He's not having a "party", but they will be going to a strip club. I don't mind one bit. I'm quite sure there will be one at my party. He doesn't mind but he don't want any details. lol
I am not certain about what my fh groomsmen have planned for him, however I do not mind if he has strippers at his party or go to a strip club. I completely trust him and I know that he would not do anything to jeopardize our relationship.
My FH told his groomsmen on many occasions that he does not want a stripper. They are going to get a room at the center of downtown and just to go different bars etc, they also plan on getting a room in the same hotel for our wedding night. I wouldn't mind if they got him a stripper, but I'm glad he chose not to get one. I asked him why he said he's been there done that when he was younger, so now he just wants to chill with his boys and celebrate his upcoming wedding...
My husband didn't have a bachelor party or go out. So I didn't have to worry about that. I thought him & the boys would at least go to the strip club. Nope...he was happy enough watching sports at home with his dad.
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[quote="DaughterRhonda"]My husband did not have a bachelor party. He was very clear with his friends about not having a stripper. He and his friends went out to celebrate.
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Do you know what they did to celebrate? I'm soooo against any committed person being in a sexually charged environment with strippers and half naked people. I just don't think it's appropiate to be in the mist of it - despite trust. However, being in a frat. and having buck wild friends, he said "what is there to do that my friends would enjoy?" He would love to do something w/o strippers, but wants to spend time with his friends and his friends are dead set on strippers. Why can't he just make a vagina cake and call it a day? LOL.
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]My husband did not have a bachelor party. He was very clear with his friends about not having a stripper. He and his friends went out to celebrate.
Do you know what they did to celebrate? I'm soooo against any committed person being in a sexually charged environment with strippers and half naked people. I just don't think it's appropiate to be in the mist of it - despite trust. However, being in a frat. and having buck wild friends, he said "what is there to do that my friends would enjoy?" He would love to do something w/o strippers, but wants to spend time with his friends and his friends are dead set on strippers. Why can't he just make a vagina cake and call it a day? LOL.
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LOL @ vagina cake.
I totally agree w/you!! I don't condone them in any way. FH knows that he'll be on the couch for the entire honeymoon if I find out. This has been & still is an ongoing arguement in our household.
I totally agree w/you!! I don't condone them in any way. FH knows that he'll be on the couch for the entire honeymoon if I find out. This has been & still is an ongoing arguement in our household.
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I'm glad I'm not the only one. I had to leave it alone for the sake of our nerves. We argue everyday about the guestlist. We didn't really need another argument - especially about no strippers! I knew this was coming though...
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ETA: I told him that I don't want anyone to breathe a word about the party in my presence or they will die a slow and painful death.
I thank God my FH don't want any strippers.....like stated in earlier email he's done all of that in college, so he's not interested in doing anything like that. Actually I really never understood the whole "this is my last night being single" thing so let me go buck-wild EVEN THOUGH you haven't been single for X amount of years you've been with me. And why is all the crazy behaviour guys do at bachelor parties allowed the eve of one of the most special events in your life when any other time during the relationship it would not be allowed? He even suggested we have a party together for both of us that night, but I told him that I really don't feel like have a big party the day before the wedding because I want to be well rested and so forth. I don't think I would have made huge deal out of it if they would have got him one, but we would have had a little discussion to let him know how I feel (thank goodness it didn't come to that)
Classy I am with you. My hubby and his friends went to a bar (non-stripper). My hubby booked two suites and they just hung out there the rest of the night -- telling jokes and acting crazy.
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I wish Rhony that my FH would do that. Instead, these clowns are either going to Atlantic City or Mohegan Sun (what kinda strippers are they going to find there).
If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
[quote="soontobebride"]I thank God my FH don't want any strippers.....like stated in earlier email he's done all of that in college, so he's not interested in doing anything like that. [/quote]
You hit the nail on the head! FH doesn't go out and party. He is the "dork" of his group of friends and was nicknamed "The professor" since he wears glasses and was studying a lot after he quit his college sport. So it makes it even worse. His friends are dead set on doing all these things because he never did them. Now that he's grad. chapter and getting married, it's like the flood gates are opened to try to "undork" him the night before the wedding. Lawd... I told him, "So, where are your friends going to be on our wedding night and for the rest of our marriage?" mm hmm...yup...
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Actually I really never understood the whole "this is my last night being single" thing so let me go buck-wild EVEN THOUGH you haven't been single for X amount of years you've been with me. And why is all the crazy behaviour guys do at bachelor parties allowed the eve of one of the most special events in your life when any other time during the relationship it would not be allowed?
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He even suggested we have a party together for both of us that night, but I told him that I really don't feel like have a big party the day before the wedding because I want to be well rested and so forth. I don't think I would have made huge deal out of it if they would have got him one, but we would have had a little discussion to let him know how I feel (thank goodness it didn't come to that)
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[quote="MrsRobinson2b"]I wish Rhony that my FH would do that. Instead, these clowns are either going to Atlantic City or Mohegan Sun (what kinda strippers are they going to find there).
If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
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If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
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OK....you got me hooked....whatcha' plan on doing to get the last laugh?
since the wedding is on saturday evening i am getting a room friday at the hotel near the venue which will be my command post since my godparents will be in my house for the wedding. we have discussed the bacherlor nite and he asked if it was allright with me could we spend the eve of the wedding together in the suite. its non traditional but since i can do want i want for my day :) thats what we will end up soing. DONT THINK his brother, best man, has a nite of debauchery planned. he told him he wasnt going so the brother and fellas are going to celebrat without him and for him. let they party go on!!. i dont mind, at this point he is not crazy. he knows about dying a slow death :) since i threaten it often and he wants to ENJOY his honeymoon so partying woyuld not be the problem but the intimidation of that bunch is what i would worry about. normally he knows the boundaries and wont cross them but in that charged type enviornment anything can happen. they are constantly on him about how responsible he is, how he never cuts loose. responsible being knowing u have to go to work the next day so u cant go out and hang until 3am. cutting loose as in coming in whenever U feel like it after a nite of partying.
Nope. we dont have that type of household but they do. i tell him all the time the reason they tease him is because they are jealous of your stable life
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You hit the nail on the head! FH doesn't go out and party. He is the "dork" of his group of friends and was nicknamed "The professor" since he wears glasses and was studying a lot after he quit his college sport. So it makes it even worse. His friends are dead set on doing all these things because he never did them. Now that he's grad. chapter and getting married, it's like the flood gates are opened to try to "undork" him the night before the wedding. Lawd... I told him, "So, where are your friends going to be on our wedding night and for the rest of our marriage?" mm hmm...yup...
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Why do friends try and do that KNOWING that it will get their friend in trouble with thier wives/girlfriends? That is SO childish....If he does not want to do anything leave the man alone...
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If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
OK....you got me hooked....whatcha' plan on doing to get the last laugh?
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Well, for starters since my FSIL already told me the plans (b/c she doesn't condone it either), if I get bored enough she & I will be taking a ride. Nothing like thinking that you're "creepin'" w/your crew & your FW shows up...accidently of course.
We've had several convos about this & he's promised "no strippers, I'm over that, etc" & now I find out that you are? And you know about it? F THAT!! It's on...
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You hit the nail on the head! FH doesn't go out and party. He is the "dork" of his group of friends and was nicknamed "The professor" since he wears glasses and was studying a lot after he quit his college sport. So it makes it even worse. His friends are dead set on doing all these things because he never did them. Now that he's grad. chapter and getting married, it's like the flood gates are opened to try to "undork" him the night before the wedding. Lawd... I told him, "So, where are your friends going to be on our wedding night and for the rest of our marriage?" mm hmm...yup...
Why do friends try and do that KNOWING that it will get their friend in trouble with thier wives/girlfriends? That is SO childish....If he does not want to do anything leave the man alone...
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I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
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because the sorry arse friends need to beliece that the life they lead is so awesome when in fact they wish they could trade places and have a respectable no nonsense companion that is there for them mentally, phsically and spiritually. who places barriers because as men are so like children they need structure and rules even though they say the opposite.
Classy, did you really sit down in a serious conversation and tell him how it would make you feel? I mean no harsh words, no back and forth, just seriously telling him that if it does it will hurt you and damper your wedding weekend? Like some know me and my FH dated for 5 years through college, broke up for 6 years to "find ourselves", date other people etc, and got back together about 2 years ago. Anyway when we first met he used to go to strip clubs, which I absolutely postively did not like. So when we started getting more serious in our relationship I sat down with him and told him how going to strip clubs made me feel. I didn't tell him he had to stop going I didn't place any ultimatums on the situation I just told him how much it hurt me when he did. I left it up to him to the decision of which was most important to him, going to strip clubs or not hurting his girlfriend. Thankfully he chose me and he stopped going. But again I didn't place that choice on the table I just let him put everything together. Now I know this is different situation, you are about to get married, so of course I'm not saying leave the man. But I'm saying really seriously sit down and talk to him from the heart about how much you don't like it....(that is if you haven't done that already)..
[quote="raysbride"]I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
because the sorry arse friends need to beliece that the life they lead is so awesome when in fact they wish they could trade places and have a respectable no nonsense companion that is there for them mentally, phsically and spiritually. who places barriers because as men are so like children they need structure and rules even though they say the opposite.
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so true. so true. Why do WE understand that and my FH doesn't? Can Soon and Rhonda's husband/husband 2 be rub off on mine? Pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeee?
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
because the sorry arse friends need to beliece that the life they lead is so awesome when in fact they wish they could trade places and have a respectable no nonsense companion that is there for them mentally, phsically and spiritually. who places barriers because as men are so like children they need structure and rules even though they say the opposite.
so true. so true. Why do WE understand that and my FH doesn't? Can Soon and Rhonda's husband/husband 2 be rub off on mine? Pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeee?
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My fh has not mentioned anything in regards to having a stripper at his bachelor party however I dont see what the big deal is. If he does it wouldnt bother me one bit. In fact I plan on having them at my party.
[quote="housewife147"]My fh has not mentioned anything in regards to having a stripper at his bachelor party however I dont see what the big deal is. If he does it wouldnt bother me one bit. In fact I plan on having them at my party.
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If both of you are on the same page with it, then it's great. The problem comes in when one wants it and the other does not. For example if you were dead set on getting a stripper and your FH was totally against it and he expressed that to you over and over again. That would probably be a problem for you...and for the relationship..but it's wonderful that both of you don't mind....one less thing you have to worry about in this already stressful time..
[quote="soontobebride"]Classy, did you really sit down in a serious conversation and tell him how it would make you feel? I mean no harsh words, no back and forth, just seriously telling him that if it does it will hurt you and damper your wedding weekend? Like some know me and my FH dated for 5 years through college, broke up for 6 years to "find ourselves", date other people etc, and got back together about 2 years ago. Anyway when we first met he used to go to strip clubs, which I absolutely postively did not like. So when we started getting more serious in our relationship I sat down with him and told him how going to strip clubs made me feel. I didn't tell him he had to stop going I didn't place any ultimatums on the situation I just told him how much it hurt me when he did. I left it up to him to the decision of which was most important to him, going to strip clubs or not hurting his girlfriend. Thankfully he chose me and he stopped going. But again I didn't place that choice on the table I just let him put everything together. Now I know this is different situation, you are about to get married, so of course I'm not saying leave the man. But I'm saying really seriously sit down and talk to him from the heart about how much you don't like it....(that is if you haven't done that already)..
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I ended up being the bad guy everytime until I just gave up. I risk getting into a really bad situation by keep talking about it. It really makes me do a double take when he seems to care a little too much about letting his "boys" down. *smh* hmm...I'm going to add that to my long list of prayer.
[quote="soontobebride"]My fh has not mentioned anything in regards to having a stripper at his bachelor party however I dont see what the big deal is. If he does it wouldnt bother me one bit. In fact I plan on having them at my party.
If both of you are on the same page with it, then it's great. The problem comes in when one wants it and the other does not. For example if you were dead set on getting a stripper and your FH was totally against it and he expressed that to you over and over again. That would probably be a problem for you...and for the relationship..but it's wonderful that both of you don't mind....one less thing you have to worry about in this already stressful time..
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exactly. It's even worse when you think yall were on the same page again...then BAM!
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I ended up being the bad guy everytime until I just gave up. I risk getting into a really bad situation by keep talking about it. It really makes me do a double take when he seems to care a little too much about letting his "boys" down. *smh* hmm...I'm going to add that to my long list of prayer.
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Okay, so I guess right about now with 5 days left before the wedding and he seeming like he won't budge, you have to pick your battles, which ones do you want to try and fight,the consequences that will come after the fight and which ones you want to let go. This is hard, but you know your FH, you know you all's relationship, so you have to take that knowledge and move from there. I pray that everything will work out and whatever decision you make on how to proceed will be the right one.....
I personally think that if I orginally wanted to have strippers and my fh was dead set against it I would respect him and his wishes and not have strippers, especially if it was going to bring any conflict to our relationship, and I would expect him to do the same.
[quote="soontobebride"]
I ended up being the bad guy everytime until I just gave up. I risk getting into a really bad situation by keep talking about it. It really makes me do a double take when he seems to care a little too much about letting his "boys" down. *smh* hmm...I'm going to add that to my long list of prayer.
Okay, so I guess right about now with 5 days left before the wedding and he seeming like he won't budge, you have to pick your battles, which ones do you want to try and fight,the consequences that will come after the fight and which ones you want to let go. This is hard, but you know your FH, you know you all's relationship, so you have to take that knowledge and move from there. I pray that everything will work out and whatever decision you make on how to proceed will be the right one.....
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This is very true. Thanks for breaking it down and putting it out there, Soon. And considering all of the other things that are going wrong, him wanting to be around strippers with his friends is the least of my worries. I hope I make through saturday w/o a grumpy face. LOL.
[quote="housewife147"]I personally think that if I orginally wanted to have strippers and my fh was dead set against it I would respect him and his wishes and not have strippers, especially if it was going to bring any conflict to our relationship, and I would expect him to do the same.
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Do I want him to have strippers,,,NO. will I be upset if he does,,,NO. For me and this is just for me, This is all about trusting my man. The reality of the situation is, he is not the 1 giving the party so he has no real control. If his butthead friends are going to do this, with or without his permission they will. That is why they are butthead friends. My man is not going to do anything on this night that he cld not do any other night. If strippers were his thing, he cld do that anytime w/out telling me. Fortunatly, we do not have that kind of relationship. I will not waste my time or his arguing about it or trying to keep him from enjoying(or not enjoying) a night out with the bums since he will not have too many more chances to go out and play with them again.lol I am more concerned with other things like tripping down the aisle and having a good time on our day. Redecorating our home which we will be moving into about a month after the wedding. So I agree with you when you say you have to pick your fights. And in the long run, if he is trustworthy, will this really matter? For me No. He would not risk all that we have for 1 night with a skank anymore than I would. At the end of the day you are coming home to Mama clean and unsullied. Besides, I am practicing so I can dance for him on our Honeymoon. LOL
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Do I want him to have strippers,,,NO. will I be upset if he does,,,NO. For me and this is just for me, This is all about trusting my man. The reality of the situation is, he is not the 1 giving the party so he has no real control. If his butthead friends are going to do this, with or without his permission they will. That is why they are butthead friends. My man is not going to do anything on this night that he cld not do any other night. If strippers were his thing, he cld do that anytime w/out telling me. Fortunatly, we do not have that kind of relationship. I will not waste my time or his arguing about it or trying to keep him from enjoying(or not enjoying) a night out with the bums since he will not have too many more chances to go out and play with them again.lol I am more concerned with other things like tripping down the aisle and having a good time on our day. Redecorating our home which we will be moving into about a month after the wedding. So I agree with you when you say you have to pick your fights. And in the long run, if he is trustworthy, will this really matter? For me No. He would not risk all that we have for 1 night with a skank anymore than I would. At the end of the day you are coming home to Mama clean and unsullied. Besides, I am practicing so I can dance for him on our Honeymoon. LOL
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that was great and also i am practicing for that night also!!!!!
good luck. Tell me the final outcome with your FH. I heard my FH on the phone yesterday and he was telling someone that there wouldn't be any strippers because I didn't want there to be any. I'm still not happy because it's the principle of understanding that a sexually charged environment with almost naked people is not appropiate nor neccessary. When his friends "get it" instead of acting like children, then I'll be happy.
A VERY long time ago, when I was dating my son's father, I got really pissed becuase he was going to a strip club. His momma (whom I still call my mother in law) told me, Girl, that's less work for you to do when he gets home! lol I thought it was very funny.
But, to each its own. I don't have a problem with strippers or strip clubs. Most of the clubs here can only have topless (and even that's a limited amount) if there is alcohol being served.
I hope this isn't too much info but I don't mind because I'm a freak! lol FH & I have even gone to a club together. (No, I'm not bi-sexual) I watch the "movies" and he doesn't like them. I don't have a problem with sexuality or a sexually charged environments. I think that's the bottom line with why I don't mind. (I know y'all are gonna look at me differently, but I don't care lol)
[quote="SeptBride"]A VERY long time ago, when I was dating my son's father, I got really pissed becuase he was going to a strip club. His momma (whom I still call my mother in law) told me, Girl, that's less work for you to do when he gets home! lol I thought it was very funny.
But, to each its own. I don't have a problem with strippers or strip clubs. Most of the clubs here can only have topless (and even that's a limited amount) if there is alcohol being served.
I hope this isn't too much info but I don't mind because I'm a freak! lol FH & I have even gone to a club together. (No, I'm not bi-sexual) I watch the "movies" and he doesn't like them. I don't have a problem with sexuality or a sexually charged environments. I think that's the bottom line with why I don't mind. (I know y'all are gonna look at me differently, but I don't care lol)
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Why would anyone look at you differently? People are different and have different opinions. There's nothing wrong with that. We all understand (or should) our relationships and choices relating to our own interests will vary.
whatever makes u 2 happy and keeps u going so be it. i cant be out there 'cause i got this lil mommas boy :) that i luv, that does not know how and is not open to being taught lol, so somebody should be able to get their freak on. u go!
I went to a strip club with one of my best friends and her brother. We thought we was going to a bar and when we walked in girl BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY SHAKE IT ALL AROUND. I never seen so many behinds in my life. But it didnt bother me, I sat down and had me a drink.
I had been debating this one back and forth for a while. FH's best man is TRYING to take the guys and FH to Brazil or the Dominican Republic for his party. I've heard so much negitivity about the type of debauchary(sp?) that can do down in both of those places, especially for (black)American men (see Ebony article on this topic)also (snoop and pharells video...playing again and again in my head)I really really don't want him to go. OK maybe i'm a LITTLE jealous, and I wish I could tag along. If he has strippers I can honestly say that it would bother me. Truthfully just the thought of some skank wagging her hoo-ha all up in FH's face is enough to send me into a fury! I'm trying to play it cool, deep down I wish he would just go somewhere local and hang out with the guys/do a simple night out. (*see NEW post...Your ladies night out plans) Bottom line...if this is his way of celebrating, and since this is not something that he ever does I can respect that.
Side note: not worried about FH defiling our bed, i'm just hatin' a lil bit.
Wow!!! This is a first that I've heard of. They want to take him all the way to Brazil or the Dominican Republic for a Bachelor Party??? Wow! I can kinda understand your frustration a little bit more!
Sept you are truly stupid!!! I am cracking up over here. I guess i am a freak too while I have never been to a strip club for men, I have gone to see the guys in my younger years and WOW do they put on a show. Now I'm told the women who go see the guys are much worse than the guys who go see the women. Some of the things I saw never ceased to amaze me. I also enjoy watching the movies. Great ideas for spicing up your own life once you guys get settled or routine.
Now I'm going to tell you ladies a secret. Years ago when my best friend was getting married, we got drunk and crashed her fh party. We did not initially go in and it wasn't that we did not trust our men, mine wasn't even there. We just wanted to see what goes on. So we got a ladder and peeked in the window. Disgusting!!! But, It was not the groom to be or the single guys. It was the married men who were acting a fool. I remember my uncle telling me b4, the groom usually is very good It is always the married men who don't know how to act. So let them have their party, Just don't let them go to any later on in life LOL!
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[quote="TAJMOM"]Sept you are truly stupid!!! I am cracking up over here. I guess i am a freak too while I have never been to a strip club for men, I have gone to see the guys in my younger years and WOW do they put on a show. Now I'm told the women who go see the guys are much worse than the guys who go see the women. Some of the things I saw never ceased to amaze me. I also enjoy watching the movies. Great ideas for spicing up your own life once you guys get settled or routine.
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See Taj! WE are here (pointing to both of our eyes lol) You are cracking ME up. Girl, FH was like, where did you learn that? I said to him, "I'm telling you, you gotta watch them movies! It's amazing some of the things you can learn." LMAO
I hear where you were coming from Classy, you wanted his friends to respect the value system you and FH are basing your futures on and it doesn't include that behavior.
My motives are purely selfish. I'm lazy and i don't want some double-jointed stripper inspiring him to initiate acrobatics on our honeymoon while i'm trying to relax. LOL
Seriously, FH has a conservative streak and he's from another culture. He's never seen a stripper and i don't need his bachelor party to be the first time. We'll probably go together and i'll see how he handles himself. To me, it's like adult videos, let some other chick do the hard work so i can reap the benefits in 30 minutes. I guess a strip club would be ok, since i know i could give any chick a run for her money on the pole and he doesn't have to drop cash for a champagne room to get to 2nd base. But that's just me . . .
Is he having one? Have yall discussed the party? Do you mind if he has strippers? Do you not want to know about it?
I had to leave the subject alone with FH. Not a good subject.....
He's not having a "party", but they will be going to a strip club. I don't mind one bit. I'm quite sure there will be one at my party. He doesn't mind but he don't want any details. lol
I am not certain about what my fh groomsmen have planned for him, however I do not mind if he has strippers at his party or go to a strip club. I completely trust him and I know that he would not do anything to jeopardize our relationship.
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My husband did not have a bachelor party. He was very clear with his friends about not having a stripper. He and his friends went out to celebrate.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
My FH told his groomsmen on many occasions that he does not want a stripper. They are going to get a room at the center of downtown and just to go different bars etc, they also plan on getting a room in the same hotel for our wedding night. I wouldn't mind if they got him a stripper, but I'm glad he chose not to get one. I asked him why he said he's been there done that when he was younger, so now he just wants to chill with his boys and celebrate his upcoming wedding...
My husband didn't have a bachelor party or go out. So I didn't have to worry about that. I thought him & the boys would at least go to the strip club. Nope...he was happy enough watching sports at home with his dad.
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
[quote="DaughterRhonda"]My husband did not have a bachelor party. He was very clear with his friends about not having a stripper. He and his friends went out to celebrate.
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Do you know what they did to celebrate? I'm soooo against any committed person being in a sexually charged environment with strippers and half naked people. I just don't think it's appropiate to be in the mist of it - despite trust. However, being in a frat. and having buck wild friends, he said "what is there to do that my friends would enjoy?" He would love to do something w/o strippers, but wants to spend time with his friends and his friends are dead set on strippers. Why can't he just make a vagina cake and call it a day? LOL.
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]My husband did not have a bachelor party. He was very clear with his friends about not having a stripper. He and his friends went out to celebrate.
Do you know what they did to celebrate? I'm soooo against any committed person being in a sexually charged environment with strippers and half naked people. I just don't think it's appropiate to be in the mist of it - despite trust. However, being in a frat. and having buck wild friends, he said "what is there to do that my friends would enjoy?" He would love to do something w/o strippers, but wants to spend time with his friends and his friends are dead set on strippers. Why can't he just make a vagina cake and call it a day? LOL.
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LOL @ vagina cake.
I totally agree w/you!! I don't condone them in any way. FH knows that he'll be on the couch for the entire honeymoon if I find out. This has been & still is an ongoing arguement in our household.
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
[quote="MrsRobinson2b"]
LOL @ vagina cake.
I totally agree w/you!! I don't condone them in any way. FH knows that he'll be on the couch for the entire honeymoon if I find out. This has been & still is an ongoing arguement in our household.
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I'm glad I'm not the only one. I had to leave it alone for the sake of our nerves. We argue everyday about the guestlist. We didn't really need another argument - especially about no strippers! I knew this was coming though...
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ETA: I told him that I don't want anyone to breathe a word about the party in my presence or they will die a slow and painful death.
I thank God my FH don't want any strippers.....like stated in earlier email he's done all of that in college, so he's not interested in doing anything like that. Actually I really never understood the whole "this is my last night being single" thing so let me go buck-wild EVEN THOUGH you haven't been single for X amount of years you've been with me. And why is all the crazy behaviour guys do at bachelor parties allowed the eve of one of the most special events in your life when any other time during the relationship it would not be allowed? He even suggested we have a party together for both of us that night, but I told him that I really don't feel like have a big party the day before the wedding because I want to be well rested and so forth. I don't think I would have made huge deal out of it if they would have got him one, but we would have had a little discussion to let him know how I feel (thank goodness it didn't come to that)
Classy I am with you. My hubby and his friends went to a bar (non-stripper). My hubby booked two suites and they just hung out there the rest of the night -- telling jokes and acting crazy.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I wish Rhony that my FH would do that. Instead, these clowns are either going to Atlantic City or Mohegan Sun (what kinda strippers are they going to find there).
If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
[quote="soontobebride"]I thank God my FH don't want any strippers.....like stated in earlier email he's done all of that in college, so he's not interested in doing anything like that. [/quote]
You hit the nail on the head! FH doesn't go out and party. He is the "dork" of his group of friends and was nicknamed "The professor" since he wears glasses and was studying a lot after he quit his college sport. So it makes it even worse. His friends are dead set on doing all these things because he never did them. Now that he's grad. chapter and getting married, it's like the flood gates are opened to try to "undork" him the night before the wedding. Lawd... I told him, "So, where are your friends going to be on our wedding night and for the rest of our marriage?" mm hmm...yup...
[quote="soontobebride"]
Actually I really never understood the whole "this is my last night being single" thing so let me go buck-wild EVEN THOUGH you haven't been single for X amount of years you've been with me. And why is all the crazy behaviour guys do at bachelor parties allowed the eve of one of the most special events in your life when any other time during the relationship it would not be allowed?
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Preach!
[quote="soontobebride"]
He even suggested we have a party together for both of us that night, but I told him that I really don't feel like have a big party the day before the wedding because I want to be well rested and so forth. I don't think I would have made huge deal out of it if they would have got him one, but we would have had a little discussion to let him know how I feel (thank goodness it didn't come to that)
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[quote="MrsRobinson2b"]I wish Rhony that my FH would do that. Instead, these clowns are either going to Atlantic City or Mohegan Sun (what kinda strippers are they going to find there).
If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
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I heard that!
[quote="MrsRobinson2b"]
If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
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OK....you got me hooked....whatcha' plan on doing to get the last laugh?
since the wedding is on saturday evening i am getting a room friday at the hotel near the venue which will be my command post since my godparents will be in my house for the wedding. we have discussed the bacherlor nite and he asked if it was allright with me could we spend the eve of the wedding together in the suite. its non traditional but since i can do want i want for my day :) thats what we will end up soing. DONT THINK his brother, best man, has a nite of debauchery planned. he told him he wasnt going so the brother and fellas are going to celebrat without him and for him. let they party go on!!. i dont mind, at this point he is not crazy. he knows about dying a slow death :) since i threaten it often and he wants to ENJOY his honeymoon so partying woyuld not be the problem but the intimidation of that bunch is what i would worry about. normally he knows the boundaries and wont cross them but in that charged type enviornment anything can happen. they are constantly on him about how responsible he is, how he never cuts loose. responsible being knowing u have to go to work the next day so u cant go out and hang until 3am. cutting loose as in coming in whenever U feel like it after a nite of partying.
Nope. we dont have that type of household but they do. i tell him all the time the reason they tease him is because they are jealous of your stable life
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]
You hit the nail on the head! FH doesn't go out and party. He is the "dork" of his group of friends and was nicknamed "The professor" since he wears glasses and was studying a lot after he quit his college sport. So it makes it even worse. His friends are dead set on doing all these things because he never did them. Now that he's grad. chapter and getting married, it's like the flood gates are opened to try to "undork" him the night before the wedding. Lawd... I told him, "So, where are your friends going to be on our wedding night and for the rest of our marriage?" mm hmm...yup...
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Why do friends try and do that KNOWING that it will get their friend in trouble with thier wives/girlfriends? That is SO childish....If he does not want to do anything leave the man alone...
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If after darn near 4 years of being together, he now wants to see some strippers? More power to him...I WILL have the last laugh on this one. When I'm done, he will wish he'd never had this night out.
Sorry ladies..just need to vent on this one. B/c I'm about sick of him w/this mess! Wastin' my hard earned money on some stripper. He's lost his dang mind!
OK....you got me hooked....whatcha' plan on doing to get the last laugh?
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Well, for starters since my FSIL already told me the plans (b/c she doesn't condone it either), if I get bored enough she & I will be taking a ride. Nothing like thinking that you're "creepin'" w/your crew & your FW shows up...accidently of course.
We've had several convos about this & he's promised "no strippers, I'm over that, etc" & now I find out that you are? And you know about it? F THAT!! It's on...
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
[quote="soontobebride"]
You hit the nail on the head! FH doesn't go out and party. He is the "dork" of his group of friends and was nicknamed "The professor" since he wears glasses and was studying a lot after he quit his college sport. So it makes it even worse. His friends are dead set on doing all these things because he never did them. Now that he's grad. chapter and getting married, it's like the flood gates are opened to try to "undork" him the night before the wedding. Lawd... I told him, "So, where are your friends going to be on our wedding night and for the rest of our marriage?" mm hmm...yup...
Why do friends try and do that KNOWING that it will get their friend in trouble with thier wives/girlfriends? That is SO childish....If he does not want to do anything leave the man alone...
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I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
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because the sorry arse friends need to beliece that the life they lead is so awesome when in fact they wish they could trade places and have a respectable no nonsense companion that is there for them mentally, phsically and spiritually. who places barriers because as men are so like children they need structure and rules even though they say the opposite.
Classy, did you really sit down in a serious conversation and tell him how it would make you feel? I mean no harsh words, no back and forth, just seriously telling him that if it does it will hurt you and damper your wedding weekend? Like some know me and my FH dated for 5 years through college, broke up for 6 years to "find ourselves", date other people etc, and got back together about 2 years ago. Anyway when we first met he used to go to strip clubs, which I absolutely postively did not like. So when we started getting more serious in our relationship I sat down with him and told him how going to strip clubs made me feel. I didn't tell him he had to stop going I didn't place any ultimatums on the situation I just told him how much it hurt me when he did. I left it up to him to the decision of which was most important to him, going to strip clubs or not hurting his girlfriend. Thankfully he chose me and he stopped going. But again I didn't place that choice on the table I just let him put everything together. Now I know this is different situation, you are about to get married, so of course I'm not saying leave the man. But I'm saying really seriously sit down and talk to him from the heart about how much you don't like it....(that is if you haven't done that already)..
[quote="raysbride"]I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
because the sorry arse friends need to beliece that the life they lead is so awesome when in fact they wish they could trade places and have a respectable no nonsense companion that is there for them mentally, phsically and spiritually. who places barriers because as men are so like children they need structure and rules even though they say the opposite.
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so true. so true. Why do WE understand that and my FH doesn't? Can Soon and Rhonda's husband/husband 2 be rub off on mine? Pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeee?
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]I don't understand that or FH's attitude. They tried to take him to a strip club a few years ago and I said something like, "no, what decent man would want to be around that?" They heard me in the background on the phone. So then they started making comments about me controlling him and trying to ruin their fun. That's a real PUNK move to me knowing that no man wants to feel like that and knowing it would cause friction between me and him. Let's not get into the whole "why do you have these sorry arse friends" issue....cuz..that's a whole different can of worms. And there's a part of me that is not in denial that FH is actually very curious about their lifestyle and the whole stripper thing...
because the sorry arse friends need to beliece that the life they lead is so awesome when in fact they wish they could trade places and have a respectable no nonsense companion that is there for them mentally, phsically and spiritually. who places barriers because as men are so like children they need structure and rules even though they say the opposite.
so true. so true. Why do WE understand that and my FH doesn't? Can Soon and Rhonda's husband/husband 2 be rub off on mine? Pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeee?
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Can they rub off on mine too? Pretty please...
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
My fh has not mentioned anything in regards to having a stripper at his bachelor party however I dont see what the big deal is. If he does it wouldnt bother me one bit. In fact I plan on having them at my party.
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[quote="housewife147"]My fh has not mentioned anything in regards to having a stripper at his bachelor party however I dont see what the big deal is. If he does it wouldnt bother me one bit. In fact I plan on having them at my party.
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If both of you are on the same page with it, then it's great. The problem comes in when one wants it and the other does not. For example if you were dead set on getting a stripper and your FH was totally against it and he expressed that to you over and over again. That would probably be a problem for you...and for the relationship..but it's wonderful that both of you don't mind....one less thing you have to worry about in this already stressful time..
[quote="soontobebride"]Classy, did you really sit down in a serious conversation and tell him how it would make you feel? I mean no harsh words, no back and forth, just seriously telling him that if it does it will hurt you and damper your wedding weekend? Like some know me and my FH dated for 5 years through college, broke up for 6 years to "find ourselves", date other people etc, and got back together about 2 years ago. Anyway when we first met he used to go to strip clubs, which I absolutely postively did not like. So when we started getting more serious in our relationship I sat down with him and told him how going to strip clubs made me feel. I didn't tell him he had to stop going I didn't place any ultimatums on the situation I just told him how much it hurt me when he did. I left it up to him to the decision of which was most important to him, going to strip clubs or not hurting his girlfriend. Thankfully he chose me and he stopped going. But again I didn't place that choice on the table I just let him put everything together. Now I know this is different situation, you are about to get married, so of course I'm not saying leave the man. But I'm saying really seriously sit down and talk to him from the heart about how much you don't like it....(that is if you haven't done that already)..
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I ended up being the bad guy everytime until I just gave up. I risk getting into a really bad situation by keep talking about it. It really makes me do a double take when he seems to care a little too much about letting his "boys" down. *smh* hmm...I'm going to add that to my long list of prayer.
[quote="soontobebride"]My fh has not mentioned anything in regards to having a stripper at his bachelor party however I dont see what the big deal is. If he does it wouldnt bother me one bit. In fact I plan on having them at my party.
If both of you are on the same page with it, then it's great. The problem comes in when one wants it and the other does not. For example if you were dead set on getting a stripper and your FH was totally against it and he expressed that to you over and over again. That would probably be a problem for you...and for the relationship..but it's wonderful that both of you don't mind....one less thing you have to worry about in this already stressful time..
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exactly. It's even worse when you think yall were on the same page again...then BAM!
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]
I ended up being the bad guy everytime until I just gave up. I risk getting into a really bad situation by keep talking about it. It really makes me do a double take when he seems to care a little too much about letting his "boys" down. *smh* hmm...I'm going to add that to my long list of prayer.
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Okay, so I guess right about now with 5 days left before the wedding and he seeming like he won't budge, you have to pick your battles, which ones do you want to try and fight,the consequences that will come after the fight and which ones you want to let go. This is hard, but you know your FH, you know you all's relationship, so you have to take that knowledge and move from there. I pray that everything will work out and whatever decision you make on how to proceed will be the right one.....
I personally think that if I orginally wanted to have strippers and my fh was dead set against it I would respect him and his wishes and not have strippers, especially if it was going to bring any conflict to our relationship, and I would expect him to do the same.
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[quote="soontobebride"]
I ended up being the bad guy everytime until I just gave up. I risk getting into a really bad situation by keep talking about it. It really makes me do a double take when he seems to care a little too much about letting his "boys" down. *smh* hmm...I'm going to add that to my long list of prayer.
Okay, so I guess right about now with 5 days left before the wedding and he seeming like he won't budge, you have to pick your battles, which ones do you want to try and fight,the consequences that will come after the fight and which ones you want to let go. This is hard, but you know your FH, you know you all's relationship, so you have to take that knowledge and move from there. I pray that everything will work out and whatever decision you make on how to proceed will be the right one.....
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This is very true. Thanks for breaking it down and putting it out there, Soon. And considering all of the other things that are going wrong, him wanting to be around strippers with his friends is the least of my worries. I hope I make through saturday w/o a grumpy face. LOL.
[quote="housewife147"]I personally think that if I orginally wanted to have strippers and my fh was dead set against it I would respect him and his wishes and not have strippers, especially if it was going to bring any conflict to our relationship, and I would expect him to do the same.
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I concur.
Here I go ladies,
Do I want him to have strippers,,,NO. will I be upset if he does,,,NO. For me and this is just for me, This is all about trusting my man. The reality of the situation is, he is not the 1 giving the party so he has no real control. If his butthead friends are going to do this, with or without his permission they will. That is why they are butthead friends. My man is not going to do anything on this night that he cld not do any other night. If strippers were his thing, he cld do that anytime w/out telling me. Fortunatly, we do not have that kind of relationship. I will not waste my time or his arguing about it or trying to keep him from enjoying(or not enjoying) a night out with the bums since he will not have too many more chances to go out and play with them again.lol I am more concerned with other things like tripping down the aisle and having a good time on our day. Redecorating our home which we will be moving into about a month after the wedding. So I agree with you when you say you have to pick your fights. And in the long run, if he is trustworthy, will this really matter? For me No. He would not risk all that we have for 1 night with a skank anymore than I would. At the end of the day you are coming home to Mama clean and unsullied. Besides, I am practicing so I can dance for him on our Honeymoon. LOL
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[quote="TAJMOM"]Here I go ladies,
Do I want him to have strippers,,,NO. will I be upset if he does,,,NO. For me and this is just for me, This is all about trusting my man. The reality of the situation is, he is not the 1 giving the party so he has no real control. If his butthead friends are going to do this, with or without his permission they will. That is why they are butthead friends. My man is not going to do anything on this night that he cld not do any other night. If strippers were his thing, he cld do that anytime w/out telling me. Fortunatly, we do not have that kind of relationship. I will not waste my time or his arguing about it or trying to keep him from enjoying(or not enjoying) a night out with the bums since he will not have too many more chances to go out and play with them again.lol I am more concerned with other things like tripping down the aisle and having a good time on our day. Redecorating our home which we will be moving into about a month after the wedding. So I agree with you when you say you have to pick your fights. And in the long run, if he is trustworthy, will this really matter? For me No. He would not risk all that we have for 1 night with a skank anymore than I would. At the end of the day you are coming home to Mama clean and unsullied. Besides, I am practicing so I can dance for him on our Honeymoon. LOL
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taj,
that was great and also i am practicing for that night also!!!!!
MrsRobinson2b -
good luck. Tell me the final outcome with your FH. I heard my FH on the phone yesterday and he was telling someone that there wouldn't be any strippers because I didn't want there to be any. I'm still not happy because it's the principle of understanding that a sexually charged environment with almost naked people is not appropiate nor neccessary. When his friends "get it" instead of acting like children, then I'll be happy.
A VERY long time ago, when I was dating my son's father, I got really pissed becuase he was going to a strip club. His momma (whom I still call my mother in law) told me, Girl, that's less work for you to do when he gets home! lol I thought it was very funny.
But, to each its own. I don't have a problem with strippers or strip clubs. Most of the clubs here can only have topless (and even that's a limited amount) if there is alcohol being served.
I hope this isn't too much info but I don't mind because I'm a freak! lol FH & I have even gone to a club together. (No, I'm not bi-sexual) I watch the "movies" and he doesn't like them. I don't have a problem with sexuality or a sexually charged environments. I think that's the bottom line with why I don't mind. (I know y'all are gonna look at me differently, but I don't care lol)
[quote="SeptBride"]A VERY long time ago, when I was dating my son's father, I got really pissed becuase he was going to a strip club. His momma (whom I still call my mother in law) told me, Girl, that's less work for you to do when he gets home! lol I thought it was very funny.
But, to each its own. I don't have a problem with strippers or strip clubs. Most of the clubs here can only have topless (and even that's a limited amount) if there is alcohol being served.
I hope this isn't too much info but I don't mind because I'm a freak! lol FH & I have even gone to a club together. (No, I'm not bi-sexual) I watch the "movies" and he doesn't like them. I don't have a problem with sexuality or a sexually charged environments. I think that's the bottom line with why I don't mind. (I know y'all are gonna look at me differently, but I don't care lol)
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Why would anyone look at you differently? People are different and have different opinions. There's nothing wrong with that. We all understand (or should) our relationships and choices relating to our own interests will vary.
Classy, did you see what I said? "I don't care" lol
Some people are very closed minded and will look at people differently if they're not on the same page. But, as I said before, I don't care. ;-)
hmmmm...m'kay. I just wanted to add my opinion about the issue of everyone being different.
sept bride,
whatever makes u 2 happy and keeps u going so be it. i cant be out there 'cause i got this lil mommas boy :) that i luv, that does not know how and is not open to being taught lol, so somebody should be able to get their freak on. u go!
[quote="ClassyCounselor"]hmmmm...m'kay. I just wanted to add my opinion about the issue of everyone being different.
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Oh, Classy, I hope you don't think I was getting smart/nasty with you, because I certainly wasn't. I was just messing/teasing you. Much love!
I went to a strip club with one of my best friends and her brother. We thought we was going to a bar and when we walked in girl BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY SHAKE IT ALL AROUND. I never seen so many behinds in my life. But it didnt bother me, I sat down and had me a drink.
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[quote="SeptBride"]hmmmm...m'kay. I just wanted to add my opinion about the issue of everyone being different.
Oh, Classy, I hope you don't think I was getting smart/nasty with you, because I certainly wasn't. I was just messing/teasing you. Much love!
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Oh no! I was just noticing you said you didn't care 3 times..so I was like hmm...oh really? lol.
lol - oh okay
I had been debating this one back and forth for a while. FH's best man is TRYING to take the guys and FH to Brazil or the Dominican Republic for his party. I've heard so much negitivity about the type of debauchary(sp?) that can do down in both of those places, especially for (black)American men (see Ebony article on this topic)also (snoop and pharells video...playing again and again in my head)I really really don't want him to go. OK maybe i'm a LITTLE jealous, and I wish I could tag along. If he has strippers I can honestly say that it would bother me. Truthfully just the thought of some skank wagging her hoo-ha all up in FH's face is enough to send me into a fury! I'm trying to play it cool, deep down I wish he would just go somewhere local and hang out with the guys/do a simple night out. (*see NEW post...Your ladies night out plans) Bottom line...if this is his way of celebrating, and since this is not something that he ever does I can respect that.
Side note: not worried about FH defiling our bed, i'm just hatin' a lil bit.
Wow!!! This is a first that I've heard of. They want to take him all the way to Brazil or the Dominican Republic for a Bachelor Party??? Wow! I can kinda understand your frustration a little bit more!
Sept you are truly stupid!!! I am cracking up over here. I guess i am a freak too while I have never been to a strip club for men, I have gone to see the guys in my younger years and WOW do they put on a show. Now I'm told the women who go see the guys are much worse than the guys who go see the women. Some of the things I saw never ceased to amaze me. I also enjoy watching the movies. Great ideas for spicing up your own life once you guys get settled or routine.
Now I'm going to tell you ladies a secret. Years ago when my best friend was getting married, we got drunk and crashed her fh party. We did not initially go in and it wasn't that we did not trust our men, mine wasn't even there. We just wanted to see what goes on. So we got a ladder and peeked in the window. Disgusting!!! But, It was not the groom to be or the single guys. It was the married men who were acting a fool. I remember my uncle telling me b4, the groom usually is very good It is always the married men who don't know how to act. So let them have their party, Just don't let them go to any later on in life LOL!
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See Taj! WE are here (pointing to both of our eyes lol) You are cracking ME up. Girl, FH was like, where did you learn that? I said to him, "I'm telling you, you gotta watch them movies! It's amazing some of the things you can learn." LMAO
I hear where you were coming from Classy, you wanted his friends to respect the value system you and FH are basing your futures on and it doesn't include that behavior.
My motives are purely selfish. I'm lazy and i don't want some double-jointed stripper inspiring him to initiate acrobatics on our honeymoon while i'm trying to relax. LOL
Seriously, FH has a conservative streak and he's from another culture. He's never seen a stripper and i don't need his bachelor party to be the first time. We'll probably go together and i'll see how he handles himself. To me, it's like adult videos, let some other chick do the hard work so i can reap the benefits in 30 minutes. I guess a strip club would be ok, since i know i could give any chick a run for her money on the pole and he doesn't have to drop cash for a champagne room to get to 2nd base. But that's just me . . .
Go head Musik!!!!!! lol
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