Sistas I need some encouraging words immediately. Our wedding date was initially Sept. 1, 2007(Labor Day weekend) then October 20, 2007 (the weekend we met). It may need to be postponed again (and for good reason). We are moving into a new house next week, which is the reason for my absence. However, the conversation has come around again(me being the initiater)to postpone the wedding until I get out of school which will be 2009. That just seems so far away. It would, however, give us time to adjust to a mortgage and get my 2nd degree. The only thing we have in place is the location, my dress and veil. Which is a good thing. So what do you ladies think?
Sistas I need some encouraging words immediately. Our wedding date was initially Sept. 1, 2007(Labor Day weekend) then October 20, 2007 (the weekend we met). It may need to be postponed again (and for good reason). We are moving into a new house next week, which is the reason for my absence. However, the conversation has come around again(me being the initiater)to postpone the wedding until I get out of school which will be 2009. That just seems so far away. It would, however, give us time to adjust to a mortgage and get my 2nd degree. The only thing we have in place is the location, my dress and veil. Which is a good thing. So what do you ladies think?
Leanne, if you want to postpone it, then go ahead. But, I probably wouldn't. Come 2008, you'll find another reason to postpone it. Why not go to JOP? I think it's good that you're still continuing your education. But, you have to do what's good for you. By the time Oct 07 comes around, you'll already be settled in your new home. Congrats, btw. But, if you think it's too much for you, financially, then wait a while.
Leanne, if you need to postpone it, you have no choice. I agree w/SeptBride, why not go to JOP and then when you have a chance/time/$ you can always throw a reception/bash for celebration.
But really if you have NO other choice...2009 will be here in 2 years. let us know what you do.
Leanne, congrats on the house first of all. If that is what you and FH decided on then go with it. 2009 does seem like a long time, but we all probably thought the same thing about 2007. Personally I wouldn't do the JOP thing, I feel like love is worth waiting for. Get your home together, finish your degree and have your day when the time & money is right! Good luck with everything.
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Thanks ladies I knew I could count on yall. JOP is so out of the question. I wouldn't even pose that thought to him. He has been just as involved in the process as I have. He has always said that its not "your day" its "our day." Which means he going to shine just the same. Anyway, I'll keep you ladies posted. Thanks again.
Leanne, Congrats on becoming a homeowner!!! Don't let that be a reason to postpone the wedding. Do it as soon as you are able. Sometimes by setting a date, it makes you start to make plans like saving money and budgeting sooner than later for the wedding. The longer you put it off the longer and more frustrating it can be for you both. If you don't want to go JOP its okay. However its perfectly fine to go to the JOP if you don't want to have to deal with living together a long time with no wedding date in sight or set in stone-plus it may give you some peace of mind. Being married, got the house, then you can take time to plan the perfect BASH for the family.
Before you make a choice, pray on it first. Both of you! Whatever you decide, its okay. We moved our date sooner than later because we didn't see the reason to wait. We didn't worry much about the funds until later. God laid it on our hearts to do it, so we knew that he would make a way for us somehow, and he did....exceedingly and abundantly. We are paying for this wedding on our own, I am in school full time and my baby doesn't make a WHOLE bunch of $$, but the wedding is still going to be the bomb! As if we spent $20,000+, so there.
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Leanne, don't feel bad about having to postpone your wedding. I have to postpone my wedding twice. My opinion, I don't like the JOP idea. I did that for my first marriage and I resented my ex-hubby for that. Have you thought about having a destination wedding? Some cruise lines offer great deals as well. Just continue to pray and everything will work out.
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Thats always a great option. For those spending more than 1 year planning, you are at such an advantage! You can stack your cheese, therefore increasing the options you have. We are already considering a destination wedding for our 5-year renewal! Cruise packages are also a great option. Can you imagine you, your FH and your closest family and friends celebrating your marriage (get this)....on the Mediterranean?
If you can get some folks on board now, in a year or so, all you will have to do is be there or be square.
Leanne, no worries....you have soooo many options! Have fun making a decision:) Its your world girly! Carpe Diem(Latin: "Seize the Day!)
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[quote="Bumblebeekee"]...you are at such an advantage! You can stack your cheese, [/quote]
That's a real bonus. I can't wait to own my own home...Good luck.
Anyone heard from Leanne? I would like to know what happened.
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