Hello ladies, I know you all are tired of me and my bridal situation - LOL!!!. Nonetheless, I would like to update you guys on the latest. Four members out of six have made deposits on their dresses. I asked Niquey to go ahead and order the dresses of the ladies who have already paid. I can't be bothered with the rest of them. One of the bridesmaids is currently out of town and insists that she will get her dress but she can't tell me when. The other one has been telling me that she's going to Niquey's for the past three weeks and hasn't got there yet. I gave them all a deadline of last Friday 7/28/06. I am trying to remain calm and maybe this isn't anything to stress over, but why can't people just be honest? I just don't understand that. Now I'm probably going to have to rearrange the groomsmen (still need to talk to FH about this) to accommodate the shortened bridal party.
Hello ladies, I know you all are tired of me and my bridal situation - LOL!!!. Nonetheless, I would like to update you guys on the latest. Four members out of six have made deposits on their dresses. I asked Niquey to go ahead and order the dresses of the ladies who have already paid. I can't be bothered with the rest of them. One of the bridesmaids is currently out of town and insists that she will get her dress but she can't tell me when. The other one has been telling me that she's going to Niquey's for the past three weeks and hasn't got there yet. I gave them all a deadline of last Friday 7/28/06. I am trying to remain calm and maybe this isn't anything to stress over, but why can't people just be honest? I just don't understand that. Now I'm probably going to have to rearrange the groomsmen (still need to talk to FH about this) to accommodate the shortened bridal party.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
You have a decision to make there girlfriend! You are either going to extend them or you are going to lose them!
Each One Teach One!
You are right Ieasha. It is terribly unfair to keep things up in the air like this. I value both of the ladies friendships and I don't want them to be upset, but I have a wedding to plan. It would be different if they would just tell me if they can't be in the wedding or if something is going on (financially or otherwise) then just tell me. I am not an unapproachable person and I am very easy going (atleast I think so - lol). One of the ladies is a childhood friend and we have been through highschool graduations, marriages (hers), divorce (hers), birth of children and we worship at the same church. There is no excuse. The one that has been telling me that she's going to Niquey's and never does I am ready to loose her because she hasn't been honest and when I ask her, she seems to become a little irritated. I am going to pray about this and I will do what He tells me to do. Enough is enough already.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Rhony, I wouldn't wait any longer for them. It is very inconsiderate and disrespectful of them to take their time. I say to hell with them and plan around them. Don't extend any longer. You've already given them plenty of time.
Always put prayer into this situation, because this is a hard task that you will have to endure. There is nothing more worse than loosing a friend over a situation but sometimes you have to cut loose and go on,But most of all please talk with FH about letting go of your BM,also please don't let the Bridezilla out on them.
I can do all things through christ which strengthens me.
Rony, my sista you have gone above and beyond by giving them ample time through extension after extension and they have not held up their end of the bargain. You should not have to stress over this nor have to hound them about being in your wedding. They have known for almost a year that they would be in your wedding so there i no excuse. I would simply call them both and have a heart to heart. Just ask them if they really want to be in the wedding and that your feelings wouldn't be hurt. As always, pray about it and talk to your FH too.
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rhony you know how much them heffas piss me off everytime i read about them. I'm going to take a shower and calm down and come back here with something constructive to offer.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda
and you aint lying about that 'slow' part. they are 'slow' like short yellow bus 'slow' and got molasses in the ass kinda slow (color purple). See, I told you reading about them gets me all riled up, lemme go take my shower.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda
Hey Rony,
I know you really value your friendship with these ladies, but right now your santity is more important. If that means letting then sit on the bench(lol) and not be a part of the starting line up then bench them. I know how you feel with the childhood friend, I have that same problem but I just felt like she would cuase more drama than needed and when I look at what we have been through I was more of friend to her than she was for me so she is not going to be apart of my wedding. It was a hard decisison at first then I thought about it and in the end in the audeince is where she may end up but she does have a beautiful voice she may just be my soloist if I decied to have one.
I hope this helps.FutureMrs.Lee I hope you have calmed down.LOL
Southerngirl.....
Girl you gotta do what you gotta do. If you whould have waited until the other ladies come around, eveveryone would have to pay rush delivery fees. Call me tody with their phone numbers.
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[quote="phenomonique"]Girl you gotta do what you gotta do. If you whould have waited until the other ladies come around, eveveryone would have to pay rush delivery fees. Call me tody with their phone numbers.
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Yeah you have gone above and beyond and you have to do what you have to do....I probably would let them push it as late as they can and if they have to drop the $$ to pay rush, let them suffer that consequence, if they decide at the very last minute not to do it, why should you care? These are grown women who have been warned over and over and over again...do they want YOU to break down and buy it? Maybe thats it but I tell you- DON'T DO IT! Either they will or they won't...enough is enough.
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Rhony girrrrrrrrl ! give me their number and I WILL CALL THEM! They have really really made me mad.What the hell, they groen they cant keep deadlines.Please do not extend your date anymore. They cant get the downpayment now how they gonna finish paying for them later?See at the first sign of this from my ladies I will bench them with the quickness.
Future yo crazy... Molasses in their asses...my grandmother says that alot after seeing The Color Purple.
Rhonda,
What I'm starting to realize is people don't understand how is involved in putting together a wedding. It can definitely be a stressful time, you must continue with your plans. This is an important time for you don't let a few uncooperative people spoil
it for you. It is what it is. Continue to make your day as special as you can with what you have. God will bless your day.
[quote="FutureMsLee"]and you aint lying about that 'slow' part. they are 'slow' like short yellow bus 'slow' and got molasses in the ass kinda slow (color purple). See, I told you reading about them gets me all riled up, lemme go take my shower.
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Future girl I love you!!!! I needed a good laugh and as usual you always come through -- you are too much! Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
You ladies are the best I appreciate you all so much, I wouldn't trade any of you for nothing. Niquey thanks you are the best, I don't want the other ladies penalized because two people weren't able to meet the deadline.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
One of the ladies is a childhood friend and we have been through highschool graduations, marriages (hers), divorce (hers), birth of children and we worship at the same church. There is no excuse. Enough is enough already.
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This in it self says enough if you have done all of this then she should have been the first one in line to pay for her dress. I know I am late on this I thought I posted earlier. Anyway I was saying I know exactly how you feel about the friendship. I am in the same boat I was this chick MOH. I don't feel bad about not asking her to even be in my wedding , b/c when I look back I have been more of a friend to her than she has been to me. This is your day and the less drama you can have then less drama you need. My girl just got married on July 2nd and she only had one of person standing up there for her and she has been there for her from the beginning. I was not upset. So you do what Rhony needs to make this day all about you and your FH! Again sorry I am late replying.....
Southerngirl.....
Excellent advise!
[quote="SeptBride"]Niquey, I wouldn't wait any longer for them. It is very inconsiderate and disrespectful of them to take their time. I say to hell with them and plan around them. Don't extend any longer. You've already given them plenty of time.
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Exactly Askalot -- time to move on!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
lol - I meant to put Rhony. Niquey must've been thinking of me! Anyway, I hope that you have made your FINAL decision.
Yes I have, I just left Niquey a message to go ahead and order the dresses. I'm not really comfortable with giving out their phone numbers. They've had Niquey's contact information for quite some time now. I just want the other ladies dresses ordered so that they are not penalized for the other two ladies inconsiderate ways. My final decesion is to move on without them.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
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FutureMrs.Lee I hope you have calmed down.LOL
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I'm better now. A shower and some sleep has centered me. Plus I made 44 bucks mystery shopping last nite just by going to 2 different togos and ordering a sandwich. Y'all wanna get down with mystery shopping send me a PM and I will give you guys the different companies I work for so you can sign up too.
Rhony, I am happy with your decision to leave these inconsiderate heffas in the wind. I know it is very sad because you have love for these people, enough love to ask them, of all the people you know, to be apart of your big day. In the words of my gr8-grandmother F**K Em, yeah y'all, gr8-granny cuss like a sailor. This is your day and it is going to happen with or without them, and for those who have actually done as they are supposed to be doing give them an extra special thank you (if you have it in your budget) as a way of saying you appreciate them for getting it together and understanding that the bride has a enough to deal with without having to stress over wayward bridesmaids.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda
Future you sure know how to make a person feel better -- you should be a comedian -- too funny! Yes girl I did take your gr8 granny's advice and decided to move on! -- LOL!!! Yall I feel better already -- I am too tickled!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37