Hello Ladies,
I have not had the opportunity to post in a while due to stress and agrivation. I am saddned to say that I will be forced to postpone my wedding due to so many interuptions. Only three of the girls out of five has there dresses. Two of which are pregnant. My maid of honor was not active in planning or helping my bridesmaids and myself plan my bridal shower. One of my bridesmaids just got fired from her job so she can't help with any of the cost. I kicked my maid of honor out of my wedding just yesterday, because anytime I ask all of the ladies to get together she is always so busy. The one time that she did come to a meeting my bridesmaids let her have it and told her that it was her job to organize things and inform the rest of the bridal party what there part should be. She said that just like she have there phone numbers, they have her's and that her life does not revolve around my wedding. She said that she would be more then happy to provide everyone with her schedule.( THIS BITCH GOT NERVES, DOESN'T SHE). She calls my house phone when I am at work and leaves messages. I called her and let her behind have it. I informed her that at the time that I should be the most happiest, I am the most upset. I told her that if the shoe was on the other foot I would never have acted this way to her, and that I would have been very active in planning her wedding. I told her that I look at all my bridesmaids like sisters and apparently she dont feel the same way. I informed her to have a nice life. My fmil was suppose to pay for the photographer and for the dj that was going to be her gift to us( Mind you I paid the deposit which was half of what the dj wanted and she was suppose to give me my money back, but of course she never did) Anyway she fell and hurt herself and hasn't been to work in about two months, so there goes the money for the photographer and the dj. And just when you thought I was finished, I let my father have it( the person who was giving me 1500 and paying for the limo's) He was upset because I asked my aunt if she could lend us the money and we would pay her back after the wedding. He called my mother and cursed her out. So I kindly called him and told him if he had a problem with me asking my aunt for the money he should have called me and not my mother. I also threw in a few choice words, not to disrespectful but enough to give him a reality check. And no I didn't use any bad language. And no I dont feel bad about doing so. My father is the type of person who is very judgemental and who through stones and live in a glass house. The problem is no one ever stands up to him, so he feels like he can say what he want to be, and he caught me on a bad day. The only thing that I feel bad about is not booking the damn limo's before I told him off. Ladies please pray for me. I have not told anyone yet that I am going to push the date back. I am still waiting to hear from the reception venue. Hopefully all of the money that I have invested dont go down the drain. SORRY IF I SPELLED ANY WORDS WRONG, BUT THE DEVIL HAS REALLY BEEN WORKING ON ME!! LOVE YOU ALL!
Hello Ladies,
I have not had the opportunity to post in a while due to stress and agrivation. I am saddned to say that I will be forced to postpone my wedding due to so many interuptions. Only three of the girls out of five has there dresses. Two of which are pregnant. My maid of honor was not active in planning or helping my bridesmaids and myself plan my bridal shower. One of my bridesmaids just got fired from her job so she can't help with any of the cost. I kicked my maid of honor out of my wedding just yesterday, because anytime I ask all of the ladies to get together she is always so busy. The one time that she did come to a meeting my bridesmaids let her have it and told her that it was her job to organize things and inform the rest of the bridal party what there part should be. She said that just like she have there phone numbers, they have her's and that her life does not revolve around my wedding. She said that she would be more then happy to provide everyone with her schedule.( THIS BITCH GOT NERVES, DOESN'T SHE). She calls my house phone when I am at work and leaves messages. I called her and let her behind have it. I informed her that at the time that I should be the most happiest, I am the most upset. I told her that if the shoe was on the other foot I would never have acted this way to her, and that I would have been very active in planning her wedding. I told her that I look at all my bridesmaids like sisters and apparently she dont feel the same way. I informed her to have a nice life. My fmil was suppose to pay for the photographer and for the dj that was going to be her gift to us( Mind you I paid the deposit which was half of what the dj wanted and she was suppose to give me my money back, but of course she never did) Anyway she fell and hurt herself and hasn't been to work in about two months, so there goes the money for the photographer and the dj. And just when you thought I was finished, I let my father have it( the person who was giving me 1500 and paying for the limo's) He was upset because I asked my aunt if she could lend us the money and we would pay her back after the wedding. He called my mother and cursed her out. So I kindly called him and told him if he had a problem with me asking my aunt for the money he should have called me and not my mother. I also threw in a few choice words, not to disrespectful but enough to give him a reality check. And no I didn't use any bad language. And no I dont feel bad about doing so. My father is the type of person who is very judgemental and who through stones and live in a glass house. The problem is no one ever stands up to him, so he feels like he can say what he want to be, and he caught me on a bad day. The only thing that I feel bad about is not booking the damn limo's before I told him off. Ladies please pray for me. I have not told anyone yet that I am going to push the date back. I am still waiting to hear from the reception venue. Hopefully all of the money that I have invested dont go down the drain. SORRY IF I SPELLED ANY WORDS WRONG, BUT THE DEVIL HAS REALLY BEEN WORKING ON ME!! LOVE YOU ALL!
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I will pray for you. Just breathe, things shall work out just keep faith.
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WOW!!! You surely have a lot going on! You are in my prayers and one thing you can say is that you know you your TRUE and REAL friends are. It really amases me how people tend to show their true colors. Just take it one day at a time, because when it is all said and done it is about you, your fiance' and God. No one else matters. Keep Smiling girl! :)
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house, house, house, girl, my heart is really going out to you! I am certainly going to pray for you! Is there anyway around not postponing it? I would hate for you to have to postpone it. Can you just kick all of the trifling heffas out and you and FH just ride in another car? I REALLY DON'T WANT YOU TO POSTPONE IT! But, if you have to, then you have to.
I don't want you to postpone it either. I am so sorry you are going through this. Things get tough. Even if you have to scale back, its okay. Everyone who supports you and are there for you were meant to...for its God's will for them to do that. Those who choose not to were not meant to be in your life or deserve to share in this experience with you. Its okay....I think you all can still pull this off. If you have 1-2 BM's its okay. Its about you and Sean....and thats it. People in their hearts don't want you to be happy. But imagine their faces when they see you are moving up and moving on! You are in my prayers....
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Thank you all! I am still undecided on what to do.
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Sorry to hear about the drama. Maybe you SHOULD keep your date and trim off the dead weight. As we all know here, waiting/planning for your special day is nerve-racking. I can't imagine going through that three times and still not being married. At least think about simplifying and keeping the date.
If we postpone the wedding, we are just going to let the pastor marry us privately and go on our cruise, then have the big ceremony later.
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Sounds like the devil working overtime!
You have worked so hard and so long for this day to finally happen, I agree w/Musik 100%, let them go...You are the queen of "knowing that this day is about you" You can't let some disorganized, uncoordinated 'friends'or even family spoil your happiness.
I will be praying for you that you are able to go forward as planned, I am hoping that you won't have to postpone
[quote="housewife147"]If we postpone the wedding, we are just going to let the pastor marry us privately and go on our cruise, then have the big ceremony later.
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Oh, I like that idea. Plus, you guys deserve some alone time to relax and re-evaluate. The only downside is (i know i'm not the only one who worries about this) what your guests who don't know the whole story will think. I wish i didn't care what others think but . . .
At first I was a little bothered with it. I felt like people expected this wedding to a disaster and we was giving them that satisfaction. But now I feel like I would rather have everything I always wanted, appose to cutting somethings out and have regrets.
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House, no worries. God got cha!
Plus, no matter how many things you do to prepare, you will still look back and see something you could have done differently or better. What matters most is the big picture. I can go through a short list (thank goodness its short) of things that went wrong, from me overpaying the floral person to wrapping up an extra meal for me and my hubby cause we were too busy to eat at the reception.....but overall, the day was great....I mean it flowed so perfectly, it went by too fast! But we were happy, there were no hitches or delays and people are still talking about it three months later! It was simplified and scaled back as the months went by, and I AM GLAD! We did have all these THINGS we wanted, and we basically decided what things we had to have...and what things we could live without without having to postpose or delay it....So think about it, but please go forward....never move back....never push back something for tomorrow if you can do it today.....We are all pushing for you, praying for you, and rooting for you and Sean! Its God's will for you to have come thins far....and HE always does what he says he will. If He said it, then it IS in the name of Jesus:)
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House HONEY.....I will definately join the others in prayer for you!!! This is absolutely CRAZY!!! Like others have said if at all possible I would see if I could keep the same wedding date. Forget those that want to trip! About the scaling back on some things, you could do it....what I've realized from going to several weddings and planning my own that sometimes we THINK we want this and that and if we don't have this and that our wedding date just wouldn't be as special or just wouldn't be our "dream wedding". I've talked to so many of my now married friends that realized "after the fact" that they didn't need the, the birds being released, or the huge ice sculpture, or this specific type of flower to match the tie of the groom. Don't get me wrong....I'm not saying anything is wrong with wanting the BIG grand things, and there's nothing wrong with wanting every single detail to be in place for you big day....but at the same time, it's not all about that. A friend of mine got married, it was the most simplest wedding, she didn't even have what you would call a "traditional wedding dress", it was more just a white sun dress. She had one bridesmaid which was her sister, they had a simple ceremony, a few friend for the reception, after the wedding they rented a car and drove themselves...BUT it was the most memorable wedding that I've ever gone to...FOR REAL! It was so beautiful and the love was just flowing....they didn't even have any music....everything was done accappella!! I said all of this to say you can pull it off, it can be done on a smaller scale and could still be the most wonderful day of your life! I'm praying girl...you have the support whatever you decide of your vibride sisters!
House, let me ask you so that I'm sure that I have it right. Is the 2 things that may cause you postpone the wedding, the following:
1) Bridesmaid/MOH trippin and don't have their dresses (beside the MOH getting kicked out)?
2) The money for the DJ & photographer?
I may have to call you later because WE WILL figure something out!!!!!!
House! Girl you got all this love and support! Thanks Askalot for making a "House" call:)
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I know I am late but my prayers are with you. Like the ladies say whatever you do please don't postpone it. Then you will have let the devil and we just can't have that....not today or anyday....
Southerngirl.....
House, I'm sorry that I was away for the weekend. I will be praying for you. The Lord will always provide!
(And if you feel that you need it, you know your Jersey girls are just moments away from coming to help if a beatdown is necessary!)
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[quote="housewife147"]If we postpone the wedding, we are just going to let the pastor marry us privately and go on our cruise, then have the big ceremony later.
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What the????/ Girl I agree with Muskiana, keekee and askalot. Don't postpone a thing. Make cut the weight out. You don't need 20 bridesmaids to get married. besides all you need is for hubby to show up and you got yourself the wedding of your dreams.
The DJ and photographer may have a payment pla. Do a dollar dance, have a raffle.. raise money if you have to and have your wedding. Why can the MOHs be so jealous??? Seems to be a recurring problem!
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I'm just reading your post, House. I'm so sorry to hear you are having to go through all of this and I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I do agree with the other ladies who have said cut the dead weight and scale back on some things if you have to so that you can go ahead and have your day and not postpone it. And as far as the DJ, a lot of people are choosing to do their own music with Ipods and such. You can play whatever you want, in whatever order you want, and all you need is the Ipod, a speaker system and a friend to make annoucements for you and stuff. Something to think about. Anyway, whatever you decide, I know God will work it out for you in the end.
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I know it's easier said than done but don't let haters ruin this for you. You and your FH can get through this. My prayers are with you.
Happiness is only a prayer away!
"All things work together for the good for them that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose" I said that to say like everyone else, drop the dead weight & put it in God's hand. he didn't bring your and you FI this far for it to crumble. I would go ahead with my plans because after all, it's not about how many attendants you have, when all is said and done, it's about the uniting of two to become one!!! Like others have said, there are other options for djs & photographers. I'm sure there are many talented saints (aspiring entreprenuers) in your church alone that maybe willing to assist you as a blessing/gift to you. Please don't allow one person or a couple of things intervene on "you & your sweetie's day", the day that you've worked so hard at planning for. You have my empathy & I will keep you & your situation lifted up in prayer!!!
"To Flow As One Is Love's Reward"
AMEN!!!!!
[quote="sheawiil"]I know I am late but my prayers are with you. Like the ladies say whatever you do please don't postpone it. Then you will have let the devil and we just can't have that....not today or anyday....
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I am praying for you House. I agree with Sheawill. You have worked too hard for your day. Go ahead and have your private ceremony. You can always do a vow renewal at some point in the future.
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First off I just wanted to THANK you ladies for all of the kind words of support. Trust mw they are greatly appreciated. Unfortunately we have chosen to postpone our wedding date. I spoke to the reception hall and the only Friday or Saturday that they had available would be in January. They said the only way that I could host my wedding this year is if we had it either on a Sunday morning or during the week, from a Tuesday thru- Thursday, all of which are out of the question for me. I am going to push it back until July 18th of next year. Once again that you ladies for all the support, and I guess you have to hear my mouth and my drama for another year.
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Whatever your decison, we're happy to have you, Wifey.
Thank you so much Musikana, and I am more than happy to be here.
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Housewife, we've getting married the same month and year, but mine is July 5th :) I hope that this time around, you won't have to encounter the drama that you had to before. I'll be praying for you (and myself to because your situation scares me :) )
We have your back House! I wish you all the happiness you deserve. It will work out. God bless!
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You definately have our support House!
You definately have our support honey! Did you guys decide if you're still going to get married on your original date or is everything going to be July of next year?
I for one will be glad to continue to hear your voice.
I know that the situation is not ideal, but you did have a point about not wanting to have any regrets.
I'm sorry that you had to postpone your wedding. When choosing our bridesmaids or even maid of honor we let so much of our souls go into the decision and it is hard to bear when they let us down. I know all the prayers will see you through, House. I love having you here. You have been a big help to thousands of girls.
i remember when you were a newbie fighting for your place here and now you run things! LOL
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I am glad you have made a decision you are happy with. The devil may think he has won this round, but just let him know it ain't over till it is over. I got your back.
Southerngirl.....
Thank you ladies so much. Your wonderful words of encouragement has really helped me get through these rough times.( Starting to tear up)We are still undecided on what we are going to do on our original date. We want to get married and live our life the way GOD want's us to, but I wanted our wedding ceremony to be the ceremony that joins us togethor in marriage. I didnt want to already be married.
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House,
God has a plan that's bigger than what your natural eye can see right you now. He wants more for you. Take comfort in knowing that he never shuts one door without opening another. Your wedding will be bigger and better than whatever you originally planned, more pleasing in his sight. Name it and claim it for victory is already yours.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
AWWWWWWWWWWW Pamcrow that was so beautiful! Thanks so much.
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