My Bridemaids are dragging their feet.

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]If they don't cooperate, I will make my daughter my MOH and get married without them![/quote]

You just asked your question and answered it too...so what is the problem here!!!!????

I know what you are going through!! I got engaged in September. I picked out the bridal party dresses, then sent the bridesmaids a letter saying they had to go get fitted and pay their deposit by the end of January. The ACTUAL deadline wasn't until mid March, but I knew there would be procastinaters, so I lied.

Of course, the last of the girls didn't go get fitted until the beginning of March, so it worked out, but I was still pissed because what if my deadline was really the end of January???

Did you give them a deadline? If not, then give them one, but not the real one. If they actually have until the end of July to get fitted, tell them they have til the end of June.

Girl you want me to call them? Cause I will

I thought I was the only one that this happened to. The advice of 'lying' to them is something I wish someone had told me before I found out how much my so called friends procrastinate. My original deadline was December 17th. On December 15th, a bridesmaid called me and said she couldn't pay her money because she was helping her mom move from California. Okay, did your mom just decide on yesterday that she's moving from California to Alabama in the next two days? And, she also informed me that another bridesmaid would not pay on time because her puppy needed a $1500 knee replacement. What happens that a 5 pound house dog needs a knee replacement. And she didn't even call me to tell me that. I called and got the deadline moved to January. Now my problem is dealing with a BM that won't tell me if she's in or out. I've tried contacting her several times, and can't get in touch with her. What do you ladies think? The wedding is August 26th.

Y'all know what. I too experienced this drama. I was hurt, upset and angry, then I realized that I was letting people steal my joy and ruin this experience for me. I decided to make an announcement. I did not lie about the fitting date, but I did tell everyone that whoever was in thier dress on September 16 sould be a bm and whoever did not cooperate with MY timetable, was still welcome as a guest. I stopped worrying about it and started focusing on the rest of the wedding plans and started to really enjoy myself. Well needless to say the ladies who wanted to participate ( all of them)
got themselves together and they have thier dresses and are awaiting thier fittings. It is an honor when someones asks you to be in ther wedding and I think that it is a slap in the face when you flake out on them. I say move on and find others who want to participate and enjoy yourself because this is supposed to be a happy time!!!

[quote="hampton_s"] Now my problem is dealing with a BM that won't tell me if she's in or out. I've tried contacting her several times, and can't get in touch with her. What do you ladies think? The wedding is August 26th.
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I think she answered your question for you. She's out! Your wedding is 2 months away and she don't have the respect to tell you something. If it was up to me I wouldn't even try to reach out to her again because if she was truly interested, you would've heard from her by now.

I agree with Sept(Askalot).Your wedding date is getting close and they haven't tried to cooperate.I say "she's out".But,if you insist on giving her another chance,give her one FINAL deadline.If she fails to met that deadline,cut her loose.You don't need to have someone ruin your special day by being uncooperative.

Update ladies!! Not too long after I posted last night, the 'missing' BM called me. As I figured, she won't be in the wedding. I don't know why it took so long for her to just tell me that. I told her that she's still responsible for paying the remaining balance on her dress. That's the store's policy. So now we're uneven with 6 BM and 7 GM. We decided not to ask any more GM to step down and become an usher (we've already asked one). So the last GM to walk in will have 2 BM on his arms.

I wonder if people do things like that out of pure laziness or jealousy.I never understood why they wait to the late minute.Don't they realize how important this is?

DaughterRhonda, I went through drama with mine also. I had about 5 paragraphs for you to read because you made me remember my drama but when I went to post I had to log back in and nothing was saved. I'm too tired to retype.

Long story short: Wedding in July. 2nd deadline was Dec. 5th. 3 paid on point/1 talked trash wasn't getting paid until the next week no problem because the 5th was my deadline. (She still owes me for the gown)/ 2 trifling ones in the south called me Dec. 24th from David's Bridal talkin bout if they need alterations we'd have to pay for it. haha-I left them alone. I said if they show up fine if not they won't be missed. They got theirs in Feb. My other girls were ordered in Dec. If the 2 trifling ones have a different shade I won't even care.

Us Brides - to - Be must be strong together. Hang tough.

[quote="platinumstyle"]I wonder if people do things like that out of pure laziness or jealousy.I never understood why they wait to the late minute.Don't they realize how important this is?
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I was just browsing through cause I'm new and I saw that you are having your platinumstyle wedding on my 26th birthday! I just had to say DO IT BIG GIRL! Congrats....Bumblebee

Some people just do put the value on your wedding as you do. We would like to think those we choose to be in our wedding would be more courteous but it doesn't always happen that way.

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]Some people just do put the value on your wedding as you do. We would like to think those we choose to be in our wedding would be more courteous but it doesn't always happen that way.

Hi Ieasha and welcome to the boards. You are so right. I am trying to remember that, as I go forward with my planning. When are you getting married?
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I am not getting married. I am just a wedding photographer. I see all the couples who wish to get married and get charged these outrageous amounts of money for photographers and being that I have been a photographer for over eight years I decided to open a business and help those couples out. I am divorced. I did the wedding thing twice. I think I will stick to photographing them!

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]Hi Ieasha, did you make arrangements with Rosie our Site Administrator to advertise here?
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No I didn't, I was trying to learn this site and figure out how do go about doing that. If you could give me the short cut that would be nice! :)

Ieasha, I sent you a note too!

Hi girls! Rhony, I'm on my way to Manhattan, wish you could meet me!

[quote="phenomonique"]Ieasha, I sent you a note too!

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I got it, I will call you!

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]Iesha, Niquey is wonderful!
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I spoke with her, she is wonderful with the information!

Very happy it all worked out just fine. Rony you do what you have to do to get those BM's on the ball. Niquey great looking out for a sister and Iesha I give you props for being up front about your intensions and accepting advice on going about advertising here.

Either that or give them one good kick right where it hurts the most....oops! did I say that out loud???

I heard that Rhonda!

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]Can you believe that no one has yet been to Niquey's shop to get their measurements taken? Only two of the ladies have confirmed when they will be able to go. I have sent final remeinders to all of the others. If they have not handled their business by that time, I will be thanking them and letting them know that they are welcomed to attend the wedding as guests and my daughter will be my Maid of Honor. I will not be stressed out because of this.
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Amen! Her gown will be in a the end of the month, and their's haven't even ben ordered.

[quote="ieasha"]Iesha, Niquey is wonderful!

I spoke with her, she is wonderful with the information!
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You gotta get those style number to me!

[quote="phenomonique"]Iesha, Niquey is wonderful!

I spoke with her, she is wonderful with the information!

You gotta get those style number to me!
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WHOA! YOU DIDN'T GET THEM! AW NAH! LET ME GET MY NOTES AND SEND THEM AGAIN. And here I am sitting patiently waiting! LOL!

[quote="ieasha"]Some people just do put the value on your wedding as you do. We would like to think those we choose to be in our wedding would be more courteous but it doesn't always happen that way.
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amen! nO onE CARES AS MUCH ABOUT YOUR WEDDING AS YOU DO! There will be so much jealousy and resentment from your friends and families -- it could drive you nuts!

• Just take a deep breath.
• Try not to talk about the wedding every second with them.
• Give them a little "thank you for being in my wedding" call every so often. They nmay not be feeling appreciated.

It's like when your friend just got a new baby and won't stop talking about it's cute poops pr the cute way it only spits up when eminem is playing. lol. They will be there for you on your day and after./ They just need a little fire under their tail some times!

Tell those heffas to fall in or get the hell out. *kick* stupid bridesmaids! gettin on my nerves.

[quote="hampton_s"] So the last GM to walk in will have 2 BM on his arms.
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that will be kinda cute... he's gon' think he pimpin hard.

Hello ladies,
I am new to this web site. I am just looking and trying to get ideas. I just had to comment on this post. My best friend got married about two years ago. We went through the same thing. I even ended up buying one of the BM dresses,but that wasn't a problem she is a true friend as well. The problem came on wedding day. We had a BM not show up at all(did I mention this BM was family) and we forced to ask GM to sit down and the wedding was about to start in 15 min. We should have known when she didn't show up for the rehearsal claiming she had to work and she got the weekends mixxed up. I wish we had this advice then The GM escorting 2 BM. I felt sorry for the guy.Me being the MOH,there was nothing I could say or do to make her feel better.

welcome to our family ms. shea! I hope you have as much fun as we do. This is a great site with so many wonderful and creative people. Too bad for that groomsman. At my cousins wedding in April her BROTHER was supposed to be a grooman and didn't show up and didn't call us for 5 days. So she let her big sister walk down the aisle by herself which was fine with her because it meant all eyes were on her.

We went from CA to St. Louis so we were wondering if he missed his flight, if everything was ok, if he was hurt. She got married on April 29th and graduated from college on May 2nd and he missed it all. He finally called us and claimed he had to WORK although he knew a year ahead of time that his baby sister was getting married, he even bought a plane ticket. He simply wasted money and hurt his sister is the process.

OH HELL NO Ms.Lee ! That would be one hurt brother when I see him.I only have a brother and he BETTER show up at my wedding!I know he lives in Texas and he works and I'm in Cali but we will fight if he's not there. Let him not show up I will fly out there just to kick his astronomy!