FH is getting on my @#$# nerves

Planning a wedding is stressful. Everyone wants to call off the engagement at some point. Rember the play" the importance of being ernest"? lol. Just take a deep breath and apologize. Don't wait for him to do it, because when people's patience is tested they take that opportunity to test their love. That is never a good thing. Just say I'm sorry. AND MOVE ON.

Try to limit talks about money over the next few weeks. Plan your wedding exclusively with friends and family and give him a chance to realize he is being an ass! lol

I totally agree with Rosey! Hang in there Mrs.P2B!

Great advice Rosie! MrsPatrick2b I just wanted to tell you that last month my fiance and I were getting on each others nerves something awful!!!! Planning a wedding is stressful, hang in there and don't let anyone/anything steal your joy! I wish you guys the best!

You are welcomed MrsPatrick2b, we can all relate!

Sweetie every relationsship has its up'a and down's,better or worst, Thats life unfortunately. Girl if I based my decision on getting married everytime my Fh got on my nerves, every other day I would be up here typing the WEDDINGS OFF, THE WEDDINGS ON, THE WEDDINGS OFF, THE WEDDINGS ON! LOL. I think that when you go through certain things it prepares you and makes you stonger. Everyone has good and bad days. You just have to learn how to let certain things go, and not let them get to you.

Gyrl all the FH's will get on our nerves at one point.We just have to hang tight and stick through it all.My mom always tells me "It gets greater later". I take that as the relationship and the problems...both will get greater later.

Excellent advice ladies!

Girl sometimes including my fh in wedding planing is like pulling teeth. He says I never listen to his idea's, which is probably true! But some of his idea's are crazy, dont match with the theme, or just play ugly. I think he does it to get on my last nerves.

Gyrl just act like u listening. Or maybe you can adjst his plan to fit with the them or make it lett rediculous. It will make him feel really specail if he had a part in the planning of your wedding. Then he can say "did u see....that was my idea" It may work fot the both of you that way. Most of us have FH's that dont help at all with the planning. I've beeen engaged for a year now and al my FH said he wanted was the color red and his niece as a flower girl. I'm trying to get him more involved tho.

Hi MrsP2b don't feel as if you are on your own.Two days ago I was telling FH he makes me real sick sometimes because he honestly does but I know he feels the same way about me sometimes.I said it felt awful for saying it and has since apologised.But they do tend to get on your nerves,especially after barely giving you and idea or opinion about the wedding for the past 9 months ('what you choose is good with me') but now it is 3 months away knows someone who can do this and can do that.I just say alright (lol)and listen cause someone is already doing it.I know he will forget about it in a little while anyway (lol).
P.S Today is a good day to exhale...

this is all perfectly normal. My sweetie told me last night that he was bored because I don't spend any quality with him. He says that i come home from work, get on the computer, cook, eat, get back on the computer, prepare for bed, kiss him good night and go to bed. He says that the wedding is taking up too much of my time and he's tired of it. I must admit between work and the wedding I have been stressed the heck out and it's really taking a toll on our relationship. I told him that after the wedding is over things will be so much better but he's just frustrated. I love my man and I'm vowing not to let anything come between us anymore. After hearing him pore his heart out last night I wanted to share with you guys that although we are planning a wedding it should not consume us to the point that we neglect our relationship because once the wedding is over the relationship will still be there, start nurturing it now.

PB&J, you are not alone. My FH said to me "ALL YOU CARE ABOUT IS THIS WEDDING NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!" I felt so bad! But, I got over it quickly! He'll understand once the wedding day come! He'll be very pleased with my planning.

Excellent advice PB&J!

Read your saying under your desicription"You can do it" it gets frustrating sometimes but keep your head up.

Thanks for the advise PB&J! I really have to keep that in mind. My schedule it as follows. Wake up, shower, computer, work, go home, cook, computer, eat, computer,sleep. Then it starts all over again. Since my FH works crazy hours I didnt think it bothered his as much as it does. He just tells me I better walk into a hell of a wedding with all the planning I'm doing. But you ar almost done! You have less than a month to go and you are on your way to wifehood.

MrsPatrick2be, listen to these women! They know what they are talking about. You know I have to look at it spiritually too because I try my best to keep the word of the Lord in my mouth:
Remember, you love this man, and of course he is going to make your head spin, but never forget, you both are about to make Satan real mad because you are actually taking the steps to live life together as God intended, and for this you are honoring God's word and his WILL, so Satan will try and give you every little reason to want to change your mind. You know that this thing is a struggle to strengthen your ability to pray for God to make something beautiful out of something hard. Its like exercise: the more you work out, the more you build muscles and become stronger. You just need to keep working out your "prayer muscles". You can ONLY do this by sticking to the race. The first instinct after aggravation is to stay angry (but you can't really get to God through anger, only through prayer and and open spirit), but you also pissed Satan off by going to that meeting, even though you didn't want to.....Also remember, every second you spend being angry, you loose that much time with taking your burdens to God! So keep pissing Satan off, because we don't fight flesh and blood, but principalities. Satan is really hoping that you are going to break down, and back out of this wedding when your man makes you mad, he hates the institution of marriage, and is already happy the divorce rate is so high (because people decided to GIVE UP due to aggravation). You will be alright! I just went through the same thing this weekend, but we knew we had to straighten it our b4 church. We make it our business to make amends even if one of us just has to take the loss and work it out later (I guess agree to disagree or whatever its called)
God bless, stay strong, pray strong!

MrsPatrick2be, My FH has just started his own business and is still working 2 part time jobs (UPS and driving a truck on the weekends). We hardly see each other. FH once told me that all he wants is for me to acknowledge how hard he works. I tell him once a week that I appreicate all of the hard work he is doing and that I know he is doing it so we can finacial stable once we are married. I also listen to his stories about his meeting with clients and ask him questions later in the week so he knows (or sometimes thinks) I am interested in what he is doing. But men have PMS too.

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Too funny, but you are sooooooooo right DWBride!