BABY MOMMAS & EX-GIRLFIENDS

If you don't feel comfortable,don't invite them.I don't blame you for feeling that way.You have enough to deal with and you don't need that kind of drama at your wedding.I won't be invited my FH's brother's wife to our wedding because of some drama she caused a few months ago.

NO NO NO NO NO! Do not invite them. I agree with you, DO NOT extend your special day to those people. Just my opinion!

Threjolyn,

I had decided at the very beginning that the only people that will be invited to my wedding are those people who genuinely love and support me and my husband. I don't believe in having someone there that is a hater/

[quote="brownskinchick"]Threjolyn,

I had decided at the very beginning that the only people that will be invited to my wedding are those people who genuinely love and support me and my husband. I don't believe in having someone there that is a hater/
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Ditto!!!!!

I think it depends on the relationship you have with her. If you get along with each other, and there is no feeling of "sneakiness" with her, then go ahead and invite her, but, if you two have drama, or you feel that she secretly still wants your man, then don't invite her!

We invited BOTH of my FH baby's mommas, and my baby's daddy, but we all get along fine. There has never been any drama in the 6 years we have been together, and I am blessed for that because I know how hard it can be when you are in a relationship with someone who has kids with someone else.

B2B, that is a good situation and I am glad that you and your childrens parents can get along. Sometimes that is not the case. When my fiance and I were not together he was seeing someone else and this woman "hated" me for no reason at all. (Maybe it is because she knew that he was still in love with me). I am happy that you guys have gotten along all of those years. What a blessing!

Good for you,B2B!My FH's oldest son's mother can't stand me but I have nothing against her.Oh well.Either way,I want his sons to be groomsmen and she won't be invited.

[quote="platinumstyle"]Good for you,B2B!My FH's oldest son's mother can't stand me but I have nothing against her.Oh well.Either way,I want his sons to be groomsmen and she won't be invited.
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Sometimes, it works out that way. But I wish you the best Platinum!

HELL NO... don't invite the baby momma to the wedding unless you are looking to have a crappy day! Its your day and you should be surrounded by people you love and love you back. Shake them haters off and leave them where they should be some place else talking about you behind your back. Sorry you even have this drama in your life.

lol too funnny Futremrslee! Why oh why would you even WANT to be at your recent exes wedding anyway. SO innappropriate and dare I say TACKY. Especially if you are feeling resentful. And honestly how coujld you not be resentful especially if even having his baby wasn't a good enough reson for him to marry you?

Don't feel bad. You are doing her a favor by not inviting her. This way she won't feel uncomfortanle when she has to decline trhe invite.

Now Ms Rosey you KNOW if she were to come to the wedding she would be on the sidelines finding little things to nitpick about jolyns wedding: dress wasn't that cute, flower girls weren't cute, colors were ugly, food was terrible, lie and say no one showed up, hell, might even accidentally *bump* the cake table just to see if her evil self can topple it. Especially if she has been *messy* since they got together.

You don't need fake smiles in your face on your wedding day, if you allow it to that negativity she will bring to your space can affect the mood of the entire ceremony and reception.

I wish some women could learn to just let a man go. It is JUST a man. There are almost just as many claiming to not be able to find a good woman as there are of us complaining about not being able to find a good man.

Good lawdy! There is more fire to this one! lol

MsLee,you are on point!I agree.Threjolyn,you don't need her there.You said that she jealous.She won't be happy for you and you don't need that kind of negativity on your big day.

Lawd, the drama! lol Who would be so evil as to tip the cake???!!! Carry vaseline! lol

ms rosey some heffas out there are evil especially when they get jealous over losing a man they think they were entitled to.

omg... giiiirll.. we would be CRAZY! we'd have so much fun. I wish we could have a vibride slumber party or some junk.

Some of the ladies are plannng to meet in NewYork in a little while. I wish I could go but I'm all the way in Cali on the other side of the earth...lol. But what we could do is get all the Cali brides together and have a ball!

[quote="FutureMsLee"]HELL NO... don't invite the baby momma to the wedding unless you are looking to have a crappy day! Its your day and you should be surrounded by people you love and love you back. Shake them haters off and leave them where they should be some place else talking about you behind your back. Sorry you even have this drama in your life.
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HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! I told you before FutureMsLee, I like your style!!!! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

[quote="Rosetta"]Lawd, the drama! lol Who would be so evil as to tip the cake???!!! Carry vaseline! lol
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Carry vaseline............ Toooooooooooo Funny!!!!!!

[quote="Rosetta"]Lawd, the drama! lol Who would be so evil as to tip the cake???!!! Carry vaseline! lol
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Lol.Don't forget to keep a pair of sneakers handy!

[quote="threjolyn"]IF WE COULD JUST ALL MEET UP AND HAVE A GIRLS NIGHT OUT IT WOULD REALLY GREAT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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That's sound great!I'd love to meet evryone.I remember last year Rosey mentioned a Vibride cruise.Rosey,are you going to plan another?

yay! i wanna go on this cruise... RHONY START SAVING SO WE CAN GO ON THIS CRUISE!

[quote="FutureMsLee"]yay! i wanna go on this cruise... RHONY START SAVING SO WE CAN GO ON THIS CRUISE!
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Yay, cruise her we come!

No you are not wrong for not inviting drama causers to your special day. I have relatives that I am not inviting because I am just not close to them and they have never caused drama in my life.

Honestly, I have 3 children and they all have different fathers. I don't allow them into my home. The youngest one's dad gets over my threshold sometimes because she is young (almost 3) and if I can't get downstairs to meet them he has to come upstairs.

I went through a dilemma about inviting the lil one's dads' girlfriend to her birthday party due to some drama she stirred up this year. I invited her last year and was going to allow him to bring her this year and tell them both that she will be tolerated, not invited. I planned to call her and tell her so she knew that she would be in essence ignored and could make the choice on if she would attend. I would do nothing to make her comfortable or introduce her like I did last year. God works in mysterious ways, neither of them will be coming due to their trip taking place on my daughter's birthday.

I would not invite the exes -- just drama waiting to happen...this day is supposed to be one of joy and new beginnings -- why start off with THAT?

It's rare that inviting the ex turn out well. There's always that 'been there, done that' attitude in the air.
Example-I went out with some coworker from a previous job, my exes new girl was there. Now chicky(we'll call her Cindy and him Jay) and I got along okay, cause once I move on, I've moved on. Well low and behold someone made a comment about Jay and I kinda chuckled to myself. Do you know Cindy went left on me saying I started the rumor, now granted she had a few drinks in her, so I tried to calm the situation. She wouldn't let up. Before you know it she calling me a bunch of biotches, I didn't say anything because she didn't say it to me directly. Well frogy leapt my way and I calmly came out of my bag and silenced her.
One of my brides said her husbands ex showed up at their wedding, it turned out bad.

don't y'all remember the beginning of soulfood when bird married lem and his exgirlfriend showed up in the skin tight green minidress trying to freak him down on the dance floor?! NO EXES! If you have to set aside some of your budget for extra security and pass out fotos of these heffas so they are stopped at the door. NO EXES AT THE WEDDING!

Same thing I thought about!

First let me say "Hello Ladies". This is my first post here. I was surfing the this site for the first time and stumbled onto this thread and I am dying over here..LOL You ladies are hillarious. I just HAD to join this site.

MsLee you are a trip girl! I am sitting here cracking up at all of your posts. I too am in a similar situation where a baby momma is involved and I know still wants to be with my future hubby and there is NO WAY that she will be invited to our special day! Especially since we have had run-ins in the past. I was tripping cause I actually thought of passing her pic out to my hostesses so they could be on the lookout for her LOL...I wasn't really gonna do it though but man when MsLee said the same thing I was like "Dang maybe i'm not crazy!" to myself...haha

Welcome Shawty! You are in for the time of your life here!!! Fortunately I don't have any baby's mama's issues. But if I did, there would be NO EXES, NO WAY!!!!

Shawty welcome to the sistahood! I hope you will enjoy your time with us. I type the first thing that pops into this little brain of mine. First thought: Hell No, She Can't Go. She can't even stand in the back of the church or on the lawn outside or in the hallway of the church. Absolutely not.

Thanks for the warm welcome ladies! I look forward to having a good time here and to get away from the stress that comes with planning a wedding...at least for a little while.

MsLee...LOL I am still laughing girl!

Wow,Niquey.You had me fooled.I thought you were quiet but,you're a "straight up thug"!Lol.

[quote="platinumstyle"]Wow,Niquey.You had me fooled.I thought you were quiet but,you're a "straight up thug"!Lol.
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ROTFLMBAO! HAAAAAAAAA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA Nique is So Gangsta!

It's the quiet people that you have to watch out for -- LOL!!!

girl rhony aint it the truth

[quote="platinumstyle"]Wow,Niquey.You had me fooled.I thought you were quiet but,you're a "straight up thug"!Lol.
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Niquey is a thug! She a rider for life. I read the story of her meeting Curt and she said she was about to go to jail the night before...She doing something....

It is the quiet ones you have to watch out for. You never know what the are going to do.Why you sitting there running yo mouth they could be planning the right moment to pop you in it.

LOL!!!!!! Y'all made me tear-up laughing so hard. OMG!!!

HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

Niquey girl we know you aint too ghetto! It's all good gyrl.You gotta have a little something something in you or people try to run over you

I keep my Ghetto in check. I walk in a place as Princess Grace and before I leave they done turned me into Da Brat! LOL!!!

[quote="alvinslove"] Why you sitting there running yo mouth they could be planning the right moment to pop you in it.
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hahahahahahahaha ya girl is on the ground.

GIRL PLEASE! UNDER NO SIRCUMTANCE SHOULD YOU INVITE AN EX BABY MOMMA. YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT SHE IS CHILDISH AND YOU TOO DONT GET ALONG SO WHY WOULD YOU EVEN DWELL ON THE IDEA. THIS IS YOUR DAY WHO CARES WHO IS MAD BECAUSE YOU DIDNT INVITE THEM. I WOULD RAHTER THEM BEING MAD AND UPSET THEN YOU. THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL I WOULD INVITE PEOPLE TO MY WEDDING WHO CREATES DRAMA FOR ME AND MY RELATIONSHIP!

I feel you on that but my problem is not a baby mama or ex girlfriend its FH's family and I have to invite them..... They are too much drama. Me and FH are always the talk of the family, even when we're not around! FH's brother (the famous BIL that erks my nerves so much) had the nerve to tell me "thats what we do in our family, we talk about each other and act like everything is ok" . Now I can see why FH rarely wants to go around them.