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Inconsiderate People

Ok y'all, I just got off the phone with my sister. Long story short. My cousin is getting married August 31, 2007. She is having her reception in an elaborate catering hall that is costing $20,000 from what my aunt says. Now mind you my cousin hasn't event sent out the invites yet. However, we did receive save the dates. My sister plans on bringing her two children and her boyfriend. I told her that is rude and inconsiderate. I said do you plan on giving her a large amount of cash because she has to pay for that. I told her since getting married six months ago, I understand the importance of considering other people's pockets. She insists on bringing her clan -- although I know she will not give a decent wedding present. I'm so mad at her -- yall pray for me. I just needed to vent.

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Ok y'all, I just got off the phone with my sister. Long story short. My cousin is getting married August 31, 2007. She is having her reception in an elaborate catering hall that is costing $20,000 from what my aunt says. Now mind you my cousin hasn't event sent out the invites yet. However, we did receive save the dates. My sister plans on bringing her two children and her boyfriend. I told her that is rude and inconsiderate. I said do you plan on giving her a large amount of cash because she has to pay for that. I told her since getting married six months ago, I understand the importance of considering other people's pockets. She insists on bringing her clan -- although I know she will not give a decent wedding present. I'm so mad at her -- yall pray for me. I just needed to vent.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Girl, I know what you mean. Some people are very inconsiderate. That's why I'm TELLING everyone how many people are invited. This is what the response cards look like.

M___________________
__ Seats has been
resereved in your honor (I'm filling in how many)
___ Accept with pleasure
___ Decline with regret

Please RSVP by August 13, 2007

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I LIKE that Askalot! Great Idea! Okay now.....ya'll listen to Askalot cause this is going to help some of ya'll.....Cause folks WILL bring their "clans" like Rhony says.....I am sorry they are frustrating you, (i don't know if you sister has been married before), but unmarried folks just don't understand/care....I didn't understand before i got married either.....

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SeptBride, I including the reservation number on my response cards as well. I think that is a great idea because people can go over board.

Quick story: my family gave my grandmother a huge 70th birthday party a few years ago. Invitations were mailed and replies were steadily coming in. One day we received a reply card from a family friend for 12

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[quote="SeptBride"]Girl, I know what you mean. Some people are very inconsiderate. That's why I'm TELLING everyone how many people are invited. This is what the response cards look like.

M___________________
__ Seats has been
resereved in your honor (I'm filling in how many)
___ Accept with pleasure
___ Decline with regret

Please RSVP by August 13, 2007
[/quote]

SeptBride, what if you reserve two seats for one person. However, they are coming alone. Are you asking the invitee to include the name of their guest, indicate that they are coming alone, etc?

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You know Elegant, I thought about that and didn't come up with anything yet. Hopefully, it'll work out somehow.

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[quote="SeptBride"]Girl, I know what you mean. Some people are very inconsiderate. That's why I'm TELLING everyone how many people are invited. This is what the response cards look like.

M___________________
__ Seats has been
resereved in your honor (I'm filling in how many)
___ Accept with pleasure
___ Decline with regret

Please RSVP by August 13, 2007
[/quote]

Ladies,
I sent out over 100 invitations. On the envelope it was addressed to the person I was inviting and on the rsvp card it read as follows;

Mr (DR,Pastor etc.)& Mrs.----
Jane (John) Doe & guest
Jane Doe

That way it was very clear whether or not you could bring someone and who was invited.

Family or not, if your name ain't listed if you show up you will be a** out!

I went home this weekend and had people from my home church tell me they didn't get an invite but they were planning on coming. I told them I want cash for a gift (LOL ain't I bold) bcuz I planned for the people that were invited and 58 that rsvp'd by May 1st, and no one else.

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Askalot, I'm calling my cousin tonight to suggest the rsvp card that you have listed above. That's a very tactful way of letting those inconsiderate relatives that bringing your clan isn't nice!

No, my sister has never been married or planned an event before.

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Rhony, trust me when your cousin recieves the RSVP back and more then 2 people are on that response card, she will be calling your sister and setting her straight.

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I know that's right, house! :-)

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Yes she will -- if not Aunt Rose will!!!!! LOL!!!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37