Last night my wedding coordinator approached me with and idea about thank you cards. She said what do I think about instead of after you two getting in from your honeymoon and worrying about filling out, addressing and mailing thank you cards, why don't we get all of that done at the reception. She suggested that we either have the thank you cards prominently placed on each place setting with our names signed on it OR have my hostesses pass it out to each family while the guest are coming in. You KNOW I need to ask you all's opinions, what do you all think about that. IF we do this I like having them at each place setting better then having the hostesses pass them out. This way we can knock out 2 birds with one stone....
Last night my wedding coordinator approached me with and idea about thank you cards. She said what do I think about instead of after you two getting in from your honeymoon and worrying about filling out, addressing and mailing thank you cards, why don't we get all of that done at the reception. She suggested that we either have the thank you cards prominently placed on each place setting with our names signed on it OR have my hostesses pass it out to each family while the guest are coming in. You KNOW I need to ask you all's opinions, what do you all think about that. IF we do this I like having them at each place setting better then having the hostesses pass them out. This way we can knock out 2 birds with one stone....
Soontobe, if you and your FH like the idea, then go with it. Like your planner said, after your honeymoon, you can relax instead of trying to get cards together.
Just to give you the other side, I can hear my mother's voice now: "That is a very efficient idea but what happens if someone doesn't come? Or if someone gives you a really really nice gift? I would be afraid that people would still expect to get another thank you later on."
Yes my mother is a big stickler for ettiquette and it's driving me crazy.
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I know...I was thinking about that....that's why I wanted to get other's opinions about it....and actually as I've been pondering that idea...that idea is going down a little....I don't want people to feel bad...most especially if they got a really nice gift...I'm thinking I might want to make it a *little* more personal.....hmmm....any other opinions?
That would be nice to do it the way your planner suggested. You can have the thank you cards as their place cards that way you dont need both. But I would suggest that you send out additional "gift" cards to thank those who gave you nice gifts. Remember not everone who attends your wedding will be giving u a gift and those who do need to be thanked properly. They may feel that you dont appretciate it if they see they have the same thank u as everyone else.This way will also save you money on postage!
The easiest way to do all of this is to make out the cards labels before the wedding/honeymoon and record who gave what. That way you can fill in the blanks and mail the proper thank you's off.
Thanks Alvinslove, the more I think about this the more I think I'll just do it the traditional way. It seemed like a good idea when she told me about it last night, but my wonderful FH started bringing up potential problems and I started thinking on it more. With the issues that you all brought up it seems like it might cause more drama then if I just would send the cards out traditionally. Thanks guys...
Soontobe, I would echo the other's responses and add that the thing people love about thank you cards is how personal they are. What if someone gives a touching speech or surprise tribute, you wouldn't be able to mention it in your thank you. You wouldn't be thanking people for 'being there' but for showing up. Am I making sense?
[quote="Musikana"]Soontobe, I would echo the other's responses and add that the thing people love about thank you cards is how personal they are. What if someone gives a touching speech or surprise tribute, you wouldn't be able to mention it in your thank you. You wouldn't be thanking people for 'being there' but for showing up. Am I making sense?
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You're definately making sense. It seemed like a good idea when she mentioned it originally, but now when I really started thinking about it......not so much. I think it would cause more drama then it's worth. Thanks for all your comments, it's as always very much appreciated...
Soon 2 b Bride, I liked your mom's idea as well. My opinion is about to follow> PLEASE DON"T ANYONE TAKE THIS PERSONAL,I AM TALKING ABOUT MYSELF. I'm thinking, I didn't follow tradition or absolute etiquette w/anything else. Had sex, check. Had the baby,check. Lived together 1st, check. So why am I going to get all proper now? If someone gives me something that truly touchs my heart, then I will Thank them via telephone etc. Usually the Thank You's are accompanied by a picture. Since we are giving out frames, we have arranged for a photographer to develop while we are at the reception and our coordinator will put the photos in b4 we hand out the frame favors. I hate doing that Thank you thing I always feel like everyone got 1 you just listed individual gifts and I can't recall anyone I know having the thank you's, except the photo, after the fact. B4 your suggestion, I was going to suck it up and do it. Now I will put them in front of each place setting. 2 do it twice is redundant and again I think I wld appreciate a phone call more than something in the mail to Thank me if you really liked my gift. Though I know many will nt agree with this, and its ok, I want to Thank You 4 the idea.
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Hi Soontobe, while your Planner's idea is a wonderful one, personally I prefer the traditional way of sending thank you cards.
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