Hi Ladies,
I have yet another question. My sister/planner and I are thinking of having an "engagement party" where FH and I do something like a mini wedding ceremony. I'm thinking we could make some kind of verbal committment and jump the broom. The issue is that we are getting married in my brother's back yard in Charlotte, NC and we would like to keep it very very VERY intimate (we want immediate family and very close friends only). We are hoping that people that we can't fit at the wedding will decide that they enjoyed celebrating with us enough at the mini-wedding that they won't feel slighted because they aren't invited to the actual wedding. What do you ladies think of this (if I even make sense)
Hi Ladies,
I have yet another question. My sister/planner and I are thinking of having an "engagement party" where FH and I do something like a mini wedding ceremony. I'm thinking we could make some kind of verbal committment and jump the broom. The issue is that we are getting married in my brother's back yard in Charlotte, NC and we would like to keep it very very VERY intimate (we want immediate family and very close friends only). We are hoping that people that we can't fit at the wedding will decide that they enjoyed celebrating with us enough at the mini-wedding that they won't feel slighted because they aren't invited to the actual wedding. What do you ladies think of this (if I even make sense)
STB, I had the same thought but was discouraged by wedding etiquette that says only people who are also invited to the wedding can be invited to an engagement party. I'd love to hear what everyone has to say because I can't really afford to invite everyone I want to the wedding.
Although I have never heard someone implicate that into there engagement party, I think that is a very nice idea. I believe you can invite who you want to the engagment party even if they will not be attending the wedding. If I'm not mistaken you dont invite people to your bridal shower who you are not inviting to your wedding.
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I'm so confused about what to do. FH doesn't want to do it because he feels like it could take away from the excitement of the wedding. I just don't want to have to hear my relatives mouths about not being invited. I really hope that other ladies here can give some guidance because I really don't know what to do.
Trust me when I tell you, you can not please everyone. If your fh thinks it will take away from the big event then dont do it. I would just let my family know that although we would love to invite all of you to the ceremony it is not in our budget. If they truely care they will understand.
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Like Wifey said you can invite them to the engagement party. There you can make the announcement of why they can't come to the actual wedding. Those who love you will understand and appreciate you all for doing that. HATERS ARE GOING TO BE HATERS regardless! I agree with fh you may be taking away just a little from the ceremony.
Southerngirl.....
FH put his foot down about this and decided that we would have the engagement party without the mini-ceremony and he told me that the wedding is about us so I shouldn't care too much about what everyone else has to say. I guess we're gonna stick with that, I just need to brace myself for what people will have to say about it and then brush it off when it comes.
Just remember that people are going to have something to say regardless....
Southerngirl.....