From now on, I am just going to do what I want to do.
The problem with us is he is so "plain jane". He doesn't like to be different. I saw this idea on television where right before the bride walked down the ailse, a screen came down (around the altar) and there was a slide show of the couple from when they were babies, toddlers, teenagers, adults, and the last photo was them as a couple. It lasted about 30 seconds.
I love this idea, but FH said no. He said "We don't need all of that. I have never seen that before." That's my friggin point! I want to do something that most guests haven't seen done before.
Anything that I suggest to him that isn't the "norm" he says no. Should I just stop asking him and "just do it", or do I have to include him in on all the planning?
I guess I contradict myself because sometimes I get so mad at him for not helping, then other times I wish he would be like the typical FH and stay out of it. I just needed to vent. What do you ladies think of my idea? Should I just do it anyway?
From now on, I am just going to do what I want to do.
The problem with us is he is so "plain jane". He doesn't like to be different. I saw this idea on television where right before the bride walked down the ailse, a screen came down (around the altar) and there was a slide show of the couple from when they were babies, toddlers, teenagers, adults, and the last photo was them as a couple. It lasted about 30 seconds.
I love this idea, but FH said no. He said "We don't need all of that. I have never seen that before." That's my friggin point! I want to do something that most guests haven't seen done before.
Anything that I suggest to him that isn't the "norm" he says no. Should I just stop asking him and "just do it", or do I have to include him in on all the planning?
I guess I contradict myself because sometimes I get so mad at him for not helping, then other times I wish he would be like the typical FH and stay out of it. I just needed to vent. What do you ladies think of my idea? Should I just do it anyway?
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This is a great idea I have never seen or heard of that being done.
You are better off just planning it yourself, and just let him pick out his suit or tuxedo. My FH is just letting me plan and he staying out the way. The only think that he wants to do is pick his and the groomsmen
B2B we all go through that point where we just wanna choke them for not agreeing with what we want and kick them for not being a part of the planning.I've learned to just do it myself and FH eventually caught on and he's slowly agreeing to my ideas.
I love that idea as well. During our ceremony & while guests are being seated, there will be a huge screen (that comes from the ceiling - about half the size of the movie theater screen) with me and FH picture being displayed. But, during the reception, before me and FH are announced, there will be a slideshow with pictures and music of me and FH for our guests. I can't wait. I went to one wedding where it was done (the slideshow) and I cried through the whole thing! lol
B2B,do you thing,Girl!Many FH's won't get excited about planning a wedding so don't feel bad.I think the slideshow is a great idea!I haven't even thought of that.
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What if you explain to him that you would like to plan your entrance because at that time it's all about you and you want it to be just right, maybe he'll understand that. You don't have to tell him what kind of entrance just like he don't know what you'll be wearin, do your thang woman!
The slideshow is a great idea, why didn't I think of that?! As far as your FH, he more than likely just doen't want to be bothered by the details. For most men a wedding is simple, pretty dresses, fly tuxs, bright flowers, cake, music, alcohol and people to party with. We know that it takes more than that to plan a wedding so let him have his little moment then when he's more reasonable explain to him just how many details need to be considered and when all else fails tie him to the couch and force him to watch a "Whose wedding is it anyway?" marathon! Good luck.
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What channel does that come on and when does the marathon start.
Hey there B2B, execellent idea. A word from the wise, do what ya gotta do. I have planned most of the wedding without FHs input. The things that I do require his input on are put in a folder and left on his nightstand for him to look at. He usually gets back to me in his own time. This is what has worked for us. In any event, I wish you and FH the best!
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"Whose Wedding is it Anyways?" comes on the Style Network whatever channel that is for you.....They have marathons alot you just have to check you local listings. Me and FH actually watch that show together sometimes, he can watch in small intervals only.
OMG! I'm going through the same thing with my FH and it's driving me crazy. I want to include hm because I think it's the right thing to do, but he's making it soooooooooooo hard. He says "no" to everything as well. It bugs me to no end. I bring this to his attention all the time, but to no avail. I've stopped planning because he is soooooooooo negative.
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I love the screen of past memories! You may want to do it at the reception when you guys are out taking pictures so that there is something for them to see while they mingle and enjoys drinks and hors d'ourves.
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[quote="drds_loves_nm3"]OMG! I'm going through the same thing with my FH and it's driving me crazy. I want to include hm because I think it's the right thing to do, but he's making it soooooooooooo hard. He says "no" to everything as well. It bugs me to no end. I bring this to his attention all the time, but to no avail. I've stopped planning because he is soooooooooo negative.
You are definitely not alone...........
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You're right drds_love_nm3 she is not alone! These men are something else when it comes to planning a wedding. I would just do what I have to do and only involve him when it is absolutely necessary. Men have no clue when it comes to the details of planning such an important event. Good luck!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37