Maybe this has been touched on briefly before...But here I go. FH and I are going away for a week this Saturday. He thinks I should leave my engagement ring at home. I can't understand the logic. I never take it off anyway, it fits pretty snugly, and I can't stand to be without it because it causes me to panic when I don't see it (even though I know where it's at)
This may not seem like I big deal, but I'll kind of feel un-engaged. That's weired huh? Should I insist that I wear it, or suck it up and leave it home? I can't belive that it's that big of a deal for me, but it seems wrong to take it off. Almost like he'll have to re-propose. (not relly...but you catch my drift...)
Ring Question
Thu, 01/04/2007 - 16:50
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Ring Question
Maybe this has been touched on briefly before...But here I go. FH and I are going away for a week this Saturday. He thinks I should leave my engagement ring at home. I can't understand the logic. I never take it off anyway, it fits pretty snugly, and I can't stand to be without it because it causes me to panic when I don't see it (even though I know where it's at)
This may not seem like I big deal, but I'll kind of feel un-engaged. That's weired huh? Should I insist that I wear it, or suck it up and leave it home? I can't belive that it's that big of a deal for me, but it seems wrong to take it off. Almost like he'll have to re-propose. (not relly...but you catch my drift...)
Are you going to the beach or anywhere where you might lose it? I know that it would hurt my heart to leave my ring behind on purpose. When I left it at home by accident, I turned the car around and drove back home for it.
Will it cause problems for you if you don't leave it? Will he be really upset or was it just a suggestion?
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"To be a christian without prayer is no more possible than being alive without breathing" - Dr King Jr
[quote="ajiamarie"] I know that it would hurt my heart to leave my ring behind on purpose. When I left it at home by accident, I turned the car around and drove back home for it.
Will it cause problems for you if you don't leave it? Will he be really upset or was it just a suggestion?
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My sentiments exactly, I mean to do it on purpose?!? What for?
It's the beach, I really highly doubt it'll just come loose and 'slip off' The ocean and sand won't destroy the ring itself is that right? That would be the only reason to keep it behind.
he's not likely to get upset, but he has offered the "you're leaving your ring at home ...Right?"
I'm gonna check around on line to see if the ocean will do anything negitive to the ring.
I do know that my mother lost her first wedding band in the sea when they were in Barbados. Maybe you can leave it in the safety deposit box while you are on the beach?
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See if whatever hotel you are staying in has a safe you can put your valuables in, that way when you leave you room to go to the beach you can put it in there if you are nervous about ocean water. But honestly I don't think anything will happen to it. I feel you ON taking the ring off, I left it at home one morning and posted on this board with the subject line "TRAGEDY", cause it was one for me....okay so that might have been a little dramatic, but when I take it off to wash dishes or something like that I panic for a second before I realize where I put it...isn't that crazy...you get so used to it on your finger, I couldn't imagine going on vacation without it all...
soontobe, I remember that post. You really scared me. LOL. I know exactly how you feel though.
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"To be a christian without prayer is no more possible than being alive without breathing" - Dr King Jr
This is strange and a 1st for me. Why does HE want you to leave the ring at home?
[quote="soontobebride"]I left it at home one morning and posted on this board with the subject line "TRAGEDY"...you get so used to it on your finger, I couldn't imagine going on vacation without it all...
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You will have to consider this when you go on our honeymoon.
I remember that post...It was a tragedy...or could have been.
Can't you just feel your gut sink to the floor when you don't feel/see it. I don't care taking it off...it's just wrong. Most hotels have safes in the room, I'll have to check this one out.
One point for FH: sand can scratch the metal
One point for me: Ocean water should not damage jewelery
Two points for me: I'm not going to swim in the sand
[quote="SeptBride"]This is strange and a 1st for me. Why does HE want you to leave the ring at home?
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He said, that's why people are always up and down on the beach w/ metal detectors...that's the prime place to loose jewelry.
I know nobody plans on loosing things...But I'm fierce about protecting this.
[quote="SeptBride"]This is strange and a 1st for me.
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I missed that. What's stange and a 1st?
To put in my two cents or rather my two carts. To be on the safer side leave it in your room safe or at home. Another idea may be to get a "dummy(cheap fake)" ring that you could ware so you still "look" engaged so if you did lose it, it won't really be a lost.
Happiness is only a prayer away!
Ok...I just heard an ear-FULL from my good 'ol mammy. you know what? I'll just leave it at home.
Gheesh.
I will however think about wraping foil around my finger - this girl needs something shiny to look at.
that's the end of my daily drama, maybe I'll have some more tomorrow.
Just go out and get you another ring.Girl hit up Kmart or Walmart and get one on clearance.Some are as cheap as $30-$100 on clearance. I know the feeling of forgetting your ring. I freak out if I leave mines in the kitchen after washing dishes. I take mines off in water becasue I need to get it sizes to fit snug so it wont come off.I left my ring at home once and I felt naked (literally) becasue my finger was custom to having something on it and it has a tan.Everytime I saw that tan I wanted to cry.I couldnt wait to get back home after work to get my ring!
Please ask FH why he wants you to leave your ring.it can always be cleaned at a jewler if he's affraid of the sand getting to it.
I'm sorry I don't think I can go on vacation without my ring. And I don't want a fake one. Luckily the resort we are going to have in room safes where we can put all valuables when we go to the beach and so forth. I'm like MsBoston I don't plan on swimming (can't anyway), but I won't wear it to places like the beach and when we go on tours, or other outdoor activities. But when we go to dinner and stuff like that I would like to have it.
[quote="MsBoston"]This is strange and a 1st for me. Why does HE want you to leave the ring at home?
He said, that's why people are always up and down on the beach w/ metal detectors...that's the prime place to loose jewelry.
I know nobody plans on loosing things...But I'm fierce about protecting this.
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Ok, I get it now. Y'all know I'm slow.
I said it was strange and a 1st because usually, it's the women that's so "protective" over our rings. But, I hear your FH! He's like, I didn't spend all of that money for it to get lost. lol
Well in running my last minute errands tonight I ran to Target and snatched up a decent bathing suit...AND a really nice cubic Z.(good idea yall) I know STB, it surely isn't the same, but at least I won't panic and feel bucket nay-ket.
I just hope no one says "ooh that's nice let me see" because I'll be ashamed trying to pass that ring off as 'the real thing' Oh well, I'll miss my ring and you guys too. Thanks for the last minute advise...Again!
I'm married now MsBoston and my husband asked me to take my engagement ring off during the holidays, because I ride the subway to work. I took it off since the end of November and I feel sooo naked without it. I do wear it when he and I are together.
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[quote="DaughterRhonda"]I'm married now MsBoston and my husband asked me to take my engagement ring off during the holidays, because I ride the subway to work. I took it off since the end of November and I feel sooo naked without it. I do wear it when he and I are together.
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The world we live in. I never thought of having to do that. Good point ya'll.
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I hate to take my ring off too. In the summer when we would go swimming, Fh wanted me to leave my ring at home. I didn't want to but I did because of the fear of loosing it in the pool.
Quick update. Never lost my CZ on vacation(which was amazing/beautiful to say the least), but you know DR speaking of subway rides I do have a habit of turning my dimonds around to the inside of my finger ALL the time...like when I walk the dog, even when I get my hair done,or go someplace unfamiliar. My ring is not flashy, but i don't want anyone seeing it and getting the wrong idea. THEY WILL HAVE TO CUT MY DAMN FINGER OFF FOR IT...DON'T GET IT TWISTED!!!!!!!!but why give someone the thought/opportunity? I have even had a passing thought of swallowing it if last came to worse...I'll have to fish it out later...LOL...I worked too long and too hard for someone to walk off with MY ring! Sorry.
I know that's right MsBoston! My husband is one of those nervous kind of guys and he wants me to be safe. Right now I'm just wearing my wedding band, but I want to talk with him because he spent his hard earned money on that ring and I don't want it to sit in the jewelry box collecting dust -- and besides I wore it everyday while we were engaged! I guess he forgot about that -- LOL!!!
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[quote="MsBoston"]Maybe this has been touched on briefly before...But here I go. FH and I are going away for a week this Saturday. He thinks I should leave my engagement ring at home. I can't understand the logic. I never take it off anyway, it fits pretty snugly, and I can't stand to be without it because it causes me to panic when I don't see it (even though I know where it's at)
This may not seem like I big deal, but I'll kind of feel un-engaged. That's weired huh? Should I insist that I wear it, or suck it up and leave it home? I can't belive that it's that big of a deal for me, but it seems wrong to take it off. Almost like he'll have to re-propose. (not relly...but you catch my drift...)
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If you have insurance, then I don't see the problem with doing either one (leave it or take it).
Is your ring that loose that it will just fall off? If so why not get it adjusted or get a ring guard. If that's not the case and you just feel uncomfortable with wearing it then just leave it. I myself do not take off my engagement ring so I am definetly not leaving my ring behind on my honeymoon.
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Classy- just because I have insurace on my ring does not mean that I would mind if it got lost or stolen. The sentimental value of what the 'original' ring means to me and FH is what originally brought up this discussion in the first place. I have car insurance too, but it's not ok if my car is totaled. It's not like: "oh well.. I can always get another one"
I had to compromise w/FH and left my ring at home. It worked out just fine. Wasn't too traumatic.
As for my honeymoon- now that I know where i'm going... and I know how secure the resort/room is I think i'll be travling with my band and ring as I said the ring is quite snug.