My FH announced to me that he has added another groomsman to his party. I thought we were done adding people. He never even discussed his intention to ask his friend. He is making me crazy. It is 6 months before my wedding and now I have to find someone else. All of the ladies in my bridal party have been my friends for years with the exception of my sister and she is family and I feel very honored that they all have accepted my invitation to be a part of my wedding. I don't even know of anyone else I would like to ask. Should I just tell him that it is too late? Help!
My FH announced to me that he has added another groomsman to his party. I thought we were done adding people. He never even discussed his intention to ask his friend. He is making me crazy. It is 6 months before my wedding and now I have to find someone else. All of the ladies in my bridal party have been my friends for years with the exception of my sister and she is family and I feel very honored that they all have accepted my invitation to be a part of my wedding. I don't even know of anyone else I would like to ask. Should I just tell him that it is too late? Help!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Will it bother you if the sides are uneven? Maybe you can have two groomsmen escort your MOH or one of your bridesmaids. I know how you feel.
I don't want people standing up with me that I am not close to.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
I dont think its a big problem unless you have a thing about semetry.Do you absolutely have to have the same amount of males to females? Maybe they can walk the aisle alone instead of paired (if that was your plan) or half and half......I think at this point you shouldnt have to find someone to be a part becasue it will put less stress on you dealing with a new girl.And plus since she wasnt invited with everyone else she might feel like a back up .Since I've been in that place I dont think she would like it.(My best female friend of 7 years asked me to be in her wedding less than 3 months before she got married and only because someone else dropped out as a bridesmaid,and I have to say I was mad as hell and didnt accept)
Thanks ladies. The thing is I have two maid of honors for his two best men. My daughter (princess bridesmaid) will be escorted by my nephew (also a groomsman). Two brides maids with the current groomsmen. Since he added another guy, one of the bridesmaids may feel slighted if she is escorted by two men and the other one isn't. I wanted everything to be paired up, although it is not necessary. AllieS good for you for declining your friends wedding at the last minute, I would've probably done the same thing. I just don't know what to do.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
What if you have one of the groomsmen walk down twice? Two groomsmen could escort one bridesmaid, then one of the groomsmen could turn around, walk back up the aisle, and join the last groomsmen with the other bridesmaid.
I know that seems like too much, but I am just brainstorming (even though I don't think it's a bad idea, lol)
If you did it this way though, I don't know how the recessional would work.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
I appreciate the input B2B, and yes the recessional would be something to think about if I did it this way.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Rhonda I was too through that she didnt ask me to be in the wedding when she told me she was getting married. I figured she was so excited she forgot...But later she told me that she didnt ask me because I was pregnant (with her god child) and she didnt want no pregnant people in her wedding. Let me tell you that I was only 2 months pregnant and wasnt showing AND her wedding was AFTER my due date......She was full of crap.And because of the wedding situation we no longer talk (her choice). She doesnt even know I'm getting married....Its very heart breaking to me because we always planned to be in each others weddings.....Ok I'mma stop talking now becasue I'm getting all emotional........
[quote="alvinslove"]Rhonda I was too through that she didnt ask me to be in the wedding when she told me she was getting married. I figured she was so excited she forgot...But later she told me that she didnt ask me because I was pregnant (with her god child) and she didnt want no pregnant people in her wedding. Let me tell you that I was only 2 months pregnant and wasnt showing AND her wedding was AFTER my due date......She was full of crap.And because of the wedding situation we no longer talk (her choice). She doesnt even know I'm getting married....Its very heart breaking to me because we always planned to be in each others weddings.....Ok I'mma stop talking now becasue I'm getting all emotional........
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend, but yes she is full of crap. She doesn't know that she is missing out out, and it's a shame that she has chosen not to speak to you. Hang in there my friend and try not to let it get to you too much.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I am.I had to get over her awhile ago. She wasnt there for me when I was going through difficulties witht both my pregnacies, so I wouldnt expect her to be here now (even if we were still talking).Instead of comforting me she was mad that I was pregnant or even trying to have kids.She wanted me to go to school the get a job then get married and have kids.....She wa getting too controlling.Its ok for you to want the best for someone but to stop talking to them becasue they dont do what you want is rediculous. I guess it was meant for us to go our seprate ways,but it still hurts.
Oh no AllieS this girl sounds trifling! I know it still hurts and I empathize with you, but you don't need anyone who is not supportive of you in you life. You seem like a nice person, shame on her!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Excuse me Rony but didn't your FH just lose a groomsman? I would figure this would be the replacement and you said something there that I have to quote you on...."I feel very honored that they all have accepted my invitation to be a part of my wedding. I don't even know of anyone else I would like to ask"....notice the words and bold and think about it!!!!!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="CharlotteModebe"]Excuse me Rony but didn't your FH just lose a groomsman? I would figure this would be the replacement and you said something there that I have to quote you on...."I feel very honored that they all have accepted my invitation to be a part of my wedding. I don't even know of anyone else I would like to ask"....notice the words and bold and think about it!!!!!
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Charly thanks for keeping me on track (lol). I did find another lady to walk down the aisle. She is the sister of one of the MOHs and we all grew up together. She cried when I asked her. She was overjoyed (this is her first time participating in someone's wedding). God is good. He is just ever so faithful!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Glad to hear it!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I'm glad you found someone to add to your big day.I hope your FH doesnt put you in that position again by adding more people. Hopfully he's added all that he's going to add by now.
[quote="alvinslove"]I'm glad you found someone to add to your big day.I hope your FH doesnt put you in that position again by adding more people. Hopfully he's added all that he's going to add by now.
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Thanks AllieS. That's it. This wedding planning stuff if full of ups, downs and a few curve balls. I guess you just have to brace yourself and go with the flow.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37