerned about those things...not that they will not upset others but the biggest problem for me personally is having an invitation that only allows me and not my children. I know how this sounds and I truly understand why they do it but for a single mom with no one to help, that means I can not go.
This happened to me just this pass February 11, I got an invitation and my sister was suppose to keep my children...she changed her mind so I could not go.
I would make exception to my invitations if the children were 10 and older.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
1) Waiting forever for the ceremony to start.
2) Bride/groom drunk!
3) Kids running around all over the place
Charly, how old are your kids?
My daughter is 9 she is 5 2' and I am 5 5' and my son is 10...he is a little professor (like the kid of the Berny Mac show).
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Sept., I forgot about the kids...lol. That can be annoying. My kids will be at my wedding just until after dinner, then they will be leaving with my grandmother.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Oh okay - they're not little, little. Sometimes, people put no children or adult reception only on the invitation. But, when you call to decline (because of the kids), sometimes people understand and want to you come so they make exceptions.
I've not come across any considerate people like that as yet...but there is hope for the future, I guess!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Yes, girly, keep hope alive! :-0
As I mentioned in the other post, I went to a few weddings that started more than 2 hours late. To me that is very inconsiderate to your guests. That would annoy me more than anything. Secondly I attended a reception where this little boy was running all over the place, after eating and drinking too much, he stopped in front of my daughter and pooked all over her dress. I wanted to give him and his mother a good spanking! Children running around unsupervised is the second most annoying thing.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I can definitely understand them not inviting toddlers...lord have mercy, that was not cool and the fact that they waste so much food. I never even considered taking my children to other people's wedding even if there was not stipulations. I just want to enjoy myself and take a break from being a mommy.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Oh, I forgot one. I can't stand when babies and toddlers cry and talk through the ceremony, and the parents don't take the babies out of the room. I understand you don't want to miss any of the ceremony, but that's a chance you took when you brought your baby along. Be considerate to the other guests, and especially the bride and groom and take your baby to another room!
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Well tobe05, I am sure you will have all these things stipulated on your invitations.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
In January I went to my youngest cousin wedding in California. The ceremony went fine, however when the reception started
1. There was to many guest and not enough seats
2. Kids running around
3. There was drunk guest fighting over single ladies
4. No RSVPs
5. And she ran out of food.
I would have to agree with Charlotte about the kid
No Char, I won't have all those things on my invitation, even though I did commit an invitation crime. I put "adult reception".
The problem is, for one, I am paying $53 a head. That's all ready killing me. For two, the reception hall only holds 220 people, and I had to cut my list from 270 down to 220, so there really is no room for any kids. Another reason, and I am being totally honest, I don't want to be bothered with any kids. I know some of my family members will be upset, but what can I do? It wouldn't be fair to let some kids come and not others. Even my own kids are leaving right after dinner.
Somebody made a suggestion to have a babysitter, but for one, that's even more money, and for two, who's to say guests will trust a babysitter they don't know with their kids, so I'll be paying one for nothing. If I sound like a b**ch, I am sorry, but money is tight right now.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
[quote="bride2be805"]No Char, I won't have all those things on my invitation, even though I did commit an invitation crime. I put "adult reception".
The problem is, for one, I am paying $53 a head. That's all ready killing me.
It wouldn't be fair to let some kids come and not others. Even my own kids are leaving right after dinner.
If I sound like a b**ch, I am sorry, but money is tight right now.
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Is that really an invitation crime? I was planning on putting "adult reception immediately following ceremony". I totally understand, my place is $70 pp but kids and vendors are half price. I am in a crunch for money too. There will be only a few exceptions for kids (which will be my kids and my nieces & nephews - none of them are toddlers). But, that's it! There's a total of 6 kids coming (ages 6 - 12). If someone doesn't understand, then sorry for them. I went to a wedding in Sept and there were around 6 little kids (I'd say 2-4 yrs old) running on the dance floor the entire night. Adults couldn't even enjoy themselves - except for the kids parents of course.
It's not a crime...but I still say you are creating headache for yourself...if you can't afford it do not kill yourself...remember you have to live after the wedding.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I don't know if it's really a crime Sept. Some people say it is, some say it isn't, but I couldn't figure out any other way to say I didn't want any kids there. Hopefully, people will understand, but if they don't, oh well.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Oh yes, most definately! This is the wedding that I want and I'm going to have it. Last week the issue was inviting more than we had originally planned on.
Sometimes a person have to make a sacrifice to get or have what they want. My sacrifice for my wedding is stop buying lunch everyday and stop shopping so much. In which my sacrifices are not things that are critical for everyday living. Now, if it came down to, food not being in the refrigerater, kids not being kept well, living paycheck to paycheck, etc, then I would not be having this wedding. But, that's not the case so me, FH, family and friends will have a joyus occasion before God and my wedding dreams will come true! :-)
[Oh yes, most definately! This is the wedding that I want and I'm going to have it. Last week the issue was inviting more than we had originally planned on.
Sometimes a person have to make a sacrifice to get or have what they want. My sacrifice for my wedding is stop buying lunch everyday and stop shopping so much. In which my sacrifices are not things that are critical for everyday living. Now, if it came down to, food not being in the refrigerater, kids not being kept well, living paycheck to paycheck, etc, then I would not be having this wedding. But, that's not the case so me, FH, family and friends will have a joyus occasion before God and my wedding dreams will come true! :-)]
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FH and I have a nice plan that works well with the planning. He pays ALL the bills, and I pay for wedding stuff. NO credit cards or nothing like that, so once this wedding is over and one with, we will be fine. NO past due bills, NO credit card payments, NO debt!
I would be lying though if I said sacrificing wasn't hard. I like to play bingo, and eat out at least twice a week, and not being able to do that is killing me, but I gotta do what I gotta do to have my wedding:)
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Septbride & Bride2be
I'm putting that adults only tag on my invites too. I have the same issues that yall do. The last thing I need to witness on my big day is someone's child falling in the water, or playing on someone's yacht. Get a sitter & take a break from the kids. No I don't have any kids so I'm totally unsympathetic. Kickin into bridezilla mode for the '06! The people that I want to attend don't have kids anyway. The ones i'm obligated to invite don't have one or two, they have like five or six! Which is another reason i'm saying no to the kids.
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
You like Bingo too???? Get out! I used to be addicted to it, but I'm much better now. I used to go 3 times a weekend, now I go about 1 or 2 times a month. That in itself save soooo much money.
At one point in time I was so bad, I was going 4 or 5 times a week. Now, I go maybe once a month. If I feel like accomplished enough wedding stuff for the month, I'll "treat" myself to a game of bingo.
I don't know what it is, but it is definately addicting! And the bad part is, I am not lucky! I win sometimes, but not as much as people thought because I was hooked. The last time I went which about two months ago, I hit the jackpot for $1,000. Lord knows I needed that! In all my years of going to bingo, that was the first jackpot I won, and it couldn't have come at a better time!
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Never seen anyone so excited about bingo....hmmm, that's new to me.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Charley,it's only exciting to me if I win at bingo!Lol!Anyway, to answer the question what would offend me...
1.A wedding that starts 2-3 hours late.Especially,if I didn't eat before the wedding.I don't want my stomach growling during the ceremony.
2.Bad food.Especially if the wedding started late.I'm like "I had to wait all this time for this"?
3.Drunk guests and/or wedding party.
4.People not controlling their children.
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Big black men in shiny silver checker board suits that will not sit down with their damn camcorder....walking around looking like Barney.....sorry I needed to vent from a 2001 wedding I went to.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Ha!You're too much Charley!Here's another one...Having to sit next to someone who forgot to *ahem* take care of their personal hygiene.
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Sept and B2B I too have to make sacricices for my wedding. Me and FH are paying for everything on our own so we cant do everthing the way we use to.The advantage in a way it that we do not have any kids at the moment so all we have to feed it ourselves (and yall know we will dang near starve for a pair of shoes,new purse or video game). FH is paying for all the wedding stuff and I'm taking care of all the bills that way we can save faster. I didnt want any kids at my reception so I was thinking about not having one at one point. BUT I have to have the kids there.FH has a big family and more than half of them are kids.If I have no kids at the reception there will be no adults....All of his siblings has an average of 4 kids each and there like 8 of them (I think I lost count).FH said he wouldnt be happy if his nieces and nephews wasnt at the reception so I have to have them.....
[quote="platinumstyle"]Ha!You're too much Charley!Here's another one...Having to sit next to someone who forgot to *ahem* take care of their personal hygiene.
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Girl at this same wedding in 2001, a guy came to ask me to dance, I said "no" and my friends insisted that I dance with him...let me tell you it was the longest dance of my life...the brothe had some serious "BO" and just would not shut up!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Eeeeeeewwwwww!Lol!
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Some of the things that I really hate are
1. During the ceremony a guest cell phone rings and everyone looks around.
2. Cold or nasty food
3. The receiving line taking to long or being longer than needing to be.
Exactly what is a "receiving line?"
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Welcome to the boards,September!Charley,the receiving line is when the bridal party lines up at the entrance of the reception venue and greet the guests as they enter.This is done at some weddings.I won't have one.I'd rather have my guests already seated.Then,have the emcee announce the wedding party as they enter.
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Oh yes!...me too, I want my people inside already relaxing nibbling on some lite refreshments and waiting for us.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I will be having a receiving line after the ceremony rather than at the beginning of the reception.
Char, I love bingo and it's very exciting, to me. I can't wait until I get to go more often.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
I am glad you guys are all excited about BINGO.....I see it as an "old people's" game. Even when I see it at fairs I am not interested. Sorry!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Alot of people are not interested. None of my friends are either, so I usually go alone. It's not everybody's "thing", but it's my thing.
I am a gambler. I love bingo, slots, black jack, and tonk. I'm starting to get the feel of texas hold em now.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
To each his own - mcuh respect!.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
EXACTLY!
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Do I sense some Superciliousness???
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I can't answer that because I don't know what that means. Can you explain?
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
I don't like the way you answered that in upper case which represents shouting and with the exclamation mark - shouting in an arrogant way...before I shift to defense mode I said I would ask if that was your intentsions first....so was it?
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Shouting, no, sarcastic, maybe. I just didn't understand your point of making certain comments like "Never seen anyone so excited about bingo....hmmm, that's new to me." and "Well tobe05, I am sure you will have all these things stipulated on your invitations."
It seems to me that throughout this whole thread you were being sarcastic to my posts, so I retaliated. That may have been childish of me, but at the time, that's how it came out. If I took it the wrong way, I apologize.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
So instead of asking you assumed...hmmm, interesting
After a while you will learn me...in the mean while I shall grant you the same dispensation as those with such magnanimous shrewdness
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
O.k, whatever that means. I'm done with it.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Charly, please speak in laymen terms. I'm tired of looking up these word's definitions. LMAOROTF!!!! Your lexis may conundrum some people - like me. lol
[quote="CharlotteModebe"]So instead of asking you assumed...hmmm, interesting
After a while you will learn me...in the mean while I shall grant you the same dispensation as those with such magnanimous shrewdness
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Yeah, it took me a minute - but I figured your butt out. lol
Charley gyrl, must I keep a dictionary on lock? I had to look up some of those words gyrl.......but anyways after a few minutes I figured it out....you are too much woman.
Only the "Divas" could figure this one out......and that was my intensions :-).....see! ya'll know me!!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
(Wiping my forehead)Wow.Looks like things got a little heated in here.Let me try to get back to the original topic.Here's one...Guests who show up in the middle of the ceremony and distract others by not sitting down quietly in the back.These guests make it a point to disturb others in the first few rows by having other guests to scoot over.
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