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Subject: Letter on Steve Harvey Morning Show. Please Read. This will blow your mind!!!
STRAWBERRY LETTER FOR TODAY
Date: 08/28/2008
Good Morning Steve and the Morning show family, I actually do not know Where to start with my letter. I guess I will start will saying I have been in tears everyday for the last 4 months. I guess I will also start by giving you a little history. First of all, my husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We met in college when I was a freshman and he was a junior.
When we met, we realized we had a lot in common. We both grew up in the same city just on different sides of town. So we didn't know each other. We were raised by strong single black women that made sure we had the best, we were raised in the church, and we both wanted to get legal degrees. We got married shortly after I graduated college and we relocated to Chicago in hopes of attending la w school. When we got to Chicago, I became a nurse instead and my husband got a position at a legal firm (long story short, we didn't make it to law school). We both are devout Christians and we have been for most of our life. We decided that in order to really move forward in our spiritual life, that we needed to forgive all the people we had problems with including our fathers. We didn't realize how much that unforgiveness impacted our own lives. I made it a point to forgive my father in my heart because I knew it would be difficult to find him. My husband, however, got in touch with his father and made arrangements to meet up with him when we went home for our family reunion. They decided to meet up at the park where the reunion was to be held because they felt that was a neutral spot. We went home for the family reunion in May.. To my surprise, my father was there. Even though I hadn't seen him in almost 16 yrs, I knew it was him. I rememb ered the goal me and my husband had set for ourselves so I agreed to go somewhere and talk with him as long as we remained in the park.
After about 45 minutes of catching up, I finally asked him what he was doing at the park on that day of all days. He mentioned that he was there to meet someone special in his life. I figured it was probably just another woman.
Just then, my husband walked up and said, I see you met my father. At that point, I did pass out (literally). I woke up in the hospital a couple of hours later. After a week, my husband went back to Chicago. I remained in our hometown with my mother. I was not ready to face all the issues on my plate and I couldn't just go back to Chicago with my husband/brother.
After 3 months, I am absolutely confused about what to do. Even though we have only been married for 2 years, we have been together for almost 5. I can't imagine my life without him. However, I get sick to my stomach when I think about the fact that I have been sleeping with my brother for so long.
I know deep down it isn't really our fault. I mean we did everything right.
I Know the obvious thing to do is divorce him. But that is easier said than done. I am not torn between divorce and my religious beliefs because we got married under false pretenses. My problem is, I am torn between doing the obvious thing and dealing with all these emotions at the same time. Please tell me what to do. I don't think I have anymore tears left to cry.
Just got this email need to be quick but tell me your opinion or what would you do.
Subject: Letter on Steve Harvey Morning Show. Please Read. This will blow your mind!!!
STRAWBERRY LETTER FOR TODAY
Date: 08/28/2008
Good Morning Steve and the Morning show family, I actually do not know Where to start with my letter. I guess I will start will saying I have been in tears everyday for the last 4 months. I guess I will also start by giving you a little history. First of all, my husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We met in college when I was a freshman and he was a junior.
When we met, we realized we had a lot in common. We both grew up in the same city just on different sides of town. So we didn't know each other. We were raised by strong single black women that made sure we had the best, we were raised in the church, and we both wanted to get legal degrees. We got married shortly after I graduated college and we relocated to Chicago in hopes of attending la w school. When we got to Chicago, I became a nurse instead and my husband got a position at a legal firm (long story short, we didn't make it to law school). We both are devout Christians and we have been for most of our life. We decided that in order to really move forward in our spiritual life, that we needed to forgive all the people we had problems with including our fathers. We didn't realize how much that unforgiveness impacted our own lives. I made it a point to forgive my father in my heart because I knew it would be difficult to find him. My husband, however, got in touch with his father and made arrangements to meet up with him when we went home for our family reunion. They decided to meet up at the park where the reunion was to be held because they felt that was a neutral spot. We went home for the family reunion in May.. To my surprise, my father was there. Even though I hadn't seen him in almost 16 yrs, I knew it was him. I rememb ered the goal me and my husband had set for ourselves so I agreed to go somewhere and talk with him as long as we remained in the park.
After about 45 minutes of catching up, I finally asked him what he was doing at the park on that day of all days. He mentioned that he was there to meet someone special in his life. I figured it was probably just another woman.
Just then, my husband walked up and said, I see you met my father. At that point, I did pass out (literally). I woke up in the hospital a couple of hours later. After a week, my husband went back to Chicago. I remained in our hometown with my mother. I was not ready to face all the issues on my plate and I couldn't just go back to Chicago with my husband/brother.
After 3 months, I am absolutely confused about what to do. Even though we have only been married for 2 years, we have been together for almost 5. I can't imagine my life without him. However, I get sick to my stomach when I think about the fact that I have been sleeping with my brother for so long.
I know deep down it isn't really our fault. I mean we did everything right.
I Know the obvious thing to do is divorce him. But that is easier said than done. I am not torn between divorce and my religious beliefs because we got married under false pretenses. My problem is, I am torn between doing the obvious thing and dealing with all these emotions at the same time. Please tell me what to do. I don't think I have anymore tears left to cry.
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OH. MY. GOD!
I would move slow, but go ahead and divorce him. She will get over it. And the healing will begin. She definitely needs prayer! Its not her fault, its the father's fault. This is why men need to stop leaving their seeds all over town, cause you never know who is going to meet up together later in life. This is the consequences of fathers who do not get to know their children, and spend time with them, and get involved in their lives. Had he been in their lives together earlier, he could have stopped this before it started! This is such a shame, but definitely preventable on the father's part.
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WOW!!!!! that is crazy... I am at a lost for words with that. but at the same time I do wonder... they went all that time together and never once mentioned their father's name? I do feel that is the father's fault for not being there, so they didnt have the chance to get to know each earlier.I really do feel for you her and she/they definitely need to pray about this and get the divorce. do they not talk after the divorce tho...how can they go from living as husband and wife to being brother and sister.
When I got with DH, I did all types of research on our families because we lived in the same city and our families were cool with each other, and i dont know much of my father's family (cause he wasnt there either) but i know there is alot of them.
Awwwwwwwwwww, I feel so sorry for them, but the obvious thing to do is get a divorce. I don't think they should continue this marriage. They will heal and it will hurt for a while. Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, I'm still in shock and my heart is breaking for them.
OH MY LORD!!!! What in the world!!! I mean my goodness. This is a mess, really. My first reaction of course is divorce divorce divorce, but also I can see where she is coming from. I put myself in her situation, what if I found out that my husband that I love SOOOOOOOOO frickin' much is my brother. I mean like she said the obvious thing is divorce but how hard would that be. ESPECIALLY since you had no knowledge and it was not your fault at all!! But then again he is your brother! Wow this is a hard thing...and very unfortunate....wow...
Wow, divorcing is the obvious thing to do, but I would also suggest counseling for both of them. Yes, they'll get over it, but they'll never forget. Counseling may help them cope better with each other. How will they be able to face each other at family reunions. What a mess the father has created. My heart goes out to both of them. WOwW\\
OMG...What a story...I think counseling would really help the both of them.
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Wow! I was listening to this the morning it came on and you wouldn't BELIEVE some of the responses they rec'd; also, I was shocked at how many other people have experienced similiar situations with cousins etc...another reason why we as women ALWAYS need to let our children know who their fathers are whether the man is good or bad... :(
Of course they should get a divorce! I know they share a very strong emotional bond together now, but the future is what is at stake here...especially if they decide to have children;l they will definetly need to get some counseling and now is the time they really need to hold on to their spiritual roots but at this point GOD is all they really have to lean and depend on!!
There was a couple similar to this on the Maury show only it was worst they had a kid together. They found out they had the same father and not only was the kid their child but it was also their niece. WOW. But the worst of it all was that they decided to STAY TOGETHER. How sick is that? So the brther and sister decided to continue sleeping with each other. EEEEWWWW
WOW, what a sad situation to be in. I'm utterly speechless. Maybe states need to go back to requiring blood tests before granting marriage licenses and run some DNA stuff in the process. Woooow !!!
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[quote="pamcrow"]WOW, what a sad situation to be in. I'm utterly speechless. Maybe states need to go back to requiring blood tests before granting marriage licenses and run some DNA stuff in the process. Woooow !!!
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Too true! I think back when DH & I applied-we were in and out in 15 minutes...
This is very sad. I believe that because the two of them are Christians, they were led to find out the truth. The only solution is to divorce this man and began, counseling. That father if that is what I can call him should be ashamed of himself. My heart goes out to them both (husband/wife now brother/sister), they both, I am sure are experiencing unbelievable heart break. May God continue to bless them both.
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I agree, this is very sad.
I believe that incestuous marriage is actually illegal between brother and sister in most states. No one actually said INCEST, but that is what it is. Even First cousins can have children with little or no DNA fall out if their mothers aren't sisters. It is weirdly OK if their fathers were brothers (WTF) But all is OK if they are 3rd cousins or more.
Some societies even include all "blood relatives"; other societies further include those related by adoption or marriage in the category of incest. That's a lot to think about.
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O-M-G!!!!! I couldn't believe what I was reading. That is so crazy.
Just like Shy41208, we did all kinds of research too. I know the background now.
I am sooooo glad that they didn't have any children together! That would've made this situation a whole lot WORSE!! Of course I wouldn't stay in the marriage and would get counseling ASAP. I will most definitely pray for them...God will bring them through.
OMG! This is TERRIBLE! My heart really goes out to the both of them.
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Aww... my heart is aching.
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It happens. In England a set of fraternal twins that had been given up for adoption met up a got married. They said always felt a special connection. After they found out that they were related they ended the marriage. Poor them.
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