Hello! I have a couple of questions.. 1st, have any of you ever heard of having 2 Maids of Honor? I think this may be the situation that I will be faced with. My best friend, who would naturally be my MOH, has been having some issues lately, involving some mood swings, with me being on the receiving end (mind you, I've done absolutely nothing to her). Then, a few days later, acts as if nothing has happened, doesn't apologize or anything. Meanwhile, I have another friend that has been like my "roaddog" over the last year or so. I would like her to be a maid of honor as well. Plus the fact, she seems more excited about my upcoming nuptials than my best friend. So, what would you do in this situation? I have a good mind to just use my daughter and stepdaughter as my attendants and forget everyone else, but FH is using his brother and our son for his best men... I can't even move forward with my plans because I've been stressing out over this one detail...my wedding is in May of 2007, and there is so much to do!!! (My stress contradicts my little phrase at the bottom!)
Hello! I have a couple of questions.. 1st, have any of you ever heard of having 2 Maids of Honor? I think this may be the situation that I will be faced with. My best friend, who would naturally be my MOH, has been having some issues lately, involving some mood swings, with me being on the receiving end (mind you, I've done absolutely nothing to her). Then, a few days later, acts as if nothing has happened, doesn't apologize or anything. Meanwhile, I have another friend that has been like my "roaddog" over the last year or so. I would like her to be a maid of honor as well. Plus the fact, she seems more excited about my upcoming nuptials than my best friend. So, what would you do in this situation? I have a good mind to just use my daughter and stepdaughter as my attendants and forget everyone else, but FH is using his brother and our son for his best men... I can't even move forward with my plans because I've been stressing out over this one detail...my wedding is in May of 2007, and there is so much to do!!! (My stress contradicts my little phrase at the bottom!)
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I DON'T KNOW WHY BUT SOME BEST FRIENDS CAN'T SEEM TO JUST GET OVER THEMSELVES. IT IS NOT UNUSUAL, IT'S YOUR WEDDING DO WHAT YOU LIKE. SOME HAVE A MOH(MAID OF HONOR) AND SOME HAVE A MATRON OF HONOR. THE MATRON BEING THE MARRIED INDIVIDUAL.
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Yes. I have seen a wedding recently where there were 2 maids of honor. Its okay to do so, especially if you're torn with a decision between two people.
Dont friends always try and out do one another?i say have 2 its been done many a times.
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Yes, it's very common. I actually have 1 maid of honor and 2 matrons.
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So how does that work do they take turns to attend to you,or does one person attend to you and the other stands with the BM.Just trying to picture it.
They are the 3 closest to me and his 3 best men are closest to him. The rest of the bridal party will be coupled up, so there will be Bm's & Gm's on both sides.
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I have a Maid of Honor - my closest cousin ever and a Matron of Honor (our very own Bossie - nlbostic). They are the 2 closest people to me the only difference is one is married and one isn't. They both will take on the duties together. Although, I believe Bossie will be doing more leg work since she lives close to me. MY MOH lives in the Bronx.
I have two maid of honors -- my sister and my best friend. My fiance has two best men, two of his closest childhood friends. It works for us. As far as your friend is concerned Jayreebrat it sounds like she might be a little jealous. Sometimes weddings bring out these types of feelings in people. Girl do what you gotta do and ask your "roaddog" to be your other Maid of Honor.
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As the girls have said, 2 maid of honors is certainly do-able! However, it is time to go ahead and have a sit-down with your best friend and ask her if everything alright, is there anything she needs to get off her chest....sometimes you may just need to have a girl talk over some frappacinos or something. Many times a close friend may project some personal stress on to you, especially since we are talking about our wedding and good news....it may not give her a chance to speak freely without feeling like her bad news will dampen our excitement.....if you think she may be a tad jealous (but this is not always the case), but especially if she came out of a relationship, or if hers is not moving along like yours is, don't get mad....every woman wants happiness, and as much as she may love you, she wants YOUR kind of happiness....make sure you give her some of your time so that she can vent her feelings if she is having a bad day or if she is having a personal problem with her BF or family....We as brides have to make sure those who are around us don't feel like its all about us....Its just one day, and after the fun, we still have our friends and family to deal with afterwards.....I pray you and your friend work it out!
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Weddings are usually the time when close friendships are tested. jayreebrat is our BF married?
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I so agree with Bumble and Niquey that was a great question. I try and make sure that I don't take over conversations with my friends talking about my wedding. They may ask you something because they feel that's the thing to do but don't elaborate too much, ask them what's going on with them. This can help alleviate some of those jealous feelings.
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Thanks everyone for the advice. No, my BF isn't married. She has been in a relationship with a wonderful man for several years. I'll make sure that I have a talk with her, because we haven't had a chance to talk about much of anything in a while....I have very active teenagers...she has no kids right now. Hopefully we can get everything out in the open. I honestly don't feel that her feelings have anything directly to do with me, but something within herself. I really want her to share in one of the happiest days of my life, but at the same time, I don't want to face the next 9 months being stressed out everytime I talk to her because I don't know what kind of mood she may be in.
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Good Jayreebrat, I'm sure once you talk to her, you will know how to proceed. All the best.
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Yeah that's great news! Hope it goes well. Keep us posted
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Do you think your friend is a little jealous because she has been dating for a while and is not married yet and now your getting married?
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It could be a number of things so we have to make sure that we don't assume it's jealousy. I know that was my first thought when I read the post and I responded by saying it was jealousy but it might be something else. I thought that way about my friend but it was really that she was happy for me but was so consumed with her 2 babies,job, marriage, finances, etc that she really couldn't give me the attention and time that I needed.
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Thanks to all of you for your responses. (Sorry I'm late replying, computer's been down a few times). I did think BF was jealous at first, but I think it is something within herself that she's dealing with. So, I have decided to have 1 Matron and 2 Maids Of Honor. I have those 3, and then 2 more ladies. I also have my daughter and step-daughter in it, but they are just standing up there as our children. Now, my problem is, how do I tell BF and RD that they both are Maids of Honor? RD won't care, but BF may be offended that she's not the only Maid....her sister is my Matron Of Honor. I had written a letter to all 3 of them (I express myself better when I write), and I explained how all 3 of them, though VERY different, have been a special part of my life, each in her own way. Does that sound tacky?
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Do you girl. My sister is still mad that she is not my MOH and I could care less.
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LOL. I know that's right!
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I know that I'm coming in late on this topic but here's my opinion... it's YOUR day!If you want two MOH's,have them!
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I'm also late on this topic but I have two matrons of honor- who would have thought. My sister got married a few months after I announced my engagement and my best friend was already engaged! But I want the two of them by my side every step of the way. My groom has the same situation his cousin and best friend will be his best men. Then we have 6 other friends a piece in the party.
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Writing them all letters is a great thing.Its something they will remember forever and they can keep.I wrote my Bridesmaids and MOH little notes and at the end I asked if each would be my...and to call me with an answer. All of them called and accepted and were crying on the phone. It's going to be a very touching moment for you guys....
If your friend cares anything about your feeling she wont get mad that she's not the only MOH.In fact that means she gets to split hafl of her duties with another person. Then she wont be so stressed out in the end.Please tell us how things are going...
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lol! Great advice guys.
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[quote="platinumstyle"]I know that I'm coming in late on this topic but here's my opinion... it's YOUR day!If you want two MOH's,have them!
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