Ladies,
Your opinions please...
I'm sorry, but I need to vent. In speaking to my BMs today, it's come to my attention that only 1 has gotten her dress thus far. She then proceeded to tell me that no one else's gotten theirs as of yet & the arrival time for her dress' early June. In my opinion, that leaves little time for alterations & the like.
Thankfully, my sister & my cousin (my MOHs) will be tracking down the BMs this weekend to find out "what is their major malfunctions in life".
My sis told me to not worry about this as this is what MOHs are for, but being the control freak that I am, I need to know what's going on & when. So, I sent out a "nastygram" type email since this has been going on for months.
Do I have reason to be ticked off or what?
Ladies,
Your opinions please...
I'm sorry, but I need to vent. In speaking to my BMs today, it's come to my attention that only 1 has gotten her dress thus far. She then proceeded to tell me that no one else's gotten theirs as of yet & the arrival time for her dress' early June. In my opinion, that leaves little time for alterations & the like.
Thankfully, my sister & my cousin (my MOHs) will be tracking down the BMs this weekend to find out "what is their major malfunctions in life".
My sis told me to not worry about this as this is what MOHs are for, but being the control freak that I am, I need to know what's going on & when. So, I sent out a "nastygram" type email since this has been going on for months.
Do I have reason to be ticked off or what?
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
Was it a nice nasty gram?
LOL
I would have flipped out also.
But let your MOH handle this, that way you can just relax.
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It wasn't THAT nasty!
Here's some excerpts from it. Ya'll tell me..
When do we plan on getting our dresses? I don't mean to be "bitchy", but ya'll gonna make the Bridezilla come out of me & it's not gonna be pretty. 1 BM ordered her dress yesterday & the arrival time's already early June. This is now cutting it too close. Please, Please, PLEASE get your dresses A.S.A.P.
If for some reason you want out, no biggie. Just let me know & there will be no hard feelings. I just can't afford @ this point to risk someone not having the correct dress.
Please let me know what's your status sometime this weekend.
Still luv ya'll, but you're making me ill right now
2 mean ladies? I just really want to get my point across to them that you can't do this to people. If you have a responsibility...stand up & do it or decline when asked. Simple as pie....
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
I feel you on this, it took FOREVER for all my bridesmaids to put in their deposits, and of course they won't order the dresses until everyone in the party has paid. SO everyone finally got it done at the end of December. SO the dresses came in at the beginning of February, we found out that the shop will hold the dresses for 2 weeks anytime after that they will start charging a storage fee of $15 storage fee every week after that....at that point I was like WHATEVER these people are not going to stress me out, so I sent out a nice little email letting everyone know that if they don't pick their dresses up in time they will have to pay the balance plus any storage fees. DON'T let this stress you out, I had to come to a point where I was like it don't matter if I have an uneven wedding party, it's not that serious to have me all stressed out and acting crazy because some people that I THOUGHT were supposed to have my best interest at heart are STRAIGHT TRIPPIN'!!! I've seen many weddings where there are less groomsmen or less bridesmaids because of something that happed.....some people just doubled up...and the weddings were STILL beautiful and STILL blessed!! You just let you MOH handle this, and if everyone does not come through....what can you do but make yourself even more hot and agitated when you have other things to think about at this time?
I don't think the email was nasty. It was straight to the point. Your wedding is VERY close. IMO, they should've BEEN ordered their dresses. Isn't your wedding in June? At this point, I would be pissed. I know what you mean about you need to know. So, they need to let you know what is going on. My boutique told me when everyone's dresses had to be ordered by in order to be in on time. My boutique needs about 2 months for the 2 fittings. But, every salon is different. Your MOH can handle it, but it's your wedding and I think that you need to find out for yourself who's in your wedding and who's not.
Not mean at all. They need to know. And I think that they are cutting it EXTREAMLY close. You're right, anything can go wrong, I mean who's to say that alterations won't be needed? Did the bridal boutique say how long it took for dresses to come in once they are ordered?
You never know, this IS the season for weddings, and not to make you (more) paranoid but what if there is a back order? They need to get it together. Yes girl...put the MOH's to work and have them hound them until it gets done period.
Phhhewww....I had to vent with you.
I dont think it was mean or nasty at all. I am getting togethor with my girls today and I am going to lay down the law. I have some chastising to do myself. I am scheduled to get married in three months and I have as of yet to get all on my bridal party togethor. My MOH always comes up with some excuse as to why she can't me with everyone, but wants me and her to go. She keeps saying that I should not be planning my own bridal shower, but she has yet to contact all the girls and get something going. I will try my hardest to remain a lady, but I think the beast will come out of me.
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[quote="housewife147"]I dont think it was mean or nasty at all. I am getting togethor with my girls today and I am going to lay down the law. I have some chastising to do myself. I am scheduled to get married in three months and I have as of yet to get all on my bridal party togethor. My MOH always comes up with some excuse as to why she can't me with everyone, but wants me and her to go. She keeps saying that I should not be planning my own bridal shower, but she has yet to contact all the girls and get something going. I will try my hardest to remain a lady, but I think the beast will come out of me.
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Girl,
BEGIN WITH THE BEAST!!! I swear, these people think that the wedding's their show or something & not YOUR day. Don't loose your "ladylike" side, but in the same sense don't let them drive you crazy with this. They need to get out there on their own & not bug you to go everywhere with them. Relax, relate, release.....
Thankfully, ALL dresses were ordered in between the time the email was sent & today, so I can rest easier with that portion. The due date for all the dresses is 6/1. That leaves then 2-3 weeks "play time" in the event that anything needs to be altered.
"I's married now" - "The Color Purple"
MrsRobinson, you have a right to feel the way you do. Take it from me, stay on top of it. My ladies dragged their feet and I don't want to get into the drama that I experienced. But they almost made me lose my mind (and that's not an easy thing to do because I'm usually very mild mannered).
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Rhony's right. Stay on top of them. Those who don't fall in line will just have to get out of line (The Bridal Party Line that is).
Don't let it be too much of a source of stress for you because you can only do and say so much. At some point you will have to move forward....In the end all will work out for you. Whoever ends up in the bridal party were meant to be in the bridal party, and thats it.
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Well said Bumble!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I am really worried to have something like this happen when the time comes for the BP to get their tuxes/dresses and fittings. I think I am a little more tempermental than some of you ladies seem to be and I will cuss somebody out. My friend (who is one of my BM's) and I were talking and she was like "You really believe in whipping people's asses don't you? You always go straight to whipping everybody's ass." I had to laugh when she said it, and after this I'm laughing about it again.
FH was the best man in his friend's wedding. The wedding was 4/14 and he didn't go get fitted until 3/30 and on top of that, he only did the initial fitting, he didn't even do the second. The MOH called him with a nasty attitude telling him to get fitted. I was ready to kick her ass (because the only women that can talk junk to him are his momma, his grandma, my momma and me) but I understood her point. I had been cursing him out about getting fitted since Feb. So I hope karma doesn't kick us in the butt for his procrastinating during our wedding because I will be one angry beaver.
Hate to change the subject, but I nominated a friend of mine to be on the hit show bridezilla. She is a drama queen and she will be featured on the show July 1st. She sent me a email today informing me that she is featured in the June 25th issue of Star Magazine, so if you ladies are at the supermarket read it while your in line.
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Congrats to your friend!!!
The one thing that amazes me about that show is when the 'bridezillas' breakdown crying because noone is cooperating & nothings going their way and they can't understand why....and I'm like check your ATTITUDE!!!
They need to come out with a show called "bridesmaidzilla" for bridal party members that don't take no "bleep". Id also like to see a follow up show for life after "Bridezilla" to see if any of them are still married. Oh well, enough of me rambling on.
Congratulations once again to your friend.
"To Flow As One Is Love's Reward"
I can't wait for the show to come back on. (this Sunday 9pm eastcoast...but who's counting?) Almost want to make my BM's watch it so they can really thank their lucky stars!
House-i'll have to check it out...she must be a mess, only the craziest one make it on to the show.
Yes she was a mess and continue to be a mess. She is a true DRAMA QUEEN! But she is a sweetheart as well, that's why I wish her the best in her marriage, and continue to ask GOD to give her husband the strength. lol
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House, I will be sure to check her out!
FH watches the show sometime and he always says "Baby, I'm glad you're not like this". And my reply is always the same, "Baby, they usually show the brides around 2 weeks before the wedding. So, just pray that you don't I get like this." In reality, I can definately see myself becoming a Bridezilla.
MsB, I couldn't WAIT for the new season to start. I love that show!
TRACYEE, very good point! I would love to see a follow up show as well!